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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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why is it that all the single males want my wife? I thought it was sexy at first but now getting closer to the actual deed I am not so sure anymore. sure, she will enjoy it, and he will, but is it ok if I don't think I am going to enjoy it? I mean, is there anyone here with experience in this for someone new to this? or should I post this somewhere else? |
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By *obbygggMan
over a year ago
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"why is it that all the single males want my wife? I thought it was sexy at first but now getting closer to the actual deed I am not so sure anymore. sure, she will enjoy it, and he will, but is it ok if I don't think I am going to enjoy it? I mean, is there anyone here with experience in this for someone new to this? or should I post this somewhere else?"
You've been on here over a year. If you still aren't sure stop right now. Not worth risking your marriage for. Cos sure as eggs is eggs it's going to go tits up.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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been re thinking for some time. we are set to meet this week then go for it the following week. we have been married a long time and are completely open about all this with each other. she wants more sex and that's that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"why is it that all the single males want my wife? I thought it was sexy at first but now getting closer to the actual deed I am not so sure anymore. sure, she will enjoy it, and he will, but is it ok if I don't think I am going to enjoy it? I mean, is there anyone here with experience in this for someone new to this? or should I post this somewhere else?"
Honey if you are not sure, then don't do it. Go meet for a social & see how it goes by all means, talk to your Mrs & tell her that you are having doubts. It can be fun if everyone is happy but if not can cause trouble & ruin a very beautiful relationship. xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"why is it that all the single males want my wife? I thought it was sexy at first but now getting closer to the actual deed I am not so sure anymore. sure, she will enjoy it, and he will, but is it ok if I don't think I am going to enjoy it? I mean, is there anyone here with experience in this for someone new to this? or should I post this somewhere else?"
Step away from this right now!!!
Like Pandora's box once the lid is off there is no putting it back on.
I love watching my wife with other guys however I do prefer strictly NSA type of meets while she prefers the more regular meets having built up a rapport.
I confess that at times the level of intimacy does cause me angst however we have been doing this for quite a while so know what our margins are.
If you are having concerns before even dipping your toes in so to speak you really do need to reassess before any permananet damage gets done  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe just do soft play the first time and see how you feel about that before maybe moving on to full sex but if you don't think you will enjoy any of this then don't do it. Is it worth ruining a marriage over |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I did not expect such rapid and intense input. you guys/gals on here are where I should have come and opened up to a long time ago. am feeling better already. we are most definitely going for a meet coffee. from there, well. we have a strong relationship and 20+ years marriage, but she does get a bit short with my inertia and doubt/cautiousness over this one. we have just not seen any couples yet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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An FFM play session can be very erotic for everyone involved
You both can pleasure her at the same time, and not feel left out and she can take it in turns with the both of you 
Finding the right guy for your first experience can be difficult so follow everyone else's suggestions  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You want to make your wife happy and thats a good thing. Just dont feel that this is the only way if you are not 100% it is not worth the risk. I am sure there are other things you could try maybe see if the person you are meeting would be ok with watching you and your wife or something to that effect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Never do anything you are not 100% sure about. It was weird when we first started meeting others but we never worried or thought about cancelling.
Its really not worth the agro and could go seriously wrong. Stick with couples maybe and soft swap for now if you are both into that but please don't let a guy near your wife if you have doubts. X |
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Advice from one who knows ! Go to a social meet and talk to others. Swinging was a huge nail in my marriage coffin 
My then hubby and I thought it would perk up our sex life. But I will never ever forget the look of horror on his face when he saw another fella shagging me at a party. And it had been his fantasy to see me with someone else. So please don't do it if you aren't sure cos once the deed is done there's no going back. |
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