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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"although its flattering to recieve messages, why do people from hundreds of miles away message asking for a meet, no ones that desperate surly???"
Some may be Genuine and some may Travel a lot like me, I message People from all over the Country as I travel so much.
There are those that just want Friends to add and there must be desperate Folk as well  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i get friend invites from people in london 
when my profile clearly says at the top "no friend invite unless we've chatted"
but hey, how many peeps actually read profiles these days  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"although its flattering to recieve messages, why do people from hundreds of miles away message asking for a meet, no ones that desperate surly???
Some may be Genuine and some may Travel a lot like me, I message People from all over the Country as I travel so much.
There are those that just want Friends to add and there must be desperate Folk as well "
understand that and im sure there are lots who do but when we look at their profiles it usually says cant travel |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"although its flattering to recieve messages, why do people from hundreds of miles away message asking for a meet, no ones that desperate surly???
Some may be Genuine and some may Travel a lot like me, I message People from all over the Country as I travel so much.
There are those that just want Friends to add and there must be desperate Folk as well
understand that and im sure there are lots who do but when we look at their profiles it usually says cant travel"
I'd just ignore them then, at the end of the day you can choose who to have contact with and who not to bother with so take your pick and move on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"although its flattering to recieve messages, why do people from hundreds of miles away message asking for a meet, no ones that desperate surly???
Some may be Genuine and some may Travel a lot like me, I message People from all over the Country as I travel so much.
There are those that just want Friends to add and there must be desperate Folk as well
understand that and im sure there are lots who do but when we look at their profiles it usually says cant travel
I'd just ignore them then, at the end of the day you can choose who to have contact with and who not to bother with so take your pick and move on "
we do however was wandering what they hoped to gain from it, maybe one in ten comes back a yes, i don t know |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"although its flattering to recieve messages, why do people from hundreds of miles away message asking for a meet, no ones that desperate surly???"
I guess it's because in your profile you state 'can travel', now they ain't gonna know how far you can travel unless they ask 
As someone stated here, there are some people that travel some distance, so if they liked your profile then why not ask. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"although its flattering to recieve messages, why do people from hundreds of miles away message asking for a meet, no ones that desperate surly???
I guess it's because in your profile you state 'can travel', now they ain't gonna know how far you can travel unless they ask
As someone stated here, there are some people that travel some distance, so if they liked your profile then why not ask."
think my point was " why look so far afield" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I travel because I like travelling. Half the fun of it for me is that you meet people you wouldn't normally BECAUSE they are so far away and if you didn't have the net, you obviously wouldn't bump into them. I don't want to just go around people who happen to be in my area just because they're there. It's cool if I like them but I'm not doing it just for the sake of it. I'd rather meet sound people who I'm fairly certain will become long term friends - and so far it's working. I also don't see why everyone else should be expected to come to me just coz I'm a single female. I'm one of these feministy-ish types who believes in equality - and not just when it applies in my favour!
Oh and also because I'm desperate  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I travel because I like travelling. Half the fun of it for me is that you meet people you wouldn't normally BECAUSE they are so far away and if you didn't have the net, you obviously wouldn't bump into them. I don't want to just go around people who happen to be in my area just because they're there. It's cool if I like them but I'm not doing it just for the sake of it. I'd rather meet sound people who I'm fairly certain will become long term friends - and so far it's working. I also don't see why everyone else should be expected to come to me just coz I'm a single female. I'm one of these feministy-ish types who believes in equality - and not just when it applies in my favour!
Oh and also because I'm desperate "
thanks for that it make alot of sence playing away from home so you dont bump into people |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"although its flattering to recieve messages, why do people from hundreds of miles away message asking for a meet, no ones that desperate surly???"
Loads are, why else! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I travel because I like travelling. Half the fun of it for me is that you meet people you wouldn't normally BECAUSE they are so far away and if you didn't have the net, you obviously wouldn't bump into them. I don't want to just go around people who happen to be in my area just because they're there. It's cool if I like them but I'm not doing it just for the sake of it. I'd rather meet sound people who I'm fairly certain will become long term friends - and so far it's working. I also don't see why everyone else should be expected to come to me just coz I'm a single female. I'm one of these feministy-ish types who believes in equality - and not just when it applies in my favour!
Oh and also because I'm desperate
thanks for that it make alot of sence playing away from home so you dont bump into people"
It's also because I chat in the chat rooms and a lot of the people I 'click' with are in there, and a lot of the time they don't live near me. I've done chat rooms for years and met some of my best mates from them. This is no different for me - other than the fact there is the option of sex if all involved so choose to do it. All swinging for me is a social to begin with whether it's with a single guy, a couple, a girl, a group, whatever ... if the chemistry's there it will become more, if it's not, it won't! But either way, a good night is usually had and no trip is fruitless  |
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By *zMaleMan
over a year ago
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As a swingle I am free to go wherever I like and as it happens I love to see other parts of the country. So if it's a meet for a night I have in the past made a weekend of it and take in the views as well. |
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"although its flattering to recieve messages, why do people from hundreds of miles away message asking for a meet, no ones that desperate surly???"
Why would they need to be desperate to meet you? We've actually met up with a lovely couple near John O'Groats - quite a distance for us to travel but we were touring Scotland on our bikes so planned it in advance. Just because people may live a distance away it doesn't automaticaly rule them out from meeting you! Z |
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As we're unable to accommodate, we're prepared to travel long distances, we also try and make a weekend out of, in that if it's extremely far we'll book a hotel, just in case things don't work out with our potential meet |
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"As we're unable to accommodate, we're prepared to travel long distances, we also try and make a weekend out of, in that if it's extremely far we'll book a hotel, just in case things don't work out with our potential meet "
ah ha, see you got the "back up plan" book, clever boys, clever I tell ya  |
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"As we're unable to accommodate, we're prepared to travel long distances, we also try and make a weekend out of, in that if it's extremely far we'll book a hotel, just in case things don't work out with our potential meet
ah ha, see you got the "back up plan" book, clever boys, clever I tell ya "
Always have a "back up" one can never predict what may happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As we're unable to accommodate, we're prepared to travel long distances, we also try and make a weekend out of, in that if it's extremely far we'll book a hotel, just in case things don't work out with our potential meet
ah ha, see you got the "back up plan" book, clever boys, clever I tell ya
Always have a "back up" one can never predict what may happen"
And that's another reason I love this, there's nothing 'predictable' about it - well not if I can help it |
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"As we're unable to accommodate, we're prepared to travel long distances, we also try and make a weekend out of, in that if it's extremely far we'll book a hotel, just in case things don't work out with our potential meet
ah ha, see you got the "back up plan" book, clever boys, clever I tell ya
Always have a "back up" one can never predict what may happen
And that's another reason I love this, there's nothing 'predictable' about it - well not if I can help it "
Have you ever considered moving South? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"although its flattering to recieve messages, why do people from hundreds of miles away message asking for a meet, no ones that desperate surly???"
Some people travel, some have holiday homes, caravans and maybe they just like the look of you and are prepared to travel and book a hotel near you. If your unsure just ask them as it wouldn't take any longer than posting this thread.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As we're unable to accommodate, we're prepared to travel long distances, we also try and make a weekend out of, in that if it's extremely far we'll book a hotel, just in case things don't work out with our potential meet
ah ha, see you got the "back up plan" book, clever boys, clever I tell ya
Always have a "back up" one can never predict what may happen
And that's another reason I love this, there's nothing 'predictable' about it - well not if I can help it
Have you ever considered moving South? "
I only just moved back up north Do you travel? pmsl |
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"As we're unable to accommodate, we're prepared to travel long distances, we also try and make a weekend out of, in that if it's extremely far we'll book a hotel, just in case things don't work out with our potential meet
ah ha, see you got the "back up plan" book, clever boys, clever I tell ya
Always have a "back up" one can never predict what may happen
And that's another reason I love this, there's nothing 'predictable' about it - well not if I can help it
Have you ever considered moving South?
I only just moved back up north Do you travel? pmsl"
Yes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i get friend invites from people in london
when my profile clearly says at the top "no friend invite unless we've chatted"
but hey, how many peeps actually read profiles these days "
Have to agree with you there! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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quite, it clearly states on my profile, due to finances, cant travel so why did i get some 18 yr old from Sunderland???? Neither do i do younger vs older so that counts him an idiot twice lol
Its because no-one reads the profile
or cant read |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"its cause they looking for free digs lol!! there was a post a few days ago with it and some true stories!! xx "
It's true.. the bassas!
I do NOT run a B&B with free sex on tap, so when the golf open is on I'm hibernating!! |
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By *zMaleMan
over a year ago
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"its cause they looking for free digs lol!! there was a post a few days ago with it and some true stories!! xx
It's true.. the bassas!
I do NOT run a B&B with free sex on tap, so when the golf open is on I'm hibernating!! "
Ahhhhhhhhhh bugger that was going to be my next question
So you do B&B at other times ???? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe they live in hope of eventually meeting at a social or something like that. ?
Suppose it's always better to have interacted with folks before meeting them for the 1st time
Or maybe they're just downright crazy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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some are probably just desperate and mailing everyone in sight, but for others they might think that even if someone is miles away, if you talk for long enough and get on well enough, then travelling a long way doesnt seem like such a big deal.
personally, if i do a search, i just look for people in the north west. i'll have a nosey at other peoples pics sometimes too though |
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