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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I been hurt badly two time. It does take time to get back on your feet.
I know that not all men and women bad people, I am not.
It has to, I as very trusting. I am not so much now. I also talk a lot more about how I feel about thing and not just let things go.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being honest each bad knock i have just makes it harder for me to allow someone in..
i let people into my heart too easily and have been taken for a fool one too many times. i've built a brick wall now. Its not just my feelings, its my daughter too.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Being honest each bad knock i have just makes it harder for me to allow someone in..
i let people into my heart too easily and have been taken for a fool one too many times. i've built a brick wall now. Its not just my feelings, its my daughter too.
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How will your daughter learn to love in a healthy way if your heart is enclosed in brick? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep, I broke his first so I guess we're both equal. I haven't heard from him in a very long time, I like to think if he got in contact that I'd have the courage to say no but I know I wouldn't |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Yep, I broke his first so I guess we're both equal. I haven't heard from him in a very long time, I like to think if he got in contact that I'd have the courage to say no but I know I wouldn't "
Courage or determination? Would either of you be the same people now? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yep, I broke his first so I guess we're both equal. I haven't heard from him in a very long time, I like to think if he got in contact that I'd have the courage to say no but I know I wouldn't
Courage or determination? Would either of you be the same people now?"
I'd be determined not to get involved again. It didn't work and never will so pointless wasting my time and his. I've definitely changed, much stronger and more mature, and I have a more realistic outlook on things now. He's probably the same stubborn but very handsome man he used to be! |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Yep, I broke his first so I guess we're both equal. I haven't heard from him in a very long time, I like to think if he got in contact that I'd have the courage to say no but I know I wouldn't
Courage or determination? Would either of you be the same people now?
I'd be determined not to get involved again. It didn't work and never will so pointless wasting my time and his. I've definitely changed, much stronger and more mature, and I have a more realistic outlook on things now. He's probably the same stubborn but very handsome man he used to be! "
I have men like that from my past. The attraction is always strong but the love I feel is the love for what was then, not what is now. Loving the fantasy man/woman is the thing to fight, I have found. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being honest each bad knock i have just makes it harder for me to allow someone in..
i let people into my heart too easily and have been taken for a fool one too many times. i've built a brick wall now. Its not just my feelings, its my daughter too.
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I know exactly what you mean, but for me I can't help thinking its something I have done, women tend to treat me like a doormat for some reason and I don't know what it is, these days I tend to stay away from relationships, I feel now like I have got to the point where I am only good for one thing to women, if I keep the feelings out of it then they can't get hurt, and it's working ok for me right now but hey, men having feelings, who knew lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yep, I broke his first so I guess we're both equal. I haven't heard from him in a very long time, I like to think if he got in contact that I'd have the courage to say no but I know I wouldn't
Courage or determination? Would either of you be the same people now?
I'd be determined not to get involved again. It didn't work and never will so pointless wasting my time and his. I've definitely changed, much stronger and more mature, and I have a more realistic outlook on things now. He's probably the same stubborn but very handsome man he used to be!
I have men like that from my past. The attraction is always strong but the love I feel is the love for what was then, not what is now. Loving the fantasy man/woman is the thing to fight, I have found."
I think that sums it up. You remember how you used to feel x |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Love like having a bath in custard
What if you don't have baths or like custard?
Baked beans ? Especially around Children in Need time "
It's still a bath and I don't like baked beans either. |
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"Love like having a bath in custard
What if you don't have baths or like custard?
Baked beans ? Especially around Children in Need time
It's still a bath and I don't like baked beans either."
As long as you don't have to eat the contents
Guess I'm trying to say that I try not to take life as seriously as I used to |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Love like having a bath in custard
What if you don't have baths or like custard?
Baked beans ? Especially around Children in Need time
It's still a bath and I don't like baked beans either.
As long as you don't have to eat the contents
Guess I'm trying to say that I try not to take life as seriously as I used to "
Love like it's actually fun. |
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"Being honest each bad knock i have just makes it harder for me to allow someone in..
i let people into my heart too easily and have been taken for a fool one too many times. i've built a brick wall now. Its not just my feelings, its my daughter too.
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Exchange the word daughter for son and I could've written this! In fact I'm actively avoiding meeting blokes now. I've been asked out by a couple in the last few weeks and said no even tho they are nice enough blokes x |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Love is like oxygen,
You get too much you get too high,
Not enough and you're gonna die.
The Sweet, 1978
*courtesy of the love-lyrics department* "
I haven't heard that song in a while. It's going around my head now. |
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"You have never been hurt.
Do you let past experiences infect new relationships?
What is your "love like..." sentence?
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I've only been in love once: with my husband. Our son died, we grieved apart, for once I wanted him to take control, assure me it would be alright, the pain would pass but instead he shut down my resentment grew.
We broke us so I don't hold any excess baggage of suspicion, distrust and resentment towards men and hope I meet another man that fills me with the joie de vivre! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You have never been hurt.
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I have a decal on my feature wall in front room that says....
Dance like no body is watching
Love like you've never been hurt
Sing like no body is listening
Live like its heaven on earth
I try to live my life to those sentiments |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"You have never been hurt.
I have a decal on my feature wall in front room that says....
Dance like no body is watching
Love like you've never been hurt
Sing like no body is listening
Live like its heaven on earth
I try to live my life to those sentiments "
I like that. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've never carried baggage into a new relationship, I just can't see why you would each relationship is a new experience and you need to leave the past in the past"
Your past experience does make the present you though. |
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"I've never carried baggage into a new relationship, I just can't see why you would each relationship is a new experience and you need to leave the past in the past
Your past experience does make the present you though." yes I agree but if you start a new relationship you should go in with a clean slate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've never carried baggage into a new relationship, I just can't see why you would each relationship is a new experience and you need to leave the past in the past
Your past experience does make the present you though."
Sadly this is the case. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You have never been hurt.
Do you let past experiences infect new relationships?
What is your "love like..." sentence?
I've only been in love once: with my husband. Our son died, we grieved apart, for once I wanted him to take control, assure me it would be alright, the pain would pass but instead he shut down my resentment grew.
We broke us so I don't hold any excess baggage of suspicion, distrust and resentment towards men and hope I meet another man that fills me with the joie de vivre! "
Could you ever rekindle that love? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've been hurt, I still fill up when I think about the pain caused to me... But all that's gone on in my passed has made me who I am today. I don't care any less, love my loved ones even more
Love like its a new beginning, when one chapter closes another one opens. |
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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"I've never carried baggage into a new relationship, I just can't see why you would each relationship is a new experience and you need to leave the past in the past
Your past experience does make the present you though."
To many people build walls,
when they should be building bridges
Experience should help you grow,
Not not stunt your tommorows.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I've never carried baggage into a new relationship, I just can't see why you would each relationship is a new experience and you need to leave the past in the past
Your past experience does make the present you though.
To many people build walls,
when they should be building bridges
Experience should help you grow,
Not not stunt your tommorows.
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I like the idea of building a bridge to your new experiences. So much more useful than sealing yourself in a tomb. |
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"Your soul depends on it, because one day it probably will. Without love the world is a slightly colder place
Not slightly colder but bloody freezing!"
It's what makes the world goes round, science tells you different but what do they know |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I will be honest... I miss love. I am swinging to get attention and sex without the pain of love. Its fun and I am enjoying it but I do miss love.
Big hugs everyone has their own reason"
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