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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am thinking of leaving the site. That's all. Oh and yes I do have low self-esteem, which only seems to change when ive had a few drinks. World, oyster etc. Anyway, time for bed - tomorrow is another day lofl |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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bye, waves camply  |
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you shouldbt leave for issues like that u have me to talk to lol z |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't leave hun always here for a chat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont be rash scorps x  |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
essex chelmsford |
dont go just maybe take a break from it 4 a bit see how u feel |
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Take time out fab is not the greatest place to be if you have self esteem issues....take a break and work out the issues you have then come back refreshed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bye may sound harsh but there are lots of this type of post najority just attention seeking. You may be an exception to this but hey ho.
Whatever issues you have truly hope you get them resolved. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you for your advice. I hid profile once, I lasted a day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont you be going nowhere girl lol . I aint had yer yet lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just do whats right for you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Leaving Fab will not sort out your self-esteem issues. Neither is being here.
Do whatever feels right for you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just do whats right for you x"
I want to stay just need to chat more and get out more ok I will,
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If this was a single male the comments would be very different!
Op just do what's right for you!
If you want to leave then leave! Only you can make that decision |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont let the door hit your arse on the way out.
...Well thats what they say on the single male threads at least!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just do whats right for you x"
I want to stay just need to chat more and get out more ok I will,
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Dont let the door hit your arse on the way out.
...Well thats what they say on the single male threads at least! "
it won't miss my arse it's big enough |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just do whats right for you xI want to stay just need to chat more and get out more ok I will,"
good girl x |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"Dont let the door hit your arse on the way out.
...Well thats what they say on the single male threads at least! "
I suspect the OP got a fair few messages of support overnight. |
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"Dont let the door hit your arse on the way out.
...Well thats what they say on the single male threads at least! "
that's harsh proff |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont leave im sure u have made some good friends on here and when you are on im sure u enjoy it most days |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Dont you be going nowhere girl lol . I aint had yer yet lol xx"
ok lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What a difference a vagina makes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dont let the door hit your arse on the way out.
...Well thats what they say on the single male threads at least! that's harsh proff "
It's not really harsh!
Take a look at the threads of single guys who say they are going to leave!!
See the harsh comments on those |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Dont let the door hit your arse on the way out.
...Well thats what they say on the single male threads at least! that's harsh proff "
it might be harsh... but it is very much true...
if it had been a bloke to post this the reply WOULD have been different....
i will say the same thing I say in all "leaving" threads...
"no one is holding a gun to your head making you stay..." |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Bye may sound harsh but there are lots of this type of post najority just attention seeking. You may be an exception to this but hey ho.
Whatever issues you have truly hope you get them resolved."
I'm not attention seeking. It was meant as a statement but thank you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What a difference a vagina makes"
I don't want special treatment because I have a vagina. You all always give good advice or criticism it's why we post here
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Dont let the door hit your arse on the way out.
...Well thats what they say on the single male threads at least!
I suspect the OP got a fair few messages of support overnight."
I've had some thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bye may sound harsh but there are lots of this type of post najority just attention seeking. You may be an exception to this but hey ho.
Whatever issues you have truly hope you get them resolved.I'm not attention seeking. It was meant as a statement but thank you"
No offence but you are or else you wouldn't have posted this thread. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Did you get some hot men mailing ?/
If so
IM LEAVING |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did you get some hot men mailing ?/
If so
IM LEAVING "
No I am first  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will reply to this post just like I would to a man goodbye |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bloody hell . Remind me never to come here when i need a bit of tea and sympathy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did you get some hot men mailing ?/
If so
IM LEAVING
No I am first "
ahhh come on I was clearly first |
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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago
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"I am thinking of leaving the site. That's all. Oh and yes I do have low self-esteem, which only seems to change when ive had a few drinks. World, oyster etc. Anyway, time for bed - tomorrow is another day lofl"
I'm the same Hun xx |
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well as flounces go I've seen better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I will reply to this post just like I would to a man goodbye "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did you get some hot men mailing ?/
If so
IM LEAVING
No I am first
ahhh come on I was clearly first "
Pushes you both out of the way   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What a difference a vagina makes"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bye may sound harsh but there are lots of this type of post najority just attention seeking. You may be an exception to this but hey ho.
Whatever issues you have truly hope you get them resolved.I'm not attention seeking. It was meant as a statement but thank you"
Sorry but you knew your post would attract attention! You have been on here long enough to know how it works!
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My, my, my, what a difference a pussy makes. If it were a single man the responses would be different.
Op, attention seeking will not help your self esteem issues. Faux ego massaging from horny men won't either. You won't go, as you know doubt think it will.
You have a pussy, you'll get the attention you crave so enjoy!  |
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"What a difference a vagina makes"
Oh ain't that the truth! |
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"Did you get some hot men mailing ?/
If so
IM LEAVING "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If this was a single male the comments would be very different!
Op just do what's right for you!
If you want to leave then leave! Only you can make that decision "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bye may sound harsh but there are lots of this type of post najority just attention seeking. You may be an exception to this but hey ho.
Whatever issues you have truly hope you get them resolved.I'm not attention seeking. It was meant as a statement but thank you
Sorry but you knew your post would attract attention! You have been on here long enough to know how it works!
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"well as flounces go I've seen better."
Yep, they at least have the decency to actually leave! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bye then...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm leaving too - but be back after my morning cup of tea |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would suggest that, if you have self-esteem / confidence issues, particularly about aspects of your physical appearance that the very nature of swinging can take a magnifying glass or spotlight to those in your own minds eye.
Many, many people use swinging as a positive force, as a way to overcome these issues and reinforce a sense of positivity and boot their self-esteem. From your initial post, it seems that this not the effect that it’s having – and that what you need to figure out.
Why is swinging having a negative impact on your self-esteem?
Casual sex, as a way to resolve low self-esteem will never work - the short lived high from a casual encounter can be quickly replaced by a crashing low shortly afterward as the emptiness creeps in due to the objectification and all the self-doubt. Or, what you find is that you actually desire is not merely physical, but a mental and emotional connectedness to another human being which manifests itself in a few physical moments and is then gone , leaving you empty and bereft once more.
The worst question you can ask yourself is ‘Why would anyone want to meet me?’ Because once you’ve asked yourself that (and cannot derive a positive answer), any meets you get will be viewed with the suspicion that you’re only there because you were ‘warm and wet and available’. It’s your low self-esteem seeking to drive itself lower by telling you can’t people don’t want to meet you because of who you are, just for what you can offer them in a momentary passing. Sometimes the need to feel desired and wanted is something that we need from someone closer to us that a casual tryst in a hotel bar.
Casual sex / swinging can be a powerful, empowering force in anyone’s life. Or it can be a very destructive one which feeds dysmorphia, low self-esteem, body image issues and abject feelings of disconnectedness and loneliness.
So, with all the positive messages of support you have received, the importance is to understand what need they fed within you and how you can continue to feed that need – and most importantly how you can use your time and efforts in the world of swinging in a far more positive and healthier way.
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There, thats my altruistic post for the day. Normal sarcasm will now resume....Where did I put my 'Stay Team' outfit.... |
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By * n zCouple
over a year ago
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If you have issues may I suggest some counciling maybe? Relate are good, and you don't actually have to go as a couple ............
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What a difference a vagina makes
I don't want special treatment because I have a vagina."
You may not be looking for any special treatment because you have a vagina but it's a fact of fab life that if you have one you WILL be treated differently. You're single and female and have a fanny ...... all three points count but only one of the three is necessary for success on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow cant follow that x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did you get some hot men mailing ?/
If so
IM LEAVING
No I am first
ahhh come on I was clearly first
Pushes you both out of the way "
Oi this is my leaving party you cheeky mare  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From my experience those who genuinely want to leave - they leave without any fuss |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did you get some hot men mailing ?/
If so
IM LEAVING
No I am first
ahhh come on I was clearly first "
Shall we do it together? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
That is all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"From my experience those who genuinely want to leave - they leave without any fuss "
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"From my experience those who genuinely want to leave - they leave without any fuss "
Exactly they just go without announcing it to the world!! These posts are just an ego boost because there'll be no doubts box full of mail begging her not to go! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"From my experience those who genuinely want to leave - they leave without any fuss
Exactly they just go without announcing it to the world!! These posts are just an ego boost because there'll be no doubts box full of mail begging her not to go! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"From my experience those who genuinely want to leave - they leave without any fuss
Exactly they just go without announcing it to the world!! These posts are just an ego boost because there'll be no doubts box full of mail begging her not to go!
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"I would suggest that, if you have self-esteem / confidence issues, particularly about aspects of your physical appearance that the very nature of swinging can take a magnifying glass or spotlight to those in your own minds eye.
Many, many people use swinging as a positive force, as a way to overcome these issues and reinforce a sense of positivity and boot their self-esteem. From your initial post, it seems that this not the effect that it’s having – and that what you need to figure out.
Why is swinging having a negative impact on your self-esteem?
Casual sex, as a way to resolve low self-esteem will never work - the short lived high from a casual encounter can be quickly replaced by a crashing low shortly afterward as the emptiness creeps in due to the objectification and all the self-doubt. Or, what you find is that you actually desire is not merely physical, but a mental and emotional connectedness to another human being which manifests itself in a few physical moments and is then gone , leaving you empty and bereft once more.
The worst question you can ask yourself is ‘Why would anyone want to meet me?’ Because once you’ve asked yourself that (and cannot derive a positive answer), any meets you get will be viewed with the suspicion that you’re only there because you were ‘warm and wet and available’. It’s your low self-esteem seeking to drive itself lower by telling you can’t people don’t want to meet you because of who you are, just for what you can offer them in a momentary passing. Sometimes the need to feel desired and wanted is something that we need from someone closer to us that a casual tryst in a hotel bar.
Casual sex / swinging can be a powerful, empowering force in anyone’s life. Or it can be a very destructive one which feeds dysmorphia, low self-esteem, body image issues and abject feelings of disconnectedness and loneliness.
So, with all the positive messages of support you have received, the importance is to understand what need they fed within you and how you can continue to feed that need – and most importantly how you can use your time and efforts in the world of swinging in a far more positive and healthier way.
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There, thats my altruistic post for the day. Normal sarcasm will now resume....Where did I put my 'Stay Team' outfit...."
Sniff...sniff...Professor, I've become moist after reading your post...well...sniff...said...sniff... |
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"From my experience those who genuinely want to leave - they leave without any fuss "
Indeed! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im due a break soon but for totally different reasons...im just gonna hide my profile and stear clear for a while tho...i know its what will be best for me.
And you need to do whats best for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the internet is addictive, there isn't a need to leave, its not as if its costing money to be here, so just don't log in for a while, drama and making a statement, doesn't serve any purpose, but hey it has done what you wanted it to, and hopefully you feel a bit better now....  |
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"What a difference a vagina makes
I don't want special treatment because I have a vagina.
You may not be looking for any special treatment because you have a vagina but it's a fact of fab life that if you have one you WILL be treated differently. You're single and female and have a fanny ...... all three points count but only one of the three is necessary for success on here. "
The opening poster is not single - she states she is married. Perhaps you should leave and address you personal issues with your husband who may live and want to support his wife. Or if he is the cause of your self esteem issues - concentrate your energies on removing yourself from a damaging relationship. But this site is obviously not helping with your issues and may be making them worse.
I am not paying this from the "morality police"perspective. More that the underlying issues need resolving and this may not be the place to do it.
Good luck |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
"Dont let the door hit your arse on the way out.
...Well thats what they say on the single male threads at least! that's harsh proff "
But very true. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My, my, my, what a difference a pussy makes. If it were a single man the responses would be different.
Op, attention seeking will not help your self esteem issues. Faux ego massaging from horny men won't either. You won't go, as you know doubt think it will.
You have a pussy, you'll get the attention you crave so enjoy! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Makes me laugh how ppl on fab make a song n dance about leaving. Jeez, just go if your going. Nothing but attention seeking. If you have issues sort them out and then leave your baggage at the fab entrance on logging in.... |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
A woman announced she was leaving yesterday. She left. No fuss, no time for ego stroking, just a simple goodbye and her broad reasons.
A woman announced she was leaving yesterday. She's still answering posts about her choice to leave. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did you get some hot men mailing ?/
If so
IM LEAVING
No I am first
ahhh come on I was clearly first
Shall we do it together? "
May I leave too? Oh, and pls may I only get farewell messages from hot guys and yummy couples who can accommodate and are willing to travel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if I ever left I would not wright I would just go .. that's me and everyones different . |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
dirtybigbadsgirlville |
Double standards ....tut tut.
OP, you seem to have a few issues, sometimes these are best sorted away from Fabswingers, swinging in general can jade at times, take a break if you feel shit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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She'll be back (they always do) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well, bye then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you're going go, if you're not going don't go. Or you could post a "I'm feeling shit at the moment and want some attentions" thread.
Oh wait you did.
As another poster has said, you're married, its not as if if you leave you're not going to be on your own.
This thread is a classic in double standards on here. A woman posts she's going and everyone is up in arms, a bloke posts and everyone makes sarcastic comments about the door hitting his arse.
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"If you're going go, if you're not going don't go. Or you could post a "I'm feeling shit at the moment and want some attentions" thread.
Oh wait you did.
As another poster has said, you're married, its not as if if you leave you're not going to be on your own.
This thread is a classic in double standards on here. A woman posts she's going and everyone is up in arms, a bloke posts and everyone makes sarcastic comments about the door hitting his arse.
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Actually, there have been quite a few "don't let the door..." comments. |
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"What a difference a vagina makes"
and no one has even mentioned her hubby, if this was a guy!!!!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did you get some hot men mailing ?/
If so
IM LEAVING
No I am first
ahhh come on I was clearly first
Shall we do it together?
May I leave too? Oh, and pls may I only get farewell messages from hot guys and yummy couples who can accommodate and are willing to travel. "
Ok a threesome sounds great |
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I don't think she is going anywhere.....or we would of heard the door slam... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She'll be back (they always do) "
She hasn't gone anywhere!!! |
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"Dont let the door hit your arse on the way out.
...Well thats what they say on the single male threads at least! that's harsh proff
But very true. "
Ditto. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She'll be back (they always do)
She hasn't gone anywhere!!! "
This has made me laugh! |
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"Everyone Im leaving...... "
So about that shag.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Boo fucking hoo!.....what's for tea?
Oh and its spelt...'Attention Seeking', for next time you cry wolf......
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am thinking of leaving the site. That's all. Oh and yes I do have low self-esteem, which only seems to change when ive had a few drinks. World, oyster etc. Anyway, time for bed - tomorrow is another day lofl"
Reading your first post its saying your unhappy with low self-esteem maybe look at that and ask yourself why ? and whats making you feel that way ... and maybe work on changing things so you can be happy and not needing a few drinks to change things xx
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She's gonna look a bit stupid if she doesn't go now and I don't think this is the first time she's threatened it either!! |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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This thread is a classic in double standards on here. A woman posts she's going and everyone is up in arms, a bloke posts and everyone makes sarcastic comments about the door hitting his arse.
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I think it has easily been balanced out now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lady comes on here saying she is leaving cause she has low esteem and probably needing a ego boost . Well reading some of the posts on here . Dont think she got one . We might all need some kind of help one day but remind me not to ask on here for it lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lady comes on here saying she is leaving cause she has low esteem and probably needing a ego boost . Well reading some of the posts on here . Dont think she got one . We might all need some kind of help one day but remind me not to ask on here for it lol "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lady comes on here saying she is leaving cause she has low esteem and probably needing a ego boost . Well reading some of the posts on here . Dont think she got one . We might all need some kind of help one day but remind me not to ask on here for it lol "
Have you got in to her knickers yet?... |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"A lady comes on here saying she is leaving cause she has low esteem and probably needing a ego boost . Well reading some of the posts on here . Dont think she got one . We might all need some kind of help one day but remind me not to ask on here for it lol "
If you look through the threads, the OP posted something about her pictures not long ago, she got lots of positive feedback. Can't remember the name of the thread so can't post the link. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
Forum Mod O o O oo |
Maybe time to shut this now
A request from others, the joke has been done now so please don't start leaving threads to take the piss. |
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