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By *ustJake OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/north east |
Been on here a little while now and spoke to some lovely women, but I find it so difficult to get a reply from most females I try to initiate conversation with.... Am I doing something wrong? Or is it just a case of I'm ugly  |
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you aren't ugly lol. Also you have two verifications.
If you really find it soul destroying I'd leave it for a bit because it can't be worth it surely.
Traditionally single men find it very difficult but lots of people say that chatting in the forums helps.
Good luck  |
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over a year ago
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You're a single male on a swinging site saturated with them - remember, you could be the equivalent of a banofee pie with chocolate sprinkles, but if you were just one of millions of banofee pies with chocolate sprinkles then you're going to struggle to be the one that appeals - you need to prove that your toffee is the butteriest, your chocolate the smoothest and your bananas the most...'bananary' in order to be the banofee pie with chocolate sprinkles that the ladies want. |
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"You're a single male on a swinging site saturated with them - remember, you could be the equivalent of a banofee pie with chocolate sprinkles, but if you were just one of millions of banofee pies with chocolate sprinkles then you're going to struggle to be the one that appeals - you need to prove that your toffee is the butteriest, your chocolate the smoothest and your bananas the most...'bananary' in order to be the banofee pie with chocolate sprinkles that the ladies want."
You just made banoffee pie sound really fucking hot   |
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"You're a single male on a swinging site saturated with them - remember, you could be the equivalent of a banofee pie with chocolate sprinkles, but if you were just one of millions of banofee pies with chocolate sprinkles then you're going to struggle to be the one that appeals - you need to prove that your toffee is the butteriest, your chocolate the smoothest and your bananas the most...'bananary' in order to be the banofee pie with chocolate sprinkles that the ladies want.
You just made banoffee pie sound really fucking hot "
frankly just the words banoffee pie do it for me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You're a single male on a swinging site saturated with them - remember, you could be the equivalent of a banofee pie with chocolate sprinkles, but if you were just one of millions of banofee pies with chocolate sprinkles then you're going to struggle to be the one that appeals - you need to prove that your toffee is the butteriest, your chocolate the smoothest and your bananas the most...'bananary' in order to be the banofee pie with chocolate sprinkles that the ladies want."
Like the m and s advert. |
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By *ustJake OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/north east |
"You're a single male on a swinging site saturated with them - remember, you could be the equivalent of a banofee pie with chocolate sprinkles, but if you were just one of millions of banofee pies with chocolate sprinkles then you're going to struggle to be the one that appeals - you need to prove that your toffee is the butteriest, your chocolate the smoothest and your bananas the most...'bananary' in order to be the banofee pie with chocolate sprinkles that the ladies want."
I understand pal appreciated... But I honestly have tried many different approaches when messaging  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wouldn't say your ugly, so don't start self doubting yourself. You are on a site where the men are probably 100/1 female... You have to be confident as a confident man will stand out more, but not too overly so it looks like arrogance. Keep seeking those you feel you would like to meet, if it turns out they don't want to meet you, just move on and try again... There is always someone on here for everyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmmmmmm! Could the profile do with a tweak? The pix won't set world on fire cos one is quite dark n neither convey much of a sense of you.
Also I think (believe) some gals get bit put off with phrases resembling ' always up for a laugh ' n that sorta attitood!! I know u MEAN you're chilled out but sometimes it reads as if guys are just total 'lads'.
Then again take no notice of me I'm no expert!  |
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By *ustJake OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/north east |
"Wouldn't say your ugly, so don't start self doubting yourself. You are on a site where the men are probably 100/1 female... You have to be confident as a confident man will stand out more, but not too overly so it looks like arrogance. Keep seeking those you feel you would like to meet, if it turns out they don't want to meet you, just move on and try again... There is always someone on here for everyone "
Appreciated thank you I've had more replies from Females tonight than over the past 4 months haha maybe it's the women around the north west? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Appreciated thank you I've had more replies from Females tonight than over the past 4 months haha maybe it's the women around the north west? "
Shhhhh don't be saying that you may scare them all off!!!
Her  |
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By *ustJake OP Man
over a year ago
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"Hmmmmmmm! Could the profile do with a tweak? The pix won't set world on fire cos one is quite dark n neither convey much of a sense of you.
Also I think (believe) some gals get bit put off with phrases resembling ' always up for a laugh ' n that sorta attitood!! I know u MEAN you're chilled out but sometimes it reads as if guys are just total 'lads'.
Then again take no notice of me I'm no expert! "
Thanks maybe that's something I'll look at, but like you said I am only being honest regarding my personality and character I have better pics private and I do attach them with every message I send...  |
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By *ustJake OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/north east |
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Appreciated thank you I've had more replies from Females tonight than over the past 4 months haha maybe it's the women around the north west?
Shhhhh don't be saying that you may scare them all off!!!
Her "
Haha I seem to be an expert at that... However maybe my luck
Is about to take a positive turn |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hmmmmmmm! Could the profile do with a tweak? The pix won't set world on fire cos one is quite dark n neither convey much of a sense of you.
Also I think (believe) some gals get bit put off with phrases resembling ' always up for a laugh ' n that sorta attitood!! I know u MEAN you're chilled out but sometimes it reads as if guys are just total 'lads'.
Then again take no notice of me I'm no expert!
Thanks maybe that's something I'll look at, but like you said I am only being honest regarding my personality and character I have better pics private and I do attach them with every message I send... "
At 30 the world is your lobster so you should do ok for meets long as u remember 'every picture tells a story ' and us single guys have our pix out there in competition with each other so they need to be eyecatching! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Appreciated thank you I've had more replies from Females tonight than over the past 4 months haha maybe it's the women around the north west?
Shhhhh don't be saying that you may scare them all off!!!
Her
Haha I seem to be an expert at that... However maybe my luck
Is about to take a positive turn "
Aye you gotta stay positive on here!
But personally I would edit profile a bit, say a bit more about what you're looking for ect, make yourself stand out from the other guys and maybe a few different pics ect.
Her |
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By *ustJake OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/north east |
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Appreciated thank you I've had more replies from Females tonight than over the past 4 months haha maybe it's the women around the north west?
Shhhhh don't be saying that you may scare them all off!!!
Her
Haha I seem to be an expert at that... However maybe my luck
Is about to take a positive turn
Aye you gotta stay positive on here!
But personally I would edit profile a bit, say a bit more about what you're looking for ect, make yourself stand out from the other guys and maybe a few different pics ect.
Her "
Some pointers? Privately? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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why not just try a club....ur in manchester ffs..
anyway, profile is ok..am sure it attracts attention, but as buff as u are, u still need to get out in a swinging environment, its in ur interests..so why not go for it?
u might get a few meets in a nite, or get future attention from showing ur outgoing and sociable |
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By *ustJake OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/north east |
"Hmmmmmmm! Could the profile do with a tweak? The pix won't set world on fire cos one is quite dark n neither convey much of a sense of you.
Also I think (believe) some gals get bit put off with phrases resembling ' always up for a laugh ' n that sorta attitood!! I know u MEAN you're chilled out but sometimes it reads as if guys are just total 'lads'.
Then again take no notice of me I'm no expert!
Thanks maybe that's something I'll look at, but like you said I am only being honest regarding my personality and character I have better pics private and I do attach them with every message I send...
At 30 the world is your lobster so you should do ok for meets long as u remember 'every picture tells a story ' and us single guys have our pix out there in competition with each other so they need to be eyecatching! "
I understand thank you for the input  |
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By *ustJake OP Man
over a year ago
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"why not just try a club....ur in manchester ffs..
anyway, profile is ok..am sure it attracts attention, but as buff as u are, u still need to get out in a swinging environment, its in ur interests..so why not go for it?
u might get a few meets in a nite, or get future attention from showing ur outgoing and sociable"
Believe me I am contemplating that.. But I honestly have never been in that situation before and wouldn't know what the fook to expect  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The immediate thing that stands out in your profile is your title- average lad.
I would not consider you a lad firstly and secondly the word average conjures up no real interest for me...more same old etc
The text in your profile is not really descriptive. About from that no problem |
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By *ustJake OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/north east |
"The immediate thing that stands out in your profile is your title- average lad.
I would not consider you a lad firstly and secondly the word average conjures up no real interest for me...more same old etc
The text in your profile is not really descriptive. About from that no problem "
Wow thank you Julie, your a bit of alright aren't ya (openly flirting)
Yes I am definitely going to change that.. I originally put that as a way of expressing my views of myself ie not handsome but no ugly... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"why not just try a club....ur in manchester ffs..
anyway, profile is ok..am sure it attracts attention, but as buff as u are, u still need to get out in a swinging environment, its in ur interests..so why not go for it?
u might get a few meets in a nite, or get future attention from showing ur outgoing and sociable
Believe me I am contemplating that.. But I honestly have never been in that situation before and wouldn't know what the fook to expect "
U'll get overpowered by lots of fanny, and run home whimpering like a beaten dog.
seriously m8...u hardly look like a chicken...whats the worst thing that could happen in a swing club ffs, bit of perving...smiles chats and who knows..think about how many people actually go and how frequent.Sit on ur arse and u lose out, thats my advice! |
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By *ustJake OP Man
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Manchester/north east |
"why not just try a club....ur in manchester ffs..
anyway, profile is ok..am sure it attracts attention, but as buff as u are, u still need to get out in a swinging environment, its in ur interests..so why not go for it?
u might get a few meets in a nite, or get future attention from showing ur outgoing and sociable
Believe me I am contemplating that.. But I honestly have never been in that situation before and wouldn't know what the fook to expect
U'll get overpowered by lots of fanny, and run home whimpering like a beaten dog.
seriously m8...u hardly look like a chicken...whats the worst thing that could happen in a swing club ffs, bit of perving...smiles chats and who knows..think about how many people actually go and how frequent.Sit on ur arse and u lose out, thats my advice!"
Actually made me smile this mate thanks |
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