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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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1st off I'm writing this on my phone so excuse any type errors.
Anyway here goes.
The reason I'm writing this is I have a little female friend who to put it plainly cannot reach orgasm,
It doesn't matter what you do or for how long, she can be really enjoying herself and is right on the brink of climax then poof its gone,....as you can imagine its kinda frustrating for her.
My personal take on it is that it must be psychological, the reason being.
She is 35 now and says that when she was younger she used to cum no problem what so ever but when she did she came so hard she had to have a towel down. Being relatively young at the time she thought this wasn't normal and stopped it happening, and now she cant get there.
I've never encountered anything like this before and the only thing I could suggest was to try taking viagra as I've heard it can do fantastic things for the female orgasm.
Anyway there it is, if anyone has any ideas let me know because as you can imagine its starting to gdtwa bit upsetting for her
regards
Craig |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are a lot of women who cannot orgasm me included. As to coming and gushing/squirting, tell her that is perfectly normal though I didn't start until I registered on here 4 years ago so lucky her as it means she has been enjoying herself more than me |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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she should maybe check with her Dr but not wise to take medication not best suited to the particular condition.
maybe she is trying to hard so some form of relaxation therapy may help
good luck and hope she gets a resolution.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It definitely sounds psychological…her thinking it wasn't normal when she was younger has put a block there. Has she tried thinking of things that really turn her on while she's being licked? Or try watching something that really gets her going while you're down on her…thing is not to try too hard or it will never work. I find having my nipples played with at the same time adds some extra stimulation too…try it if you haven't already. I can imagine how frustrated she must be…and any partners…hope you get it sorted  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"she should maybe check with her Dr but not wise to take medication not best suited to the particular condition.
maybe she is trying to hard so some form of relaxation therapy may help
good luck and hope she gets a resolution. "
that was my kinda thinking |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It definitely sounds psychological…her thinking it wasn't normal when she was younger has put a block there. Has she tried thinking of things that really turn her on while she's being licked? Or try watching something that really gets her going while you're down on her…thing is not to try too hard or it will never work. I find having my nipples played with at the same time adds some extra stimulation too…try it if you haven't already. I can imagine how frustrated she must be…and any partners…hope you get it sorted "
tried just about everything and had her so close that her nails are dug into my skin its just that final release that is elusive |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There are a lot of women who cannot orgasm me included. As to coming and gushing/squirting, tell her that is perfectly normal though I didn't start until I registered on here 4 years ago so lucky her as it means she has been enjoying herself more than me"
its gotta be so bloody annoying |
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Stop trying, her and you. Concentrate on the pleasurable journey and not the destination. Set a time frame of say a month in which neither of you discusses her orgasm, tries to get her to orgasm or worries about it but carry on having good sex. Sometimes if the pressure is lifted the ability can return. After the set time is up think about trying again but don't put any pressure on her, reassure her that its ok and of she wants to then seek medical help.
Sometimes you have to enjoy something for what is, not what you would like it to be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"1st off I'm writing this on my phone so excuse any type errors.
Anyway here goes.
The reason I'm writing this is I have a little female friend who to put it plainly cannot reach orgasm,
It doesn't matter what you do or for how long, she can be really enjoying herself and is right on the brink of climax then poof its gone,....as you can imagine its kinda frustrating for her.
My personal take on it is that it must be psychological, the reason being.
She is 35 now and says that when she was younger she used to cum no problem what so ever but when she did she came so hard she had to have a towel down. Being relatively young at the time she thought this wasn't normal and stopped it happening, and now she cant get there.
I've never encountered anything like this before and the only thing I could suggest was to try taking viagra as I've heard it can do fantastic things for the female orgasm.
Anyway there it is, if anyone has any ideas let me know because as you can imagine its starting to gdtwa bit upsetting for her
regards
Craig"
A doctor I visited said only 25% of women can climax through penetrative sex, I used to in the past, but now a vibrator is required. If you partner uses one she might have become desensitised? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are we talking about oral orgasm too or just PIV? Have you tried using toys and manual stimulation? "
both, was down there that long yesterday I split that little bit of connective tissue under my tongue |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"1st off I'm writing this on my phone so excuse any type errors.
Anyway here goes.
The reason I'm writing this is I have a little female friend
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 how little? ...cos that's like a really vital statistic in the female orgasmic process ya! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"1st off I'm writing this on my phone so excuse any type errors.
Anyway here goes.
The reason I'm writing this is I have a little female friend
how little? ...cos that's like a really vital statistic in the female orgasmic process ya! "
5'2" slightly curvey and 35 years old |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"1st off I'm writing this on my phone so excuse any type errors.
Anyway here goes.
The reason I'm writing this is I have a little female friend
how little? ...cos that's like a really vital statistic in the female orgasmic process ya!
5'2" slightly curvey and 35 years old"
Fuck me I was joking! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to like the bloke to cum
Does that mean you often fuck guys you don't like?
have been known to!!!! "
I don't think its always a case of not liking someone, I have met and played with guys I have liked but when the sex has started there has just been nothing there and rather than be rude and say, sorry but your just not doing it for me I have been known to go thro with it and in cases like that im never going to cum |
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"I have to like the bloke to cum
Does that mean you often fuck guys you don't like?
have been known to!!!! "
I'm intrigued. Under what circumstances, apart from the obvious, would you willingly shag someone you don't like? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"1st off I'm writing this on my phone so excuse any type errors.
Anyway here goes.
The reason I'm writing this is I have a little female friend who to put it plainly cannot reach orgasm,
It doesn't matter what you do or for how long, she can be really enjoying herself and is right on the brink of climax then poof its gone,....as you can imagine its kinda frustrating for her.
My personal take on it is that it must be psychological, the reason being.
She is 35 now and says that when she was younger she used to cum no problem what so ever but when she did she came so hard she had to have a towel down. Being relatively young at the time she thought this wasn't normal and stopped it happening, and now she cant get there.
I've never encountered anything like this before and the only thing I could suggest was to try taking viagra as I've heard it can do fantastic things for the female orgasm.
Anyway there it is, if anyone has any ideas let me know because as you can imagine its starting to gdtwa bit upsetting for her
regards
Craig"
Sounds to me she is blocking it out, as you said she used to orgasm np however she thought it was wrong |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have to like the bloke to cum
Does that mean you often fuck guys you don't like?
have been known to!!!!
I don't think its always a case of not liking someone, I have met and played with guys I have liked but when the sex has started there has just been nothing there and rather than be rude and say, sorry but your just not doing it for me I have been known to go thro with it and in cases like that im never going to cum"
we like each other and meet fairly often and the sex is good its just that final burst |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having been in the same position I would love to say what worked, but I genuinely don't know! probably the divorce papers!
What I do know is that Viagra would not have helped me as I have never come through penetrative sex.
It's all about relaxation x enjoy getting there x |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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"I have to like the bloke to cum
Does that mean you often fuck guys you don't like?
have been known to!!!!
I'm intrigued. Under what circumstances, apart from the obvious, would you willingly shag someone you don't like? "
sometimes they turn up and are not like their photo and I don't have the guts to turn them away so just go through with it and don't meet again |
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"I have to like the bloke to cum
Does that mean you often fuck guys you don't like?
have been known to!!!!
I'm intrigued. Under what circumstances, apart from the obvious, would you willingly shag someone you don't like?
sometimes they turn up and are not like their photo and I don't have the guts to turn them away so just go through with it and don't meet again"
Reading that has made me feel very sad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to like the bloke to cum
Does that mean you often fuck guys you don't like?
have been known to!!!!
I'm intrigued. Under what circumstances, apart from the obvious, would you willingly shag someone you don't like?
sometimes they turn up and are not like their photo and I don't have the guts to turn them away so just go through with it and don't meet again"
I have to admit when I first started meeting I have also done that, I remember going home and crying after one guy I met, I felt so dirty after that I scrubbed myself in the shower for about an hour, it was after that meet I told myself there was no way I was ever playing with anyone I didn't want to again, and I havnt
It can be very intimidating when your a single woman and new, all these time wasters threads people rant about, you feel obligated to shag them incase they brand you as a time waster, also I used to worry if they would kick off if I said no so used to just go thro with it
you learn by experience and your mistakes |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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"I have to like the bloke to cum
Does that mean you often fuck guys you don't like?
have been known to!!!!
I'm intrigued. Under what circumstances, apart from the obvious, would you willingly shag someone you don't like?
sometimes they turn up and are not like their photo and I don't have the guts to turn them away so just go through with it and don't meet again
I have to admit when I first started meeting I have also done that, I remember going home and crying after one guy I met, I felt so dirty after that I scrubbed myself in the shower for about an hour, it was after that meet I told myself there was no way I was ever playing with anyone I didn't want to again, and I havnt
It can be very intimidating when your a single woman and new, all these time wasters threads people rant about, you feel obligated to shag them incase they brand you as a time waster, also I used to worry if they would kick off if I said no so used to just go thro with it
you learn by experience and your mistakes "
someone that understands me they do expect a fuck fortunately there are some nice ones |
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"I have to like the bloke to cum
Does that mean you often fuck guys you don't like?
have been known to!!!!
I'm intrigued. Under what circumstances, apart from the obvious, would you willingly shag someone you don't like?
sometimes they turn up and are not like their photo and I don't have the guts to turn them away so just go through with it and don't meet again
I have to admit when I first started meeting I have also done that, I remember going home and crying after one guy I met, I felt so dirty after that I scrubbed myself in the shower for about an hour, it was after that meet I told myself there was no way I was ever playing with anyone I didn't want to again, and I havnt
It can be very intimidating when your a single woman and new, all these time wasters threads people rant about, you feel obligated to shag them incase they brand you as a time waster, also I used to worry if they would kick off if I said no so used to just go thro with it
you learn by experience and your mistakes
someone that understands me they do expect a fuck fortunately there are some nice ones "
I'd walk away from a meet if I knew the woman was only going to shag me because she felt obliged to |
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"I have to like the bloke to cum
Does that mean you often fuck guys you don't like?
have been known to!!!!
I'm intrigued. Under what circumstances, apart from the obvious, would you willingly shag someone you don't like?
sometimes they turn up and are not like their photo and I don't have the guts to turn them away so just go through with it and don't meet again
I have to admit when I first started meeting I have also done that, I remember going home and crying after one guy I met, I felt so dirty after that I scrubbed myself in the shower for about an hour, it was after that meet I told myself there was no way I was ever playing with anyone I didn't want to again, and I havnt
It can be very intimidating when your a single woman and new, all these time wasters threads people rant about, you feel obligated to shag them incase they brand you as a time waster, also I used to worry if they would kick off if I said no so used to just go thro with it
you learn by experience and your mistakes
someone that understands me they do expect a fuck fortunately there are some nice ones
I'd walk away from a meet if I knew the woman was only going to shag me because she felt obliged to"
I think its probably quite difficult to understand how intimidated a single woman would feel if you are a man.
To the ladies who feel like this I say please meet socially first in a neutral place it reduces the possibility of this happening. |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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I know a lady who said she never used to cum through penetration but now says she has experienced fantastic orgasms.
Just relax, enjoy the foreplay. Try spending time with her naked,,but without sex. You have to find other ways to pleasure each other. You never know, you may find something she really likes
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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"I have to like the bloke to cum
Does that mean you often fuck guys you don't like?
have been known to!!!!
I'm intrigued. Under what circumstances, apart from the obvious, would you willingly shag someone you don't like?
sometimes they turn up and are not like their photo and I don't have the guts to turn them away so just go through with it and don't meet again
I have to admit when I first started meeting I have also done that, I remember going home and crying after one guy I met, I felt so dirty after that I scrubbed myself in the shower for about an hour, it was after that meet I told myself there was no way I was ever playing with anyone I didn't want to again, and I havnt
It can be very intimidating when your a single woman and new, all these time wasters threads people rant about, you feel obligated to shag them incase they brand you as a time waster, also I used to worry if they would kick off if I said no so used to just go thro with it
you learn by experience and your mistakes
someone that understands me they do expect a fuck fortunately there are some nice ones
I'd walk away from a meet if I knew the woman was only going to shag me because she felt obliged to"
how would you know? I just wouldn't orgasm with someone I don't like I wouldn't just lay there |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have to like the bloke to cum
Does that mean you often fuck guys you don't like?
have been known to!!!!
I'm intrigued. Under what circumstances, apart from the obvious, would you willingly shag someone you don't like?
sometimes they turn up and are not like their photo and I don't have the guts to turn them away so just go through with it and don't meet again
I have to admit when I first started meeting I have also done that, I remember going home and crying after one guy I met, I felt so dirty after that I scrubbed myself in the shower for about an hour, it was after that meet I told myself there was no way I was ever playing with anyone I didn't want to again, and I havnt
It can be very intimidating when your a single woman and new, all these time wasters threads people rant about, you feel obligated to shag them incase they brand you as a time waster, also I used to worry if they would kick off if I said no so used to just go thro with it
you learn by experience and your mistakes
someone that understands me they do expect a fuck fortunately there are some nice ones
I'd walk away from a meet if I knew the woman was only going to shag me because she felt obliged to"
me too, would be bloody awful |
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By *D40Couple
over a year ago
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Can i ask if she comes if she plays by herself?
Right, here goes. I have times where i am having sex with my man and i really want to orgasm but it just don't happen for me, no matter what Mr Magic Thumbs does. Then there are times when it's mind blowing.
I do think it's mental, i also think maybe it might help if you tell her you don't mind the gushing and wetness and maybe it would be a turn on to know you had done this to her.
But, my main point is this. I've had some great sex where i didn't orgasm, it isn't always the be all and end all of sex. Enjoy what you have and just explore all possibilities   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"ive never let a man know I didn't enjoy it I should get an Oscar sometimes lol"
can be quite tricky for a bloke too, if your not attracted to someone, thing is you really don't wanna hurt some poor girls feelings, social meet 1st for me now.
On the flip side of that I was supposed to meet a couple in town forward drink Friday night, when I got to the bar they were tucked in a booth somewhere and I couldn't see them, so sent a text asking where they were, hoot one back saying your not our type, which is fair enough but they could have at least said hello after id made the effort. To top things off they were in my friends list so knew exactly what I looked like, obviously I've deleted em now |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Can i ask if she comes if she plays by herself?
Right, here goes. I have times where i am having sex with my man and i really want to orgasm but it just don't happen for me, no matter what Mr Magic Thumbs does. Then there are times when it's mind blowing.
I do think it's mental, i also think maybe it might help if you tell her you don't mind the gushing and wetness and maybe it would be a turn on to know you had done this to her.
But, my main point is this. I've had some great sex where i didn't orgasm, it isn't always the be all and end all of sex. Enjoy what you have and just explore all possibilities "
sounds very similar, she's been like this for a while, way before meeting me, suppose we are fairly new to each other so it may come with time, and ardor not minding I actually rather like it lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"ive never let a man know I didn't enjoy it I should get an Oscar sometimes lol
can be quite tricky for a bloke too, if your not attracted to someone, thing is you really don't wanna hurt some poor girls feelings, social meet 1st for me now.
On the flip side of that I was supposed to meet a couple in town forward drink Friday night, when I got to the bar they were tucked in a booth somewhere and I couldn't see them, so sent a text asking where they were, hoot one back saying your not our type, which is fair enough but they could have at least said hello after id made the effort. To top things off they were in my friends list so knew exactly what I looked like, obviously I've deleted em now"
i had something like that once, i arranged to meet a guy, i was stood waiting in the arranged place and he pulled up in his car, looked at me and drove off 
i suppose some people find it hard to tell you they don't fancy you to your face and find the doing a runner approach easier |
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"1st off I'm writing this on my phone so excuse any type errors.
Anyway here goes.
The reason I'm writing this is I have a little female friend
how little? ...cos that's like a really vital statistic in the female orgasmic process ya!
5'2" slightly curvey and 35 years old
Fuck me I was joking! "
Do you cum easily tho ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"1st off I'm writing this on my phone so excuse any type errors.
Anyway here goes.
The reason I'm writing this is I have a little female friend
how little? ...cos that's like a really vital statistic in the female orgasmic process ya!
5'2" slightly curvey and 35 years old
Fuck me I was joking!
Do you cum easily tho ?"
Only if I want to, but I control it with her, by the time I let go we're usually both dripping with sweat |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is she on any medication? Antidepressants and painkillers are just some meds that can stop orgasm. You get the build up then....nothing. Just vanishes"
she will be after reading this thread  |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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"Is she on any medication? Antidepressants and painkillers are just some meds that can stop orgasm. You get the build up then....nothing. Just vanishes
she will be after reading this thread "
ha ha im on anti depressants!! |
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