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By *unlovers OP Couple
over a year ago
rotherham |
Why can us couples not say a polite no thank you to single guys without them asking why or hurling abuse
Might have to stop the polite replies or just simply ignore and that's not normally what I like to do
Does anyone else have this problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep I am a large lump of lard apparently ........  "
But this is only said when you decline to chat / meet them ?? No doubt they are super keen to meet you right up until you reject them. I've had that a couple if times. We are "fatties" apparently ..
If people are abusive - report them. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
I should be grateful for any offers at my age and size and stop being so fussy.
I have taken the no response and delete option now just so that I can add rude to the above labels.
Just block them and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why can us couples not say a polite no thank you to single guys without them asking why or hurling abuse
Might have to stop the polite replies or just simply ignore and that's not normally what I like to do
Does anyone else have this problem"
dont say it atoll |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep I am a large lump of lard apparently ........
But this is only said when you decline to chat / meet them ?? No doubt they are super keen to meet you right up until you reject them. I've had that a couple if times. We are "fatties" apparently ..
If people are abusive - report them. "
exactly this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never had an abusuve response on either account, more like whyyyyy and pleaseeee type ones, they will do anything blah blah
I take the stance to just ignore them if they become desperados.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a male in a couple, it has been a real eye opener to see how moronic some men can be. We limit our search to men 35+ and have generally found them to be more respectful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If a guy has made an effort with his message and I'm not interested, I will reply. I only delete the hi, how are you, fancy a fuck messages. Only had a few throw their dummies out, most guys appreciate the thanks, but no thanks... I've found anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get a lot of mail and in my years only one nasty man who lived up the road and felt I should see him as so close .. was years ago ...... so maybe just very lucky as find it very easy going here . x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You know, sometimes us Single Guys get abuse too - especially when we dare to refuse the advances of a couple or female!
I've had abuse once because I actually logged off the site to go and get on with real life and didn't message back for several hours!
Its a universal truth that anyone has the god-given right to act like an asshat! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I get a no thanks I reply with "ok thanxs anyway" and move on
There just jealous people that think there gods gift to the world and can't accept rejection
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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago
Bedworth |
Afraid it happens to us all at some point 
It's the reason why I rarely reply with a no thanks. Normally just delete unless it's a really nice and well written message. In which case I say thanks but you're not for me |
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"Why can us couples not say a polite no thank you to single guys without them asking why or hurling abuse
Might have to stop the polite replies or just simply ignore and that's not normally what I like to do
Does anyone else have this problemdont say it atoll "
Is that a Pacific answer?  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Why can us couples not say a polite no thank you to single guys without them asking why or hurling abuse
Might have to stop the polite replies or just simply ignore and that's not normally what I like to do
Does anyone else have this problem"
Yup. I get it occasionally. But I get more polite responses. |
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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago
Bedworth |
"for those that sat they get abuse
do you actually report it
or you just block them
so they can do it others"
I report and then block. Hopefully then admin can do something to stop them abusing others |
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We used to reply to all even to say no thanks but in a lot of cases it just ended up giving a green light to multiple messages back asking why not etc, shame really as we think it is polite to reply but has made it much harder to do that now |
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we've generally found people polite and respectful.
We do try and respond to people who have taken the time to message and try and say why it's a no if possible, too far away, not our age range etc. |
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Am I the only one who likes to play with the numpties? 
I do have a warning on my profile about the bitchy side of my nature (ffs it's there in my user name!) but it's amazing how many don't bother to read so I feel free to slap them down with impunity
Then they really get nasty! And I report and block...
Yep, I'm a bitch  but the warning is there. |
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By *abbotMan
over a year ago
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I often hear guys don't take no very well ,, but just have to accept the fact we all like different things ... I am bald so some girls don't like that .. also swingers are normally 40's age wise but the ladies want young bucks ... if you dont get a reply or a polite no then take it on the chin and keep trying else where .. you eventually meet some one and have a good time ... believe me .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we generally get a thanks and best wishes, occasionally the if you change your mind please bear me in mind...once git a you don't know what you're missing from a couple...yeah we'll live...not generally any abuse apart from one "dom" who thought he could scathe us with his sarcasm...he didn't... |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Is this Have a go at singles again, I think you find there are lots of CPLs just as bad and if not A lot Worse"
there is this.....
but i think by replying to some people in general they see it as opening a dialouge, when the person sending it sees it as closing one...
beside, call me a hard hearted arse, but i think there are too many sensitive souls who need a no thank you......
if someone is not interested not getting back is normally as good a sign as any... if people are interested they get back (my inbox is busy because i am guilty of not always keeping up with it, but even i get back to those who raise my eyes eventually)
its not just a single man issue, like toon said, i have had some pretty stroopy replies from couples who believe they are doing me some sort of favour by meeting me....
its an arse issue!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Haha,,,,I guess I must be alone in having a good old chuckle reading some of the vociferous ShitO’grams my polite rejections occasionally attract…
My-bad....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hand on heart I've NEVER sent anyone a stroppy response altho I've received one or two when I've declined to meet.
There's absolute no point getting 'arsey' !
People have every right to pick n choose who they wanna meet (or not)
And one person's champagne may well b someone else's vinegar  |
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"Why can us couples not say a polite no thank you to single guys without them asking why or hurling abuse
Might have to stop the polite replies or just simply ignore and that's not normally what I like to do
Does anyone else have this problem"
No, as when visible my profile clearly states the type of man I'm looking for. I also let it be known I will not respond to anyone outwith my criteria: and I don't.
Personally I find threads like these irksome as it's within our control who we respond to. If answering people we have no intention of meeting spoils your enjoyment of the site you know what to do!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never had a rude or nasty reply. Most have been polite and only one queried our response based on our age range in profile. He was polite when we explained that Tor prefers me. Older and women same age or younger.
Perhaps we are just lucky |
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"Yep I am a large lump of lard apparently ........
But this is only said when you decline to chat / meet them ?? No doubt they are super keen to meet you right up until you reject them. I've had that a couple if times. We are "fatties" apparently ..
If people are abusive - report them. "
I'm morbidly obese: not once in my five years on this site has anyone referred to my size: not once.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is this Have a go at singles again, I think you find there are lots of CPLs just as bad and if not A lot Worse
there is this.....
but i think by replying to some people in general they see it as opening a dialouge, when the person sending it sees it as closing one...
beside, call me a hard hearted arse, but i think there are too many sensitive souls who need a no thank you......
if someone is not interested not getting back is normally as good a sign as any... if people are interested they get back (my inbox is busy because i am guilty of not always keeping up with it, but even i get back to those who raise my eyes eventually)
its not just a single man issue, like toon said, i have had some pretty stroopy replies from couples who believe they are doing me some sort of favour by meeting me....
its an arse issue!!!!"
Well we were lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep I am a large lump of lard apparently ........
But this is only said when you decline to chat / meet them ?? No doubt they are super keen to meet you right up until you reject them. I've had that a couple if times. We are "fatties" apparently ..
If people are abusive - report them.
I'm morbidly obese: not once in my five years on this site has anyone referred to my size: not once.
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That's because they're frightened of you |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
In almost 2 years, one slightly arsey message after I relaxed my numpty filters cos I thought him good looking (shallow??? Moi???) Every other time my thanks but no thanks has either ended the exchange or resulted in an equally polite thanks for replying which then ends the exchange...mind you my block list is full of singles of both sexes and couples who didn't make it past the numpty filter  |
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By *abbotMan
over a year ago
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well you look lush to me .. and as you said they messaged you .. just block them and move on .. better to remember the nice experiences we have than the crap ones... I have met some amazing people, who are now good friends ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why can us couples not say a polite no thank you to single guys without them asking why or hurling abuse
Might have to stop the polite replies or just simply ignore and that's not normally what I like to do
Does anyone else have this problem"
Not really. We've only had this happen twice in the last year. Some guys send back a polite 'thanks for replying, and good luck' message and, a couple of times, just having the manners to do that has made us (or Ruby) look at them again. But, there is a 'way' of saying No thanks.... and there is a way of not saying it.
Not suggesting you are doing the latter, but if you are getting abusive responses a lot of the time, maybe the 'No thanks' needs looking at..?? Just a thought..
ted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And one person's champagne may well be someone else's vinegar "
.. and that little catchphrase is going in 'Uncle Ted's Book of Useful Catchphrases'...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why can us couples not say a polite no thank you to single guys without them asking why or hurling abuse
Might have to stop the polite replies or just simply ignore and that's not normally what I like to do
Does anyone else have this problem
Not really. We've only had this happen twice in the last year. Some guys send back a polite 'thanks for replying, and good luck' message and, a couple of times, just having the manners to do that has made us (or Ruby) look at them again. But, there is a 'way' of saying No thanks.... and there is a way of not saying it.
Not suggesting you are doing the latter, but if you are getting abusive responses a lot of the time, maybe the 'No thanks' needs looking at..?? Just a thought..
ted."
Ooooooooh superted I can't imagine ANYONE ever turning down a fwibbally wibbally piece of goyjusness like your good self
And u r welcome anytime to pinch my phrases (oh n my cheeks) |
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By *unlovers OP Couple
over a year ago
rotherham |
As we have been on this site for years we have always been courteous and polite with everyone but its just every now again when the guys get clever and want to know the reason why you have said no thanx....isn't it obvious.
I am not desperate and will only invite a guy into our sex life if I fancy the arse off him or if they have read our profile thoroughly......anyway time to move
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"Yep I am a large lump of lard apparently ........
But this is only said when you decline to chat / meet them ?? No doubt they are super keen to meet you right up until you reject them. I've had that a couple if times. We are "fatties" apparently ..
If people are abusive - report them.
I'm morbidly obese: not once in my five years on this site has anyone referred to my size: not once.
That's because they're frightened of you "
 What?!! The keyboard warriors?!! Of little ol' fluffy wuffy me?!! Nah! |
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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago
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We only relax filters if we are looking to meet guys for that reason, we will say however that there are some amazing chaps on here.
A few that interest on the forums too, if only they were closer  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If, and admittedly it's quite rare, I get a no thank you as opposed to no reply at all (not so rare). I will reply thanking them for taking the time to reply and generally add 'have fun' to the end. Manners cost nothing. We could meet at a club etc and if recognised at least you could be sociable if it were to happen.
If you get abusive messages from someone you have rejected it just goes to show that you have probably made a good decision in rejecting them in the first place so should probably take it as a compliment of your decision making capabilities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep I am a large lump of lard apparently ........
But this is only said when you decline to chat / meet them ?? No doubt they are super keen to meet you right up until you reject them. I've had that a couple if times. We are "fatties" apparently ..
If people are abusive - report them.
I'm morbidly obese: not once in my five years on this site has anyone referred to my size: not once.
That's because they're frightened of you
What?!! The keyboard warriors?!! Of little ol' fluffy wuffy me?!! Nah! "
I know I don't understand it. Whenever I see you post i think of hearts and flowers and bunny rabbits and kittens and pink feather boas and.... Oh hang on the puppet master is calling me, who needs to trim my nose back a bit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think some peoples egos won't allow them to accept a polite "no thanks", which is obviously totally unacceptable!! Respect is the key rule to one of my favourite pass times!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do every now and again get abuse when I have said no thanks, i've had guys tell me i couldn't do better than them, I should be grateful of their attention etc one guy told me I only use sex sites because I cant pull in real life
But mostly I get the but whyyyyyyyyyy, pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, and begging mail |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd be happy to receive a "no thank you", than just a delete and no reply, I think that's just rude, if I can put 10 minutes into writing a message, you can spend 2 seconds to say "no thanks" |
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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"Why can us couples not say a polite no thank you to single guys without them asking why or hurling abuse
Might have to stop the polite replies or just simply ignore and that's not normally what I like to do
Does anyone else have this problem"
because some people (guys/girls/couples) cant handle rejection and think everyone on this site will fuck anything with a heartbeat  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think some peoples egos won't allow them to accept a polite "no thanks", which is obviously totally unacceptable!! Respect is the key rule to one of my favourite pass times!!!"
my personal thought on this is because its very hard for guys to get a meet on here they tend to drop their standards and find it insulting when even women they don't really fancy that much turn them down |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I may be wrong but could it be the more mature section that get turned down more including my good self
I wouldn't turn you down you didnt lol x"
Oh no I didn't did I |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I may be wrong but could it be the more mature section that get turned down more including my good self
I wouldn't turn you down you didnt lol x
Oh no I didn't did I "
have to work on bambi now lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I may be wrong but could it be the more mature section that get turned down more including my good self
I wouldn't turn you down you didnt lol x
Oh no I didn't did I have to work on bambi now lol x"
Yes you do lol x |
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"Yep I am a large lump of lard apparently ........
But this is only said when you decline to chat / meet them ?? No doubt they are super keen to meet you right up until you reject them. I've had that a couple if times. We are "fatties" apparently ..
If people are abusive - report them.
I'm morbidly obese: not once in my five years on this site has anyone referred to my size: not once.
That's because they're frightened of you
What?!! The keyboard warriors?!! Of little ol' fluffy wuffy me?!! Nah!
I know I don't understand it. Whenever I see you post i think of hearts and flowers and bunny rabbits and kittens and pink feather boas and.... Oh hang on the puppet master is calling me, who needs to trim my nose back a bit "
That Gepetto has been busy today. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I may be wrong but could it be the more mature section that get turned down more including my good self
I wouldn't turn you down you didnt lol x
Oh no I didn't did I have to work on bambi now lol x you see her before me lol x
Yes you do lol x "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep I am a large lump of lard apparently ........
But this is only said when you decline to chat / meet them ?? No doubt they are super keen to meet you right up until you reject them. I've had that a couple if times. We are "fatties" apparently ..
If people are abusive - report them.
I'm morbidly obese: not once in my five years on this site has anyone referred to my size: not once.
That's because they're frightened of you
What?!! The keyboard warriors?!! Of little ol' fluffy wuffy me?!! Nah!
I know I don't understand it. Whenever I see you post i think of hearts and flowers and bunny rabbits and kittens and pink feather boas and.... Oh hang on the puppet master is calling me, who needs to trim my nose back a bit
That Gepetto has been busy today. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I may be wrong but could it be the more mature section that get turned down more including my good self
I wouldn't turn you down you didnt lol x
Oh no I didn't did I have to work on bambi now lol x you see her before me lol x
Yes you do lol x "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I may be wrong but could it be the more mature section that get turned down more including my good self
I wouldn't turn you down you didnt lol x
Oh no I didn't did I have to work on bambi now lol x you see her before me lol x
Yes you do lol x. thank you x
Ok fine x "
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"I'd be happy to receive a "no thank you", than just a delete and no reply, I think that's just rude, if I can put 10 minutes into writing a message, you can spend 2 seconds to say "no thanks" "
No it's not! I don't care if someone has written a sonnet to rival Shakespeare. If they're not what I'm looking for and want to chance it that's their look out.
Anyone who meets my criteria but I don't want to meet them for whatever reason will always get a response from me. |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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But mostly I get the but whyyyyyyyyyy, pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, and begging mail "
This is what I have had. Along with the old fat munter comment (I think that only happened once, and that was due to me trying to be a smart arse ).
When I was meeting, 90% of the time I'd reply with a "No thanks, good luck" etc. But I did say early on in my profile that if they had "Won't meet smokers" I would automatically delete it. Naff all to do with ego!
I think a lot check out the senders profile before even opening the message. I know I did. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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anyone that replies in a less than respectful way to a " no thanks " ought to take a long hard look at themselves.
My tack is always to express gartitude for any reply even if it is not the reply I would like, at the end of the day it is good manners and the least anyone can do. |
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By *abbotMan
over a year ago
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Spot on .. we are not exactly talking about a walk in the park ..
this is all about the fabulous ladies on this site occasionally letting us in there knickers ... and life would be really crap if they didn't ... respect at all times ... site should suspend account persons for any insulting behaviour .. |
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