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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

have been toying with posting this since she came round, so thought i would.

a couple of months ago my neighbour knowcked my door in the dead of night.

her dad had been taken to hospital and she had been told to make her way down.

now i wasnt doing anything other than watching tv and she asked, or at least this is the gist i got cuz she was hysterical, to watch her grandkid while she went, her daughters would be back soon so its not like i would be there all evening.

anyway, half an hour of watching the house (kid was in bed) and the youngest was back (17)

i told her i hoped her grandad would be ok, and went to bed, thought nothing of it.

anyway, the worst happened, so in the subsequent time i have told all 3 (2 daughters and the mother) if there is anything they need they only have to ask, put a card of sympathy through the door from us both, and generally just been the kind of neghbour i would expect to have if the worst were ever to happen to me.

never even gave a second thought about doing anything out of the ordinary as its just what you do, be nice, ask after people and so on.

yesterday, she came round again (now, most posts on here would start to move into fantasy here and say i bent her over the telephone table and nailed her) and said she was very grateful for all i had done (i really dont think i have done anything) but she bought me a bidr table to go into the garden i have spent the last few weeks remodelling.

now, im not wanting to sound ungrateful, but i really still dont see why she felt she needed to buy me anything.

surely its what neighbours should do for each other.

look out for each other

isnt that what society is supposed to be about?

my neighbour the other side is an old gent who loves gardening, and he helped me so much with advice on the garden (not so much the work as it was a lot of heavy work rather than planting) but has advised me with plants, even gave me a few, and got me a fern, which i love.

am i missing the point?

did i do more than anyone else would do?

i really didnt expect anything more than the thanks we give each other or the chats we enjoy when we meet on the shared drive.

must say, however, it has made me feel really good about myself.

sorry for rambling, and a know its monay thursday, oh and talk like a pirate day...oo arrr lol

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

I prefer to give a small token of appreciation, that way I feel it's okay to ask again if I ever need help.

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By *hoosy_strumpetCouple over a year ago

W S AREA

I think your very lucky to have what sounds like great neighbour"s

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think your very lucky to have what sounds like great neighbour"s

yes, the 3 of us are lucky to have great neighbours lol

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By *RYBBWCouple over a year ago

Leeds.

It's a lovely gesture. If only all people/neighbours were like that.....

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By *tarbeckCouple over a year ago

york

we have an old woman that lives next door to us and i do her a dinner every sunday ,she feels the need to bring me cream cakes when she goes shopping. I dont understand it because im doing a dinner in any case, mind you i told her i was cooking liver one week and she said i dont want that muck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You was there in her hour of need and trusted you to look after the family .. Its her way of saying thank you theres no need, But its lovely to give .. at time I do this too .. I bet it meant a lot to her you doing that out the blue .Shows what a nice person you are and they felt they could ask. xx

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By *empting Devil.Woman over a year ago

Sheffield

Many people don't know what to say or do in times of bereavement and so say and do nothing and back away.

You stepped up and showed yourself to be a caring supportive human being. So she decided to express her thanks with a gesture, it shows her to be an appreciative person who values kindness. The whole episode just shows that human nature is kind and good for the most part and that random acts of kindness are thriving.

Good neighbours are wonderful, I bet you live on a smiley street!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As said you where there when she needed and it would give her great satisfaction to do something in return

Great to hear of the public doing nice hear so much negative but we are a decent lot (most of us) at heart

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You was there in her hour of need and trusted you to look after the family .. Its her way of saying thank you theres no need, But its lovely to give .. at time I do this too .. I bet it meant a lot to her you doing that out the blue .Shows what a nice person you are and they felt they could ask. xx"

yes, im glad she felt able t also.

wierd thing is, before all this happened with her dad, i found her quite stand offish, V said she thought she was full of herself and felt she was above everyone (judging by her ex, she probably had quite a privileged marriage so could almost see what she meant) but since her dad was initially taken ill, and we have spent more time talking on the drive, passing the time as it were, she really does seem a lovely woman..

glad we have both seen a better side of each other, cuz im sure she probably didnt have the best impression of me for the first while since me and my ex split lol

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

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As ye sow, so shall ye reap

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Many people don't know what to say or do in times of bereavement and so say and do nothing and back away.

Good neighbours are wonderful, I bet you live on a smiley street!

really really not lol.

there is a woman that has been here since the houses were built, so she sees herself as the mother of all the residents lol (we are in a cul de sac of about 20 houses)

she moans like fook about people driving too fast, dodgey looking fookers coming in and out, and the only police problems seem to eminate from the same house.....her daughters lol.

so she moans about all her own family that turn up to hang out, smoke drugs, cause trouble in the street, at her daughters house.

it really is a soap opera here.

us 2 (me and this neighbour) close the door and have nothing to do with anyone else on the street, admittedly, whereas the neighbour on the other side (aul fella) seems to talk to everyone.

always knows whats going on

and enjoys telling me all about everything lol

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Getting to know your neighbours seems to be a thing of the past.

You did what was right and what you were willing to do. She appreciated that and wanted to thank you with a gift.

We have quite a close set of neighbours here, because of the children playing with each other and a couple of other factors.

When neighbours moved in years ago I knocked on their door to welcome them to the neighbourhood. Their comment was that more people had spoken to them that day than in 10 years in their previous home.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

“It is one of the most beautiful compensations in life, that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself.”

? Ralph Waldo Emerson

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The fact that you didnt expect anything but they felt you'd done enough to get a gift, says a lot about you. Good for you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The fact that you didnt expect anything but they felt you'd done enough to get a gift, says a lot about you. Good for you!

great comment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been helping my neighbour for the last 6 months, she suffered a very bad broken ankle, had to have it pinned and its taken a long time for her to recover. Last week she gave me an absolutely beautiful blanket which she had hand made. She chose my favourite colour, green. I was so touched that she had sat there day after day knitting those little squares then stitching them together. One of the nicest presents I have ever received. Its good to be nice to your neighbours x

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