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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok, question for you all.
You arrange to meet someone - (not necessarily for sex) - could be social, could be as friends etc and the other party has to cancel for a given (could be very valid) reason.
Who do you feel should re-arrange the meeting, and why? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldnt bother to re arange a meet, one chance only here  harsh i know but i have found that if they cancel once then they are likely to cancel again so i dont bother ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The person who cancelled should have mentioned a rearrange in the cancellation. You would then reply to that invitation."
 because they are the one who cancelled |
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"The person who cancelled should have mentioned a rearrange in the cancellation. You would then reply to that invitation."
^^^ this... If they don't mention an alternative date then I wouldn't chase them for one.
If someone cancels without re-arranging I would assume they didn't want to re-arrange and that they just wanted to cancel |
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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago
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We all get family emergencys or illness etc! I think in those cases we all understand! The last time someone cancelled on me. In all fairness he gave me 5 days notice, and he offerred to rearrange. I turned him down as we had had the meet arranged in advance by about 3 weeks, once it was in my diary I turned down other social activities. But he was cancelling as he was being asked to attend a BBQ at his friends house! I chose not to rearrange as I could foresee this happening again. But sometimes shit happens and we have to be somewhat undersatnding. But in all honesty I rarely give 2nd chances. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Isn't any meeting social, pleasure or otherwise a mutual arrangement between all parties ?
If someone cancels then I'd hope they'd say when they could rearrange, but, that opens up another round of negotiations  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The person who cancelled should have mentioned a rearrange in the cancellation. You would then reply to that invitation.
^^^ this... If they don't mention an alternative date then I wouldn't chase them for one.
If someone cancels without re-arranging I would assume they didn't want to re-arrange and that they just wanted to cancel"
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Isn't any meeting social, pleasure or otherwise a mutual arrangement between all parties ?
If someone cancels then I'd hope they'd say when they could rearrange, but, that opens up another round of negotiations "
This Real Life comes first before Fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive had to cancel before but have rearranged and had a good meet.
Also once cancelled and they got funny but my hobbit was sick and she will always come first so after them getting funny i never spoke to them again...their loss n all that.
Just ask them to let you know when is good to rearrange and leave it to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest I've been cancelled before...but in the message she didnt mention a rearrange date.
So I asked "do you wanna rearrange? " or words to that effect.
She said yeah...and we rearranged and eventually met.
So just my take. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Most interesting responses. I should clarify that my question is a more generalised view on friends and social meetings (and not aimed at anyone or any incident related to this site!!)
For me, if the other party cancels and all express a desire to rearrange, it is very much my view that this lies with the cancelling party. Because if I were to keep trying to re-arrange I would quickly feel that I were trying to push myself onto the other party - and the thought of being 'that pushy friend' just abhors me.
But can it then lead to feelings of disappointment / rejection when it never happens - as if it were all lip-service and that really I'm just not interesting or enough of a friend to take the time to actually rearrange?
If all of that makes sense!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most interesting responses. I should clarify that my question is a more generalised view on friends and social meetings (and not aimed at anyone or any incident related to this site!!)
For me, if the other party cancels and all express a desire to rearrange, it is very much my view that this lies with the cancelling party. Because if I were to keep trying to re-arrange I would quickly feel that I were trying to push myself onto the other party - and the thought of being 'that pushy friend' just abhors me.
But can it then lead to feelings of disappointment / rejection when it never happens - as if it were all lip-service and that really I'm just not interesting or enough of a friend to take the time to actually rearrange?
If all of that makes sense!
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total sense |
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