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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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As all of you know my daughter is severely disabled !!
Now i can't seem to go anywhere with out being called "J**'S Mum"
It's never hello how are you and hows things it's always, "Hows your daughter/Has there been any change/Whats going to happen later in life?????
It's lovely that everyone knows her and wants to know the answer to these questions.... But what about me I seem to have got lost somewhere along the line........
So i want to say that it's not only getting married where women lose their Identity it's through your Children too!!
Thank heavens for Fabs it is the one place where i can be me and all me !! |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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to be fair, I didnt realise who you were until you mentioned your daughter.
I linked this mention to your previous posts about her. You mostly always reference her as your disabled daughter, not your daughter.
It may be something people think you want to be known as.
all without you realising or intending it so.
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I also often feel sorry for the siblings of disabled children, they sometimes get a bit lost due to the focus as well. A friend of my Mum's actually set up a charity for such siblings to send them on holidays etc not geared round the needs of their siblings.
I am sure your daughter is a huge focus in your life but I sincerely hope your 'real' self does not become lost as a result.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"to be fair, I didnt realise who you were until you mentioned your daughter.
I linked this mention to your previous posts about her. You mostly always reference her as your disabled daughter, not your daughter.
It may be something people think you want to be known as.
all without you realising or intending it so.
no offence."
I think over the years because it's been thrown at me all the time i tend to give back without thinking.... But i do know where you are coming from!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yep, seeings a most parents only know the child, and not the childs parent, then its a fair bet most will be known by being the offsprings parent.
however, im certain a stranger wouldnt refer to you as suchabodies mum but rather as you want to be titled |
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