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Newbies and Lurkers! Yes... YOU!!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Are you a Newbie? Have you been lurking..??
If you're either new to Fabs, been around a bit, but never been brave enough to post or comment in the forums, or normally just like to lurk looking (and hopefully chuckling sometimes!) at what we all get up to on here, now's YOUR chance to jump in!
Feel free to come and say Hi! here, say what you like, comment on something that's been on your mind - you name it!
You'll find 'most' of us who've been giving their tuppeny worth for a while to be a kind, welcoming bunch really...
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"Are you a Newbie? Have you been lurking..??
If you're either new to Fabs, been around a bit, but never been brave enough to post or comment in the forums, or normally just like to lurk looking (and hopefully chuckling sometimes!) at what we all get up to on here, now's YOUR chance to jump in!
Feel free to come and say Hi! here, say what you like, comment on something that's been on your mind - you name it!
You'll find 'most' of us who've been giving their tuppeny worth for a while to be a kind, welcoming bunch really...
ted."
'Most' of you (and I don't include you in this as I can't say I've ever seen you post before), i.e. the 'forum clique', are quite the opposite, and actively shut down new posters and put other 'lurkers' off from becoming them.
I shan't name any names of course - that's just my own personal opinion from a long time following the forums and occasionally posting myself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are you a Newbie? Have you been lurking..??
If you're either new to Fabs, been around a bit, but never been brave enough to post or comment in the forums, or normally just like to lurk looking (and hopefully chuckling sometimes!) at what we all get up to on here, now's YOUR chance to jump in!
Feel free to come and say Hi! here, say what you like, comment on something that's been on your mind - you name it!
You'll find 'most' of us who've been giving their tuppeny worth for a while to be a kind, welcoming bunch really...
ted.
'Most' of you (and I don't include you in this as I can't say I've ever seen you post before), i.e. the 'forum clique', are quite the opposite, and actively shut down new posters and put other 'lurkers' off from becoming them.
I shan't name any names of course - that's just my own personal opinion from a long time following the forums and occasionally posting myself. "
Ever since I have been on Fabs the forums have been accused of having a clique, that newbies are attacked from all sides and shut down, put off etc as you say. Years ago I was a Mod on another completely unrelated forum on a well-known website for a while, and I can assure you what goes on here is VERY well moderated and is nothing compared to what went on there. Unfortunately, it is the nature of open forums where the contributors identities are hidden - people can hide behind them and, on occasion, do some things which appear quite callous. However - that's what we have mods for here and, although we moan about them quite often, they do their job pretty well.
Open forums are the same the web over - they are a bit like a debate in the House of Commons... and you know what they can get like sometimes....
ted.
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"Are you a Newbie? Have you been lurking..??
If you're either new to Fabs, been around a bit, but never been brave enough to post or comment in the forums, or normally just like to lurk looking (and hopefully chuckling sometimes!) at what we all get up to on here, now's YOUR chance to jump in!
Feel free to come and say Hi! here, say what you like, comment on something that's been on your mind - you name it!
You'll find 'most' of us who've been giving their tuppeny worth for a while to be a kind, welcoming bunch really...
ted.
'Most' of you (and I don't include you in this as I can't say I've ever seen you post before), i.e. the 'forum clique', are quite the opposite, and actively shut down new posters and put other 'lurkers' off from becoming them.
I shan't name any names of course - that's just my own personal opinion from a long time following the forums and occasionally posting myself. "
I have been reading and joining it on the forums for 2/3 years now. I have never been put off others, I post when and if I feel it.
Just got to take it all with a pinch of salt.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are you a Newbie? Have you been lurking..??
If you're either new to Fabs, been around a bit, but never been brave enough to post or comment in the forums, or normally just like to lurk looking (and hopefully chuckling sometimes!) at what we all get up to on here, now's YOUR chance to jump in!
Feel free to come and say Hi! here, say what you like, comment on something that's been on your mind - you name it!
You'll find 'most' of us who've been giving their tuppeny worth for a while to be a kind, welcoming bunch really...
ted.
'Most' of you (and I don't include you in this as I can't say I've ever seen you post before), i.e. the 'forum clique', are quite the opposite, and actively shut down new posters and put other 'lurkers' off from becoming them.
I shan't name any names of course - that's just my own personal opinion from a long time following the forums and occasionally posting myself.
Ever since I have been on Fabs the forums have been accused of having a clique, that newbies are attacked from all sides and shut down, put off etc as you say. Years ago I was a Mod on another completely unrelated forum on a well-known website for a while, and I can assure you what goes on here is VERY well moderated and is nothing compared to what went on there. Unfortunately, it is the nature of open forums where the contributors identities are hidden - people can hide behind them and, on occasion, do some things which appear quite callous. However - that's what we have mods for here and, although we moan about them quite often, they do their job pretty well.
Open forums are the same the web over - they are a bit like a debate in the House of Commons... and you know what they can get like sometimes....
ted.
PS - Welcome! ... btw "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you a Newbie? Have you been lurking..??
If you're either new to Fabs, been around a bit, but never been brave enough to post or comment in the forums, or normally just like to lurk looking (and hopefully chuckling sometimes!) at what we all get up to on here, now's YOUR chance to jump in!
Feel free to come and say Hi! here, say what you like, comment on something that's been on your mind - you name it!
You'll find 'most' of us who've been giving their tuppeny worth for a while to be a kind, welcoming bunch really...
ted.
'Most' of you (and I don't include you in this as I can't say I've ever seen you post before), i.e. the 'forum clique', are quite the opposite, and actively shut down new posters and put other 'lurkers' off from becoming them.
I shan't name any names of course - that's just my own personal opinion from a long time following the forums and occasionally posting myself.
I have been reading and joining it on the forums for 2/3 years now. I have never been put off others, I post when and if I feel it.
Just got to take it all with a pinch of salt.
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this all week long.
treat comments as they are, words on a screen, and you cant go far wrong.
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Hi everyone .. im pretty new to the forums and have put forward my comments a few times and dont think there is any cliques we all have different opinions and views and I like the fact that a thread I see from one point of view is then read by somebody else differently .. its definitely broadened my opinions .. also I couldnt keep quiet im far too noisy and opinionated for that lol xx tabitha xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone .. im pretty new to the forums and have put forward my comments a few times and dont think there is any cliques we all have different opinions and views and I like the fact that a thread I see from one point of view is then read by somebody else differently .. its definitely broadened my opinions .. also I couldnt keep quiet im far too noisy and opinionated for that lol xx tabitha xxx "
Lol! Welcome |
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We're long term lurkers and just getting into the swing of posting over the last few weeks.
We've both learnt a tonne from the forums, especially when we were very nervous newbs. Reading the forums helped us to find answers to questions we had about swinging generally as well as helping us to know that everyone is nervous initially and that all sorts of people are enjoying the lifestyle for all sorts of different reasons! We love the variety of people here.
Imho online forums are a bit like a lens placed over life, human nature and people generally. It takes all sorts and there's always drama and disagreements and that's ok  as long as it doesn't go into the realms of bullying or victimisation. With that in mind it's really easy to take the written word out of context, it can be very difficult to put across and interpret/read tone. It's also very easy to transfer insecurities etc - skewing personal perceptions of posts. I've done the latter myself (Mrs) on bad days, on those days I don't post, close the tablet down and go do something else 
Overall we find the forums to be very friendly, informative and welcoming!
So come on newbies and lurkers, jump in and join the mad fabulousness that is the forums xx |
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"Hi everyone .. im pretty new to the forums and have put forward my comments a few times and dont think there is any cliques we all have different opinions and views and I like the fact that a thread I see from one point of view is then read by somebody else differently .. its definitely broadened my opinions .. also I couldnt keep quiet im far too noisy and opinionated for that lol xx tabitha xxx
Lol! Welcome "
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"Are you a Newbie? Have you been lurking..??
If you're either new to Fabs, been around a bit, but never been brave enough to post or comment in the forums, or normally just like to lurk looking (and hopefully chuckling sometimes!) at what we all get up to on here, now's YOUR chance to jump in!
Feel free to come and say Hi! here, say what you like, comment on something that's been on your mind - you name it!
You'll find 'most' of us who've been giving their tuppeny worth for a while to be a kind, welcoming bunch really...
ted.
'Most' of you (and I don't include you in this as I can't say I've ever seen you post before), i.e. the 'forum clique', are quite the opposite, and actively shut down new posters and put other 'lurkers' off from becoming them.
I shan't name any names of course - that's just my own personal opinion from a long time following the forums and occasionally posting myself.
Ever since I have been on Fabs the forums have been accused of having a clique, that newbies are attacked from all sides and shut down, put off etc as you say. Years ago I was a Mod on another completely unrelated forum on a well-known website for a while, and I can assure you what goes on here is VERY well moderated and is nothing compared to what went on there. Unfortunately, it is the nature of open forums where the contributors identities are hidden - people can hide behind them and, on occasion, do some things which appear quite callous. However - that's what we have mods for here and, although we moan about them quite often, they do their job pretty well.
Open forums are the same the web over - they are a bit like a debate in the House of Commons... and you know what they can get like sometimes....
ted.
PS - Welcome! ... btw
Have to say , you have changed your tune from the other day. "
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"Are you a Newbie? Have you been lurking..??
If you're either new to Fabs, been around a bit, but never been brave enough to post or comment in the forums, or normally just like to lurk looking (and hopefully chuckling sometimes!) at what we all get up to on here, now's YOUR chance to jump in!
Feel free to come and say Hi! here, say what you like, comment on something that's been on your mind - you name it!
You'll find 'most' of us who've been giving their tuppeny worth for a while to be a kind, welcoming bunch really...
ted.
'Most' of you (and I don't include you in this as I can't say I've ever seen you post before), i.e. the 'forum clique', are quite the opposite, and actively shut down new posters and put other 'lurkers' off from becoming them.
I shan't name any names of course - that's just my own personal opinion from a long time following the forums and occasionally posting myself. "
I've been on here for about 5yrs now and people have made reference to forum cliques since day one.
Some people will comment on every thread and some will be more selective. It's easy to convince yourself that the regular posters are members of the "Forum Mafia" if they all post on a particular thread and even more if they are posting an opposite view to the thread author. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sort of in the middle of this one 
I'm a newbie and lurk more than I post  the turning point for me was the dare threads, turning me from lurker to poster
Loving the new name Ted, and thank you cheeky
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you a Newbie? Have you been lurking..??
If you're either new to Fabs, been around a bit, but never been brave enough to post or comment in the forums, or normally just like to lurk looking (and hopefully chuckling sometimes!) at what we all get up to on here, now's YOUR chance to jump in!
Feel free to come and say Hi! here, say what you like, comment on something that's been on your mind - you name it!
You'll find 'most' of us who've been giving their tuppeny worth for a while to be a kind, welcoming bunch really...
ted.
'Most' of you (and I don't include you in this as I can't say I've ever seen you post before), i.e. the 'forum clique', are quite the opposite, and actively shut down new posters and put other 'lurkers' off from becoming them.
I shan't name any names of course - that's just my own personal opinion from a long time following the forums and occasionally posting myself. "
I was a newbie once n I can't recall feeling I was being excluded in any way 
Over time people get to notice regular posters but I don't think generally that anyone is given the cold shoulder. Some posts don't elicit a response but that may only be because no one has an opinion or comment to respond with at that particular time.
I may of course be speaking from my throne in cloud cuckoo land lol  |
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I was a newbie once I just came in plonked myself down and became part of the furniture....some like me some don't....I like people a lot on here and I don't like very few...I have made some life long friends out of the forums....you get out of it what you put in...don't take this place literally or seriously and the lurkers and newbies will be just fine...get annoyed of course but it's not the real world |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a kinda newbie only go into chat ocassionally. More of lurky and I say why not some stunning ladies and couples on here
One thing I find about the site is its not good for your emotionally health especially if shy fat bloke with low self esteem yet at same time addictive
Hello to you all
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are you a Newbie? Have you been lurking..??
If you're either new to Fabs, been around a bit, but never been brave enough to post or comment in the forums, or normally just like to lurk looking (and hopefully chuckling sometimes!) at what we all get up to on here, now's YOUR chance to jump in!
Feel free to come and say Hi! here, say what you like, comment on something that's been on your mind - you name it!
You'll find 'most' of us who've been giving their tuppeny worth for a while to be a kind, welcoming bunch really...
ted.
'Most' of you (and I don't include you in this as I can't say I've ever seen you post before), i.e. the 'forum clique', are quite the opposite, and actively shut down new posters and put other 'lurkers' off from becoming them.
I shan't name any names of course - that's just my own personal opinion from a long time following the forums and occasionally posting myself. "
Some threads are pretty emotive in their subject and therefore will have members posting quite passionately. Guilty . What you have to remember is that people are allowed to critique others' opinions and, oh they do! What the person on the receiving end must not do, is take it personally.
On the forum I moderate, our philosophy on one of our sub-forums (political) is: attack the post but never the poster. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a kinda newbie only go into chat ocassionally. More of lurky and I say why not some stunning ladies and couples on here
One thing I find about the site is its not good for your emotionally health especially if shy fat bloke with low self esteem yet at same time addictive
Hello to you all
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Honey, anyone with low self-esteem has to raise it from the inside, no-one else can do it for you. If you rely on the kindness of others to boost your esteem you will as likely discover there are others who will do just the opposite. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are you a Newbie? Have you been lurking..??
If you're either new to Fabs, been around a bit, but never been brave enough to post or comment in the forums, or normally just like to lurk looking (and hopefully chuckling sometimes!) at what we all get up to on here, now's YOUR chance to jump in!
Feel free to come and say Hi! here, say what you like, comment on something that's been on your mind - you name it!
You'll find 'most' of us who've been giving their tuppeny worth for a while to be a kind, welcoming bunch really...
ted.
'Most' of you (and I don't include you in this as I can't say I've ever seen you post before), i.e. the 'forum clique', are quite the opposite, and actively shut down new posters and put other 'lurkers' off from becoming them.
I shan't name any names of course - that's just my own personal opinion from a long time following the forums and occasionally posting myself.
Some threads are pretty emotive in their subject and therefore will have members posting quite passionately. Guilty . What you have to remember is that people are allowed to critique others' opinions and, oh they do! What the person on the receiving end must not do, is take it personally.
On the forum I moderate, our philosophy on one of our sub-forums (political) is: attack the post but never the poster."
Is this an example of :- a funny thing happened on the way to the forum '??? Hahahahahaha  |
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"I'm a kinda newbie only go into chat ocassionally. More of lurky and I say why not some stunning ladies and couples on here
One thing I find about the site is its not good for your emotionally health especially if shy fat bloke with low self esteem yet at same time addictive
Hello to you all
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Never seek esteem on here a thick skin is needed or you will end up with an eating disorder if your self confidence issues rise from your size....and welcome xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are you a Newbie? Have you been lurking..??
If you're either new to Fabs, been around a bit, but never been brave enough to post or comment in the forums, or normally just like to lurk looking (and hopefully chuckling sometimes!) at what we all get up to on here, now's YOUR chance to jump in!
Feel free to come and say Hi! here, say what you like, comment on something that's been on your mind - you name it!
You'll find 'most' of us who've been giving their tuppeny worth for a while to be a kind, welcoming bunch really...
ted.
'Most' of you (and I don't include you in this as I can't say I've ever seen you post before), i.e. the 'forum clique', are quite the opposite, and actively shut down new posters and put other 'lurkers' off from becoming them.
I shan't name any names of course - that's just my own personal opinion from a long time following the forums and occasionally posting myself.
Some threads are pretty emotive in their subject and therefore will have members posting quite passionately. Guilty . What you have to remember is that people are allowed to critique others' opinions and, oh they do! What the person on the receiving end must not do, is take it personally.
On the forum I moderate, our philosophy on one of our sub-forums (political) is: attack the post but never the poster.
Is this an example of :- a funny thing happened on the way to the forum '??? Hahahahahaha "
"ooh er Mrs"
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hi all, not a newbie, have posted on a few forums.
I just like to read and lurk, and when I feel like posting, do so.
I find them to be sometimes helpful, sometimes educational, some downright stupid!! But mostly interesting!
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"I am thick skinned, and a have brain that seems to sleep lol.
Never know what to write lol"
Just write utter bollox like the rest of us seem to most of the time and I'm sure you'll get along just fine
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I used to be a pretty regular poster (mrs), but took a break. Over the last few weeks i have been a lurker more than a poster "
I post off & on also (mrs). We (mr & i) are pretty new to this forum & have learnt so much.
I often have to google some of the terms bc we don't use them over here. (Like snog, wank, etc)
Overall love fab... Will never think of the uk as same... Who knew you were all so horny. Lol
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By (user no longer on site)
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newish poster myself , did have clique reservations myself at one point ....unfounded in my opionion now , ..spent a few months as a lurker and messaged a few forumites who always responded politely , that gave me The green light to join in , ...always fun , often educational and sometimes bizarre ......join in ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am thick skinned, and a have brain that seems to sleep lol.
Never know what to write lol
Just write utter bollox like the rest of us seem to most of the time and I'm sure you'll get along just fine
*courtesy of the useless information department*"
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I read more than I post.
I ignore more than I read.
I've never found it cliquey.
I could do without the whining accusations of those that won't join in for one reason or another and attempt to lay the blame for their feelings and inadequacies on others.
Instead of 'That's a mean thing to say. You are nasty.' They should try something nearer the truth , such as.....
I don't understand what you mean....
I didn't like what you said but don't
know why....
I don't agree with what you said so will lable you something horrible.
Your point of view is different to mine so I will become defensive and accusative and shout that you are out of order.
I will also blame it on the forums and all forumites and say that FAB is cliquey.
I will take it personally and make a personal insult against you.
I haven't had sex for years and i'm uptight and my balls are near exploding.
I am having p.m.t / menstrual mood swings and will take it out on you.
I will send you a 'watch it' message so no one can see what I am saying.
I will message admin and say that you don't like the same sex as me, you are fake and should be banned.
That'd be closer to the truth.
I enjoy reading here depending on who is posting / bantering. I steer clear of whiney types and ALWAYS give them the last word.
There's room for all though
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to say I'm a newbie to forums..
I've been looking at them due to my partner saying " have read that ? Have you read this" did you see what they said ... So I thought hello I'm missing out on stuff ill go and have a look ....
There's been times when I felt down so come on here and some of the comments have made me lol so thanks guys....
But I have to admit there is one guy on here that posts the funniest things ever and I have to confess I do stalk him a bit now x Kat x |
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over a year ago
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Hiya newbs n lurkers...I was a newbie once and convinced that all the regulars had met each other on many occasions and although not cliquey I initially thought it was tight knit. I jumped in with both feet and started posting - got flamed a few times but also got included and now it's my home from home (yep, I have no fecking real life)...I have had the pleasure of meeting maybe 15 or so regular forumites and I comment on threads regardless of whether I know posters personally or not. It's always nice to get some new blood as it allows me to maybe find some new victims for Taz when its personality is dominating Caz and Daz...so newbies, does this hankie smell of chloroform |
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"Are you a Newbie? Have you been lurking..??
If you're either new to Fabs, been around a bit, but never been brave enough to post or comment in the forums, or normally just like to lurk looking (and hopefully chuckling sometimes!) at what we all get up to on here, now's YOUR chance to jump in!
Feel free to come and say Hi! here, say what you like, comment on something that's been on your mind - you name it!
You'll find 'most' of us who've been giving their tuppeny worth for a while to be a kind, welcoming bunch really...
ted."
I is to scared too post coz my grammer nd speeling iznt very gud. |
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"We're long term lurkers and just getting into the swing of posting over the last few weeks.
We've both learnt a tonne from the forums, especially when we were very nervous newbs. Reading the forums helped us to find answers to questions we had about swinging generally as well as helping us to know that everyone is nervous initially and that all sorts of people are enjoying the lifestyle for all sorts of different reasons! We love the variety of people here.
Imho online forums are a bit like a lens placed over life, human nature and people generally. It takes all sorts and there's always drama and disagreements and that's ok as long as it doesn't go into the realms of bullying or victimisation. With that in mind it's really easy to take the written word out of context, it can be very difficult to put across and interpret/read tone. It's also very easy to transfer insecurities etc - skewing personal perceptions of posts. I've done the latter myself (Mrs) on bad days, on those days I don't post, close the tablet down and go do something else
Overall we find the forums to be very friendly, informative and welcoming!
So come on newbies and lurkers, jump in and join the mad fabulousness that is the forums xx"
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I'm a bit of a serial lurking, but have become a tad braver and gobby lately. Have found myself in hot water a couple of times, and no doubt will continue to do so, but that's just me
Love the forums, and the fact it's full of such, a diverse range of people, with such a wide range of opinions, have been fortunate in my short time here to have made a few good friends, and will continue to lurk about, love the craic, one thing though be warned, it's very addictive! So welcome one and all!
Form an orderly queue at the door strait jackets will be handed out accordingly
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