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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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No I've often thought about the best way to establish a long term mutually pleasurable arrangement .
Now I've had two such arrangements one lasting over 6 years the other a year .
Now the both came about because we allowed the friendship to develop first before jumping into the sack with each other .
Now I've never tried the sack bit first in the hope of the friendship following along behind .
Does sex first ever work for establishing a long term arrangement or is it just a case of one offs after one offs if you go down that line of attack .
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You mean friends with benefits?? Of course you can have sex with someone first hand then it's develops into a friendship...and it can work where you develop a friendship then have sex....
Some use this site as a means to get their leg over when they feel the need and don't want friendships just utter filth...I guess it's about what you want out of this site or the scene on a whole. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You mean friends with benefits?? Of course you can have sex with someone first hand then it's develops into a friendship...and it can work where you develop a friendship then have sex....
Some use this site as a means to get their leg over when they feel the need and don't want friendships just utter filth...I guess it's about what you want out of this site or the scene on a whole. "
I think its a mental thing ....now meeting in a pub or club hitting it off can obviously work for fwb relationship as it has in the past for me as a young man.
What I mean is does the nature of sites like this make it harder if you go down the sex first route first not really discussing you may want a long lasting arrangement .
Lots of people seem to fear any kind of emotional involvement exspecialy on sex sites.
Again I'm only taking from experience in looking for a long term arrangement  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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We met for a quick social as a last minute thing (literally 5 minutes notice!) the day before our planned two day meet with no intention or plans to carry it on
We found things worked for us for meeting up on a regular basis and here we are almost 9 month later! 
It depends on the people involved, how you click, each persons situations in their personal lives and what they want out of 'meets' with you - don't assume anything, go with the flow and just see how things go is my advice
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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Ours started as a meet, them a strong of meets, developed into a fwb and swinging partner thing, now going away from swinging as a couple and still meeting each other for fun.
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The way I play there needs to be a lot of trust, something you can't do via a "meet now" arrangement. Some playmates ask to meet several times socially first before playing: I have no problem with that.
I have three regular playmates I've known for over six years and it gets better.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The way I play there needs to be a lot of trust, something you can't do via a "meet now" arrangement. Some playmates ask to meet several times socially first before playing: I have no problem with that.
I have three regular playmates I've known for over six years and it gets better.
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I think any long term arrangement is built on a certain amount of trust be it one to one or the third person in a couple it still needs respect friendship and a basic understanding of the situation out in the open for all to understand |
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