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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

How Comes Newbies Are Made To Feel So Unwelcome

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who said that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

it does seem like it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you or is it a case of things aren't quite what you'd hoped for ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been posting on and off for few years.

I think to start with I felt the same. Now to be honest I couldn't care less. I post and if people like okay and of they don't tough

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been posting on and off for few years.

I think to start with I felt the same. Now to be honest I couldn't care less. I post and if people like okay and of they don't tough

Yes you have got us all under your thumb now

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Have a look at the guidance for new forum users thread.

You're not unwelcome but it is how you feel.

Welcome.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

By who?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be fair OP the two threads I've seen that you started were on extremes of a spectrum of a lifestyle that some people take seriously. The general advice for newbies is to join in with threads. Everyone has to be new once so really newbies are welcome otherwise no one would use the forums ever.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"By who?"

Is it the northerners ? They're a dam unfriendly bunch

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By *hyllyphyllyMan over a year ago

Bradford

Is what way?

Is this a "Forums are too cliquey" or "I haven't had a shag yet" thread?

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/183832

The thread ended full (of nonsense but with useful tips inbetween). I can't bump it.

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By *hyllyphyllyMan over a year ago

Bradford

"By who?

Is it the northerners ? They're a dam unfriendly bunch

Fuck you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To be fair OP the two threads I've seen that you started were on extremes of a spectrum of a lifestyle that some people take seriously. The general advice for newbies is to join in with threads. Everyone has to be new once so really newbies are welcome otherwise no one would use the forums ever. "

Bugger! That's piqued my curiosity as to what the two threads were lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"By who?

Is it the northerners ? They're a dam unfriendly bunch

We are...bastards the.lot of us

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By *un_JuiceCouple over a year ago

Nr Chester

Welcome to all of you either new to the site/forums or both. You may well feel that justifiably in some cases. Think about what you get involved in, it can get personal, either swerve them particular threads or be prepared. One things for certain if your opinion doesn't tie in with their beliefs you will know about it. That aside they are in the minority and in real life perhaps half decent. It just isn't worth getting drawn in Have fun, you,ll get chatting to and perhaps meet some new decent folk. We haven't met anyone from the forums, not purposely just that our meets are conducted away from it. We did find due to the dare you threads that once privateessages and pics were exchanged a lot of forum users were lovely.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bugger! That's piqued my curiosity as to what the two threads were lol

Then click on the green arrow next to the OP name and it will give you a list of the latest threads that he has posted in/started.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

hay i am northen and i am a nice guy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was never made to feel unwelcome although I wouldn't have given a crap anyway...

I looked at your posting history and you have literally only posted attention seeking threads which generally don't go down well because they have been done a million times and people get sick of them (I for one).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Newbies are welcome like everything you have to show your trusted not on the site for a quick fix we are new and felt very welcome and enjoying the lifestyle we are going to a social soon to get us better known and a few more verifications. It just takes time to get recognised that's all .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been posting on and off for few years.

I think to start with I felt the same. Now to be honest I couldn't care less. I post and if people like okay and of they don't tough

No crap, never noticed

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By *hyllyphyllyMan over a year ago

Bradford

Then click on the green arrow next to the OP name and it will give you a list of the latest threads that he has posted in/started. "

I did not know that

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

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"I was never made to feel unwelcome although I wouldn't have given a crap anyway...

Maybe people should ignore the threads they don't like and let the newbies join in how they want to.

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By *hyllyphyllyMan over a year ago

Bradford

"Is what way?

Is this a "Forums are too cliquey" or "I haven't had a shag yet" thread?"

Well I've answered my own question.... it's the latter

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By *londeCazWoman over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Welcome! I've clicked the green arrow and seen only threads you've started...and as Ruby said, a couple of them were on the D/s lifestyle and were rather naive. Join in on other threads, post some utter bollox (if you want ideas, press my green arrow, I seldom talk sense

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By *ighland_RoseCouple over a year ago

Brigadoon

"How Comes Newbies Are Made To Feel So Unwelcome

Do you mean on the forum or on the site ie: not getting responses to your messages?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was never made to feel unwelcome although I wouldn't have given a crap anyway...

Maybe people should ignore the threads they don't like and let the newbies join in how they want to."

No not being sycophantic to an admin... I do agree.

When I first joined in forums I'd scoff, then realised I don't have to comment or participate....do what makes you happy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"By who?

Is it the northerners ? They're a dam unfriendly bunch

Grrrrrrrr I'm a Notherner lol n were as friendly as can be

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe people should ignore the threads they don't like and let the newbies join in how they want to."

Indeed I agree; I was only offering advice, I don't believe I can see my name in any of the threads I mentioned.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

Anyway....welcome to the forum, join in other threads as well as posting your own and you won't feel like a newbie for long.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

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"Maybe people should ignore the threads they don't like and let the newbies join in how they want to.

Indeed I agree; I was only offering advice, I don't believe I can see my name in any of the threads I mentioned."

I don't believe I said I had seen your name either.

I was commenting on your comment in this thread

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Anyway....welcome to the forum, join in other threads as well as posting your own and you won't feel like a newbie for long.

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I was just going to type that, copier

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"Anyway....welcome to the forum, join in other threads as well as posting your own and you won't feel like a newbie for long.

I was just going to type that, copier

ESP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was never made to feel unwelcome although I wouldn't have given a crap anyway...

That wasn't very welcoming

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"I've been posting on and off for few years.

I think to start with I felt the same. Now to be honest I couldn't care less. I post and if people like okay and of they don't tough

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

I never felt unwelcome when I joined and I've never really seen it.

There is a danger of being ignored for a while but if you post regularly you start to fit right in, every one does.

I think in your case OP you want too much too soon and are a bit shouty about it. I can see how some will just refuse to take you seriously. Not me though, I like your strong use of capital letters and thread content.

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By *un_JuiceCouple over a year ago

Nr Chester

"By who?

Is it the northerners ? They're a dam unfriendly bunch

Grrrrrrrr I'm a Notherner lol n were as friendly as can be

If you're from the Potteries you,re surely a West Midlander

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Then click on the green arrow next to the OP name and it will give you a list of the latest threads that he has posted in/started.

I did not know that"

Yeah me neither but I've now been n hada butchers lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Keep at it...not all will like you....not all will agree with you but keep posting i did and now im stuck here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think when people are first new they think everybody in the forums knows everybody which isn't true, the threads "dare to show" clearly showed that newbies are most welcome but I do understand that some people feel daunted - my advice would be just jump in and get posting and you'll soon be a regular and not newbie

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Then click on the green arrow next to the OP name and it will give you a list of the latest threads that he has posted in/started.

I did not know that"

See, you can learn lots in the forums, whether you want to or not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"By who?

Is it the northerners ? They're a dam unfriendly bunch

Grrrrrrrr I'm a Notherner lol n were as friendly as can be

If you're from the Potteries you,re surely a West Midlander

Yep the northern line starts at Manchester and runs across to the easy coast via Leeds.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Run.....run for the hills while you can, before the mob get their hands on you or you'll be on a padded cell before you can say " what bloody clique?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Then click on the green arrow next to the OP name and it will give you a list of the latest threads that he has posted in/started.

I did not know that

Yeah me neither but I've now been n hada butchers lol

My job for the day is complete

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How Comes Newbies Are Made To Feel So Unwelcome

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I been on here a while an never met anyone or dont get replys back but I dont moan about if people wanna reply they will if they dont then they dont and even goin back to when I was new to the site if ya dont like it dont come on here no offence

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"Anyway....welcome to the forum, join in other threads as well as posting your own and you won't feel like a newbie for long.

PS using all caps will make you look like you are shouting , so I would drop them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Then click on the green arrow next to the OP name and it will give you a list of the latest threads that he has posted in/started.

I did not know that

Yeah me neither but I've now been n hada butchers lol

My job for the day is complete

Ah Obi Won Kenobi - greatness have you truly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Then click on the green arrow next to the OP name and it will give you a list of the latest threads that he has posted in/started.

I did not know that"

Neither did I. That's pretty cool

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyway....welcome to the forum, join in other threads as well as posting your own and you won't feel like a newbie for long.

PS using all caps will make you look like you are shouting , so I would drop them

Can you put that in caps ruggers I can't quite hear you!

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By *hyllyphyllyMan over a year ago

Bradford

Then click on the green arrow next to the OP name and it will give you a list of the latest threads that he has posted in/started.

I did not know that

Yeah me neither but I've now been n hada butchers lol

My job for the day is complete

Not yet....

Now go and create a new topic about that so we can all bow to your superior knowledge

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"Anyway....welcome to the forum, join in other threads as well as posting your own and you won't feel like a newbie for long.

PS using all caps will make you look like you are shouting , so I would drop them

Can you put that in caps ruggers I can't quite hear you!

How about BUGGER OFF...that loud enough?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Then click on the green arrow next to the OP name and it will give you a list of the latest threads that he has posted in/started.

I did not know that

Yeah me neither but I've now been n hada butchers lol

My job for the day is complete

Not yet....

Now go and create a new topic about that so we can all bow to your superior knowledge

Noooooo, then the thread would be deemed as attention seeking by all those that already know this trade secret that I wasn't supposed to divulge (I'll now be drummed out of the non existant FAB clique just for mentioning it in this thread).

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

Oh gawd don't start with the bitching please.....lets try and make the man welcome without it.

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By *onnoisseur100Man over a year ago

Woking-ish

"By who?

Is it the northerners ? They're a dam unfriendly bunch

We are...bastards the.lot of us

Just because you come from up t north, nowhere near civilisation, and might not know who daddy is doesn't mean you can't have fun shagging !!!!!

LOL

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How Comes Newbies Are Made To Feel So Unwelcome

Your very first forum post was

"How will I ever get the chance to have some fun and show my worth if I'm just the newbie second profile got bored of being the newbie first time around but now I'm back and still the newbie should I just call it a day ?? "

Shows you don't have much staying power, and also a bit of a chip on the shoulder attitude, which will put people off.

Not sure which aspect of the site you feel unwelcome in, if it's meets, then yes you have to get verified and known... to get meets where you can get verified... usual advice is keep trying, some meet unverified people some don't, but make sure you visit clubs and socials to get known.

If it's the forums well there have been quite a lot of threads started by you that have a large number of replies, I haven't read them so don't know what sort of replies, but taking the pi** is a hobby for many (including me) on the forums, it's banter, so enjoy it

if people don't like you they don't respond!

I don't follow every thread unless I am working on something really boring that has a lot of wait time, but contribute here and there and in a year don't think I have started as many topics as you have in two weeks, try getting involved with other peoples topics too, get your personality known a bit and things become more personal.

Welcome to the forums / site, stick it out a bit longer this time and you may have fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyway....welcome to the forum, join in other threads as well as posting your own and you won't feel like a newbie for long.

PS using all caps will make you look like you are shouting , so I would drop them

Can you put that in caps ruggers I can't

quite hear you!

How about BUGGER OFF...that loud enough?

No need to shout captain my captain !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've changed my mind it's the bunch from the south west that are the issue. They should have their own site fabSW so as not to upset the rest of us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have always felt that everyone is welcome even those that have been here for ages and don't normally say anything. You could always try being me as i am the one that kills most threads

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have been on the site just over 6 months.

And only just started using the forums, and everybody has been nice and friendly.

I now spend more time on here than messaging lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How Comes Newbies Are Made To Feel So Unwelcome

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"By who?

Is it the northerners ? They're a dam unfriendly bunch

you mustn't like your knee caps

Us northerners are lovely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been posting on and off for few years.

I think to start with I felt the same. Now to be honest I couldn't care less. I post and if people like okay and of they don't tough

When I first started posting I was scared to death of this lady. Now I think she is a pussy cat.

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I've been posting on and off for few years.

I think to start with I felt the same. Now to be honest I couldn't care less. I post and if people like okay and of they don't tough

When I first started posting I was scared to death of this lady. Now I think she is a pussy cat.

I thought you were a right cow when I first started posting. Now you're just a silly moo.

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By *odareyouMan over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"How Comes Newbies Are Made To Feel So Unwelcome

Stick around a bit fella join in,, , be warned though

this here forum is more adictive than candy crush,,

get out while you can

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" You could always try being me as i am the one that kills most threads

Ruby"

Nah - that's DaveEwing, and well you know it!!! Lol!

As for Forums in general, Fabs Forums are no different to those on any other site where discussion is allowed/encouraged. I moderated them on another site, completely unrelated to Swinging, way back in t'internet 'istory (1999-2000) and it was far more daunting on that one compared to here!!

People who have never contributed to Forums tend to have the same impression:- that there is a clique, that their contributions will be belittled by the 'regulars', etc etc.

I found it was a question of biding my time until there was a subject thread about which I knew a fair amount and could make a contribution which was soooo valid, none of the trolls could shoot it down or ridicule it. Then, I got more confidence posting and I was on my way....

Just takes a bit of time, sometimes, to get familiar with the tone of a particular forum...

Oh, and welcome OP, btw.

ted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

,,,,,,,,, Sox gesticulates with an enthusiastic and fiendly wave, shouting Whooooooooooo-hooooooooooooo OP-Newbie show us ya criac,,,

OMG did that come of a bit too camp…

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"How Comes Newbies Are Made To Feel So Unwelcome

I'm not aware that they are.

One thing I am aware of though - is that we are responsible for our own feelings.

So - How come you think newbies are not welcome ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

",,,,,,,,, Sox gesticulates with an enthusiastic and fiendly wave, shouting Whooooooooooo-hooooooooooooo OP-Newbie show us ya criac,,,

OMG did that come of a bit too camp…

By the rows of pink tents before me ........ Noooooooooo Sox ... honest.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

That is your perception.....to other newbies they may not have the same perception...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

depends on the newb usually

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That is your perception.....to other newbies they may not have the same perception..."

I do.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"That is your perception.....to other newbies they may not have the same perception...

I do. "

you do what?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That is your perception.....to other newbies they may not have the same perception...

I do.

you do what? "

Think the same as the original poster.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

think he wants to marry you

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"That is your perception.....to other newbies they may not have the same perception...

I do. "

You feel unwelcome? Hmmm, check your own green arrow.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"That is your perception.....to other newbies they may not have the same perception...

I do.

you do what?

Think the same as the original poster. "

Well you have been posting and joining in...so you cant feel that unwelcome...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That is your perception.....to other newbies they may not have the same perception...

I do.

you do what?

Think the same as the original poster.

Well you have been posting and joining in...so you cant feel that unwelcome... "

Seen my friends list? None of them want to know

Seen my mailbox? List goes on.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"That is your perception.....to other newbies they may not have the same perception...

I do.

you do what?

Think the same as the original poster.

Well you have been posting and joining in...so you cant feel that unwelcome...

Seen my friends list? None of them want to know

Seen my mailbox? List goes on. "

Well you don't need a long friends list and loads of messages to feel welcome...you make the forums how you want them to be...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

",,,,,,,,, Sox gesticulates with an enthusiastic and fiendly wave, shouting Whooooooooooo-hooooooooooooo OP-Newbie show us ya criac,,,

OMG did that come of a bit too camp…

Pmsl.....soooo funny

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That is your perception.....to other newbies they may not have the same perception...

I do.

you do what?

Think the same as the original poster.

Well you have been posting and joining in...so you cant feel that unwelcome...

Seen my friends list? None of them want to know

Seen my mailbox? List goes on. "

If you would like everyone's view on why that may be, may I suggest you post a thread in Support and Advice asking for a profile critique..

ted.

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"That is your perception.....to other newbies they may not have the same perception...

I do.

you do what?

Think the same as the original poster.

Well you have been posting and joining in...so you cant feel that unwelcome...

Seen my friends list? None of them want to know

Seen my mailbox? List goes on. "

That's not quite the same as the forums though. I have very few forum folk on my friends list or in my box - I communicate the tosh that appears on the screen publicly here. Why inflict it on just one person when I can inflict it on everyone?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a newbie ..... And I've had\having loads of fun .....If you just join in the light hearted threads after a bit you are not a newbie ! And I've seen threads where people have come on and said hi I'm new and they have always been made welcome ...my advice would be to Chill out and enjoy it for what it is

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That is your perception.....to other newbies they may not have the same perception...

I do.

you do what?

Think the same as the original poster.

Well you have been posting and joining in...so you cant feel that unwelcome...

Seen my friends list? None of them want to know

Seen my mailbox? List goes on.

Well you don't need a long friends list and loads of messages to feel welcome...you make the forums how you want them to be..."

No, but surely the people on your fitness list should be more friendlier than randoms? That can't me that sure as if it was. It won't be only be me thinking this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That is your perception.....to other newbies they may not have the same perception...

I do.

you do what?

Think the same as the original poster.

Well you have been posting and joining in...so you cant feel that unwelcome...

Seen my friends list? None of them want to know

Seen my mailbox? List goes on.

If you would like everyone's view on why that may be, may I suggest you post a thread in Support and Advice asking for a profile critique..

ted."

I believe its a persons fault and not the profile. Its either the person who posts fault for saying certain things or the other persons fault for not listening or for not liking the post for whatever reason.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been posting on and off for few years.

I think to start with I felt the same. Now to be honest I couldn't care less. I post and if people like okay and of they don't tough

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That is your perception.....to other newbies they may not have the same perception...

I do.

you do what?

Think the same as the original poster.

Well you have been posting and joining in...so you cant feel that unwelcome...

Seen my friends list? None of them want to know

Seen my mailbox? List goes on.

If you would like everyone's view on why that may be, may I suggest you post a thread in Support and Advice asking for a profile critique..

ted.

Up to you then, isn't it....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Did we ever find out if the OPmeant the site in general or the forums?

Most seem to assume he meant the forums - but if its the site he's referring to then that's a different question!!

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By *ighland_RoseCouple over a year ago

Brigadoon

"Did we ever find out if the OPmeant the site in general or the forums?

Most seem to assume he meant the forums - but if its the site he's referring to then that's a different question!!

He meant both

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Am I right in thinking that the OP hasn't returned to this thread? Because the green arrow and a quick scroll down each of the threads that he has started suggests that that is the case on most of them.

OP, as Ruggers has quite rightly pointed out we are all free to post as we choose, but I think it is a bit rich to complain that newbies are not made to feel welcome when your only contribution to the forums is to start a handful of threads and often not return to them. And ultimately, and perhaps unfairly, many seasoned forumites could have predicted how those threads would go just from the way they were titled nd the nature of the opening post.

OP, why not join in some other threads?There are dozens of topics on the forums and some must appeal to you? Get involved and then tell us in a few weeks that newbies aren't welcome.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I remember being a newbie, my experience was different in different areas.

Chat rooms - in some, I felt like it was a little hard to 'get involved' as it felt like everyone knew each other - it wasn't hostile, just took time to find my way

Forums - I was mostly made to feel very welcome however there were always a few people that it felt were trying to pick holes in my posts. Looking back they probably had a point but it certainly felt a little more personal at the time

Private messages - Felt a little bit forced and were so easily dismissed, they don't allow you to get your true personality across in a credible way (in my opinion anyway)

Clubs - Genuinely, the best place for newbies. I had my first experience at xtasia and I was made to feel so so welcome by everyone.

My advice, get to the club scene, meet people first and you'll soon start to feel a lot more comfortable on here!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Actually thinking about this again I was not made unwelcome but at the same time the red carpet was not rolled out either.

I tried the forums instead of sending individual messages and found I got more interest that way.

Its a lonely place for a single guy to start with women have it much easier.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"I've been posting on and off for few years.

I think to start with I felt the same. Now to be honest I couldn't care less. I post and if people like okay and of they don't tough

When I first started posting I was scared to death of this lady. Now I think she is a pussy cat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Actually thinking about this again I was not made unwelcome but at the same time the red carpet was not rolled out either.

I tried the forums instead of sending individual messages and found I got more interest that way.

Its a lonely place for a single guy to start with women have it much easier. "

It's the bonus of 'boobs'!

Norks make the world go round!!

*and also make great pillows, headrests and somewhere to pop your beer when barbecueing!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been posting on and off for few years.

I think to start with I felt the same. Now to be honest I couldn't care less. I post and if people like okay and of they don't tough

When I first started posting I was scared to death of this lady. Now I think she is a pussy cat.

Ahem I am a bundle of pink fluffy feathers compared to some of you

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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",,,,,,,,, Sox gesticulates with an enthusiastic and fiendly wave, shouting Whooooooooooo-hooooooooooooo OP-Newbie show us ya criac,,,

OMG did that come of a bit too camp…

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm still kind of a noob here, only been using the forums for about 2 months (yes tis true- you've only had the pleasure of my company in here for that long/only been putting up with my shite for that long.....delete as appropriate) but I've been using other forums for over 8 years- so I'm used to popping in, looking round then just wading in with my wit/sarcasm/flirting/smut/pointless shite.....delete as appropriate.

When I first started I spent about 2-3 months lurking, reading and sussing out how the place worked- then waded in with a new thread. It still took a few months to be 'accepted', but at no point did I whine that everything isn't how I expected it and that people didn't rush up to greet me excitedly. You're the new face in town, nobody has a clue who you are and what your intentions are- its up to you to blend in and make yourself at home.

Just be yourself and make extra effort and if you still find that you manage to piss off the majority of the forum users then maybe this particular forum is the wrong one for you.

It might sound a bit blunt but I've joined numerous forums/swing sites, some I've felt right at home with and others I was out of there quickly as they just weren't 'me'.

As long as you're not rude, weird, creepy or take yourself too seriously it's fairly easy to make friends here- it's up to you to make the effort though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm still kind of a noob here, only been using the forums for about 2 months (yes tis true- you've only had the pleasure of my company in here for that long/only been putting up with my shite for that long.....delete as appropriate) but I've been using other forums for over 8 years- so I'm used to popping in, looking round then just wading in with my wit/sarcasm/flirting/smut/pointless shite.....delete as appropriate.

Just be yourself and make extra effort and if you still find that you manage to piss off the majority of the forum users then maybe this particular forum is the wrong one for you.

It might sound a bit blunt but I've joined numerous forums/swing sites, some I've felt right at home with and others I was out of there quickly as they just weren't 'me'.

As long as you're not rude, weird, creepy or take yourself too seriously it's fairly easy to make friends here- it's up to you to make the effort though"

Excellent post....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not being funny pal, but your other threads dn't exactly help! Maybe if you just eased yourself into the forums you may get a different response!

For example, in one of your threads, your a raging bull, but then, in another, your asking if anyone wants to use n abuse you! Mixed signals pal!

Unless of course your an old bull and your meat is in need of tenderising!

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I'm still kind of a noob here, only been using the forums for about 2 months...

As long as you're not rude, weird, creepy or take yourself too seriously it's fairly easy to make friends here- it's up to you to make the effort though"

Good points all. The only thing I will add to that is if it feels like an effort and a chore then why bother? Enjoy it and it will enjoy you, if you see what I mean.

Misery loves company but company ain't that fond of misery.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just be yourself and make extra effort and if you still find that you manage to piss off the majority of the forum users then maybe this particular forum is the wrong one for you.

It might sound a bit blunt but I've joined numerous forums/swing sites, some I've felt right at home with and others I was out of there quickly as they just weren't 'me'.

As long as you're not rude, weird, creepy or take yourself too seriously it's fairly easy to make friends here- it's up to you to make the effort though"

Meaty if I manage to convince you that you are pissing off the majority of posters does that mean you'll be gone again?

It hurts me to say it but great post.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Meaty if I manage to convince you that you are pissing off the majority of posters does that mean you'll be gone again?

It hurts me to say it but great post.

I'd stay just to piss you off

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"Am I right in thinking that the OP hasn't returned to this thread? Because the green arrow and a quick scroll down each of the threads that he has started suggests that that is the case on most of them.

It isn't compulsory to add to a thread once you have started it.

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

The only advise I would give to the Op would be to start off by joining in threads started by others before venturing into starting your own, I would advise this of any new member.

The reason I say this is because very often 'newbies' tend to start very naïve threads, that is not meant to be an insult but an observation after seeing many 'newbies' doing exactly that recently.

Anyway good luck Op, and hope you find yourself feeling more at home on the forum soon, look forward to seeing you post more as we need some new faces on the threads.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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Ok I think this has run it's course now.

To the OP...sometimes you are right, the forum comes across as unfriendly as the posts I removed proved

BUT...most of the time the people posting are a good bunch....join in, you may find you like it

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