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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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I went to a lecture on the perils of perfection this morning.
One of the quotes that stuck in my mind was that admitting imperfections makes them real.
The other is from Carol Dweck's book, Mindsets:
"Mindsets are just beliefs. They're powerful beliefs, but they're just something in your mind, and you can change your mind"
Are you a perfectionist? Does it help or hinder you in life? What sort of perfectionist are you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess I am fortunate as I live my life without trying to analyse it. Hell it must be purgatory for all those who have to psychoanalyse everything and measure themselves against what they see as perfect and not.  |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I guess I am fortunate as I live my life without trying to analyse it. Hell it must be purgatory for all those who have to psychoanalyse everything and measure themselves against what they see as perfect and not. "
I believe it can be if your programming on perfectionism is felt as a requirement rather than an attainment. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I believe that if a job's worth doing, it's worth doing once, properly.... I do aim for perfection....  "
What happens if you don't achieve it? Is it your idea of perfect or some specific external standard of perfect? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I believe that if a job's worth doing, it's worth doing once, properly.... I do aim for perfection....
What happens if you don't achieve it? Is it your idea of perfect or some specific external standard of perfect?"
If I dont achieve it.... I try harder next time...
In most things I look at the mathematical, rather than the emotional... Therein results can be quantified....
There are exceptions.... But not many... |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I believe that if a job's worth doing, it's worth doing once, properly.... I do aim for perfection....
What happens if you don't achieve it? Is it your idea of perfect or some specific external standard of perfect?
If I dont achieve it.... I try harder next time...
In most things I look at the mathematical, rather than the emotional... Therein results can be quantified....
There are exceptions.... But not many..."
An interesting approach, although I suppose it rather suits your professional life. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Only in a sense that I hate half a job being done. Do it properly or not at all.
What happens if you don't do it properly?
Do it again usually"
That must use up a lot of time. Is there ever a moment when good enough is good enough? |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"Only in a sense that I hate half a job being done. Do it properly or not at all.
What happens if you don't do it properly?
Do it again usually
That must use up a lot of time. Is there ever a moment when good enough is good enough?"
Not if you do it properly first 
Obviously there is a scale. Perfect - good enough - do it again - wtf ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't call myself a perfectionist - I just have to have things done my way  
Is your way the only way or the best way?"
Bit of both - if they want the best outcome (I.E no whining, pestering the whole time, etc) then its the only way |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Im a perfectionist in the type of work I do!...I have to be!
My organisation is to perfection in and around my home!
To my husband.....EVERYTING....is to perfection!!.... |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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Obviously there is a scale. Perfect - good enough - do it again - wtf !
This sounds like it could be the new Fab cock measurement standard."
There would probably need to be an ouch as well. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Im a perfectionist in the type of work I do!...I have to be!
My organisation is to perfection in and around my home!
To my husband.....EVERYTING....is to perfection!!...."
Do you find it exhausting? |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Are you a perfectionist? Does it help or hinder you in life? What sort of perfectionist are you?"
If I believe a job is worth doing, I do it to the best of my ability, but I won't fret if I haven't managed perfection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im a perfectionist in the type of work I do!...I have to be!
My organisation is to perfection in and around my home!
To my husband.....EVERYTING....is to perfection!!....
Do you find it exhausting?"
no im constantly on the go!...we both make each other priority! ...other than our children!!..we regard and value what we have in each other...re family/ marriage/swinging!...xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I believe that if a job's worth doing, it's worth doing once, properly.... I do aim for perfection....
What happens if you don't achieve it? Is it your idea of perfect or some specific external standard of perfect?
If I dont achieve it.... I try harder next time...
In most things I look at the mathematical, rather than the emotional... Therein results can be quantified....
There are exceptions.... But not many...
An interesting approach, although I suppose it rather suits your professional life."
It does, but it was just as valid in my previous profession and in all life in general.... |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I am not a perfectionist, however at work, I ensure all tasks are completed correctly.
Rectifying tasks are a pain and can take twice as long."
I agree but I find people learn from their mistakes, often better than constantly getting it right first time. |
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"I went to a lecture on the perils of perfection this morning.
One of the quotes that stuck in my mind was that admitting imperfections makes them real.
The other is from Carol Dweck's book, Mindsets:
"Mindsets are just beliefs. They're powerful beliefs, but they're just something in your mind, and you can change your mind"
Are you a perfectionist? Does it help or hinder you in life? What sort of perfectionist are you?"
I'm just in the middle of this book - it's fantastic and I've already realsied that I need to make changes in my life - I'd recommend it to anyone. Z |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"me a perfectionist? not a chance, im the most laid back person going and quite happy to let people do things their way if it means them doing it lol
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That sounds like a good plan. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I went to a lecture on the perils of perfection this morning.
One of the quotes that stuck in my mind was that admitting imperfections makes them real.
The other is from Carol Dweck's book, Mindsets:
"Mindsets are just beliefs. They're powerful beliefs, but they're just something in your mind, and you can change your mind"
Are you a perfectionist? Does it help or hinder you in life? What sort of perfectionist are you?
I'm just in the middle of this book - it's fantastic and I've already realsied that I need to make changes in my life - I'd recommend it to anyone. Z"
I didn't get the book but she had some very thought-provoking things to say during her lecture. I'm particularly interested in how to praise children following her presentation of the evidence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OMG….. I despise the concept of attaining perfection,,,,,,, I mean how would we evolve from that…?
Its like trying to create a master copy where everything of lesser quality is relegated to inferior status,,
Fook that….!. we need goals to survive...
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"OMG….. I despise the concept of attaining perfection,,,,,,, I mean how would we evolve from that…?
Its like trying to create a master copy where everything of lesser quality is relegated to inferior status,,
Fook that….!. we need goals to survive...
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I agree. It doesn't necessarily stop one from feeling the need to be perfect. |
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