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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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What things did your parents do that you/society might find unacceptable now?
As I have stated in another thread, mine couldn't afford childcare so we were locked in during the school holidays.
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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mines was a single mum and she went to train to be a nurse to give us a better life, my sister and I were left to look after ourselves from teatime - 9 pm, we were 10/11.
my aunt and uncle stayed across the road but we were on our own, we grew up quick. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I was a latchkey kid too, but there was an older sister around to open the tins of beans during the holidays.
I was chatting to my Mum one day about and she told me her and my Dad regularly drove d*unk after various events because 'it was accepted then'!  Now I know why me and my sisters had to sit in the car every time they went to the pub. |
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By *andWCouple
over a year ago
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My mother was a single mother, and worked 3 jobs to keep us in the good lifestyle we had known, she would either take us to work, one of her jobs was cleaning toilets, or leave us make our way home on our own.
If I ever suggest my teenager catches the bus home alone after school now she reacts like I've offered her a lift home with satan himself.
You know what though, (sidetrack from thread) I respect her so much more for working hard doing jobs she hated to give us 2 a better life than if she had been around to taxi us around x |
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"I was a latchkey kid too, but there was an older sister around to open the tins of beans during the holidays.
I was chatting to my Mum one day about and she told me her and my Dad regularly drove d*unk after various events because 'it was accepted then'! Now I know why me and my sisters had to sit in the car every time they went to the pub."
I remember sitting in the car while my parents were in the pub. Those were the days |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"mines was a single mum and she went to train to be a nurse to give us a better life, my sister and I were left to look after ourselves from teatime - 9 pm, we were 10/11.
my aunt and uncle stayed across the road but we were on our own, we grew up quick."
So did we. My parents would never have claimed for anything and they went out to work.
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I was a latchkey kid too, but there was an older sister around to open the tins of beans during the holidays.
I was chatting to my Mum one day about and she told me her and my Dad regularly drove d*unk after various events because 'it was accepted then'! Now I know why me and my sisters had to sit in the car every time they went to the pub.
I remember sitting in the car while my parents were in the pub. Those were the days"
Half a lemonade and a bag of salt n shake crisps  |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I was a latchkey kid too, but there was an older sister around to open the tins of beans during the holidays.
I was chatting to my Mum one day about and she told me her and my Dad regularly drove d*unk after various events because 'it was accepted then'! Now I know why me and my sisters had to sit in the car every time they went to the pub."
My dad would drive d*unk back from parties. When we were scared we'd sit in the footwells at the back. But then we also used to squash five or six children on the back seat and no seat belts. My dad used to sit me on his knee and let me steer sometimes too.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Being caned, however, only a couple of times, and only a couple of strokes, and I deserved the punishment!
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With a cane? I was hit but not with a cane, it was whatever came to hand at the time. |
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"I was a latchkey kid too, but there was an older sister around to open the tins of beans during the holidays.
I was chatting to my Mum one day about and she told me her and my Dad regularly drove d*unk after various events because 'it was accepted then'! Now I know why me and my sisters had to sit in the car every time they went to the pub.
I remember sitting in the car while my parents were in the pub. Those were the days
Half a lemonade and a bag of salt n shake crisps "
same here |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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Can you believe, my mum stayed at home and provided her own brand of childcare. Pretty good it was too, though i would say that wouldn't i?"
You were very fortunate. My sister does the same and I can see how much the boys value it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Left in the pub garden with a and crisps whilst my mum was in the bar
Left alone in a flat because no one would have me in the school holidays
The list would go on
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"We once squeezed 7 people (one in broomstick plasters) a wheelchair and a jardinier (posh plant pot) In a Renault 5 "
I understood everything except broomstick plasters. That was a tight squeeze. |
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By *o-jCouple
over a year ago
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I'm not trying to start a hue & cry about another thread on here but on more than one occation my parents left us alone in our appartment when we went on holiday when they went out to eat ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was left on my own from Friday night to Monday night for about 6 months when I was 10. My mom was going through a difficult period of her life at the time. Although, I did have my older sister (14) she was out most of the time or the house was full of lads. I am surprised nothing ever happened to me. Shocking when you think about it and especially now I'm a single mom, I can't imagine leaving my son every weekend. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Left in the pub garden with a and crisps whilst my mum was in the bar
Left alone in a flat because no one would have me in the school holidays
The list would go on
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You have my sympathies.
We were lucky that for one or sometimes two weeks in the summer holidays we could get farmed out to an aunt or to family in Devon. The aunt options weren't great as one's husband would only allow us to have cornflakes and spam and the other aunt is an OCD clean freak so we had to stay outside all day, even in the rain, in case we made a mess of the house. It was still better than being locked in the flat.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm not trying to start a hue & cry about another thread on here but on more than one occation my parents left us alone in our appartment when we went on holiday when they went out to eat ..."
As long as nothing happens or goes wrong then no one need know. The problem is the one occasion that something does happen or you get caught by social services. As I said, that was back then and not what we deem acceptable now. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I was left on my own from Friday night to Monday night for about 6 months when I was 10. My mom was going through a difficult period of her life at the time. Although, I did have my older sister (14) she was out most of the time or the house was full of lads. I am surprised nothing ever happened to me. Shocking when you think about it and especially now I'm a single mom, I can't imagine leaving my son every weekend. "
I hope she got better and that you haven't suffered too much from the effects of that period of your life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can you believe, my mum stayed at home and provided her own brand of childcare. Pretty good it was too, though i would say that wouldn't i?
You were very fortunate. My sister does the same and I can see how much the boys value it."
Even if I could have afforded to stay at home and however much I adore my son, I had to go back to work for my own sanity. For me, personally, I couldn't think of anything worse than being a stay at home mom |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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Can you believe, my mum stayed at home and provided her own brand of childcare. Pretty good it was too, though i would say that wouldn't i?
You were very fortunate. My sister does the same and I can see how much the boys value it.
Even if I could have afforded to stay at home and however much I adore my son, I had to go back to work for my own sanity. For me, personally, I couldn't think of anything worse than being a stay at home mom "
It's not right for everyone and I really would be madder than I am now if my mother could have remained at home.
My guess is that your son is not left alone though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was left on my own from Friday night to Monday night for about 6 months when I was 10. My mom was going through a difficult period of her life at the time. Although, I did have my older sister (14) she was out most of the time or the house was full of lads. I am surprised nothing ever happened to me. Shocking when you think about it and especially now I'm a single mom, I can't imagine leaving my son every weekend.
I hope she got better and that you haven't suffered too much from the effects of that period of your life."
She did thank you but it most definitely did have an effect on me and although i love my mom and she is extremely helpful and supportive now I'm a single parent, we dont have a loving relationship which is very sad and i think it stems from me being left alone at such a young age and realising that i wasn't her priority. Quite sad really x |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It's amazing the amount of words that are now classed as rascist that were used .
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That's because a lot of them are racist, and were then. I remember being called a Paki and not understanding as I'm from South America. I remember being asked for a lick of my arm to see if I tasted like chocolate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Can you believe, my mum stayed at home and provided her own brand of childcare. Pretty good it was too, though i would say that wouldn't i?
You were very fortunate. My sister does the same and I can see how much the boys value it.
Even if I could have afforded to stay at home and however much I adore my son, I had to go back to work for my own sanity. For me, personally, I couldn't think of anything worse than being a stay at home mom
It's not right for everyone and I really would be madder than I am now if my mother could have remained at home.
My guess is that your son is not left alone though."
Oh god no he isn't and wasn't. I once had to pop to the garage which is just a couple of mins drive away to get some milk for his breakfast one morning about 2 years ago. I felt awful and panicky and never ever did it again |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It's amazing the amount of words that are now classed as rascist that were used .
they were just as offensive in those days..
just shows that in some area's we have moved forward.."
It's just us darkies were supposed to know our place back then and not make a fuss about the language used. |
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My mum...... Well would take me "fox hunting" in cars In the woods it's were your in a car no lights on and you had to find each others cars I was allowed to steer I was 5 she would leave me at home with my baby sister to go out get d*unk and bring home strange men every time I would wake up to her hung over and a random bloke I was 6. My foster parents would say I stole stuff so the could claim loads of money from social services!! But hay I turned out ok! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's amazing the amount of words that are now classed as rascist that were used .
they were just as offensive in those days..
just shows that in some area's we have moved forward.."
My old nan, bless her, whenever she was in hospital or had to see a dr, if they were black she would always say "he's a lovely man, coloured though, but he is lovely". She was born in 1922, she wasn't racist but from a different age. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"My mum...... Well would take me "fox hunting" in cars In the woods it's were your in a car no lights on and you had to find each others cars I was allowed to steer I was 5 she would leave me at home with my baby sister to go out get d*unk and bring home strange men every time I would wake up to her hung over and a random bloke I was 6. My foster parents would say I stole stuff so the could claim loads of money from social services!! But hay I turned out ok! "
Well done to you for turning out ok. I hope you haven't had too many effects from that time in your life.
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"My mum...... Well would take me "fox hunting" in cars In the woods it's were your in a car no lights on and you had to find each others cars I was allowed to steer I was 5 she would leave me at home with my baby sister to go out get d*unk and bring home strange men every time I would wake up to her hung over and a random bloke I was 6. My foster parents would say I stole stuff so the could claim loads of money from social services!! But hay I turned out ok! "
You are only 27, that wasn't long ago! I am so happy for you that you did ok xxx |
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"It's amazing the amount of words that are now classed as rascist that were used .
they were just as offensive in those days..
just shows that in some area's we have moved forward..
It's just us darkies were supposed to know our place back then and not make a fuss about the language used."
sadly it wasn't just the colour of ones skin that attracted that sort of attention.. |
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I went through a crazy stage in my teens! but met my hubby had kids settled down and now I'm training to be a nurse! I have no contact with my mother after she kicked me out when I was 17 and 6 months pregnant! I moved in with hubbies parents  |
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When me and my four sisters were kids, my dad started his own business and sold the car in order to buy a van. At the weekends, he'd clear his tools out and put four fold out deck chairs in the back - and that's what we'd sit on to go for a trip out somewhere. If he'd crashed, it would've been carnage. But we didn't even think about it back then. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"When me and my four sisters were kids, my dad started his own business and sold the car in order to buy a van. At the weekends, he'd clear his tools out and put four fold out deck chairs in the back - and that's what we'd sit on to go for a trip out somewhere. If he'd crashed, it would've been carnage. But we didn't even think about it back then."
Turning corners must have been exciting. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I went through a crazy stage in my teens! but met my hubby had kids settled down and now I'm training to be a nurse! I have no contact with my mother after she kicked me out when I was 17 and 6 months pregnant! I moved in with hubbies parents "
Good luck with your studies. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I remember them watching the black and white ministerials. If they put that back on there would be one hell of a shit storm.  "
I like the typo. I have visions of the House of Commons with black and white face painted ministers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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my parents didn't go out very often but when they did it was the pub up the road and my older brother who would be approx 13-15 would walk to the pub and drive them home |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When me and my four sisters were kids, my dad started his own business and sold the car in order to buy a van. At the weekends, he'd clear his tools out and put four fold out deck chairs in the back - and that's what we'd sit on to go for a trip out somewhere. If he'd crashed, it would've been carnage. But we didn't even think about it back then."
I remember the excitement in our house when my dad got a robin relent van before he passed his car test. I was so proud being able to say to my friend it's ok my dad will take us and pick us up from the school disco. Took turns to sit in the back of van. Ahhhh them were the days |
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By *andWCouple
over a year ago
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It's sad really the things we look back in, some if it seems awful now, bit it's what our parents did to give us a good start in life.
Maybe in years to come we will look back on what we think is acceptable and think it is irresponsible x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My older sister and myself and another sister used to go straight home from school to clean and cook ready for our parents coming home and the younger children from the age of about 10 onwards |
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My parents used to send me to my grandparents during the summer holidays.That doesn't sound too bad but from the age of ten I was getting the train from Leed to Kircaldy in Fife by myself with a change at York,Darlington and Edinborough I used to be terrified going over the Forth bridge. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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my parent used to take me to pubs and clubs a lot and used to buy me babychams when i was only 13, remember once it was so smokey because everyone was smoking, it made my eyes sting.
i was big for my age though and looked older than 13. |
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