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over a year ago
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What would you do if you found out that a man you have met on here is sending out videos of you, during your meet, to other ladies to try and get a ffm? without asking first!! |
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Kick him.....to the kerb or in the nuts, your choice.
Seriously though there isn't much you can do if he has The video. You can hope his sense if decency will make him stop when you tell him you don't like it. |
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over a year ago
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"Kick him.....to the kerb or in the nuts, your choice.
Seriously though there isn't much you can do if he has The video. You can hope his sense if decency will make him stop when you tell him you don't like it. "
I really hope so, thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Let him arrange the ffm meet but you get in contact with the other f & when you meet give him some strap on fun.
Being serious thats not on at all.just block & move on |
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over a year ago
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Stop the meet have a go and make him delete video then report and block but thankfully anyone I've met so far wouldn't dream of doing anything like that and only get filmed or have photos on my phone never thiers |
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over a year ago
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Serious invasive of your privacy.
The video was between yourselves and should stay that way unless both parties agree to it being used 
I'd report and block and have nothing to do with him again .....
Unfortunately this is the peril of the digital age  |
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"What would you do if you found out that a man you have met on here is sending out videos of you, during your meet, to other ladies to try and get a ffm? without asking first!!"
Emasculate him, then stir fry 'it' with onions and parsley accompanied by a nice chianti!  |
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over a year ago
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"Stop the meet have a go and make him delete video then report and block but thankfully anyone I've met so far wouldn't dream of doing anything like that and only get filmed or have photos on my phone never thiers "
thanks for that. he has been blocked, but have to hope he has deleted. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What would you do if you found out that a man you have met on here is sending out videos of you, during your meet, to other ladies to try and get a ffm? without asking first!!
Emasculate him, then stir fry 'it' with onions and parsley accompanied by a nice chianti! "
lol, thanks. x |
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over a year ago
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"Serious invasive of your privacy.
The video was between yourselves and should stay that way unless both parties agree to it being used
I'd report and block and have nothing to do with him again .....
Unfortunately this is the peril of the digital age "
Yes indeed. I have definitely learned from this experience |
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Be very flattered, the only thing worse than being talked about, is not being talked about, I am sure it will be on x tube soon enough xxx
on a sensible note, if you allow pics, filming etc you are setting yourself up, to be exposed, so really if you want to keep things pvt, don't do it!  |
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"Serious invasive of your privacy.
The video was between yourselves and should stay that way unless both parties agree to it being used
I'd report and block and have nothing to do with him again .....
Unfortunately this is the peril of the digital age "
Good advice ...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Report him for what? The site admins cannot control what happens between two individuals in their own homes, only what happens on here, on this site.
You cant send videos on here, all you can do it send a link if its been published on one of those adult video sites.
OP can appeal to his good character (if he has one) or moral ethical code (though thats not likely given what he's doing), apply the 'clue stick' until he 'gets one', take private legal action or get the po-po involved.
Mind you, as with all things, there are two sides to every story and in the middle site the truth. |
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"Be very flattered, the only thing worse than being talked about, is not being talked about, I am sure it will be on x tube soon enough xxx
on a sensible note, if you allow pics, filming etc you are setting yourself up, to be exposed, so really if you want to keep things pvt, don't do it! "
Advice taken. worried about X tube tho! |
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"What would you do if you found out that a man you have met on here is sending out videos of you, during your meet, to other ladies to try and get a ffm? without asking first!!
Emasculate him, then stir fry 'it' with onions and parsley accompanied by a nice chianti!
lol, thanks. x"
Just trying to put a smile on your face. I am sorry this happened to you, we all learn from our mistakes and I hope this will be the end of it for you. Xx |
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over a year ago
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What is wrong with some of the men on this site? Your clearly a beautiful woman and to agree to be filmed etc shows you put a lot of trust in this particular guy, which he has abused. Bin him, I would say, and learn from your mistakes. Good Luck and huge hugs x |
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"Report him for what? The site admins cannot control what happens between two individuals in their own homes, only what happens on here, on this site.
You cant send videos on here, all you can do it send a link if its been published on one of those adult video sites.
OP can appeal to his good character (if he has one) or moral ethical code (though thats not likely given what he's doing), apply the 'clue stick' until he 'gets one', take private legal action or get the po-po involved.
Mind you, as with all things, there are two sides to every story and in the middle site the truth. "
Your right, there are 2 sides to every story, but in this case he is the only one who has shared anything taken between us. he also used to send me pics and vids of his other meets. he is blocked now. just wanted to know if i should do anything else. thnks |
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"What is wrong with some of the men on this site? Your clearly a beautiful woman and to agree to be filmed etc shows you put a lot of trust in this particular guy, which he has abused. Bin him, I would say, and learn from your mistakes. Good Luck and huge hugs x"
Thank you, well and truly learned from this. xx |
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over a year ago
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" he also used to send me pics and vids of his other meets.
That in itself should have warned you of potential problems don't you think?   "
yes it should have. feel a bit gutted!! |
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over a year ago
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I would in no uncertain terms be telling him where he could shove it and demand he deletes it.
Sounds like a complete tosser with no morals or respect for your feelings! |
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over a year ago
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" he also used to send me pics and vids of his other meets.
That in itself should have warned you of potential problems don't you think? "
Blimey I would definitely not have let him take anything of me 
Untrustworthy bastard! |
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over a year ago
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" he also used to send me pics and vids of his other meets.
That in itself should have warned you of potential problems don't you think?
yes it should have. feel a bit gutted!!"
feelings have a very little part in the swinging lifestyle, if you cant separate sex from feelings maybe a re think is in order. |
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Makes me sad and angry the way some of the men go on here on fab. The whole genuine guy thing? Not slagging the entire male population of fab as i know there are some good eggs but bloody hell guys, you have to see that there are some intelligent, sexy, open minded, chilled out women here, dont disrespect us or abuse our trust. Just because us fab women are very chilled does not mean we dont have feelings, it hurts when you guys take the piss, would you treat a girlfriend or date in the same way i wonder. Huge respect to the girls here on fab and a big ggrrrr to the idiots that cant see what they have until its too late. |
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over a year ago
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" he also used to send me pics and vids of his other meets.
That in itself should have warned you of potential problems don't you think?
yes it should have. feel a bit gutted!!
feelings have a very little part in the swinging lifestyle, if you cant separate sex from feelings maybe a re think is in order. "
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over a year ago
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" he also used to send me pics and vids of his other meets.
That in itself should have warned you of potential problems don't you think?
yes it should have. feel a bit gutted!!
feelings have a very little part in the swinging lifestyle, if you cant separate sex from feelings maybe a re think is in order. "
Id say feelings are very important - particularly the 'gut feeling' - probably the most important and valuable feeling one can have in this game.
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over a year ago
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"Makes me sad and angry the way some of the men go on here on fab. The whole genuine guy thing? Not slagging the entire male population of fab as i know there are some good eggs but bloody hell guys, you have to see that there are some intelligent, sexy, open minded, chilled out women here, dont disrespect us or abuse our trust. Just because us fab women are very chilled does not mean we dont have feelings, it hurts when you guys take the piss, would you treat a girlfriend or date in the same way i wonder. Huge respect to the girls here on fab and a big ggrrrr to the idiots that cant see what they have until its too late."
It is a shame, coz there are loads of genuine males on here, and someone like this gives the genuine ones a bad name. I will be very cautious from now on. xx |
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over a year ago
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Typical of many guys in proper relationships too. Hopefully karma will come and bite him in on the testicles.
Till then, vive le fab women!!
"Makes me sad and angry the way some of the men go on here on fab. The whole genuine guy thing? Not slagging the entire male population of fab as i know there are some good eggs but bloody hell guys, you have to see that there are some intelligent, sexy, open minded, chilled out women here, dont disrespect us or abuse our trust. Just because us fab women are very chilled does not mean we dont have feelings, it hurts when you guys take the piss, would you treat a girlfriend or date in the same way i wonder. Huge respect to the girls here on fab and a big ggrrrr to the idiots that cant see what they have until its too late."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Arrange another meet and tie him up ... Humiliate him on film !!!! Take his phone and destroy all vids ! Then leave him there for the staff to find !!!!! 
Good idea
Shades of "the girl with the dragon tattoo"
Not read it but have heard its good ... Must get it  "
Think I may need a look too. xx |
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"Makes me sad and angry the way some of the men go on here on fab. The whole genuine guy thing? Not slagging the entire male population of fab as i know there are some good eggs but bloody hell guys, you have to see that there are some intelligent, sexy, open minded, chilled out women here, dont disrespect us or abuse our trust. Just because us fab women are very chilled does not mean we dont have feelings, it hurts when you guys take the piss, would you treat a girlfriend or date in the same way i wonder. Huge respect to the girls here on fab and a big ggrrrr to the idiots that cant see what they have until its too late."
Makes me sad and angry the way some of the women go on here on fab. The whole genuine single female thing? Not slagging the entire female population of fab as i know there are some good eggs but bloody hell ladies, you have to see that there are some intelligent, sexy, open minded, chilled out guys here, dont disrespect us or abuse our trust. Just because us fab guys are very chilled does not mean we dont have feelings, it hurts when you ladies take the piss, would you treat a boyfriend or date in the same way i wonder. Huge respect to the real gentlemen here on fab and a big ggrrrr to the idiots that cant see what they have until its too late.
...bringing balance to the force...  |
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" he also used to send me pics and vids of his other meets.
That in itself should have warned you of potential problems don't you think?
yes it should have. feel a bit gutted!!
feelings have a very little part in the swinging lifestyle, if you cant separate sex from feelings maybe a re think is in order.
Id say feelings are very important - particularly the 'gut feeling' - probably the most important and valuable feeling one can have in this game.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When you agreed for him to film you, did you not consider what he might do with it?
Reality is that there is nothing you can do other than hope he has the decency to stop circulating it.Though if it is hosted on line it's probably too late for that. |
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over a year ago
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"Its out of order and tell him ..... to delete and f---- off . No matter how much I liked .... "
I have asked him to delete, he is now blocked. But still have reservations as to weather he will delete. suppose I have to just forget, and learn. xxx |
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"When you agreed for him to film you, did you not consider what he might do with it?
Reality is that there is nothing you can do other than hope he has the decency to stop circulating it.Though if it is hosted on line it's probably too late for that."
To be honest I knew he took pics, but didnt realise he had taken video until i got a message from a single fem saying she liked the vid and wanted to meet.
Lesson learned. |
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"Its out of order and tell him ..... to delete and f---- off . No matter how much I liked ....
I have asked him to delete, he is now blocked. But still have reservations as to weather he will delete. suppose I have to just forget, and learn. xxx"
If he is hosting it online on his own website contact his webhost.
If you wanna know how to do it PM me.
I can't blurt stuff like that out in the thread.
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"Its out of order and tell him ..... to delete and f---- off . No matter how much I liked ....
I have asked him to delete, he is now blocked. But still have reservations as to weather he will delete. suppose I have to just forget, and learn. xxx"
I would say the chances are highly unlikely seeing as he has shown he is completely untrustworthy. |
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" Huge respect to the girls here on fab and a big ggrrrr to the idiots that cant see what they have until its too late.
It isn't just on here!
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Maybe i am wrong but trying to see things from a mans point of view, im thinking that to meet a woman on a site like this who may enjoy nsa fun, for her to maybe fulfill his fantasies and to just have a no pressure thing going on, why would a guy not respect that? to make matters worse, totally disrespect that trust by showing private film and pics, heres one for the male readers...why guys? just why? Do you think because us fab girls enjoy sex we deserve to be treated that way?
Huge hugs to all fab femmes, be careful girls x |
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feelings have a very little part in the swinging lifestyle, if you cant separate sex from feelings maybe a re think is in order. "
Not unless you're dead from the waste dow! Feelings are what separates us from inanimate objects so they are very important indeed |
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" he also used to send me pics and vids of his other meets.
That in itself should have warned you of potential problems don't you think?
yes it should have. feel a bit gutted!!"
Seriously? Sorry but what did you expect? |
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" Huge respect to the girls here on fab and a big ggrrrr to the idiots that cant see what they have until its too late.
It isn't just on here!
Maybe i am wrong but trying to see things from a mans point of view, im thinking that to meet a woman on a site like this who may enjoy nsa fun, for her to maybe fulfill his fantasies and to just have a no pressure thing going on, why would a guy not respect that? to make matters worse, totally disrespect that trust by showing private film and pics, heres one for the male readers...why guys? just why? Do you think because us fab girls enjoy sex we deserve to be treated that way?
Huge hugs to all fab femmes, be careful girls x"
I believe it goes across the whole spectre, where you met a person is irrelevant. If a guy is like that he will be and will not take responsibility for his actions and couldn't give a stuff of the consequences! |
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feelings have a very little part in the swinging lifestyle, if you cant separate sex from feelings maybe a re think is in order.
Not unless you're dead from the waste dow! Feelings are what separates us from inanimate objects so they are very important indeed "
Bambi. Sex without feeling? That is a new one lol. Worried now im a wierdo, I cant have sex without feeling  |
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" he also used to send me pics and vids of his other meets.
So you knew what he was like. Seems like you brought it on yourself I think.
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Thats just it, I didnt know until recently. But I accept your comment. I know what to be careful of in future |
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" he also used to send me pics and vids of his other meets.
So you knew what he was like. Seems like you brought it on yourself I think.
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As far as he is concerned... It's tried and tested... Lessons learnt hopefully. |
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" he also used to send me pics and vids of his other meets.
So you knew what he was like. Seems like you brought it on yourself I think.
As far as he is concerned... It's tried and tested... Lessons learnt hopefully. "
Most definately learned |
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I hav'nt read all of the thread so apologise if this has been said already
Never leave someone with pics or videos of yourself that you would'nt be happy to have shown all over the place
Hes a cockhead for doing that and you're naive for letting him have a video of you |
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feelings have a very little part in the swinging lifestyle, if you cant separate sex from feelings maybe a re think is in order.
Not unless you're dead from the waste dow! Feelings are what separates us from inanimate objects so they are very important indeed
Bambi. Sex without feeling? That is a new one lol. Worried now im a wierdo, I cant have sex without feeling "
You misunderstood ms sugar!! I like yourself have feelings before, during and after sex |
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" he also used to send me pics and vids of his other meets.
That in itself should have warned you of potential problems don't you think?
Blimey I would definitely not have let him take anything of me
Untrustworthy bastard!"
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"Be very flattered, the only thing worse than being talked about, is not being talked about, I am sure it will be on x tube soon enough xxx
on a sensible note, if you allow pics, filming etc you are setting yourself up, to be exposed, so really if you want to keep things pvt, don't do it!
MAdvice taken. worried about X tube
tho!"
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site, I expect the chances of you
bumping into someone who recognizes
you from it where you are would be pretty low anyway. |
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"Be very flattered, the only thing worse than being talked about, is not being talked about, I am sure it will be on x tube soon enough xxx
on a sensible note, if you allow pics, filming etc you are setting yourself up, to be exposed, so really if you want to keep things pvt, don't do it!
MAdvice taken. worried about X tube
tho!
Even if he uploads the vid to a free porn
site, I expect the chances of you
bumping into someone who recognizes
you from it where you are would be pretty low anyway. "
Thanks, feel better after reading that. |
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Take deep breath, today's a new day, adventures are to be had. What's done is done, it was just a slight lapse in judgement, he's a bit of a twat...you're gonna be okay.. Onwards and upwards x |
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Just a quick thanks to everyone who has posted.
I have definitely learned from this experience and I appreciate all comments made. xxx
Hopefully it will make others think about the silly mistake I made.
Thanks. xx |
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"Take deep breath, today's a new day, adventures are to be had. What's done is done, it was just a slight lapse in judgement, he's a bit of a twat...you're gonna be okay.. Onwards and upwards x"
Thank you. x |
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To be honest I knew he took pics, but didnt realise he had taken video until i got a message from a single fem saying she liked the vid and wanted to meet.
Lesson learned."
Now this statement propels it in a slightly different direction. If the video was shot without your consent then that is a more serious matter and you could take amore legal approach to it. |
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To be honest I knew he took pics, but didnt realise he had taken video until i got a message from a single fem saying she liked the vid and wanted to meet.
Lesson learned.
Now this statement propels it in a slightly different direction. If the video was shot without your consent then that is a more serious matter and you could take amore legal approach to it. "
I would rather it was resolved amicably, but may consider that if not. thanks |
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"What would you do if you found out that a man you have met on here is sending out videos of you, during your meet, to other ladies to try and get a ffm? without asking first!!"
. Eeeks!!! Castration with a couple of salt coated house bricks ..... I would deff be spitting feathers! |
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To be honest I knew he took pics, but didnt realise he had taken video until i got a message from a single fem saying she liked the vid and wanted to meet.
Lesson learned.
Now this statement propels it in a slightly different direction. If the video was shot without your consent then that is a more serious matter and you could take amore legal approach to it.
I would rather it was resolved amicably, but may consider that if not. thanks"
The threat of taking legal action may be enough to prevent him sending more copies out.
As others have said if he has uploaded the file it would be very difficult to control it.
A solicitors letter might do the trick and as you were filmed in a (I assume) private place without your consent the police may take it seriously, a solicitor may be more discreet though.
As to the people who say report, if they mean to fabswingers admin, what exactly do you think they can do about it? They control the website and nothing else, if it doesn't happen in black and white on here then they have no control over anything that happens on a meet.
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