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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Obviously one of the rebuts will be 'FFM is every man's fantasy': if I message a babe who's declaring herself as bi is putting 'wouldn't mind playing with you and a girlfriend too if you want to' at the end of a message such a bad thing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally, just because i'm bi doesn't make me a performing monkey. I play with who I want when I want, not at other peoples requests.
If I want a ffm I'll join a couple, if I want a single man then that's who I'll join, getting messages from blokes saying 'can I bring a friend along?' I find rather disrespectful to be honest.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Obviously one of the rebuts will be 'FFM is every man's fantasy': if I message a babe who's declaring herself as bi is putting 'wouldn't mind playing with you and a girlfriend too if you want to' at the end of a message such a bad thing? "
I'd say yes. It assumes that a.) she'd be interested in you, and b.) she'd trust your taste and judgement to source someone she'd find attractive and be interested in.
You've got to attract her interest in you before jumping down the road of bringing in someone else. |
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To the OP, kind of embarrassing but you need to update your Swinging acronym glossary.
The term FFM has been re-allocated to 'Fuck Funky Monkey'
Bro you just said every male fantasy is to fuck _unky monkey lols U MAD BRO? lols |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I mean a girl of her choosing not: 'can I bring a friend'. Just thinking it might sound more accommodating to a girl who likes boys and girls. Just as an option. And not sending it as a one liner just as part of longer 'like to get to know you' message. I no way seeing anyone as a 'performing monkey'!! Criticism accepted that's it may sound presumptuous that she's interested in playing in a first message.
And thanks for the help on swinging acronyms. There seem to be new ones all the time. But I don't put it in messages. Just in this that it could be a criticism to my comment if sending it to babes.
Maybe I won't say it any more? Put it in a message to a girl who phoned me last night saying she wanted to meet and guess what: message deleted. Advice sought on how to grovel and take it back plz  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"To the OP, kind of embarrassing but you need to update your Swinging acronym glossary.
The term FFM has been re-allocated to 'Fuck Funky Monkey'
Bro you just said every male fantasy is to fuck _unky monkey lols U MAD BRO? lols"
I WANT FFM!!!!!!!! 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To the OP, kind of embarrassing but you need to update your Swinging acronym glossary.
The term FFM has been re-allocated to 'Fuck Funky Monkey'
Bro you just said every male fantasy is to fuck _unky monkey lols U MAD BRO? lols
I WANT FFM!!!!!!!!
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Fist Fuck Me 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To the OP, kind of embarrassing but you need to update your Swinging acronym glossary.
The term FFM has been re-allocated to 'Fuck Funky Monkey'
Bro you just said every male fantasy is to fuck _unky monkey lols U MAD BRO? lols
I WANT FFM!!!!!!!!
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Funky pal - please note - that was Fox posting!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just cause im bi doesnt mean im gonna fancy every woman who is bi.
So for me it wouldnt get a reply id talk to someone saying thats what you want initailly then see if you get a reply.
If its their thing they will if not hey ho |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I mean a girl of her choosing not: 'can I bring a friend'. Just thinking it might sound more accommodating to a girl who likes boys and girls. Just as an option. And not sending it as a one liner just as part of longer 'like to get to know you' message. I no way seeing anyone as a 'performing monkey'!! Criticism accepted that's it may sound presumptuous that she's interested in playing in a first message.
And thanks for the help on swinging acronyms. There seem to be new ones all the time. But I don't put it in messages. Just in this that it could be a criticism to my comment if sending it to babes.
Maybe I won't say it any more? Put it in a message to a girl who phoned me last night saying she wanted to meet and guess what: message deleted. Advice sought on how to grovel and take it back plz "
Again even if you put it across to the woman in question as they get to pick the other female your basically asking them to work in finding another bi fem for you and in an early message it be all about the person your weighting to not can you bring a mate |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"To the OP, kind of embarrassing but you need to update your Swinging acronym glossary.
The term FFM has been re-allocated to 'Fuck Funky Monkey'
Bro you just said every male fantasy is to fuck _unky monkey lols U MAD BRO? lols
I WANT FFM!!!!!!!!
Funky pal - please note - that was Fox posting! "
Course it was . . . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I mean a girl of her choosing not: 'can I bring a friend'. Just thinking it might sound more accommodating to a girl who likes boys and girls. Just as an option. And not sending it as a one liner just as part of longer 'like to get to know you' message. I no way seeing anyone as a 'performing monkey'!! Criticism accepted that's it may sound presumptuous that she's interested in playing in a first message.
And thanks for the help on swinging acronyms. There seem to be new ones all the time. But I don't put it in messages. Just in this that it could be a criticism to my comment if sending it to babes.
Maybe I won't say it any more? Put it in a message to a girl who phoned me last night saying she wanted to meet and guess what: message deleted. Advice sought on how to grovel and take it back plz "
So hypothetically you would want the girl to bring another one along? I still find that offensive if I wanted to do that I would have a ff profile not a singles one. I see that as you saying i'm not enough for your and the only reason you wanna meet is just so you can get a ffm. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I mean a girl of her choosing not: 'can I bring a friend'. Just thinking it might sound more accommodating to a girl who likes boys and girls. Just as an option. And not sending it as a one liner just as part of longer 'like to get to know you' message. I no way seeing anyone as a 'performing monkey'!! Criticism accepted that's it may sound presumptuous that she's interested in playing in a first message.
And thanks for the help on swinging acronyms. There seem to be new ones all the time. But I don't put it in messages. Just in this that it could be a criticism to my comment if sending it to babes.
Maybe I won't say it any more? Put it in a message to a girl who phoned me last night saying she wanted to meet and guess what: message deleted. Advice sought on how to grovel and take it back plz
So hypothetically you would want the girl to bring another one along? I still find that offensive if I wanted to do that I would have a ff profile not a singles one. I see that as you saying i'm not enough for your and the only reason you wanna meet is just so you can get a ffm. "
Just giving more choice. More of a...'if ever you would like to'. Gonna get slated whatever way. Just want some NSA really, with (a) girl(s) |
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"To the OP, kind of embarrassing but you need to update your Swinging acronym glossary.
The term FFM has been re-allocated to 'Fuck Funky Monkey'
Bro you just said every male fantasy is to fuck _unky monkey lols U MAD BRO? lols
I WANT FFM!!!!!!!!
Funky pal - please note - that was Fox posting! "
Yeah yeah what evs bro, I see the way you look at me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just giving more choice. More of a...'if ever you would like to'. Gonna get slated whatever way. Just want some NSA really, with (a) girl(s) "
You asked a question in your initial post, everyone that had replied had said no it's a bad & somewhat disrespectful thing to include in a 1st message, yet you are still trying to justify doing it.
Why ask the question if you are going to ignore the advice? Were you expecting everyone to say "yes that's a great idea, keep doing it"?
Use the site however you want to, that's your choice, but putting that question in 1st messages is going to pretty much guarantee the message gets deleted & you more then likely get blocked. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just giving more choice. More of a...'if ever you would like to'. Gonna get slated whatever way. Just want some NSA really, with (a) girl(s)
You asked a question in your initial post, everyone that had replied had said no it's a bad & somewhat disrespectful thing to include in a 1st message, yet you are still trying to justify doing it.
Why ask the question if you are going to ignore the advice? Were you expecting everyone to say "yes that's a great idea, keep doing it"?
Use the site however you want to, that's your choice, but putting that question in 1st messages is going to pretty much guarantee the message gets deleted & you more then likely get blocked."
OK, OK. I'm just clarifying that I don't mean it as a 'come and join me and my FB I've had for year' kinda way. Which seemed to be the how it was interpreted. And if that's how it's gonna be read anyway (even though it's the last thing it means)
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Change this around a bit if you want a ffm then probably best to leave any mention of it out of your messages and even your first meet build a connection over a few meets then maybe bring it up. Otherwise clubs or find a ff cpl |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Change this around a bit if you want a ffm then probably best to leave any mention of it out of your messages and even your first meet build a connection over a few meets then maybe bring it up. Otherwise clubs or find a ff cpl "
OK. You make some very helpful points. I'm enjoying 1-on-1 fun so wouldn't focus a profile on 'want FFM'. I've 'met' two or three babes who are into it and/or wanna try it. Things like distance apart and lack of transport have been against us. Maybe it'll happen one day? And pushing it too much may not be the right way to make it happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Have you actually met them or only chatted in here? Be mindful that some female profiles are females but chaps posing as females for what ever reason.
I would say build up a rapport with someone in person over a few meets before broaching the 3sum question. |
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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago
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"Obviously one of the rebuts will be 'FFM is every man's fantasy': if I message a babe who's declaring herself as bi is putting 'wouldn't mind playing with you and a girlfriend too if you want to' at the end of a message such a bad thing?
I'd say yes. It assumes that a.) she'd be interested in you, and b.) she'd trust your taste and judgement to source someone she'd find attractive and be interested in.
You've got to attract her interest in you before jumping down the road of bringing in someone else. "
never a truer word |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Obviously one of the rebuts will be 'FFM is every man's fantasy': if I message a babe who's declaring herself as bi is putting 'wouldn't mind playing with you and a girlfriend too if you want to' at the end of a message such a bad thing?
I'd say yes. It assumes that a.) she'd be interested in you, and b.) she'd trust your taste and judgement to source someone she'd find attractive and be interested in.
You've got to attract her interest in you before jumping down the road of bringing in someone else. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just giving more choice. More of a...'if ever you would like to'. Gonna get slated whatever way. Just want some NSA really, with (a) girl(s)
You asked a question in your initial post, everyone that had replied had said no it's a bad & somewhat disrespectful thing to include in a 1st message, yet you are still trying to justify doing it.
Why ask the question if you are going to ignore the advice? Were you expecting everyone to say "yes that's a great idea, keep doing it"?
Use the site however you want to, that's your choice, but putting that question in 1st messages is going to pretty much guarantee the message gets deleted & you more then likely get blocked.
OK, OK. I'm just clarifying that I don't mean it as a 'come and join me and my FB I've had for year' kinda way. Which seemed to be the how it was interpreted. And if that's how it's gonna be read anyway (even though it's the last thing it means)
Thanks "
If you had a couple profile and said you were looking for a bi girl to join you, it's different to your OP. Your op makes it sound like you're a single guy looking for a bi girl to use so you can hook up with another random bi girl, if that makes sense? It's different. A couple looking isn't as harsh, if that makes sense. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Have you actually met them or only chatted in here? Be mindful that some female profiles are females but chaps posing as females for what ever reason.
I would say build up a rapport with someone in person over a few meets before broaching the 3sum question."
Hmmmmmmm. Had that more on PoF. Picture-less and start asking 'how far would you go with M in MMF?'. Have 'met' a few girls 1-on-1 who are into it. Many issues like: distance/lack of transport and when free get in the way. And please understand I've only ever said it in a 'just a suggestion which might be nice to try if you like girls too' kinda way |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"To the OP, kind of embarrassing but you need to update your Swinging acronym glossary.
The term FFM has been re-allocated to 'Fuck Funky Monkey'
Bro you just said every male fantasy is to fuck _unky monkey lols U MAD BRO? lols
I WANT FFM!!!!!!!!
Funky pal - please note - that was Fox posting!
Yeah yeah what evs bro, I see the way you look at me "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have you actually met them or only chatted in here? Be mindful that some female profiles are females but chaps posing as females for what ever reason.
I would say build up a rapport with someone in person over a few meets before broaching the 3sum question.
Hmmmmmmm. Had that more on PoF. Picture-less and start asking 'how far would you go with M in MMF?'. Have 'met' a few girls 1-on-1 who are into it. Many issues like: distance/lack of transport and when free get in the way. And please understand I've only ever said it in a 'just a suggestion which might be nice to try if you like girls too' kinda way"
Then if you already have a few girls interested in it why are you sending it to everyone you message?
Do the girls know each other? Are they attracted to each other? Or are you just assuming each will play with the other?
Arranging a 3sum with 3 single people is very complicated as you have to ensure they are all equally attracted to each other.
Enjoy your swinging and the site, but this 3sum seems to be a damn site more important to you the just an idea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Obviously one of the rebuts will be 'FFM is every man's fantasy': if I message a babe who's declaring herself as bi is putting 'wouldn't mind playing with you and a girlfriend too if you want to' at the end of a message such a bad thing? "
The better way of doing it is to either set up a couples profile with said girlfriend and message from that or contact FF profiles.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It used to wind me up no end when single guys used to say they a bi girlfriend if I wanted.....If I wanted to meet and play with a couple it would say so on my profile
If you want to meet up with your fb as a couple then make a couples profile with her too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Put it in a message to a girl who phoned me last night saying she wanted to meet and guess what: message deleted. Advice sought on how to grovel and take it back plz "
See there is your answer, and you already had it take backs / second chances. Now that really is a mythical beast |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Obviously one of the rebuts will be 'FFM is every man's fantasy': if I message a babe who's declaring herself as bi is putting 'wouldn't mind playing with you and a girlfriend too if you want to' at the end of a message such a bad thing?
The better way of doing it is to either set up a couples profile with said girlfriend and message from that or contact FF profiles. "
I thought FF couples existing was a myth!!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I fear you're right. And she's why I placed this enquiry. She's soooooooo appealing in every way and is still in my friends list and hasn't blocked me. (probably coz she's too busy messaging other blokes). Doesn't look like I'll be putting it in messages to babes I ain't even met any more, does it?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Have messaged a few. One on PoF (if she was for real?) said she wanted a man to play with too. Possibility of occasional 3sums but she didn't want men who play with / have played with other girls!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have messaged a few. One on PoF (if she was for real?) said she wanted a man to play with too. Possibility of occasional 3sums but she didn't want men who play with / have played with other girls!!"
Hmm a woman who wants a man who doesn't play with other girls... that would either be a virgin or a gay man then? Think I would be a bit suspicious that the woman may not actually be quite as feminine as the profile suggested. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Dodgy (not doggy!) profiles could keep a forum going for ever I fear: and then there's time wasters. But the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow always, always makes enduring and ploughing through them worth it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The wonderful female brain is a complicated and you have to be aware of its traits
Most importantly they seldom want what they can simply just have, they like a challenge they like what they can't have
So a little subtlety and reservation goes a long long way |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"PoF?"
Kicked out and cast out into the wilderness from that place nearly a year ago now. Had fun there once-upon-a-time. I believe many of us find refuge on fab. |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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right, if i get this right you're saying to a girl - that you've not even met yet... fancy bringing a mate for me too?
I'd find that really offensive... and also please stop referring to ladies as babes - its not nice, and I for one block anyone who calls me "babe" before they know me.
Babe is a little pink pig in a kids movie! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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NO!!!!!!!!!! FFS!!!!!! All day I've had this!!!!!! I'm just saying if it's something SHE might like to do sometime I'd be happy to do it with her. Go on hang, draw and quarter me for saying that even!!!!!!  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I do often get messages from men who ask to meet, then a few messages down the line ask if I can being a female friend. I find it hugely annoying as not only do they want me to do their dirty work, but they are assuming I won't be enough for them on my own.
If a man offers to bring a male friend with him I will accept happily, but I would never ask. It's just rude! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have you met these "babes" before suggesting this to them? "
No just that heir profile sez they like girls and boys.
And just like the bloke who put a post about all the fab mums being able to have fun when the schools start back I've been crucified.
Can you tell me how I deal with all the women (not babes not ladies, some I've 'met' some I haven't (yet))) who call me babe or the text speak (text speak arrrrrr!!!!) version bbe? xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I do often get messages from men who ask to meet, then a few messages down the line ask if I can being a female friend. I find it hugely annoying as not only do they want me to do their dirty work, but they are assuming I won't be enough for them on my own.
If a man offers to bring a male friend with him I will accept happily, but I would never ask. It's just rude!"
I have never asked if a woman (not a babe) can bring a friend too. Can people please stop telling me what I have and haven't said!!!! |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I do often get messages from men who ask to meet, then a few messages down the line ask if I can being a female friend. I find it hugely annoying as not only do they want me to do their dirty work, but they are assuming I won't be enough for them on my own.
If a man offers to bring a male friend with him I will accept happily, but I would never ask. It's just rude!
I have never asked if a woman (not a babe) can bring a friend too. Can people please stop telling me what I have and haven't said!!!!"
So how were you planning on achieving this FFM if you haven't asked the woman to bring a friend, and you're not bringing a friend either? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"right, if i get this right you're saying to a girl - that you've not even met yet... fancy bringing a mate for me too?
I'd find that really offensive... and also please stop referring to ladies as babes - its not nice, and I for one block anyone who calls me "babe" before they know me.
Babe is a little pink pig in a kids movie!"
How about 'hun'? |
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I also think any lady who swings is more than capable of suggesting what she wants when she feels is the right time.
If I had got that in a message before we had even met it would have been a block |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I do often get messages from men who ask to meet, then a few messages down the line ask if I can being a female friend. I find it hugely annoying as not only do they want me to do their dirty work, but they are assuming I won't be enough for them on my own.
If a man offers to bring a male friend with him I will accept happily, but I would never ask. It's just rude!
I have never asked if a woman (not a babe) can bring a friend too. Can people please stop telling me what I have and haven't said!!!!
So how were you planning on achieving this FFM if you haven't asked the woman to bring a friend, and you're not bringing a friend either?"
I just added that I wouldn't say no if the woman (not babe or hun) ever wanted to as a kind of gentle footnote . It's really not ever been part of the main gist of any messages I've ever sent, ever. |
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"I do often get messages from men who ask to meet, then a few messages down the line ask if I can being a female friend. I find it hugely annoying as not only do they want me to do their dirty work, but they are assuming I won't be enough for them on my own.
If a man offers to bring a male friend with him I will accept happily, but I would never ask. It's just rude!
I have never asked if a woman (not a babe) can bring a friend too. Can people please stop telling me what I have and haven't said!!!!"
Yes, IF you put that at the end of a message to a single fem I think you would/could get rebuffed! I know despite being bi I would be less than pleased!
Good luck though as its your choice to send those messages |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I think men really do not think things through properly when sending a message!
I've received a similar message, but it was for him and his FB, when I pointed out I was straight, he said sorry, just being greedy, sorry, but no second chance with me! He obviously didn't bother to read my profile, sometimes men need to think with their big heads for a change, not their little one's!! |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I do often get messages from men who ask to meet, then a few messages down the line ask if I can being a female friend. I find it hugely annoying as not only do they want me to do their dirty work, but they are assuming I won't be enough for them on my own.
If a man offers to bring a male friend with him I will accept happily, but I would never ask. It's just rude!
I have never asked if a woman (not a babe) can bring a friend too. Can people please stop telling me what I have and haven't said!!!!
So how were you planning on achieving this FFM if you haven't asked the woman to bring a friend, and you're not bringing a friend either?
I just added that I wouldn't say no if the woman (not babe or hun) ever wanted to as a kind of gentle footnote . It's really not ever been part of the main gist of any messages I've ever sent, ever. "
I can't speak for all woman but I would still read that as 'I'm just putting out there that I will expecting a FFM at some point'.
Basically, message what you want. Some women will probably be fine with it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I do often get messages from men who ask to meet, then a few messages down the line ask if I can being a female friend. I find it hugely annoying as not only do they want me to do their dirty work, but they are assuming I won't be enough for them on my own.
If a man offers to bring a male friend with him I will accept happily, but I would never ask. It's just rude!
I have never asked if a woman (not a babe) can bring a friend too. Can people please stop telling me what I have and haven't said!!!! Yes, IF you put that at the end of a message to a single fem I think you would/could get rebuffed! I know despite being bi I would be less than pleased!
Good luck though as its your choice to send those messages "
Put what? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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The line in my initial post is very much focusing on the needs and wants of the second person. Yet It appears I have had my balls crushed and things have been twisted round so that I'm asking for things I want.
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"The line in my initial post is very much focusing on the needs and wants of the second person. Yet It appears I have had my balls crushed and things have been twisted round so that I'm asking for things I want.
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You asked a question and got responses. I noticed no ball crushing, just honest opinions from women about how they'd feel if they got that message. |
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"The line in my initial post is very much focusing on the needs and wants of the second person. Yet It appears I have had my balls crushed and things have been twisted round so that I'm asking for things I want.
You asked a question and got responses. I noticed no ball crushing, just honest opinions from women about how they'd feel if they got that message."
Gently implying I'm into doing things they might want to do? Not we've got to have had a 3sum by our third or fourth meet.
I've met seveal women who say they get lots of messages from blokes asking them to join him and his FB. I suppose in at least some of them the FB's a work of fiction. I would never approach a woman with any such proposition unless she specifically requested it in her profile. Several bi women do say they what to join a couple.
And please what's the verdict on being called 'hun'? |
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"Personally I would suggest as a rule never mention sex in the first message. Set yourself aside from all the 'want a f**k' messages "
Hmmmmmmmm. Well I mostly put stuff like 'would love to play' and 'wanna make you smile'. Not looking for girls to go rambling with on here though, am I? Unless there's a 'break' halfway |
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"Personally I would suggest as a rule never mention sex in the first message. Set yourself aside from all the 'want a f**k' messages
Hmmmmmmmm. Well I mostly put stuff like 'would love to play' and 'wanna make you smile'. Not looking for girls to go rambling with on here though, am I? Unless there's a 'break' halfway "
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"I do often get messages from men who ask to meet, then a few messages down the line ask if I can being a female friend. I find it hugely annoying as not only do they want me to do their dirty work, but they are assuming I won't be enough for them on my own.
If a man offers to bring a male friend with him I will accept happily, but I would never ask. It's just rude!
I have never asked if a woman (not a babe) can bring a friend too. Can people please stop telling me what I have and haven't said!!!! Yes, IF you put that at the end of a message to a single fem I think you would/could get rebuffed! I know despite being bi I would be less than pleased!
Good luck though as its your choice to send those messages
Put what? "
in your words in your initial post you say wouldn't mind playing with you and a girlfriend too if you want to' at the end of a message! |
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"The line in my initial post is very much focusing on the needs and wants of the second person. Yet It appears I have had my balls crushed and things have been twisted round so that I'm asking for things I want.
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Where sending that in any part of an initial message is focusing on the needs and wants of the intended recipient? It's about what you want, simple as! |
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"The line in my initial post is very much focusing on the needs and wants of the second person. Yet It appears I have had my balls crushed and things have been twisted round so that I'm asking for things I want.
Where sending that in any part of an initial message is focusing on the needs and wants of the intended recipient? It's about what you want, simple as! "
how? when I'm saying 'if you want to?'. It's like if it were a dating site saying 'Wouldn't mind going for a curry' becomes twisted into 'Gonna force feed you vindaloo just like the suffragettes were force fed during the cat and mouse act of 1912. |
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"The line in my initial post is very much focusing on the needs and wants of the second person. Yet It appears I have had my balls crushed and things have been twisted round so that I'm asking for things I want.
Where sending that in any part of an initial message is focusing on the needs and wants of the intended recipient? It's about what you want, simple as!
how? when I'm saying 'if you want to?'. It's like if it were a dating site saying 'Wouldn't mind going for a curry' becomes twisted into 'Gonna force feed you vindaloo just like the suffragettes were force fed during the cat and mouse act of 1912. "
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"The line in my initial post is very much focusing on the needs and wants of the second person. Yet It appears I have had my balls crushed and things have been twisted round so that I'm asking for things I want.
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So when you message a bi woman and make yourself available for a FFM if she has a friends you are simply being chivalrous and making sure she gets what she wants? Wow, what a hero...
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"The line in my initial post is very much focusing on the needs and wants of the second person. Yet It appears I have had my balls crushed and things have been twisted round so that I'm asking for things I want.
So when you message a bi woman and make yourself available for a FFM if she has a friends you are simply being chivalrous and making sure she gets what she wants? Wow, what a hero...
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Sums it up nicely really. The times I've played with toys and done fisting coz it's 100% what the woman's wanted to do should I have said 'hang on' we need an in depth discussion about who really wants to do this before we do anything? |
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And please what's the verdict on being called 'hun'?
It's as patronising as babe."
How do I deal with being called it and bbe (text speak for babe, I think)? |
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And please what's the verdict on being called 'hun'?
It's as patronising as babe.
How do I deal with being called it and bbe (text speak for babe, I think)?"
It's up to you how you deal with it? if you aren't happy, block and delete. |
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"right, if i get this right you're saying to a girl - that you've not even met yet... fancy bringing a mate for me too?
I'd find that really offensive... and also please stop referring to ladies as babes - its not nice, and I for one block anyone who calls me "babe" before they know me.
Babe is a little pink pig in a kids movie!"
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"The line in my initial post is very much focusing on the needs and wants of the second person. Yet It appears I have had my balls crushed and things have been twisted round so that I'm asking for things I want.
So when you message a bi woman and make yourself available for a FFM if she has a friends you are simply being chivalrous and making sure she gets what she wants? Wow, what a hero...
Sums it up nicely really. The times I've played with toys and done fisting coz it's 100% what the woman's wanted to do should I have said 'hang on' we need an in depth discussion about who really wants to do this before we do anything? "
Ok, I was being sarcastic. Your offer is all about you.
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And please what's the verdict on being called 'hun'?
It's as patronising as babe.
How do I deal with being called it and bbe (text speak for babe, I think)?
It's up to you how you deal with it? if you aren't happy, block and delete."
What if I don't mind? Can't see what all the such and such names are patronising, don't call me this don't call me that fuss is all about? |
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"The line in my initial post is very much focusing on the needs and wants of the second person. Yet It appears I have had my balls crushed and things have been twisted round so that I'm asking for things I want.
So when you message a bi woman and make yourself available for a FFM if she has a friends you are simply being chivalrous and making sure she gets what she wants? Wow, what a hero...
Sums it up nicely really. The times I've played with toys and done fisting coz it's 100% what the woman's wanted to do should I have said 'hang on' we need an in depth discussion about who really wants to do this before we do anything?
Ok, I was being sarcastic. Your offer is all about you.
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Might as well just say I'll give you a fiver for some new batteries every time I message then, hadn't I? |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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And please what's the verdict on being called 'hun'?
It's as patronising as babe.
How do I deal with being called it and bbe (text speak for babe, I think)?
It's up to you how you deal with it? if you aren't happy, block and delete.
What if I don't mind? Can't see what all the such and such names are patronising, don't call me this don't call me that fuss is all about? "
It's called respect for others feelings. A particularly helpful trait when you're trying to get into someone's knickers. |
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personally i dont see the problem with asking, considering so many bi fems say they cant find ffm meets......... all they got to say is no thank you!!! we have had single guys asking us would we like him to bring a fem friend if we meet, as long as all involved sees pics and agrees its not an issue in our book. just an opinion...... |
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And please what's the verdict on being called 'hun'?
It's as patronising as babe.
How do I deal with being called it and bbe (text speak for babe, I think)?
It's up to you how you deal with it? if you aren't happy, block and delete.
What if I don't mind? Can't see what all the such and such names are patronising, don't call me this don't call me that fuss is all about? "
If you don't mind, then why ask how to deal with it?
The point is if you use terminology like that youi can;t complain if some (not all) recipients take offence |
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And please what's the verdict on being called 'hun'?
It's as patronising as babe.
How do I deal with being called it and bbe (text speak for babe, I think)?
It's up to you how you deal with it? if you aren't happy, block and delete.
What if I don't mind? Can't see what all the such and such names are patronising, don't call me this don't call me that fuss is all about?
If you don't mind, then why ask how to deal with it?
The point is if you use terminology like that youi can;t complain if some (not all) recipients take offence"
I think the OP won't have too many messages to deal with after this thread! |
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why do some ppl in forums attack a guy when he asks a question....... when females ask anything, everyone is licking at their feet !!!!! and this is the fem messaging this..... give him a break he only asked a question, not for ppl to cut him down in flames for god sake lol |
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And please what's the verdict on being called 'hun'?
It's as patronising as babe.
How do I deal with being called it and bbe (text speak for babe, I think)?
It's up to you how you deal with it? if you aren't happy, block and delete.
What if I don't mind? Can't see what all the such and such names are patronising, don't call me this don't call me that fuss is all about?
If you don't mind, then why ask how to deal with it?
The point is if you use terminology like that youi can;t complain if some (not all) recipients take offence I think the OP won't have too many messages to deal with after this thread! "
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And please what's the verdict on being called 'hun'?
It's as patronising as babe.
How do I deal with being called it and bbe (text speak for babe, I think)?
It's up to you how you deal with it? if you aren't happy, block and delete.
What if I don't mind? Can't see what all the such and such names are patronising, don't call me this don't call me that fuss is all about?
If you don't mind, then why ask how to deal with it?
The point is if you use terminology like that youi can;t complain if some (not all) recipients take offence I think the OP won't have too many messages to deal with after this thread! "
Who's complaining? Just seeing what you frightfully helpful people think i should do about it. Nothing doesn't appear to be an option in your book |
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