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whats wrong with a thanks but no thanks message???????????

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

why is it that some ladies are not able to just say no but have to send abusive messages. about time some of these so called ladies behaved like civilized people and stop sending abusive messages.

we are not all the same and don't deserve to be branded as so.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

Pfft moan if we don't reply and moan when we do. Can't win lol

Seriously though there us never any need to get nasty. Just a polite no or even no Reply anda bblock is enough on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've tried the whole replying to all thanks but no thanks and got abuse, called names, or asked why?!

I've put on my status that I'm not meeting / chatting to new ppl and now on my profile. 99% of the ppl that message me now haven't even bothered to read it!!

Although I don't send abusive replys I just don't reply anymore

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Block block and block some more.

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By *wingerdelightCouple over a year ago

eastliegh

Do you reply to junk mail?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Do you reply to junk mail?"

no reply is better than abusive replies, so if in the opinion the receiver thinks no then I agree treat it as junk mail,

no excuse for abusive replies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From the site FAQs

"There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?"

If you get an abusive reply - just report, block and move on!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've tried the whole replying to all thanks but no thanks and got abuse, called names, or asked why?!

I've put on my status that I'm not meeting / chatting to new ppl and now on my profile. 99% of the ppl that message me now haven't even bothered to read it!!

Although I don't send abusive replys I just don't reply anymore "

If you're not meeting or chatting to anyone new, why do you not simply adjust your message filters and remove yourself from searches? That'll cut down messages to a trickle....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used to answer every mail and the times I got hassle after a polite no thanks from me has lead me to not sending many replies now

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Do you reply to junk mail?"

He is not moaning about not getting replies. He is moaning bout abusive ones.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

Moaning wasn't the right word.... Complaining.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"I've tried the whole replying to all thanks but no thanks and got abuse, called names, or asked why?!

I've put on my status that I'm not meeting / chatting to new ppl and now on my profile. 99% of the ppl that message me now haven't even bothered to read it!!

Although I don't send abusive replys I just don't reply anymore

If you're not meeting or chatting to anyone new, why do you not simply adjust your message filters and remove yourself from searches? That'll cut down messages to a trickle...."

Works a treat for me!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

Maybe I'm going mad but I read it that the op is getting nasty messages back instead of just a no thanks? Not complaining that he's not getting replies at all? It is early tho I could be wrong!!

If that's the case op just report any abusive messages and block the sender x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've tried the whole replying to all thanks but no thanks and got abuse, called names, or asked why?!

I've put on my status that I'm not meeting / chatting to new ppl and now on my profile. 99% of the ppl that message me now haven't even bothered to read it!!

Although I don't send abusive replys I just don't reply anymore

If you're not meeting or chatting to anyone new, why do you not simply adjust your message filters and remove yourself from searches? That'll cut down messages to a trickle....

Works a treat for me!

Told ya....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've tried the whole replying to all thanks but no thanks and got abuse, called names, or asked why?!

I've put on my status that I'm not meeting / chatting to new ppl and now on my profile. 99% of the ppl that message me now haven't even bothered to read it!!

Although I don't send abusive replys I just don't reply anymore

If you're not meeting or chatting to anyone new, why do you not simply adjust your message filters and remove yourself from searches? That'll cut down messages to a trickle....

Works a treat for me!

Told ya....

I shall try it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love these threads!!

Yeah you women are proper timewasters!! Sort it out!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I receive a message where it is clear that the sender hasn't read or has ignored my profile /preferences, then I don't send a reply. If you receive unsolicited post, do you send it back with a polite no thank you ? Make sure you meet the recipients requirements and say something to grab their attention so it doesn't look like a copy and paste message.

Also, if you think it's rude not to reply, chances are you wouldn't want to meet that person anyway.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Maybe I'm going mad but I read it that the op is getting nasty messages back instead of just a no thanks? Not complaining that he's not getting replies at all? It is early tho I could be wrong!!

If that's the case op just report any abusive messages and block the sender x"

I think people just hit standard thread reply mode without actually reading it. Funny thing is I bet they get pissed off if someone silent read their profile lol

Don't worry OP. We understood what you were trying to say

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"If I receive a message where it is clear that the sender hasn't read or has ignored my profile /preferences, then I don't send a reply. If you receive unsolicited post, do you send it back with a polite no thank you ? Make sure you meet the recipients requirements and say something to grab their attention so it doesn't look like a copy and paste message.

Also, if you think it's rude not to reply, chances are you wouldn't want to meet that person anyway.

I don't respond to unsolicited mail but I also donate write the company a shifty letter just for sticking something through my letter box which is what th OP is saying is happening to him.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

Don't and shitty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also, if you think it's rude not to reply, chances are you wouldn't want to meet that person anyway.

I don't respond to unsolicited mail but I also donate write the company a shifty letter just for sticking something through my letter box which is what th OP is saying is happening to him. "

I've done that once in the past. But the company concerned had been warned in person if they didn't take me off their mailing list they'd experience the 'other side' of my tongue (ooh er missus!). So after the sixth unwanted letter, they got it... with both barrels... worked though

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Maybe I'm going mad but I read it that the op is getting nasty messages back instead of just a no thanks? Not complaining that he's not getting replies at all? It is early tho I could be wrong!!

If that's the case op just report any abusive messages and block the sender x"

this is what iam saying. nothing to do with getting replies or not its about the abusive ones .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Maybe I'm going mad but I read it that the op is getting nasty messages back instead of just a no thanks? Not complaining that he's not getting replies at all? It is early tho I could be wrong!!

If that's the case op just report any abusive messages and block the sender x"

No, that's how I read it too.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Don't and shitty

Honestly Evie, your typos tickle me no end...God I need to get back to work

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"why is it that some ladies are not able to just say no but have to send abusive messages. about time some of these so called ladies behaved like civilized people and stop sending abusive messages.

we are not all the same and don't deserve to be branded as so.

Some people just like to be rude and abusive for the sake of it. Ignore and delete.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Maybe I'm going mad but I read it that the op is getting nasty messages back instead of just a no thanks? Not complaining that he's not getting replies at all? It is early tho I could be wrong!!

If that's the case op just report any abusive messages and block the sender x

No, that's how I read it too."

and me....

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

As most guys complain about not getting a reply at all I would look at the messages you are sending out to see if there is anything in them that is provoking the abuse.

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