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The path has lead to a discovery
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have found something out about myself, it's something that I'm not keen on, it's not something that would hurt others, in fact it is for most something to be celebrated, but for me, I'm not comfortable with it but I know it's going to keep poking at me until I do something about it, not sure what my next step is but I just felt the need to say something even though I've not really said anything it's all just weirded me out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It sounds like a little stone in your shoe. Just take it out and you'll find each step feels a little better after."
That's a lovely way of looking at things. xxx   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok, it's Friday afternoon, I'm blonde and easily confused at the best of times  but would you care to enlighten us as to what the heck you're talking about |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It sounds like a little stone in your shoe. Just take it out and you'll find each step feels a little better after."
I have no doubt but taking it out in the first place is the biggest step of all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have found the same, though more its that I admitted it openly and was quite a revelation, not sure either what to do next and it cannot be cured, I just need to learn to chill and relax, not expect everything done immediately as it just makes me feel stressed, agitated, angry and depressed all at the same time  |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
In Your Bush |
"I have found the same, though more its that I admitted it openly and was quite a revelation, not sure either what to do next and it cannot be cured, I just need to learn to chill and relax, not expect everything done immediately as it just makes me feel stressed, agitated, angry and depressed all at the same time "
Are you talking about anal too? |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"It sounds like a little stone in your shoe. Just take it out and you'll find each step feels a little better after.
I have no doubt but taking it out in the first place is the biggest step of all"
You are the only one that can make the decision about whether you want to cripple yourself or walk freely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It sounds like a little stone in your shoe. Just take it out and you'll find each step feels a little better after.
I have no doubt but taking it out in the first place is the biggest step of all"
These days its quite acceptable for men to have more than a passing interest in musical theatre …  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It sounds like a little stone in your shoe. Just take it out and you'll find each step feels a little better after.
I have no doubt but taking it out in the first place is the biggest step of all"
well I hope you're well and you can cope .... life can give you a curveball at times.. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"It's a big scary leap though and I'm not sure I understand it myself yet"
Just tell me and I will discreetly tell everyone else.
Most leaps are scary, if it's just a small stepping stone you wouldn't have a problem doing it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have barbaque beef hulahoops and vimto , I'm prepared to sit it out ., this could be a ' Frost / Nixon ' type thingy ...people will want to remember where they were when they first heard it...like when Neil Kinnock slipped on his arse on that beach .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It sounds like a little stone in your shoe. Just take it out and you'll find each step feels a little better after."
I like this and may have to keep it in the memory bank for future use! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok after much speculation here is what happened.
I woke this morning with what I thought was the monumental horn, by late afternoon I realised that it wasn't the horn, I realised that I missed my FB and then I realised that I Love Her, I have been to see her this evening and told her everything, it just poured out so naturally and felt so good to say it out loud we have been friends for years and it just felt so right.
But she don't feel the same way, ego bruised, and she has ended our special part of our friendship saying "it's not you it's me" can't see how this happened think I'm going to order a curry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok after much speculation here is what happened.
I woke this morning with what I thought was the monumental horn, by late afternoon I realised that it wasn't the horn, I realised that I missed my FB and then I realised that I Love Her, I have been to see her this evening and told her everything, it just poured out so naturally and felt so good to say it out loud we have been friends for years and it just felt so right.
But she don't feel the same way, ego bruised, and she has ended our special part of our friendship saying "it's not you it's me" can't see how this happened think I'm going to order a curry. "
Ouch. Hugs xxxxx |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Ok after much speculation here is what happened.
I woke this morning with what I thought was the monumental horn, by late afternoon I realised that it wasn't the horn, I realised that I missed my FB and then I realised that I Love Her, I have been to see her this evening and told her everything, it just poured out so naturally and felt so good to say it out loud we have been friends for years and it just felt so right.
But she don't feel the same way, ego bruised, and she has ended our special part of our friendship saying "it's not you it's me" can't see how this happened think I'm going to order a curry. "
Painful as it is right now it's probably better than always living in hope that she will wake up one day feeling as you do. If the friendship is strong you will find a way of being friends.
You need to get out and get some new shoes. It wasn't a stone - you had outgrown the ones you were wearing. |
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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago
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Best to find out for sure by telling her.
Shame it did not work out.
Enjoy your curry and good luck. I guess many of us have been through similar? I have, best foot forward and just this once, have enough lager to help.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't ever feel foolish. You took a chance and that's a brave thing to do. Its not the outcome you wanted and it'll take time to come through it but you will x hugs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just feel so foolish now"
I know how you feel it happened to me but be brave. Sometimes life doesnt work out as you hope but there may be even better things in store in the future xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have found the same, though more its that I admitted it openly and was quite a revelation, not sure either what to do next and it cannot be cured, I just need to learn to chill and relax, not expect everything done immediately as it just makes me feel stressed, agitated, angry and depressed all at the same time
Are you talking about anal too?"
No  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just feel so foolish now"
Like the above poster said.. let her dwell on it.
It may have come as a shock to her if she wasn't expecting your feelings towards her.
All the best |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just feel so foolish now"
Aww don't feel foolish! Same thing happened to me and I was really gutted at the time. Still getting over it slowly but I will and so will you. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just feel so foolish now"
You have nothing to feel foolish for mate - quite the opposite. You told her how you feel - you were honest with her. She has told you she doesn't feel the same, and for her it's no longer the same. Neither of you is kidding the other any longer.
Hold your head high - you did the right thing.
Unfortunately these things always happen at the wrong time and life feels shite for while, but you're the bigger, better person for coming clean.
Not that any of this helps, but you have my (manly) admiration for having the guts to be truthful with her.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks all for you supportive messages, I'm going to take stock of the situation ill give her a call tomorrow and see how she feels let her have some space, I know things have now changed between us and it will never be the same, but hey, I'll be back to my normal self and bothering the single fems in no time right now I'm just going to chill spend some time with my kids and just let things happen the way they will happen. |
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Oh bugger I just remembered this thread I've been out all day and am gutted for you! But your a braver person than me and credit to you for telling her.
Sorry it didn't go the way you'd hoped but like the others said least you know now x |
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