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Why is it you always realise to late
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why is life so darn cruel and you always realise what someone means to you and then they turn around and say its to late :/
After being with my ex 16 years and split and living apart I told her how I felt and she said she no longer loves me yet back in feb she told me the doors always open and she loves me yet now she dosent why oh why  grrrrr |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why is life so darn cruel and you always realise what someone means to you and then they turn around and say its to late :/
After being with my ex 16 years and split and living apart I told her how I felt and she said she no longer loves me yet back in feb she told me the doors always open and she loves me yet now she dosent why oh why grrrrr"
You, me and a high percentage of others I would guess ... hindsight is wonderful but you do what you do at the time and nothing can change it now. Unfortunatly have to learn and move on |
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Friend of mines bf moved out of the home she shared with him and their 2 year old son 4 months ago. She was really really upset, crying all the time and properly gutted for about 2 months begging him to come home. Then she went thru a few weeks of thinking he was a total tosser and then last week he decides he'd been a twat and sent her a huge bouquet of roses and a letter apologising and asking to come home and try again.
Bad timing... Two days before she went on a date with a lovely lad and they have been seeing each other ever since.
Sometimes you just miss your window op. maybe she got fed up of waiting and decides to move on. |
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Thank you all I know it's hard and I know I've propper fucked up but I've told her no matter what happens or what goes on I will always love her always be here for her as a friend or if she realises that maybe she's made a mistake then maybe more that will never change and if she needs me or needs anything I will be there no matter what x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why is life so darn cruel and you always realise what someone means to you and then they turn around and say its to late :/
After being with my ex 16 years and split and living apart I told her how I felt and she said she no longer loves me yet back in feb she told me the doors always open and she loves me yet now she dosent why oh why grrrrr"
Unless she is playing games either in feb or now. Move on life is too short. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot can happen in a month, never mind six !
You obviously left it to late with letting your feelings known. Or maybe you had your options open incase you thought something better would come along... Either way, your loss!!
Tough love, harsh but they never said love was easy!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A lot can happen in a month, never mind six !
You obviously left it to late with letting your feelings known. Or maybe you had your options open incase you thought something better would come along... Either way, your loss!!
Tough love, harsh but they never said love was easy!!!"
Yup totally my loss but I hope she's happy whatever happens and she will always be my best friend  xx and I have to be thankful for that xx |
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Generally speaking we make decisions based on the information available at the time and what we think at that point is the best decision, but we all know things change.....and there you go.
Philosophy books don't sell well. Reason? It's a Nietzche market.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Iove hurts sadly, just remain friends and be there for her, no-one knows what tomorrow holds, if its meant to happen it will.....but don't put your life on hold waiting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sadly a lot of guys don't know what they've got or had until it's not there anymore. They only realise when it's to late and the lady in question has moved on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sadly a lot of guys don't know what they've got or had until it's not there anymore. They only realise when it's to late and the lady in question has moved on."
That one works both ways in my past experiences.
OP just don't go putting your life on hold waiting around for something that may never happen. I've been there and done that and whilst I understand where you heart lies do your best to get back out there having fun  |
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"Sadly a lot of guys don't know what they've got or had until it's not there anymore. They only realise when it's to late and the lady in question has moved on."
Sometimes it's seeing the person(man or woman) move on that sparks the interest up again...NOT saying that's the case here.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Reminds me of that Beautiful South song 'A Little Time'
I'm guessing while you were busy having fun and trying to make your mind up she probably had some fun too and DID make her mind up. If you chose not to deal with an issue then you give up your right to control over it but the issue will still be dealt with.
Learn from it and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Because she loved you, she has been compromising for years, and by doing that has given you permission not to put lots of effort in,
Something has clicked, a light has been turned on, and she realises he wants more, any relationship or indeed friendship, should enrich our life, if it doesn't move on, just talking from my experience, of course I may be completely wrong, good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Friend of mines bf moved out of the home she shared with him and their 2 year old son 4 months ago. She was really really upset, crying all the time and properly gutted for about 2 months begging him to come home. Then she went thru a few weeks of thinking he was a total tosser and then last week he decides he'd been a twat and sent her a huge bouquet of roses and a letter apologising and asking to come home and try again.
Bad timing... Two days before she went on a date with a lovely lad and they have been seeing each other ever since.
Sometimes you just miss your window op. maybe she got fed up of waiting and decides to move on. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Well whatever happens I will still be there for her to talk to and still care no matter what and I truly hope if she has a new man he looks after her with all his night as she's one special lady to me and always will be and I do wish her luck love and happyness x |
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"Why is life so darn cruel and you always realise what someone means to you and then they turn around and say its to late :/
After being with my ex 16 years and split and living apart I told her how I felt and she said she no longer loves me yet back in feb she told me the doors always open and she loves me yet now she dosent why oh why grrrrr"
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That will be because when she said that she probably couldn't imagine life without you. Now she's had to adjust to being alone and maybe dating others he outlook has probably changed. You may have been too busy having fun to notice that and thinking she'd always be there to fall back on because she would wait for you. People are forced to change because of events in their lives and you have to look forward not back. She probably done her grieving for you months ago and now I would think by the sounds its your turn x
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