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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Lately I've seen lots of single male profiles looking for a single female to join them, saying it's easier to swing as a couple. This may be true but the wording on some profiles reads like they are desperate to hook up with anyone female because they are having no luck on their own. 
It seems like they just want a female to use as 'bait' to get them some meets.
Is this why some people won't meet fb couples, in case the guy is just using the female?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lately I've seen lots of single male profiles looking for a single female to join them, saying it's easier to swing as a couple. This may be true but the wording on some profiles reads like they are desperate to hook up with anyone female because they are having no luck on their own.
It seems like they just want a female to use as 'bait' to get them some meets.
Is this why some people won't meet fb couples, in case the guy is just using the female? "
I'm finding it hard to meet females!
Males seem to jump on me!
I don't get it? I'm an open and honest descreet lad non pushy lad.
But guys ain't really my thing I like the ladies too much!!
How can I be/look more appealing?
And what's the best opening sentances you have ever heard? X
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I think fbs would be using each other because hopefully the woman would be in it of her own volition. We find that the communication isn't there and the feeling of being in it for each other as well as yourself, but that is only our experience. However we do choose not to meet fbs for those reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From a different perspective, we actually enjoy meets with single guys, but you'd be surprised how many after a couple of messages will suddenly come up with the fact they have a female fuck buddy and would we like them to join us too.
No, if we wanted this, we'd look for a couple!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We ( on the couples profile ) haven't been turned down because of us being a FB couple as of yet
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But your couples profile states quite a few times that you are only fb's and NOT ("and will never ever be") a couple. So people know straight off that there's no love or affection there at all. Maybe they like the honesty. x |
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We met almost two years ago and decided to have a couples profile 12 months ago. It was a joint decision, no pressure was put on either one of us.
Although we aren't a couple and never will be, we have been told on more than one occassion and by people we play with regularly that we 'look' like a couple.
It took me (red) some thought as I had previously been part of a couple, where yes, I was used as what the guy thought was an in to meet others and I would never be used in that way again |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"We ( on the couples profile ) haven't been turned down because of us being a FB couple as of yet
But your couples profile states quite a few times that you are only fb's and NOT ("and will never ever be") a couple. So people know straight off that there's no love or affection there at all. Maybe they like the honesty. x"
Bit harsh to say there is no affection...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldnt swing as a couple if I wasnt a real cpl
I have no ties and shag who i want(well if they wanna shag me lol)
obviously its different if i was a proper cpl
I dont mind hooking up with fems for parties/clubs, but happy to go on my own if I can |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have a FB and we went to meet a couple last night for a social drink, it was made clear from the start that I would not be involved in any actual meets, the male of the couple said to me at the bar that he was glad I understood that they wernt looking for a guy to join them as his wife wasn't into black guys, not offended, not everyone is, but later the wife said its a shame your not joining us lol
But FB couples can work but you DO have to be real friends, I'm suprised that no one has tried to hire a prostitute to get to meet a couple or have theylol |
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"I wouldnt swing as a couple if I wasnt a real cpl
I have no ties and shag who i want(well if they wanna shag me lol)
obviously its different if i was a proper cpl
I dont mind hooking up with fems for parties/clubs, but happy to go on my own if I can"
This 
Oh my god paddy you do talk sense sometimes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldnt swing as a couple if I wasnt a real cpl
I have no ties and shag who i want(well if they wanna shag me lol)
obviously its different if i was a proper cpl
I dont mind hooking up with fems for parties/clubs, but happy to go on my own if I can
This
Oh my god paddy you do talk sense sometimes "
bet thats ur fanny soaking at my intelligent and meaningful side |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We ( on the couples profile ) haven't been turned down because of us being a FB couple as of yet
But your couples profile states quite a few times that you are only fb's and NOT ("and will never ever be") a couple. So people know straight off that there's no love or affection there at all. Maybe they like the honesty. x
Bit harsh to say there is no affection...
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There has to be SOME kind of 'feeling' or 'affection' and respect towards the other person for a FB relationship to work otherwise the whole thing would be pretty shit if neither party liked or thought anything of the other - but that's just my opinion!
I think a lot of my FB, i love him to bits (not IN LOVE can i add!!) and i am more than happy trying something new with him as we respect each others limits and if one isn't 100% happy with something, even after it has been discussed, we don't do it!
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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There has to be SOME kind of 'feeling' or 'affection' and respect towards the other person for a FB relationship to work otherwise the whole thing would be pretty shit if neither party liked or thought anything of the other - but that's just my opinion!
I think a lot of my FB, i love him to bits (not IN LOVE can i add!!) and i am more than happy trying something new with him as we respect each others limits and if one isn't 100% happy with something, even after it has been discussed, we don't do it!
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Sadly not all are like that though.... |
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Speaking as someone who once upon a time had a swinging relationship for three years. I can certainly confirm that it is a lot easier to meet people when you are a couple.
It would certainly make it easier to meet people and have fun if I was to meet another amazing fuck buddy. But right now my thing is meeting couples as a single guy.
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please may i add my thoughts on this .
i swung with my husband we met cpls and single guys and did clubs .
so now i am a single female and i get asked all the time about meeting cpls with a guy
even got asked to meet a cpl with 1 guy
i ave never met b4 so what would your
take on that scenario be ????? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"please may i add my thoughts on this .
i swung with my husband we met cpls and single guys and did clubs .
so now i am a single female and i get asked all the time about meeting cpls with a guy
even got asked to meet a cpl with 1 guy
i ave never met b4 so what would your
take on that scenario be ?????"
If you have a guy you are happy with who you trust to meet another couple with (someone you know yourself) as a 'couple' then it's your choice if you want a foursome play date
If not - i personally wouldn't and would say 'sorry, i meet alone or nothing!' |
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"Lately I've seen lots of single male profiles looking for a single female to join them, saying it's easier to swing as a couple. This may be true but the wording on some profiles reads like they are desperate to hook up with anyone female because they are having no luck on their own.
It seems like they just want a female to use as 'bait' to get them some meets.
Is this why some people won't meet fb couples, in case the guy is just using the female? "
Haven't read all replies.For what it's worth I agree with you.
No matter what type of bloke messages me, immediately I read the part that says 'would also love to find a female to accompany me to clubs/ parties etc ' I delete or just say no thanks.
Doesn't matter how good looking , fit , fun , or 'nice' he is .... |
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P.S. The last part of your message.... my answer is NO. I'd meet a fb couple if I wanted to. I just won't entertain meeting someone who is looking for someone to take to clubs etc ..... well ........not more than once  |
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There has to be SOME kind of 'feeling' or 'affection' and respect towards the other person for a FB relationship to work otherwise the whole thing would be pretty shit if neither party liked or thought anything of the other - but that's just my opinion!
I think a lot of my FB, i love him to bits (not IN LOVE can i add!!) and i am more than happy trying something new with him as we respect each others limits and if one isn't 100% happy with something, even after it has been discussed, we don't do it!
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Totally agree with you on both points |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having been on here as a single guy and as a couple, I dont have more fun as a couple I just have different fun.
I never struggled as a single guy to get meets. I suspect it is those that do struggle that desperately seek a female to hopefully increase their opportunities. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We ( on the couples profile ) haven't been turned down because of us being a FB couple as of yet
But your couples profile states quite a few times that you are only fb's and NOT ("and will never ever be") a couple. So people know straight off that there's no love or affection there at all. Maybe they like the honesty. x
Bit harsh to say there is no affection...
There has to be SOME kind of 'feeling' or 'affection' and respect towards the other person for a FB relationship to work otherwise the whole thing would be pretty shit if neither party liked or thought anything of the other - but that's just my opinion!
I think a lot of my FB, i love him to bits (not IN LOVE can i add!!) and i am more than happy trying something new with him as we respect each others limits and if one isn't 100% happy with something, even after it has been discussed, we don't do it!
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Very good point. Apologies, I didn't mean to offend you. It was just my perception.
It's a good dynamic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lately I've seen lots of single male profiles looking for a single female to join them, saying it's easier to swing as a couple. This may be true but the wording on some profiles reads like they are desperate to hook up with anyone female because they are having no luck on their own.
It seems like they just want a female to use as 'bait' to get them some meets.
Is this why some people won't meet fb couples, in case the guy is just using the female?
I'm finding it hard to meet females!
Males seem to jump on me!
I don't get it? I'm an open and honest descreet lad non pushy lad.
But guys ain't really my thing I like the ladies too much!!
How can I be/look more appealing?
And what's the best opening sentances you have ever heard? X
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Well you can use mail filters to stop guys messaging you...so no more problems.
Try socials and clubs rather then relying on sending messages.
Back to the OP I would be against hooking up with someone like this for the reason you've have suggested, if a couple is a genuine fb couple then nothing against that, but some people hooking up for no other reason the the guy finds it easier with a fem in tow just feels a bit wrong. |
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Equally I have played with couples who became jealous of each other and also been with couples where their bond was so strong that as a single male I felt the "outsider" I have also been with a fem to meet a couple but I was the person to make up the numbers and the other fem wasn't really interested just really wanted a ffm
So there are as many combinations as there are types of people wow does that mean we all might be individual people and not pigeon holed into types |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We ( on the couples profile ) haven't been turned down because of us being a FB couple as of yet
But your couples profile states quite a few times that you are only fb's and NOT ("and will never ever be") a couple. So people know straight off that there's no love or affection there at all. Maybe they like the honesty. x
Bit harsh to say there is no affection...
There has to be SOME kind of 'feeling' or 'affection' and respect towards the other person for a FB relationship to work otherwise the whole thing would be pretty shit if neither party liked or thought anything of the other - but that's just my opinion!
I think a lot of my FB, i love him to bits (not IN LOVE can i add!!) and i am more than happy trying something new with him as we respect each others limits and if one isn't 100% happy with something, even after it has been discussed, we don't do it!
Very good point. Apologies, I didn't mean to offend you. It was just my perception.
It's a good dynamic."
Wasn't aimed at just you - a lot of people seem to think that all FB's have no emotion since they aren't a couple!
I can't speak for him but like i said i think a lot of him and i couldn't have the 'relationship' i have with him if i didn't
There is drawing a line for 'emotional boundaries' between you and there is cutting off completely - i know which i'd have more fun with! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"continuing on from my previous post.
question for couples .
how would you feel if a cpl came to your house to play with you but they not know each other ????"
If they both knew the other was coming and still arranged to come over then surely that was their choice?! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Equally I have played with couples who became jealous of each other and also been with couples where their bond was so strong that as a single male I felt the "outsider" I have also been with a fem to meet a couple but I was the person to make up the numbers and the other fem wasn't really interested just really wanted a ffm
So there are as many combinations as there are types of people wow does that mean we all might be individual people and not pigeon holed into types "
I've been in that situation. I was the spare part, the couple just wanted to meet my bloke. The first thing she asked in the pub when we met was if he meets on his own. Made the whole meet pretty shit to say the least. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't understand the fuck buddy dynamic. Not to criticise those who do it, but we prefer to meet with couples that have a relationship.
I doubt that couples of any kind have more fun from this site - it's quite tricky to match up availability with all parties attracted etc. Overall I think the ratio of actual couples is fairly low. |
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