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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What were you doing?
What were your dreams?
Did they come close to unfolding?
Were you happier then or now?
A bit of a nostalgia... Let's go down that memory lane  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I would start; by this time last 10yrs I was writing my finals and finishing my BSc project.
Dreams, I thought I'd have been a prof by now.
Did it eventually happen? Your guess is as good as mine...
My happiness level seems to be the same  |
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i had just been living in the house i owned a year .was just getting over the death of my mum , in the feb so death of my brother in oct floored me.
didnt have dreams .
but now as im divorced and single again
the dreams are nightmares.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i had just been living in the house i owned a year .was just getting over the death of my mum , in the feb so death of my brother in oct floored me.
didnt have dreams .
but now as im divorced and single again
the dreams are nightmares. "
Aw, that's not a good one. I wish your nightmares turn to beautiful things... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thought I'd be married with kids - one failed marriage no kids
Dreams to be a mum and still is a dream
Right now got drama but am ok and happy and trying to live life  "
It's not late, that dream of being a mum can still come to pass. I keeping fingers crossed for you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Too much has happened in 10 yrs
moving area
changing career
near death
im now thinking long and hard about what I want for the next 10 yrs "
That's the spirit! Jerking but not stopping! |
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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago
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This time 10 years ago I was travelling around South America and then heading home to Oz for good. I wanted to own my own house by the time I was 30 and have a dog.
Well, after 8 months home in Oz I got bored and come back. Spent the rest of my money I had saved for my house on travelling again (that was the second time I spent house deposit money on travelling) and I a still here in London 10 years later.
I am currently looking to buy my first flat though , but I still don't have a dog .
Only 6 years late, but that's ok I'll get over it  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This time 10 years ago I was travelling around South America and then heading home to Oz for good. I wanted to own my own house by the time I was 30 and have a dog.
Well, after 8 months home in Oz I got bored and come back. Spent the rest of my money I had saved for my house on travelling again (that was the second time I spent house deposit money on travelling) and I a still here in London 10 years later.
I am currently looking to buy my first flat though , but I still don't have a dog .
Only 6 years late, but that's ok I'll get over it "
Aw, at least you had fun! 6yrs to an adult isn't that long so you are still on track |
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Let's see, 10 years ago was getting medical help to be a mum. It failed no children.
Death of a really good friend.
Had a huge argument with family member only just made back up. Lol.
Moved house.
Dreams well, some will always be a dream some will and do become true. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Let's see, 10 years ago was getting medical help to be a mum. It failed no children.
Death of a really good friend.
Had a huge argument with family member only just made back up. Lol.
Moved house.
Dreams well, some will always be a dream some will and do become true. "
The initial bits didn't sound great, but hey! You are here, you never know what's going to come along |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"10 years ago I had been living with my future wife for 3 months and was enjoying the job I did
Now I am divorced, living alone and enjoying my job.
Am I happier now? OH YES"
Bless you! The end point is being happy... |
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By *lle adie 2Woman
over a year ago
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10 years ago I lost my dad and step dad in a matter of 13 days - both to cancer..
I was happily married - now separated and seeing someone else, Finally met my match though..don't know if 100% happier |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ten years ago my best friend died suddenly
I escaped a violent relationship with injuries
Didn't socialise for a year. Went to work, came home.
My dreams were trampled on..
lost the time, but the futures bright...  |
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"Let's see, 10 years ago was getting medical help to be a mum. It failed no children.
Death of a really good friend.
Had a huge argument with family member only just made back up. Lol.
Moved house.
Dreams well, some will always be a dream some will and do become true.
The initial bits didn't sound great, but hey! You are here, you never know what's going to come along "
After the last two years we've just had. It's just got to be better. Lol. |
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This time 10yrs ago was frantically trying to find somewhere for self n 2 yr old to live as being made homeless due to marriage ending due to he couldn't be faithful. Forces marriage therefore mq. But as I was also a forces child, no council in uk would house me as no 'connections'
Within a few months I had a housing association house, had started uni and divorce was proceeding with great difficulty.
Plan was to be teaching by now as was gonna do teacher training straight after bachelors but ill health has so far prevented. Applying this month for next year.
Now single, skint and unemployed mum...but don't regret divorce. He's cheating on current wife and sent me a booty call by text day before wedding...classy guy!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"10 years ago I lost my dad and step dad in a matter of 13 days - both to cancer..
I was happily married - now separated and seeing someone else, Finally met my match though..don't know if 100% happier"
Those are hurdles in life. Good to know you pulled through somehow. The best part? You are happy and in dilemma if it's 100% good on you! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ten years ago my best friend died suddenly
I escaped a violent relationship with injuries
Didn't socialise for a year. Went to work, came home.
My dreams were trampled on..
lost the time, but the futures bright... "
The future holds the key! I am with you on that one... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Let's see, 10 years ago was getting medical help to be a mum. It failed no children.
Death of a really good friend.
Had a huge argument with family member only just made back up. Lol.
Moved house.
Dreams well, some will always be a dream some will and do become true.
The initial bits didn't sound great, but hey! You are here, you never know what's going to come along
After the last two years we've just had. It's just got to be better. Lol. "
There's only one thing it could become then...better! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Stressed out with gcse's. Living in N Ireland having a really wicked time with army friends.
My family were all together. Life was great"
Good memories... and now?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This time 10yrs ago was frantically trying to find somewhere for self n 2 yr old to live as being made homeless due to marriage ending due to he couldn't be faithful. Forces marriage therefore mq. But as I was also a forces child, no council in uk would house me as no 'connections'
Within a few months I had a housing association house, had started uni and divorce was proceeding with great difficulty.
Plan was to be teaching by now as was gonna do teacher training straight after bachelors but ill health has so far prevented. Applying this month for next year.
Now single, skint and unemployed mum...but don't regret divorce. He's cheating on current wife and sent me a booty call by text day before wedding...classy guy!! "
Rough as it may sound, you can not go down again! Move on girl! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I was living in Muscat Oman for a year. It was great for everything except hardly any women about to shag!  "
Poor you! Good you've come to fabland then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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10 years ago I was unemployed living alone weighing 25 stone and drinking heavily, not long split with ex and had tried to kill myself twice, now I'm happier weigh...lol less, don't really drink and generally have a sunny outlook on life, and now I have fab lol |
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This time 10 years ago I was back in Canada preparing for my trip to the UK to meet my future in laws for the first time before flying up to Scotland to get married with my Scottish cousins as witnesses....
Dreams were of my future with my hubby(btw divorce will be final September 8th after 6 year seperation...so that dream crashed in flames...lol) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What were you doing?
What were your dreams?
Did they come close to unfolding?
Were you happier then or now?"
I was 7ish months pregnant.
I was dreaming about having a baby, the sooner the better, it was bloody hot that summer! I had just got my exam results, ten years ago today  and dreamt of going to uni, eventually.
I had the baby so yes, lol. And I have a year left at uni now so I suppose they have come true
I am much, much, much happier now! |
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10 years ago I had just got my A level results and spent the afternoon in the park with friends and my newish boyfriend. I was looking forward to starting uni (which as it happened, I dropped out after 6 months but went back and did the same course 6 years later and have just completed it), and I was working a summer job at Sainsburys. I wasn't thinking much about the future and had no idea I'd go on to marry that boyfriend, have two kids, and be a single parent before I am 30! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"10 years ago I was unemployed living alone weighing 25 stone and drinking heavily, not long split with ex and had tried to kill myself twice, now I'm happier weigh...lol less, don't really drink and generally have a sunny outlook on life, and now I have fab lol"
Good on you! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This time 10 years ago I was back in Canada preparing for my trip to the UK to meet my future in laws for the first time before flying up to Scotland to get married with my Scottish cousins as witnesses....
Dreams were of my future with my hubby(btw divorce will be final September 8th after 6 year seperation...so that dream crashed in flames...lol)"
Aw, that's not a good one but hey! You are now in the UK and on FAB!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What were you doing?
What were your dreams?
Did they come close to unfolding?
Were you happier then or now?
I was 7ish months pregnant.
I was dreaming about having a baby, the sooner the better, it was bloody hot that summer! I had just got my exam results, ten years ago today and dreamt of going to uni, eventually.
I had the baby so yes, lol. And I have a year left at uni now so I suppose they have come true
I am much, much, much happier now!"
Congrats!!! It wouldn't have been easy without determination... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"10 years ago I had just got my A level results and spent the afternoon in the park with friends and my newish boyfriend. I was looking forward to starting uni (which as it happened, I dropped out after 6 months but went back and did the same course 6 years later and have just completed it), and I was working a summer job at Sainsburys. I wasn't thinking much about the future and had no idea I'd go on to marry that boyfriend, have two kids, and be a single parent before I am 30! "
Well...you win some you lose some. the positive you still achieved your initial goal of going to uni... |
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By *nnyMan
over a year ago
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10 years ago I was planning to retire then I listened to the 'give it another 5 years', you'll enjoy the money and the extra pension', 'you'll only be 55' voices.
It just shows. You never know what's coming round the corner. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"10 years ago I was planning to retire then I listened to the 'give it another 5 years', you'll enjoy the money and the extra pension', 'you'll only be 55' voices.
It just shows. You never know what's coming round the corner."
...so are you retired now then? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"10 years ago I was thinking how lucky I was to have survived a quadruple heart by-pass a year previously! "
Hey! You are meant to be here! Happy for you... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just getting ready for La Tomotina, or the tomato throwing festival in spain.
Didn't really have any dreams then
but things didnt quite turn out the way I expected them to. |
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By *nnyMan
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"10 years ago I was planning to retire then I listened to the 'give it another 5 years', you'll enjoy the money and the extra pension', 'you'll only be 55' voices.
It just shows. You never know what's coming round the corner.
...so are you retired now then? "
Yes. |
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by this time last 10yrs I had just returned from the iraq war and just been told i am of to northern ireland for another 6 month tour.
Dreams, I thought I'd have been a sgt now.
Did it eventually happen? nope just been made redundant
i guess i should be happy to leave the army after 12years of service wit £40k in the back lol |
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Our first grandchild was due, I was earning a lot of money in the IT industry and we'd just got married.
Now...I got out of IT, earn a pittance but I've never been happier, Mrs JFL has just got the job of her dreams, we've got 4 grand children, 3 very successful children and life couldn't be much better.
We went through a lot of shit in that 10 years though, so it wasn't all plain sailing ! |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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I had finished uni and was just in the first 3 months of my first job.
I was looking forward to going to Portugal the following year for football, and looking to sette down
Looks like things haven't changed much |
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"by this time last 10yrs I had just returned from the iraq war and just been told i am of to northern ireland for another 6 month tour.
Dreams, I thought I'd have been a sgt now.
Did it eventually happen? nope just been made redundant
i guess i should be happy to leave the army after 12years of service wit £40k in the back lol"
Same here for ten years ago, left and went private contracting, now back in. So nothing's really changed.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just getting ready for La Tomotina, or the tomato throwing festival in spain.
Didn't really have any dreams then
but things didnt quite turn out the way I expected them to."
It didn't for most of us but then, we've got to choose to be happy... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This time 10 years ago I was a working single mom to my two gorgeous daughters who have since grown up and become independant young ladies... "
Hey! Good on you! Those periods seem to last forever but like most things they come to pass... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This time 10 years ago I got married and now we live in separate houses and I also saw metallica at the Leeds festuval "
Well, such is part of the turbulence of life... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"by this time last 10yrs I had just returned from the iraq war and just been told i am of to northern ireland for another 6 month tour.
Dreams, I thought I'd have been a sgt now.
Did it eventually happen? nope just been made redundant
i guess i should be happy to leave the army after 12years of service wit £40k in the back lol"
Not bad if you ask me... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Our first grandchild was due, I was earning a lot of money in the IT industry and we'd just got married.
Now...I got out of IT, earn a pittance but I've never been happier, Mrs JFL has just got the job of her dreams, we've got 4 grand children, 3 very successful children and life couldn't be much better.
We went through a lot of shit in that 10 years though, so it wasn't all plain sailing !"
Neither was it a smooth plain sailing for most of us...
Good successful kids an extension of parents happiness... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I had finished uni and was just in the first 3 months of my first job.
I was looking forward to going to Portugal the following year for football, and looking to sette down
Looks like things haven't changed much "
Better unchanged than from good to bad |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"by this time last 10yrs I had just returned from the iraq war and just been told i am of to northern ireland for another 6 month tour.
Dreams, I thought I'd have been a sgt now.
Did it eventually happen? nope just been made redundant
i guess i should be happy to leave the army after 12years of service wit £40k in the back lol
Same here for ten years ago, left and went private contracting, now back in. So nothing's really changed.. "
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"What were you doing?
What were your dreams?
Did they come close to unfolding?
Were you happier then or now?
A bit of a nostalgia... Let's go down that memory lane "
I was working and cheating on my then partner with my boss
Don't know that I had dreams, none that I can remember
Much much happier now, just had a baby, getting married next year and have the best sex life ever.
Suz. X
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fem - I had just divorced, had to sell my dream home, my inlaws the died within six months of each other. Was at my lowest, piled on weight & only left the house to go to work.
Now I have my own home & I love it. I have a great job. Both my children have grown into wonderful well rounded adults. I have lost weight, regained my confidence. Met my wonderful partner. Life is great
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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10years ago I had just moved house with my family, still in school, had dreams of becoming a vet and being in a gpod job or at uni just now
Currently jobless and a mum to one little handsome boy awaiting his father to move in so I can get work and think about baby number two.
Couldnt be happier!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What were you doing?
What were your dreams?
Did they come close to unfolding?
Were you happier then or now?
A bit of a nostalgia... Let's go down that memory lane
I was working and cheating on my then partner with my boss
Don't know that I had dreams, none that I can remember
Much much happier now, just had a baby, getting married next year and have the best sex life ever.
Suz. X
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Aw, hope that boss was good then
...and good to know you are happier now and the baby? Amazing! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ten years ago I was working with a wonderful autistic boy and I'm still in touch with his family.
I didn't know it but my exhusband was cheating with whoever would touch him. Found out in 2004 he was having an affair and made the worst decision to try and make marriage work. Finally got rid in 2011 and have never been so happy!
Sex is better than it's ever been! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This time 10 yrs ago I had just been made a GrandMother for the first time.
I was a Manager of a shop and had total control.
I was married to my Childhood sweetheart who turned into a Monster.
Now I'm single and Loving it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ten years ago I was working with a wonderful autistic boy and I'm still in touch with his family.
I didn't know it but my exhusband was cheating with whoever would touch him. Found out in 2004 he was having an affair and made the worst decision to try and make marriage work. Finally got rid in 2011 and have never been so happy!
Sex is better than it's ever been! "
Good to know you've done an amazing job for this boy and that you are finally happy! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This time 10 yrs ago I had just been made a GrandMother for the first time.
I was a Manager of a shop and had total control.
I was married to my Childhood sweetheart who turned into a Monster.
Now I'm single and Loving it "
For me being happy is the target! Good on you girl! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was crippled after a factory job accident made worse when a doctor prespribed me painkillers that were actually lethal to me. Bed ridden for over half a year, no comp, no benefits.
I just wanted a job and to earn a living and because of the accident, I was extremely limited to what jobs i could do ever since, meaning no, that small dream was ruined.
Despite worse things having happened in my life since, I have most of my health in tact and I'm not a cripple, which is great! LOL |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I was crippled after a factory job accident made worse when a doctor prespribed me painkillers that were actually lethal to me. Bed ridden for over half a year, no comp, no benefits.
I just wanted a job and to earn a living and because of the accident, I was extremely limited to what jobs i could do ever since, meaning no, that small dream was ruined.
Despite worse things having happened in my life since, I have most of my health in tact and I'm not a cripple, which is great! LOL"
Good to know! It can only get better from now... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was a single mum with a young child and crippled with sciatica, forcing me to give up my career as a chef, and return to school to retrain in office skills. I was just learning to use a computer at the grand old age of 30. Now I'm still a single mum to a young child, as well as an older one, but work within the building trade as an accounts administrator and only have sciatica on a rare occasion. Oh, and I live in beautiful Fife, rather than Cumbernauld. (Moved house 23 times since I was 17....never again). Happier, I think so, just lonely sometimes.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I was a single mum with a young child and crippled with sciatica, forcing me to give up my career as a chef, and return to school to retrain in office skills. I was just learning to use a computer at the grand old age of 30. Now I'm still a single mum to a young child, as well as an older one, but work within the building trade as an accounts administrator and only have sciatica on a rare occasion. Oh, and I live in beautiful Fife, rather than Cumbernauld. (Moved house 23 times since I was 17....never again). Happier, I think so, just lonely sometimes. "
Aw, bless you! Loneliness is not as bad most people feel lonely sometimes too xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"was planning my wedding .....10 years later recently divorced and alot happier in many ways ......."
I am all for happiness girl! So, I am happy for you... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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10 years ago I was still employed as a legal secretary earning a good wage. Living in a modest but nice house with my soon to be husband who i thought was the man of my dreams.
8 years later, single mom bringing up my son totally alone having been dumped at 3 months pregnant by said man of my dreams. moved areas, living in a housing association house as can't afford a mortgage, still working as a secretary part time for a local firm. Shit wage, less than half i was earning 10 years ago. Don't have a pot to piss in, hoping a nice, decent genuine guy will eventually come along but i do have a totally beautiful son who means the world to me xx |
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10 years ago lived in a tiny house in th city with nightmare neighbours and I had a young child and was trapped in a sexually boring, emotionally abusive marriage dreaming of being able to get out and still support my child.
10 years on now a single mum to a stroppy 12 year old, been to uni and got a degree and a career I love and have a nice detached house in the country but can't walk because of needing a new knee. Am I happier - hell yes |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"What were you doing?
What were your dreams?
Did they come close to unfolding?
Were you happier then or now?
A bit of a nostalgia... Let's go down that memory lane "
Mmm my dad had just died and I was facing major surgery - so not really nostalgic for that. |
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Ten years ago I was bringing my son up with the help of my mum as was in and out of mental hospital suffering severe bi polar, was single, desperate and rock bottom. 10 years on my son has left home and turned out well, 7 years ago I met my soulmate. I still have severe bi polar but with new medication I haven't been in hospital for 7 years, its still hard to live with but much better, I feel very lucky to got here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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my life is much better now, i was some lost 19 year old, omg i was a fuck up the fact i'm still alive is a miracle. now im training for a professional career in something i will get a job in at the end of it ill have two degrees, o yea and ive changed sex lol. |
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"10 years ago I was still employed as a legal secretary earning a good wage. Living in a modest but nice house with my soon to be husband who i thought was the man of my dreams.
8 years later, single mom bringing up my son totally alone having been dumped at 3 months pregnant by said man of my dreams. moved areas, living in a housing association house as can't afford a mortgage, still working as a secretary part time for a local firm. Shit wage, less than half i was earning 10 years ago. Don't have a pot to piss in, hoping a nice, decent genuine guy will eventually come along but i do have a totally beautiful son who means the world to me xx"
I feel like giving you a hug. but then again, you find beauty and love in your boy's eyes. The good guy would come along just keep your head up... |
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"10 years ago lived in a tiny house in th city with nightmare neighbours and I had a young child and was trapped in a sexually boring, emotionally abusive marriage dreaming of being able to get out and still support my child.
10 years on now a single mum to a stroppy 12 year old, been to uni and got a degree and a career I love and have a nice detached house in the country but can't walk because of needing a new knee. Am I happier - hell yes "
The target is happiness! And good you are happier now! |
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"What were you doing?
What were your dreams?
Did they come close to unfolding?
Were you happier then or now?
A bit of a nostalgia... Let's go down that memory lane
Mmm my dad had just died and I was facing major surgery - so not really nostalgic for that."
I can imagine... but then hey! It's not all bad |
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"Ten years ago I was bringing my son up with the help of my mum as was in and out of mental hospital suffering severe bi polar, was single, desperate and rock bottom. 10 years on my son has left home and turned out well, 7 years ago I met my soulmate. I still have severe bi polar but with new medication I haven't been in hospital for 7 years, its still hard to live with but much better, I feel very lucky to got here"
i am so so happy for you. You found your soulmate which doesn't come easy, you've brought up an independent man which is another plus! Keep on keeping on |
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"my life is much better now, i was some lost 19 year old, omg i was a fuck up the fact i'm still alive is a miracle. now im training for a professional career in something i will get a job in at the end of it ill have two degrees, o yea and ive changed sex lol. "
Thank heaven you found yourself and not lost after all! Congrats on your achievements and so long as you are happy, you are on point! |
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"my life is much better now, i was some lost 19 year old, omg i was a fuck up the fact i'm still alive is a miracle. now im training for a professional career in something i will get a job in at the end of it ill have two degrees, o yea and ive changed sex lol.
Thank heaven you found yourself and not lost after all! Congrats on your achievements and so long as you are happy, you are on point! "
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