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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does the number of verifications put people off? Too many or not enough."
I've often wondered this. Obviously you want enough to prove that you're genuine, reliable and show your character in the best light, but not so many as to intimidate people. |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"Yes, depends what I am looking for, more than one a month, I would move on.
Seriously?  "
Really? Is that social or play meets? My last 20 odd veris were from 2 socials, however I was shagging like the Duracell bunny during that time with my FWB and a coupla other guys I know who don't verify me cos we've played lots |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yes! some have several everyday! so definitely puts me off!
You do realise that they could have been from a social where they just met a lot of people, you know, socially."
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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"Does the number of verifications put people off? Too many or not enough.
I've often wondered this. Obviously you want enough to prove that you're genuine, reliable and show your character in the best light, but not so many as to intimidate people."
Honestly, I've never been intimidated by amount of veris...impressed, but never intimidated  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No not really. I just skim over them and make sure the words 'physcho' 'knife' and 'medical emergency, don't pop up anywhere
Bugger...so I guess you don't fancy a fuck?  "
Aahhhhh best not eh? Don't want an involuntary castration |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yes! some have several everyday! so definitely puts me off!
You do realise that they could have been from a social where they just met a lot of people, you know, socially."
Yes i'm not stupid!
not allowed to name names on here but have been messaged by at least 2 that meet for play, am and then pm with 2 or 3 guys a day! |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"No not really. I just skim over them and make sure the words 'physcho' 'knife' and 'medical emergency, don't pop up anywhere
Bugger...so I guess you don't fancy a fuck?
Aahhhhh best not eh? Don't want an involuntary castration "
I've just hidden those veris so you'll be fine...honest |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"yes! some have several everyday! so definitely puts me off!
You do realise that they could have been from a social where they just met a lot of people, you know, socially.
Yes i'm not stupid!
not allowed to name names on here but have been messaged by at least 2 that meet for play, am and then pm with 2 or 3 guys a day!"
Jammy cunts  |
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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago
South London |
"yes! some have several everyday! so definitely puts me off!
You do realise that they could have been from a social where they just met a lot of people, you know, socially.
Yes i'm not stupid!
not allowed to name names on here but have been messaged by at least 2 that meet for play, am and then pm with 2 or 3 guys a day!"
Erm, I wasn't implying you were stupid. With some veris it isn't obvious if it was a play or social meet.
And so what if some people want to have a very naughty day every now and then?
I did three in one week once, I must be a dirty slut.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yes! some have several everyday! so definitely puts me off!
You do realise that they could have been from a social where they just met a lot of people, you know, socially.
Yes i'm not stupid!
not allowed to name names on here but have been messaged by at least 2 that meet for play, am and then pm with 2 or 3 guys a day!
Jammy cunts "
right best be off before I get into mischief |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yes! some have several everyday! so definitely puts me off!
You do realise that they could have been from a social where they just met a lot of people, you know, socially.
Yes i'm not stupid!
not allowed to name names on here but have been messaged by at least 2 that meet for play, am and then pm with 2 or 3 guys a day!
Jammy cunts "
Where do they get the time and energy, unless the meets are five minute wonders? |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"yes! some have several everyday! so definitely puts me off!
You do realise that they could have been from a social where they just met a lot of people, you know, socially.
Yes i'm not stupid!
not allowed to name names on here but have been messaged by at least 2 that meet for play, am and then pm with 2 or 3 guys a day!
Jammy cunts
Where do they get the time and energy, unless the meets are five minute wonders?"
I'd guess its more a greedy girl/gangbang thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yes! some have several everyday! so definitely puts me off!
You do realise that they could have been from a social where they just met a lot of people, you know, socially.
Yes i'm not stupid!
not allowed to name names on here but have been messaged by at least 2 that meet for play, am and then pm with 2 or 3 guys a day!
Erm, I wasn't implying you were stupid. With some veris it isn't obvious if it was a play or social meet.
And so what if some people want to have a very naughty day every now and then?
I did three in one week once, I must be a dirty slut. "
so if I messaged you, saying I would like to meet for bareback fun only and my veri's showed I had met 30 women in the last week for sex, you wouldn't be put off? |
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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago
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"Sort of by maybe 50 + ...... But a bit more off putting - Ive noticed the same woman again and again verifying the same blokes I am looking at x"
Is it as simple as that woman living in your same area and just being attracted to the same type of guy? You do get that a lot on here. |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"How can you judge though, lots don't show veris, some show some, some maybe socials, also some people have been on here 4-5 years....*coughs*"
Then there's just the total slippers such as myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It looks like I have a lot of verifications for a profile that has only been on here for 4 months.
But a lot are from people that knew me on my previous profile over the course of 2 years, others are from party nights where I have been verified by a few people from the same event.
It does not mean I have played with them all within the last 4 months. |
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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago
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"yes! some have several everyday! so definitely puts me off!
You do realise that they could have been from a social where they just met a lot of people, you know, socially.
Yes i'm not stupid!
not allowed to name names on here but have been messaged by at least 2 that meet for play, am and then pm with 2 or 3 guys a day!
Erm, I wasn't implying you were stupid. With some veris it isn't obvious if it was a play or social meet.
And so what if some people want to have a very naughty day every now and then?
I did three in one week once, I must be a dirty slut.
so if I messaged you, saying I would like to meet for bareback fun only and my veri's showed I had met 30 women in the last week for sex, you wouldn't be put off?"
The thing that would put me off is the bareback only. Although I would wonder where on earth you found the time and energy to do 30 women in one week |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yes! some have several everyday! so definitely puts me off!
You do realise that they could have been from a social where they just met a lot of people, you know, socially.
Yes i'm not stupid!
not allowed to name names on here but have been messaged by at least 2 that meet for play, am and then pm with 2 or 3 guys a day!
Erm, I wasn't implying you were stupid. With some veris it isn't obvious if it was a play or social meet.
And so what if some people want to have a very naughty day every now and then?
I did three in one week once, I must be a dirty slut.
so if I messaged you, saying I would like to meet for bareback fun only and my veri's showed I had met 30 women in the last week for sex, you wouldn't be put off?
The thing that would put me off is the bareback only. Although I would wonder where on earth you found the time and energy to do 30 women in one week "
Trust me, there are at least 2 women on here that are playing as above, suffice to say I was put off by the veri's! hence my original post to the OP's question!
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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"How can you judge though, lots don't show veris, some show some, some maybe socials, also some people have been on here 4-5 years....*coughs*
Then there's just the total slippers such as myself "
Slippers=slappers...I'm channelling Evie tonight - damn autocarrot |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have well over a million, but prefer not to display them all for fear of being labelled a tart   "
Tart.
I only have 987. I don't show them for fear of being labelled a newbie. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sort of by maybe 50 + ...... But a bit more off putting - Ive noticed the same woman again and again verifying the same blokes I am looking at x"
I find the 'territory marking' hilarious. I wish the owners of fab would publish a book with extracts from these type of veris. Some of them are really funny.
Amount of veris doesnt interest me. We attend clubs and parties so we have met quite a few people during our 3 years of swinging.
I dont mind who is put off by my veris. Im not going to change what I do or what I display.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Anyone can fake it by not posting verifs! Seriously! As long as we play safe does it matter? Its a swingers site! We all love sex! Guys who judge, and I've had a couple, should just fuck off! I play safe and love sex...... And? If I was a guy I'd be patted on the back and high fived! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just find it amazing that people are on a swinger site to get sex, but then judge others on how much sex they have had.  "
Couldn't of said it better myself. I get a lot of attention. Should I tell men oh no sorry can't meet I've met someone this year. :/ lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just find it amazing that people are on a swinger site to get sex, but then judge others on how much sex they have had. "
Oh and for the record. I would be happy to verify you over and over again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Somehow managed to survive without those put off by my veris, in fact bit of a blessing really, they would only further clog up the inbox."
All your veri's make you sound very genuine and very much the spirit of this site. |
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I really don't care how many veri's someone has... As has been said already.. Who's to say that person with one veri displayed each month doesn't have another 200 they aren't showing.
Two things that do put me off are the territory marking veri's, where they are constantly repeated fron the same person.
The other is the actual content of some.. eg "he dumped his huge load in me" etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I honestly dont understand why it bothers anyone. This is the swinging scene for goodness sake!
Is it not a given that we like sex in its various forms? So why is anyone concerned how much sex someone has had? Afterall...chances are they are getting a lot more than is mentioned in their veris anyway...or even NOT mentioned in their veris..
Or am I missing something here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I honestly dont understand why it bothers anyone. This is the swinging scene for goodness sake!
Is it not a given that we like sex in its various forms? So why is anyone concerned how much sex someone has had? Afterall...chances are they are getting a lot more than is mentioned in their veris anyway...or even NOT mentioned in their veris..
Or am I missing something here? "
its about risk and safety. very similar to backing horses, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have well over a million, but prefer not to display them all for fear of being labelled a tart
Tart.
I only have 987. I don't show them for fear of being labelled a newbie.
Pencil in 988 "
Lol....a. virtual amateur! Ha! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I honestly dont understand why it bothers anyone. This is the swinging scene for goodness sake!
Is it not a given that we like sex in its various forms? So why is anyone concerned how much sex someone has had? Afterall...chances are they are getting a lot more than is mentioned in their veris anyway...or even NOT mentioned in their veris..
Or am I missing something here?
its about risk and safety. very similar to backing horses, "
Lol....backing horses??? I am not into beastiality!! Lol.
No seriously...I understand the safety issue etc.....but some are debating the importance of the number of veris. My point is that it means nothing. Some people hide their veris but might be out playing every night! So it isn't a reliable tool really.....
I, on the other hand, am a virtual angel! |
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"I really don't care how many veri's someone has... As has been said already.. Who's to say that person with one veri displayed each month doesn't have another 200 they aren't showing.
Two things that do put me off are the territory marking veri's, where they are constantly repeated fron the same person.
The other is the actual content of some.. eg "he dumped his huge load in me" etc"
Gotta be better than "his eyes rolled back into his head but he was spitting feathers" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, depends what I am looking for, more than one a month, I would move on.
Seriously?
Really? Is that social or play meets? My last 20 odd veris were from 2 socials, however I was shagging like the Duracell bunny during that time with my FWB and a coupla other guys I know who don't verify me cos we've played lots"
This subject always makes me smile!
I decide whether to show veris, or not. I decide whether to show 1, or 100. I could show 1 a month but actually I've got one a week, at the end of a year I'm showing 12 but I've actually got 52. Oh sorry, I was on holiday for 2 weeks in July so I've only got 50!! Is that too many?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just because someone only has one/ a few veri's on here... doesn't mean they don't meet other people off the site....! "
Your so right.. There's loads of other ways to meet people. Clubs etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Couldn't careless what people think about our veris! Some are play meets some are social meets!
The amount of persons veris really doesn't put us off...... After all its a site to meet like minded people for fun
Where would the fun be if we didn't meet others? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else notice the gender split on this subject?  "
To save me reading it, to surmise I take it women are getting slatted if they have too many but men not? |
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"Anyone else notice the gender split on this subject?
To save me reading it, to surmise I take it women are getting slatted if they have too many but men not? "
Women are defending the right to have lots, (some) men are perturbed by lots. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone else notice the gender split on this subject?
To save me reading it, to surmise I take it women are getting slatted if they have too many but men not?
Women are defending the right to have lots, (some) men are perturbed by lots."
I see, thanks |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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If I was on a dating site and I saw someone had lots of dates ( btw I know no dating site which lists them) then yes I would be put off, as I would be looking for someone to date exclusively.
But here on a swingers site, it doesn't matter one little bit. If I like the person and want to have sex with them I will. If they think I have seen too many men, tough. I seriously do think those who only want those with a few verifications are on the wrong site or have unrealistic expectations. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
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"Anyone else notice the gender split on this subject?
To save me reading it, to surmise I take it women are getting slatted if they have too many but men not?
Women are defending the right to have lots, (some) men are perturbed by lots."
Might be the guys are just plain envious,,
I had a meet last night, the veri will follow
May take a while I struggle to type with my left hand though so there maybe a lot of spelling mistakes,, |
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I read them but don't take much notice and the number is misleading anyway as some could have come from socials.
They are there mainly to verify a person is real so you only need one or two (in case the first person imagined you) |
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It used to when I first joined, but 8 months and a very busy Club social later I understand why there can be so many veris; it no longer bothers me! It would be great to be able to separate 'play' and 'social' meets though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive 30 verifications out of them ive only had full sex with 4 of them.
Ive had a bit of a play at clubs but most are just social meets or people ive spoken to in a club.
Only ones that would put me off and i have to be honest is if a female was having gangbangs daily ....and that doesnt happen....each to their own but it wouldnt be my thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Call me old fashioned, but I remember a time when we didn't have the electronic ability to keep a tally, or count, of peoples sexual conquests - or have others review them. Those were the days when you met people, chatted, got on well and then had lots of intercourse with them...and often you made friends and saw them many more times.
These days we have threads like this, brought about because of an electronic scoreboard system and people playing 'armchair detective' roaming through peoples verifications looking for reasons not to meet them - "oh no can't meet them because they met someone who met something we disagree with"
* People complain they can't get any meets
* People complain that they can't show verification because they have had too many meets
* People complain because other people have had too many meets.
* People complain because they are obsessed with mapping the 'semenologial' tree of meets and don't like what they find.
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Some people need to take a step back and actually understand what this site and swinging are all about. Others just need to get a goddamn grip and stop thinking with their egos. |
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"Call me old fashioned, but I remember a time when we didn't have the electronic ability to keep a tally, or count, of peoples sexual conquests - or have others review them. Those were the days when you met people, chatted, got on well and then had lots of intercourse with them...and often you made friends and saw them many more times.
These days we have threads like this, brought about because of an electronic scoreboard system and people playing 'armchair detective' roaming through peoples verifications looking for reasons not to meet them - "oh no can't meet them because they met someone who met something we disagree with"
* People complain they can't get any meets
* People complain that they can't show verification because they have had too many meets
* People complain because other people have had too many meets.
* People complain because they are obsessed with mapping the 'semenologial' tree of meets and don't like what they find.
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Some people need to take a step back and actually understand what this site and swinging are all about. Others just need to get a goddamn grip and stop thinking with their egos. "
Its not Thursday rant yet mister |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seems you can't win on here!
None or very few verifications and you may be assumed to be a fake/timewaster etc!
To many verifications and well its anybodys guess what folk make of you 
So just wonder what people would call a happy medium?? |
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"I just find it amazing that people are on a swinger site to get sex, but then judge others on how much sex they have had. "
It does seem a bit strange, but then I think a lot of blokes want 'easy' sex as long as it is only easy for them. The thought that a woman might actually enjoy it with someone else is more than their pride can stand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had to stop showing mine and lost a regular playmate because one of his meets got jealous but I do look at others and if someone has a load sometimes it puts me off but not always |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its not Thursday rant yet mister
What can I say, Im a rebel.
Good rant though . Now that's off your chest, I hope your breathing easier "
Never been better. I think people see these as rants - and maybe they read like them - but they really aren't. I'm just a bit direct and pointy in my writing style.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yes! some have several everyday! so definitely puts me off!
You do realise that they could have been from a social where they just met a lot of people, you know, socially.
Yes i'm not stupid!
not allowed to name names on here but have been messaged by at least 2 that meet for play, am and then pm with 2 or 3 guys a day!"
Good on them x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont matter one bit to me. Ive got plenty but a lot are from regular meets or parties, and some are light hearted but show a build up of trust in a meet. Would cut it in half probably if I trimmed them to one per person. Shame people dont read them and just judge on a number |
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By (user no longer on site)
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These days we have threads like this, brought about because of an electronic scoreboard system and people playing 'armchair detective' roaming through peoples verifications looking for reasons not to meet them - "oh no can't meet them because they met someone who met something we disagree with"
* People complain they can't get any meets
* People complain that they can't show verification because they have had too many meets
* People complain because other people have had too many meets.
* People complain because they are obsessed with mapping the 'semenologial' tree of meets and don't like what they find.
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Some people need to take a step back and actually understand what this site and swinging are all about. Others just need to get a goddamn grip and stop thinking with their egos. "
Am I the only one that uses the veri summary for these reasons.
Also, just to add. Ive had people contact people I've met..I know that because I was there at the time...ahem again!!
The veri summary was the best thing fab could have done!
If anyone wants more I can send them but so far never been asked. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just find it amazing that people are on a swinger site to get sex, but then judge others on how much sex they have had.
It does seem a bit strange, but then I think a lot of blokes want 'easy' sex as long as it is only easy for them. The thought that a woman might actually enjoy it with someone else is more than their pride can stand."
Yep I think that's what a lot of it is!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first meet said she didn't do veris it's like trip advisor you wouldn't publish shite ones! But then got bunny boiler over others that I then published - hell it's swinging! NSA fun not match.com!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me it's not the number but the type.
Multiple veris from one person suggest someone has caught themselves a bunny boiler so I'd steer clear.
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So it wouldnt be that they clicked (sexualy and socially) and enjoyed each other? What is quantifiable as 'too many meets with the same person' which propels it into 'rabbit stew' territory?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No not really. I just skim over them and make sure the words 'physcho' 'knife' and 'medical emergency, don't pop up anywhere"
Lol, thats brilliant! But they wouldn't display them ones would they? |
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It's more the repeated marking of territory.
I have friends I've met repeatedly but neither of us feel the need to send new veris for every meet. Add in the 'joking' comments like "I'd love to keep this one for myself" and I back gently away.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's more the repeated marking of territory.
I have friends I've met repeatedly but neither of us feel the need to send new veris for every meet. Add in the 'joking' comments like "I'd love to keep this one for myself" and I back gently away.
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Yes, those sorts of comments can be taken with a somewhat sinister overtone! |
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