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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm having a conversation with a lad who has a girlfriend, she doesn't know he's on fab. He's now trying to tell me that by being on here with my husband, as a fully consenting couple, that we are cheating on each other. I said that what he's doin is cheating, and his response is that I'm doing the exact same thing. What are people's opinions on this? |
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"I'm having a conversation with a lad who has a girlfriend, she doesn't know he's on fab. He's now trying to tell me that by being on here with my husband, as a fully consenting couple, that we are cheating on each other. I said that what he's doin is cheating, and his response is that I'm doing the exact same thing. What are people's opinions on this?"
surely cheating is doing it without the other persons knowledge. if you swing as a couple with both knowing how can it be cheating.. yes he is cheating as hes going behind her back..
Some people try anything to make themselves feel and sound better with what they are doing..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cheating means that someone is being deceived ie his partner. Ask him who is being deceived in your case as your partner is fully aware?  "
Just what I was going to say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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not cheating if both couples are here, and sharing each other. that is not cheating.
He is cheating on his gf, because he is playing with others without her knowledge |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To us he's cheating as he's hiding it from his gf as you are a couple that are both happy with swinging there's nothing wrong with that at all were the same x |
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Cheating is a personal thing depending on the rules of the couple.
If the behaviour breaks the couple's agreed rules or boundaries then it's cheating.
Some couples may have the rule that it's ok to have email or internet contact with others so having a profile on a swinging or chat site wouldn't be cheating for them.
If his girlfriend doesn't know he's on fab but they've not discussed it as a rule, he's technically not cheating but I'm not sure she would agree.
Too many people make assumptions that they are both on the same page when it comes to cheating. Normally, 'true' swingers define their boundaries and rules quite clearly.
All the above is just my opinion of course!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Cheating is a personal thing depending on the rules of the couple.
If the behaviour breaks the couple's agreed rules or boundaries then it's cheating.
Some couples may have the rule that it's ok to have email or internet contact with others so having a profile on a swinging or chat site wouldn't be cheating for them.
If his girlfriend doesn't know he's on fab but they've not discussed it as a rule, he's technically not cheating but I'm not sure she would agree.
Too many people make assumptions that they are both on the same page when it comes to cheating. Normally, 'true' swingers define their boundaries and rules quite clearly.
All the above is just my opinion of course!
L"
if your on as a couple you both need to have rules that your both comfortable with and to hide it from your partner is wrong he should really talk to his gf about it never know she might surprise him and be happy to join him |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
Strictly speaking, and not in any way saying this is my opinion, but having sex with someone you are married with could be seen, in some circles, as adultery.
That said, however, as far as I am concerned if you are both here swinging in a mutual arrangement which suits you both as a couple it is not 'cheating'.
Someone on here without the knowledge and consent of a loving partner IS cheating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wtf, what happened, no conversation on here should ever get to that point before the big block button gets used!! Don't let others ruin it for you, you're better than that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That all escalated and I've now changed all my pics to private and lost trust in the site completely  "
Why you letting the words of a total stranger make you feel bad? He means nothing to you so his words mean diddly squat too. Just block his arse and move on.... It's not the end of the world !!  |
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"I'm having a conversation with a lad who has a girlfriend, she doesn't know he's on fab. He's now trying to tell me that by being on here with my husband, as a fully consenting couple, that we are cheating on each other. I said that what he's doin is cheating, and his response is that I'm doing the exact same thing. What are people's opinions on this?"
Utter bolloks.
Consent - no cheating
No consent - cheating  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That all escalated and I've now changed all my pics to private and lost trust in the site completely
Why? x
By all accounts he is being a threatening bully now, needs to be taken to task tbh "
Then block and report. She should have just done that when he accused her of cheating. He sounds like a total moron to me, not someone she would want to meet anyway. What's the point in arguing your ground with a total stranger? Doesn't get you anywhere...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would personally never have got so deep in conversation with him...."
As soon as anyone shows signs of being weird I stop the conversation. OP block him and move on. If he was abusive, report him. And don't let what a stranger says bother you. x |
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