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By *odareyou OP   Man  over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

In words used,,

I have to find someone physically attractive in the first instance if I don t,,,

I might say

I m not attracted to ( insert name,,),,,

someone else might say

you re ugly,

Is the meaning the same or is there a difference , I d like to think there was,?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I would think so yes.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

A difference I mean lol

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By *uby0000Woman  over a year ago

hertfordshire

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

its called tact.

its the difference between saying

i really dont fancy it

and

i really dont fancy you!

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By *ucky1Man  over a year ago

a straightjacket

I think the most common term on here is 'you're not what I'm looking for' in other words, foooooooook off you ugly git, lol

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By *ee VianteWoman  over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Yes there is a difference. It's possible not to be attracted to someone and still consider them good-looking (or at least not ugly).

Attraction is not all about looks.

I see David Beckham as good-looking but I'm not attracted to him in any way, shape or form.

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By *ee VianteWoman  over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I think the most common term on here is 'you're not what I'm looking for' in other words, foooooooook off you ugly git, lol "

Not necessarily ugly.

Plenty of other factors are involved in what I am looking for. Someone who does not come across as intelligent is "not what I am looking for".

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman  over a year ago

little house on the praire

No, there is a difference. Just cause your not sexually attracted to someone doesnt mean you think they are ugly. Just not your type. David Backham isnt my type but i wouldnt call him ugly

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By *ugby 123Couple  over a year ago
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O o O oo

Not being attracted to someone doesn't mean they are ugly....you are just not attracted to them.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple  over a year ago

midlands

Calling someone ugly is personal.

Saying I'm not attracted to you is much less personal and doesn't imply they look like they've been hit with a bus/chewing a wasp/other choice here

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I think wording makes all the difference

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By *odareyou OP   Man  over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I agree with the majority of comments posted,

I posed the question as a lady had said I only get messages from ugly men she justified it by saying I m a plain speaker,, I like to think I m a no nonsense type of person, however , I d be very reluctant to say ugly without meetingor knowing the person,,

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By *odareyou OP   Man  over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"I agree with the majority of comments posted,

I posed the question as a lady had said I only get messages from ugly men she justified it by saying I m a plain speaker,, I like to think I m a no nonsense type of person, however , I d be very reluctant to say ugly without meetingor knowing the person,, "

I should add the 'ugly ' comment wasn t aimed at me,,

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I agree with the majority of comments posted,

I posed the question as a lady had said I only get messages from ugly men she justified it by saying I m a plain speaker,, I like to think I m a no nonsense type of person, however , I d be very reluctant to say ugly without meetingor knowing the person,, "

personally I think that was just plain rude and justifying it by saying i'm a plain speaker does not make it any less rude

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I agree with the majority of comments posted,

I posed the question as a lady had said I only get messages from ugly men she justified it by saying I m a plain speaker,, I like to think I m a no nonsense type of person, however , I d be very reluctant to say ugly without meetingor knowing the person,,

I should add the 'ugly ' comment wasn t aimed at me,, "

if I mailed someone and they said that to me I would feel it was aimed at me

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By *uby0000Woman  over a year ago

hertfordshire


"Not being attracted to someone doesn't mean they are ugly....you are just not attracted to them."

very true .... someone else may find them handsome

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I agree with the majority of comments posted,

I posed the question as a lady had said I only get messages from ugly men she justified it by saying I m a plain speaker,, I like to think I m a no nonsense type of person, however , I d be very reluctant to say ugly without meetingor knowing the person,,

I should add the 'ugly ' comment wasn t aimed at me,, "

did you message her?

if you had, then why would it not be aimed at you?

she says she only gets messaged by ugly people.

you messaged her

she may be calling you ugly....

or have i missed the point?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"its called tact.

its the difference between saying

i really dont fancy it

and

i really dont fancy you!"

this

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By *odareyou OP   Man  over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"I agree with the majority of comments posted,

I posed the question as a lady had said I only get messages from ugly men she justified it by saying I m a plain speaker,, I like to think I m a no nonsense type of person, however , I d be very reluctant to say ugly without meetingor knowing the person,,

I should add the 'ugly ' comment wasn t aimed at me,,

if I mailed someone and they said that to me I would feel it was aimed at me "

Apologies, I was refering to a forum post rather than a message from myself.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I agree with the majority of comments posted,

I posed the question as a lady had said I only get messages from ugly men she justified it by saying I m a plain speaker,, I like to think I m a no nonsense type of person, however , I d be very reluctant to say ugly without meetingor knowing the person,,

I should add the 'ugly ' comment wasn t aimed at me,,

if I mailed someone and they said that to me I would feel it was aimed at me

Apologies, I was refering to a forum post rather than a message from myself. "

Apology accepted

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple  over a year ago

Manchester Area

Every one is attractive to someone, maybe just not to you

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I like to choose my words carefully before I reply to a 'Dear John'...a bit of tact/diplomacy never goes amiss, we are all not all gifted with film star looks but being brutally unkind is ugly

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I've never told anyone on here they're ugly even if I think that!

Yes it comes down to tact. If I'm not interested for whatever reason I say no thanks. Simples

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By *odareyou OP   Man  over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"I agree with the majority of comments posted,

I posed the question as a lady had said I only get messages from ugly men she justified it by saying I m a plain speaker,, I like to think I m a no nonsense type of person, however , I d be very reluctant to say ugly without meetingor knowing the person,,

I should add the 'ugly ' comment wasn t aimed at me,,

did you message her?

if you had, then why would it not be aimed at you?

she says she only gets messaged by ugly people.

you messaged her

she may be calling you ugly....

or have i missed the point?"

I hadn t messaged the Lady, it was in reference to a forum post she had made,

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I agree with the majority of comments posted,

I posed the question as a lady had said I only get messages from ugly men she justified it by saying I m a plain speaker,, I like to think I m a no nonsense type of person, however , I d be very reluctant to say ugly without meetingor knowing the person,,

I should add the 'ugly ' comment wasn t aimed at me,,

did you message her?

if you had, then why would it not be aimed at you?

she says she only gets messaged by ugly people.

you messaged her

she may be calling you ugly....

or have i missed the point?

I hadn t messaged the Lady, it was in reference to a forum post she had made, "

yes i read that above.

maybe she was warning you not to bother lol

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By *odareyou OP   Man  over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"I agree with the majority of comments posted,

I posed the question as a lady had said I only get messages from ugly men she justified it by saying I m a plain speaker,, I like to think I m a no nonsense type of person, however , I d be very reluctant to say ugly without meetingor knowing the person,,

I should add the 'ugly ' comment wasn t aimed at me,,

did you message her?

if you had, then why would it not be aimed at you?

she says she only gets messaged by ugly people.

you messaged her

she may be calling you ugly....

or have i missed the point?

I hadn t messaged the Lady, it was in reference to a forum post she had made,

yes i read that above.

maybe she was warning you not to bother lol"

After seeing the ladies post,, I wouldn t be messaging her, not because I fear being called fugly ,

I don t think we would be compatible,

I d like to know the response you d get in return if you messaged sorry youre too ugly,,

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By *RYBBWCouple  over a year ago

Leeds.

A few of these ugly bashing threads about today.

Oh what it must be like to be perfect......

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"A few of these ugly bashing threads about today.

Oh what it must be like to be perfect...... "

hang on and i'll tell you lol

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By *londeCazWoman  over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"A few of these ugly bashing threads about today.

Oh what it must be like to be perfect...... "

I've noticed you post similar sentiments quite a lot, I don't see these as ugly bashing threads in any way, nor the other one you put the similar comment on already today.

I turn people down for all sorts of reasons (looks, facial hair, size, bits that read funny in their profile, forum posts that I've bunged in private notes, etc.)...the physical traits could be considered as "ugliness" to me if I just don't find them attractive but I'd never in a million years say that to someone...also those who've turned me down cos "you're not my type" may think I'm a complete munter but are far too tactful to say that and I'm old enough and ugly enough (as the saying goes) to realise that and I don't have any hang up about it. I wonder if you're on the right site if you have such a problem with someone using the U word in a post

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