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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Anyone else have days when they are disheartened by all this?
Today I just feel lonely, couples are doing well couple things and parties and the standard of single men local to me is pretty poor.
The others are living their other married life. For a single woman it can be hard work sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else have days when they are disheartened by all this?
Today I just feel lonely, couples are doing well couple things and parties and the standard of single men local to me is pretty poor.
The others are living their other married life. For a single woman it can be hard work sometimes. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else have days when they are disheartened by all this?
Today I just feel lonely, couples are doing well couple things and parties and the standard of single men local to me is pretty poor.
The others are living their other married life. For a single woman it can be hard work sometimes. "
I know how you feel |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Had about 5 messages today which is quiet but neither have followed once simple instruction that I give on my profile.
Just makes me feel fed up, I just want to have fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had about 5 messages today which is quiet but neither have followed once simple instruction that I give on my profile.
Just makes me feel fed up, I just want to have fun."
Most guys send 5 and get no reply you have it easy.
Wayne |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"Had about 5 messages today which is quiet but neither have followed once simple instruction that I give on my profile.
Just makes me feel fed up, I just want to have fun."
try doing a search and see if you can find someone who takes your fancy, go further afield in your search: they may travel |
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"Had about 5 messages today which is quiet but neither have followed once simple instruction that I give on my profile.
Just makes me feel fed up, I just want to have fun."
I'm having a very similar day. I lost my mum 7 years ago yesterday. Was working all day, so today is the first time I've had to really think. That's when I really miss someone in my life. Virtual hugs are lovely, but you can't beat a hug from a big strong man. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else have days when they are disheartened by all this?
Today I just feel lonely, couples are doing well couple things and parties and the standard of single men local to me is pretty poor.
The others are living their other married life. For a single woman it can be hard work sometimes. "
Yup
i get days like that, but they dont last long  |
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"Had about 5 messages today which is quiet but neither have followed once simple instruction that I give on my profile.
Just makes me feel fed up, I just want to have fun."
So really it's your demands making it difficult for you then? You are getting messages but because they don't want to show their face to a stranger who has no face pics on their public gallery they are no good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else have days when they are disheartened by all this?
Today I just feel lonely, couples are doing well couple things and parties and the standard of single men local to me is pretty poor.
The others are living their other married life. For a single woman it can be hard work sometimes. "
sweetheart, we have a LDR and only get to see each other every other weekend, so this weekend im in the same boat as you are.
the weeks we arent with each other are horrible.
waking up without each other
dealing with crap on our own
only getting to talk on the phone.
but its all worth it for those short times we get to be together, and thats what we live for.
problem is, i then have to get used to sharing my bed lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Had about 5 messages today which is quiet but neither have followed once simple instruction that I give on my profile.
Just makes me feel fed up, I just want to have fun.
So really it's your demands making it difficult for you then? You are getting messages but because they don't want to show their face to a stranger who has no face pics on their public gallery they are no good. "
I have private photos and will always send back straight away but if they make it clear they haven't read my profile it gives the impression they are just mailing every woman on here.
I have to fancy a man or be intrigued enough to wait for a facial pic but I am talking men with nothing written in their profile and no photos at all. |
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feel for you gal big hugs from a fellow single gal who like you thinks
whats this all about , i;m scared to be in a relationship after my 22 yrs with a scumbag so trying to hang in there and be alone but its so bloody hard ,and i at times not know which wait to turn so i give myself cpl of weeks off the meeting
to clear my head .hope you get sorted  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else have days when they are disheartened by all this?
Today I just feel lonely, couples are doing well couple things and parties and the standard of single men local to me is pretty poor.
The others are living their other married life. For a single woman it can be hard work sometimes. "
I have off days and off weeks, so I just hide my profile and come back to it when I'm in the right frame of mind.
One thing I will say though is if yuu don't like the standard of the messages you are getting then do something about it...seek what you want instead of expecting it to find you. Yes getting the first few knock backs isn't nice, but we all expect the guys to take it on the chin so maybe try it for yourself and see what happens...yo never know! |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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One thing I will say though is if yuu don't like the standard of the messages you are getting then do something about it...seek what you want instead of expecting it to find you. Yes getting the first few knock backs isn't nice, but we all expect the guys to take it on the chin so maybe try it for yourself and see what happens...yo never know!"
great advice  |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"Had about 5 messages today which is quiet but neither have followed once simple instruction that I give on my profile.
Just makes me feel fed up, I just want to have fun.
Most guys send 5 and get no reply you have it easy.
Wayne"
Call me cynical ,, I ve never understood why does receiving messages make it easy,,? if none of the people that send them appeal, ??
receiving messages can be as big a problem as no messages   |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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Try watching this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=20uXjti9h4I
Istanbul, not Constantinople on the Muppet Show. If you can still be a bit down after watching this, you definitely need a huge cuddle and a box of Milk Tray.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ignore all of the bitch slap remarks, judgments and unhelpful suggestions. I understand lady, and totally hear where you're coming from.
It's good to sound off and sometimes it can be so bloody disheartening on here, but hey ho. I would say 'chin up', but that's just bloody irritating!
Virtual hugs and kisses xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks, glad I'm not alone, just thought I was being silly as usually I'm ok especially on a Sat as I'm up early on Sunday and just looking forward to my bed xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Try watching this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=20uXjti9h4I
Istanbul, not Constantinople on the Muppet Show. If you can still be a bit down after watching this, you definitely need a huge cuddle and a box of Milk Tray. "
Think I'm going to be on youtube all night looking for cat videos. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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Men seem to think that being a woman on here is easy, yes we receive messages, but that doesn't mean they have quality to them.
Plus I would love to go searching for myself, however, the majority of men's profiles are about 4 words long on average and are along the lines of "Here, looking for fun" - Well no shit Sherlock!
And I wont even mention the amount of cock pics only! I wonder why they don't entice me???  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being typed in hood humour so please no Biatching at me
How very bizarre, normally the sisterhood are trumpeting loudly about how they get 100's of messages each and every day. How they are beating guys off with a shitty stick each and every day of their lives on here
For the OP, as has been suggested lose the pic on first contact demand. A written profile is more than enough to give any sensible person an idea about an individual is about.
Asking someone to divulge their identity on first contact is completely unreasonable and is a definite show stopper most same and sensible people. |
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Used to be on here as a single fem, many years ago and found it to be an instant passion killer. Too difficult to get a meet....the one meet i did get i decided to marry him lol x
Keep your chin up x |
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"Ignore all of the bitch slap remarks, judgments and unhelpful suggestions.
Have posts been removed?
Im not seeing anything that comes close to this remark....."
It's because some people didn't go 'there there' |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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For the OP, as has been suggested lose the pic on first contact demand. A written profile is more than enough to give any sensible person an idea about an individual is about.
Asking someone to divulge their identity on first contact is completely unreasonable and is a definite show stopper most same and sensible people. "
If only they actually had something in their profiles for me to read |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Men seem to think that being a woman on here is easy, yes we receive messages, but that doesn't mean they have quality to them.
Plus I would love to go searching for myself, however, the majority of men's profiles are about 4 words long on average and are along the lines of "Here, looking for fun" - Well no shit Sherlock!
And I wont even mention the amount of cock pics only! I wonder why they don't entice me??? "
They seem to think that because we are on here we must be desperate.
The number of one word messages, cock pics, and blank profiles that I get mail me is crazy, I'd rather 2 good messages than 20 crap ones.
They also think I will fuck any tom dick or harry, toothless wonders who need a good wash. I do have high standards but purely because I have high standards for turning myself out when it is required. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For the OP, as has been suggested lose the pic on first contact demand. A written profile is more than enough to give any sensible person an idea about an individual is about.
Asking someone to divulge their identity on first contact is completely unreasonable and is a definite show stopper most same and sensible people.
If only they actually had something in their profiles for me to read "
Crap profiles and fake profiles are the bane of the site however, as many will agree DEMANDING a face pic on first contact is unreasonable and many many likely prime candidates will simply pass you by.
Your choice and your profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else have days when they are disheartened by all this?
Today I just feel lonely, couples are doing well couple things and parties and the standard of single men local to me is pretty poor.
The others are living their other married life. For a single woman it can be hard work sometimes.
I know how you feel "
Me too, had a meet up and not heard anything |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ignore all of the bitch slap remarks, judgments and unhelpful suggestions.
Have posts been removed?
Im not seeing anything that comes close to this remark....."
Me neither.
If a guy had posted this he would have been slated. The double standards are ridiculous.
As a few guys have said, it is rough for single guys. I think it would do some women good to understand just how crap it can be for guys on here. How many women go looking for guys and mail them? Not many I bet. Most will just sit there waiting for a knight on a white horse to get down on his knees and say yes to everything she asks.
Loss of mojo is one thing. But lacking empathy for the group of people they are trying to attract won't help.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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For the OP, as has been suggested lose the pic on first contact demand. A written profile is more than enough to give any sensible person an idea about an individual is about.
Asking someone to divulge their identity on first contact is completely unreasonable and is a definite show stopper most same and sensible people.
If only they actually had something in their profiles for me to read
Crap profiles and fake profiles are the bane of the site however, as many will agree DEMANDING a face pic on first contact is unreasonable and many many likely prime candidates will simply pass you by.
Your choice and your profile "
So chatting for hours then seeing their face and not finding them attractive will make them feel better? 
Personally I prefer to send one straight off then get ignored than wait then get dropped when they do see me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For the OP, as has been suggested lose the pic on first contact demand. A written profile is more than enough to give any sensible person an idea about an individual is about.
Asking someone to divulge their identity on first contact is completely unreasonable and is a definite show stopper most same and sensible people.
If only they actually had something in their profiles for me to read
Crap profiles and fake profiles are the bane of the site however, as many will agree DEMANDING a face pic on first contact is unreasonable and many many likely prime candidates will simply pass you by.
Your choice and your profile
So chatting for hours then seeing their face and not finding them attractive will make them feel better?
Personally I prefer to send one straight off then get ignored than wait then get dropped when they do see me."
As I said your profile and your choices, happy swinging |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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For the OP, as has been suggested lose the pic on first contact demand. A written profile is more than enough to give any sensible person an idea about an individual is about.
Asking someone to divulge their identity on first contact is completely unreasonable and is a definite show stopper most same and sensible people.
If only they actually had something in their profiles for me to read
Crap profiles and fake profiles are the bane of the site however, as many will agree DEMANDING a face pic on first contact is unreasonable and many many likely prime candidates will simply pass you by.
Your choice and your profile
So chatting for hours then seeing their face and not finding them attractive will make them feel better?
Personally I prefer to send one straight off then get ignored than wait then get dropped when they do see me.
As I said your profile and your choices, happy swinging "
I'm just going by how I do it myself.
For example, when I was dating I tried pof and kept photos private for a while. Got chatting to one guy and after an hour we swapped pics.
He then blocked me 
If he had seen my pics straight off he could have ignored me there and then instead of chatting for a while first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men seem to think that being a woman on here is easy, yes we receive messages, but that doesn't mean they have quality to them.
Plus I would love to go searching for myself, however, the majority of men's profiles are about 4 words long on average and are along the lines of "Here, looking for fun" - Well no shit Sherlock!
And I wont even mention the amount of cock pics only! I wonder why they don't entice me???
They seem to think that because we are on here we must be desperate.
The number of one word messages, cock pics, and blank profiles that I get mail me is crazy, I'd rather 2 good messages than 20 crap ones.
They also think I will fuck any tom dick or harry, toothless wonders who need a good wash. I do have high standards but purely because I have high standards for turning myself out when it is required. "
Ouuchh to the toothless wonder comment |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Stop with the Single Guy bashing people, and be a little more pro active OP.
I get lovely guys that I have messaged first and that have messaged me first. Try being less of a ball breaker, guys don't like that.
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"Stop with the Single Guy bashing people, and be a little more pro active OP.
I get lovely guys that I have messaged first and that have messaged me first. Try being less of a ball breaker, guys don't like that.
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"I think we all get a little jaded at some point. The thrill of casual sex with strangers can never replace the warm embrace of a loved one."
couldn't agree more. This is ok for a while but yes I fully get what the ops saying. I mean each to there own an best of luck an all that but in all honesty only reason im still here is I enjoy the forum |
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"Stop with the Single Guy bashing people, and be a little more pro active OP.
I get lovely guys that I have messaged first and that have messaged me first. Try being less of a ball breaker, guys don't like that.
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its a hard life on here lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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sometimes u can get to wrapped up in this place, good to take a break from it now and again if its getting u down.
its meant to be a bit of fun don't let it stress u out. |
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By *opinovMan
over a year ago
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"Stop with the Single Guy bashing people, and be a little more pro active OP.
I get lovely guys that I have messaged first and that have messaged me first. Try being less of a ball breaker, guys don't like that.
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