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over a year ago
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At what point do you allow a member off here to meet at your place. Whether its for a few hours or the whole night? When they do finally come. Do you hide all valuables, take precautions, etc? How long does it take you to fully trust someone before you don't bother hiding your valuables, etc? |
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Rewarding myself for not accommodating right now.
Trust is a funny thing, given easily, broken easily and exceptionally difficult to rebuild.
I might be barking up the wrong tree but is a round of sex worth risking your valuables, especially if you have to consider hiding them? |
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i think im quite careful who i invite round, i dont just invite anyone and everyone round to mine, anyway my hubbys always downstairs. i wouldnt leave my purse lying around though. |
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I don't accommodate. Well, that's not strictly true. There is one or two men that are very welcome at my house. But these are not just swingers, they are very close friends of mine and my family that just happen to be swingers.
In order for me (or my housemates, the same rules apply to them because they are swingers too), to introduce anyone new to our home, they have to be good friends of us all.
Not have sex with us all, just be welcomed by us all. If one doesn't like them, then they aren't welcome.
This is a very simple version of events. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't accommodate. Well, that's not strictly true. There is one or two men that are very welcome at my house. But these are not just swingers, they are very close friends of mine and my family that just happen to be swingers.
In order for me (or my housemates, the same rules apply to them because they are swingers too), to introduce anyone new to our home, they have to be good friends of us all.
Not have sex with us all, just be welcomed by us all. If one doesn't like them, then they aren't welcome.
This is a very simple version of events. "
Surely that's a bit extreme as if there's 7 of you for example and someone gets along with 6 of them. Including yourself. That means that person misses out as not everyone can get along due to having different _iews/beliefs/tastes and there might be a personality clash. Is doesn't make the person a bad one because 1 person out of 7 didn't like them. That said it is my opinion, which we are all entitled to have. Also I maybe wrong in saying it, but not convinced on it yet. If it works for you though. Then that's all that matters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i do meet at mine and have never had any problems. though i do like to take time to try and get to know someone first.....in saying that, how long is long enough to get to know anyone?.. Do we ever really get to know someone....how many women have actually married men..or men married women and found out they had a dark side they wished they didnt find out about?...As for trust..i never totally trust anyone... someone close by always knows wheni have a visitor.just to be on the safe side.   |
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I have bugger all to nick. The amount of time wasters I get, it's in my best interest to meet at mine.
Although I do let my best friend know that I'm meeting someone in case I get murdered to death. |
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"i do meet at mine and have never had any problems. though i do like to take time to try and get to know someone first.....in saying that, how long is long enough to get to know anyone?.. Do "
Basically that's what I wanted to know. What precautions do you take, if any before a meet and after a while do you stop doing that with certain people? Also how long after chatting would you feel ok for a guy coming to yours?
Slightly off topic, but I wish could meet you. Look incredible you do  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have bugger all to nick. The amount of time wasters I get, it's in my best interest to meet at mine.
Although I do let my best friend know that I'm meeting someone in case I get murdered to death. "
 @murdered to death!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have round to mine occasionally and have had many first meets at women's houses/flats. Overnight occasionally. I do hide my wallet with cards in when at mine. Anything else in my house I'd have to pay people to take!
Lots of fun's been had with no problems at all. Got a first meet coming up at a house. I've offered to meet at a cafe (I like those sorts of meets where you chat and flirt a bit first) but she says she feels safer at her house |
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"I don't accommodate. Well, that's not strictly true. There is one or two men that are very welcome at my house. But these are not just swingers, they are very close friends of mine and my family that just happen to be swingers.
In order for me (or my housemates, the same rules apply to them because they are swingers too), to introduce anyone new to our home, they have to be good friends of us all.
Not have sex with us all, just be welcomed by us all. If one doesn't like them, then they aren't welcome.
This is a very simple version of events.
Surely that's a bit extreme as if there's 7 of you for example and someone gets along with 6 of them. Including yourself. That means that person misses out as not everyone can get along due to having different _iews/beliefs/tastes and there might be a personality clash. Is doesn't make the person a bad one because 1 person out of 7 didn't like them. That said it is my opinion, which we are all entitled to have. Also I maybe wrong in saying it, but not convinced on it yet. If it works for you though. Then that's all that matters."
As I said it's a very simple version of events. I live with a couple that are swingers, at the moment their daughter also lives with us. She is 21 and fully aware of the lifestyle, including how I met her parents. However, we don't accommodate at home because of her.
It works at the moment, because that is what we agreed when the daughter moved in. It may change, and if anyone is unhappy at any point we will sit and talk about it.
But to be honest, it hasn't come up at all, because swinging has changed since we all started, and continuous meets that become friends doesn't really happen any more. |
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"I have bugger all to nick. The amount of time wasters I get, it's in my best interest to meet at mine.
Although I do let my best friend know that I'm meeting someone in case I get murdered to death. "
I'm happy to settle for shagged senseless  |
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Had a few meets at home and touch wood nothing bad has happened or nothing has been nicked....I am carful about who steps through my front door and if I caught someone going through things they should not be...I'd rip their head off....  |
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"Had a few meets at home and touch wood nothing bad has happened or nothing has been nicked....I am carful about who steps through my front door and if I caught someone going through things they should not be...I'd rip their head off.... "
How you careful and how long does it take for you to let someone through your door? |
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"Have been meeting at mine for years - never been a problem.
Nothing worth nicking? 
Difficult to nick anything if you're handcuffed to the bed. "
Oo-er!  remind me not to play 'policewoman searches steve' with you....actually, let's do that but you don't find anything so have to let me go. |
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over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Have been meeting at mine for years - never been a problem.
Nothing worth nicking?
Difficult to nick anything if you're handcuffed to the bed.
Oo-er! remind me not to play 'policewoman searches steve' with you....actually, let's do that but you don't find anything so have to let me go. "
Eventually after a cavity search and interrogation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Had a few meets at home and touch wood nothing bad has happened or nothing has been nicked....I am carful about who steps through my front door and if I caught someone going through things they should not be...I'd rip their head off....
How you careful and how long does it take for you to let someone through your door? "
I have recently relaxed my 'cannot accommodate' rule for a select small number of meetings. I don't really want people in my space so probably won't do it again. Depends how much I want to meet them, I guess. |
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"i do meet at mine and have never had any problems. though i do like to take time to try and get to know someone first.....in saying that, how long is long enough to get to know anyone?.. Do
Basically that's what I wanted to know. What precautions do you take, if any before a meet and after a while do you stop doing that with certain people? Also how long after chatting would you feel ok for a guy coming to yours?
Slightly off topic, but I wish could meet you. Look incredible you do "
thank you luvvy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i do meet at mine and have never had any problems. though i do like to take time to try and get to know someone first.....in saying that, how long is long enough to get to know anyone?.. Do
Basically that's what I wanted to know. What precautions do you take, if any before a meet and after a while do you stop doing that with certain people? Also how long after chatting would you feel ok for a guy coming to yours?
Slightly off topic, but I wish could meet you. Look incredible you do thank you luvvy "
Is that what you say after a good session  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i do meet at mine and have never had any problems. though i do like to take time to try and get to know someone first.....in saying that, how long is long enough to get to know anyone?.. Do
Basically that's what I wanted to know. What precautions do you take, if any before a meet and after a while do you stop doing that with certain people? Also how long after chatting would you feel ok for a guy coming to yours?
Slightly off topic, but I wish could meet you. Look incredible you do thank you luvvy
Is that what you say after a good session "
..funny you should say that....i just did 10 mins or so ago!! Mmmm  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i do meet at mine and have never had any problems. though i do like to take time to try and get to know someone first.....in saying that, how long is long enough to get to know anyone?.. Do
Basically that's what I wanted to know. What precautions do you take, if any before a meet and after a while do you stop doing that with certain people? Also how long after chatting would you feel ok for a guy coming to yours?
Slightly off topic, but I wish could meet you. Look incredible you do thank you luvvy
Is that what you say after a good session ..funny you should say that....i just did 10 mins or so ago!! Mmmm "
Never have I been this jealous of a guy before  |
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