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Met on Monday for a very quick drink, my ex boss of three years ago. Well technically my bosses boss. Great to catch up, but on leaving I expected a kiss on the cheek but I got 3 on the lips. I must have been like a rabbit caught in headlights after the 1st.
Anyway since then sexy texts. Real shame as I've lost respect but at the same time I wouldn't mind a reference for a project I'm about to start.
So what do I do? |
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over a year ago
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Well say it was good to catch up.. Always respected his opinion professionally. Set a formal tone.
ask for reference permissions, take it and move on. Don't cross the line... Just say you don't think of him as date/ fun material. |
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"Met on Monday for a very quick drink, my ex boss of three years ago. Well technically my bosses boss. Great to catch up, but on leaving I expected a kiss on the cheek but I got 3 on the lips. I must have been like a rabbit caught in headlights after the 1st.
Anyway since then sexy texts. Real shame as I've lost respect but at the same time I wouldn't mind a reference for a project I'm about to start.
So what do I do?"
Dont let him try to use it as bargaining for sex, whatever you do. That is pretty poor of him to act that way |
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"Met on Monday for a very quick drink, my ex boss of three years ago. Well technically my bosses boss. Great to catch up, but on leaving I expected a kiss on the cheek but I got 3 on the lips. I must have been like a rabbit caught in headlights after the 1st.
Anyway since then sexy texts. Real shame as I've lost respect but at the same time I wouldn't mind a reference for a project I'm about to start.
So what do I do?"
You've lost respect but your still thinking of doing something with him? |
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"Met on Monday for a very quick drink, my ex boss of three years ago. Well technically my bosses boss. Great to catch up, but on leaving I expected a kiss on the cheek but I got 3 on the lips. I must have been like a rabbit caught in headlights after the 1st.
Anyway since then sexy texts. Real shame as I've lost respect but at the same time I wouldn't mind a reference for a project I'm about to start.
So what do I do?
Dont let him try to use it as bargaining for sex, whatever you do. That is pretty poor of him to act that way"
^^^ this. Not very professional of him  |
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come on, take a chill pill, there has to be some perks for all the shit u take as a boss, just get on your knees suck him off and ask for a good reference, no problem, and 5 minutes of your time, lets be honest your not exactly a chaste virgin  |
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Is there any chance he actually fancies you like mad and wants a relationship?
This happened to me in reverse. On my last day in the office a young married woman came in and said she would miss me and could we have a drink sometime.
We met later the next week and she said she could not say anything whilst we were colleagues because it was inappropriate but she fancied me. We had a passionate affair for a year.  |
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What you seem to forget, is nothing is real in cyber space, even more so in a sex chat room. If things bother you, maybe you have a problem, I am here for a laugh, nothing more, nothing less. |
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There really wouldn't be a dilemma if I was in your shoes!
He wouldn't have got 2 kisses on the lips let alone 3....and I would have ignored and deleted the text messages. He would have been sternly told after the first! And I am pretty sure you don't have to sleep with your ex boss to gain a reference these days! |
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It takes 2 to tango, and he would only kiss you on the lips and then risk sending sexy text messages if he was secure in the fact you wouldn't use them against him, if you feel at all uncomfortable, let go and end your contact with him, after all you must open the text messages, if I didn't want them from a certain person, I just delete them or block a number, so easy to do. if he is a letch, he wont help you anyway.  |
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"It takes 2 to tango, and he would only kiss you on the lips and then risk sending sexy text messages if he was secure in the fact you wouldn't use them against him, if you feel at all uncomfortable, let go and end your contact with him, after all you must open the text messages, if I didn't want them from a certain person, I just delete them or block a number, so easy to do. if he is a letch, he wont help you anyway. "
I liked your other answer best. Far more realistic x Get out of sensible mode! |
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"Met on Monday for a very quick drink, my ex boss of three years ago. Well technically my bosses boss. Great to catch up, but on leaving I expected a kiss on the cheek but I got 3 on the lips. I must have been like a rabbit caught in headlights after the 1st.
Anyway since then sexy texts. Real shame as I've lost respect but at the same time I wouldn't mind a reference for a project I'm about to start.
So what do I do?"
He thinks you're easy.
My guess is he's married.
He does not want to love you.
He does not think you are all that.
He wants a bit of fun in life.
If you really fancy him go for it , have fun and get a reference.
If you don't fancy him and you are going to go ahead with it hold out for something a little more lucrative than a reference.
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"Met on Monday for a very quick drink, my ex boss of three years ago. Well technically my bosses boss. Great to catch up, but on leaving I expected a kiss on the cheek but I got 3 on the lips. I must have been like a rabbit caught in headlights after the 1st.
Anyway since then sexy texts. Real shame as I've lost respect but at the same time I wouldn't mind a reference for a project I'm about to start.
So what do I do?
He thinks you're easy.
My guess is he's married.
He does not want to love you.
He does not think you are all that.
He wants a bit of fun in life.
If you really fancy him go for it , have fun and get a reference.
If you don't fancy him and you are going to go ahead with it hold out for something a little more lucrative than a reference.
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this....don't sell your soul. People will tell you anything to get laid....yes mainly blokes. |
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Play it fairly, ask him for a reference, if he demands "a favour" in return, tell him you have kept the texts and will show them his wife. (If he's married) play fire with fire if he wants to play dirty. |
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The reference and respect thing is giving me the giggles.
She contemplated asking for a reference.
He knows nothing about it.
She says she lost respect.
She doesn't say who for.
He made a play
Everyone beats him up.
She followed his lead and considered how to use it as blackmail.
No one says anything.
You HAVE to love the twisted morality here sometimes.
He's at home somewhere thinking he had a sly snog ...... he's blisfully unaware of where it might be leading. Poor bloke. |
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good to catch up yes, but u could have at least mentioned wanting a reference at the meetup??????
for all ue EX-bosse's knowledge is that a hot woman that used to work with him, might have wanted a little more.
some above of the assumptions are bewildering |
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"Met on Monday for a very quick drink, my ex boss of three years ago. Well technically my bosses boss. Great to catch up, but on leaving I expected a kiss on the cheek but I got 3 on the lips. I must have been like a rabbit caught in headlights after the 1st.
Anyway since then sexy texts. Real shame as I've lost respect but at the same time I wouldn't mind a reference for a project I'm about to start.
So what do I do?"
How could he resist?!
A very tricky situation, if he's a good reference (after all they can only give their honest professional opinion) ask him and take him to task first? |
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