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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My mum always taught us...never let anyone think they are better than yourself.
Always do your best and you an never fail yourself.
Always wear clean undies incase you get knocked over.
Never bow down to a man 
My dad
Money doesn't appear from nowhere |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"your mum or dad ever gave you? I am curious as usual as to what the forumites think  "
3 things....
1) never let people know just how smart you actually are....
2) never let people know everything you know....
3)................  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"They didn't give me any advice, but the way they treated us as children gave me and my sister a cast iron blueprint of how not to be a parent."
Interesting - I have promised myself to not do some things my parents did - for example some of the disciplinarian stuff - but then I really like (and appreciate now) that they encouraged us all to study and get an education. They did a few things not so well but loads and loads of things right  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"My mum always taught us...never let anyone think they are better than yourself.
Always do your best and you an never fail yourself.
Always wear clean undies incase you get knocked over.
Never bow down to a man
My dad
Money doesn't appear from nowhere "
Just about sums up a good life guide! |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"your mum or dad ever gave you? I am curious as usual as to what the forumites think
3 things....
1) never let people know just how smart you actually are....
2) never let people know everything you know....
3)................ "
But we already DO know you are smart, Fabio |
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My dad...
Don't borrow from no fucker
Don't lend to no fucker
and be one step ahead from most fuckers...
Pretty funny as they are moaning at me to buy a house...I said but then I will have to borrow...lol |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"My dad...
Don't borrow from no fucker
Don't lend to no fucker
and be one step ahead from most fuckers...
Pretty funny as they are moaning at me to buy a house...I said but then I will have to borrow...lol"
It s a bit like the smoking GP who says that he is paid to give advice not to follow it |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"They said the key to a good relationship was never going to sleep on an argument.
They were together for 31 1/2 years and loved each other so much. "
I would agree to that - it might be hard sometimes but sounds like it works for most people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never be beholden to anyone, especially a man.
Be independent
Have you're own mind and never let a man belittle you."
If it isn't my favourite forum member  .
Kind of rubbish advice as you shouldn't let anyone belittle you. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Never be beholden to anyone, especially a man.
Be independent
Have you're own mind and never let a man belittle you."
That was one of my narratives, too and I have followed that throughout my life - sometimes to teh extreme that I am struggling to allow a man to pay for a meal let alone anything else. But I still think it is a good mantra! |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"My Nanna always told me to be more concerned with my character than my reputation. My character is what I am, my reputation merely what others think I am!!!
I've tried to live by that. "
She sounds like she was a wise woman! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Learn how to cook because you don't want your man going elsewhere for his dinner... "
Learn to cook so you can be a modern man when the term modern man comes into existance!  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Don't get Married and me being me went against their wishes and did it at 17.
Then the next one was.. You've made you bed, now lie in it. "
That generation used to say that, didnt they? I would never say it to mine as it does not really help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have no idea, it all went in one ear and straight out the other...So what advice would you give to your own children? "
I know that you weren't talking to me, but even though I have 1 "flaw" within me. I didn't have any advice good or bad and apart from that one thing it hasn't done me any harm. I am a decent/honest bloke with plenty of manners and I am a true gentleman. Yes I have my bad points, but who doesn't? |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"My Mam always said 'don't come running to me if ya break ya legs'
I never did, even when I broke my leg "
That is such a cool and contradictory saying - as if you could run with a broken leg... |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I have no idea, it all went in one ear and straight out the other...So what advice would you give to your own children?
I know that you weren't talking to me, but even though I have 1 "flaw" within me. I didn't have any advice good or bad and apart from that one thing it hasn't done me any harm. I am a decent/honest bloke with plenty of manners and I am a true gentleman. Yes I have my bad points, but who doesn't? "
I always invited everybody to comment - dont worry - it is an inclusive forum and thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't get Married and me being me went against their wishes and did it at 17.
Then the next one was.. You've made you bed, now lie in it. That generation used to say that, didnt they? I would never say it to mine as it does not really help. "
Well it lasted 24 years so who was right |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"My Dad used to say..if a jobs worth doing then do it well...and first impressions count.."
Dont they just - first impressions - apparently we make up our mind about another person within the first few seconds or so.... and most of THAT image is through non verbal communication. Something like 55% and another 33 through pitch, tone of voice and only 7% through verbal communication.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My Mam always said 'don't come running to me if ya break ya legs'
I never did, even when I broke my leg
No, you hobbled! "
haha couldn't even hobble. My disco dancing days we're numbered.......until the pot came off that is |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My father is a thoroughly unpleasant man and my mother not much better. They spent 35 years criticizing my every decision in life. I'm sure they viewed it as advice but non of it was good. The best conversation I ever had with them was 6 years ago when I decided that I really couldn't be done with their crap anymore.
People with supportive parents should relish it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My Dad used to say..if a jobs worth doing then do it well...and first impressions count..Dont they just - first impressions - apparently we make up our mind about another person within the first few seconds or so.... and most of THAT image is through non verbal communication. Something like 55% and another 33 through pitch, tone of voice and only 7% through verbal communication."
What about the other 5% then |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"My Dad used to say..if a jobs worth doing then do it well...and first impressions count..Dont they just - first impressions - apparently we make up our mind about another person within the first few seconds or so.... and most of THAT image is through non verbal communication. Something like 55% and another 33 through pitch, tone of voice and only 7% through verbal communication.
What about the other 5% then "
Sorry meant to read 38% - well spotted.Thanks |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"My father is a thoroughly unpleasant man and my mother not much better. They spent 35 years criticizing my every decision in life. I'm sure they viewed it as advice but non of it was good. The best conversation I ever had with them was 6 years ago when I decided that I really couldn't be done with their crap anymore.
People with supportive parents should relish it."
Very true! Shame you had to go through all that - what a tough schooling! Do you think that that in itself has made you stronger or enabled you to have more empathy with other people? |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"My mum used to say treat people how you like to be treated. Never look down on anybody and don't let them look down on you. "
If only everybody followed that - society would be a lot better. Any society really! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dad always said, if you are going to do something you shouldnt. Dont get caught cos im not bailing you outAnd did he ever have to bail you out? "
No also taught me how to to not get caught |
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By *ald6974Man
over a year ago
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I'm very fortunate to still have very supportive parents, an id say its been more guidance for me than advice....what I will say, is I try and be the dad my dads been to me with my son....and NO MATTER what I've been fortunate that my folks have ALWAYs been there rain or shine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont live at home, I left home at 23.
But I still ask my dad questions. .even though fuck it...I'm a man...I make my own decisions asshole!!...
I still ask him questions about "this and that" and whatnot.
But his answer is always the same "you'll soon find out wont ya son"
I swear to god..if I outlive him..I'm gonns have that carved on his headstone.
His answer has been that to me my whole life..top bloke my dad!!
My mum though...she has to disagree with him and say what she really thinks to me. They've been married 27 years!
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"I dont live at home, I left home at 23.
But I still ask my dad questions. .even though fuck it...I'm a man...I make my own decisions asshole!!...
I still ask him questions about "this and that" and whatnot.
But his answer is always the same "you'll soon find out wont ya son"
I swear to god..if I outlive him..I'm gonns have that carved on his headstone.
His answer has been that to me my whole life..top bloke my dad!!
My mum though...she has to disagree with him and say what she really thinks to me. They've been married 27 years!
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not meaning to be nosey an cant be arsed looking but how old are you thump |
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The best piece of advise my dad gave me was on the night my mum died. .....he said" if you are not with the person you want to be with dont waste your time, but more importantly dont waste theirs"
I have lived by it ever since and have had to do so again tonight and am now single. ...again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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not meaning to be nosey an cant be arsed looking but how old are you thump "
Put it this way...if they had tied the knot 1 year earlier, I wouldn't be a bastard child. |
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"The best piece of advise my dad gave me was on the night my mum died. .....he said" if you are not with the person you want to be with dont waste your time, but more importantly dont waste theirs"
I have lived by it ever since and have had to do so again tonight and am now single. ...again. "
I said them very words to my own son hes now 24 with a child of his own an no there not together......like father like son I suppose  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My father is a thoroughly unpleasant man and my mother not much better. They spent 35 years criticizing my every decision in life. I'm sure they viewed it as advice but non of it was good. The best conversation I ever had with them was 6 years ago when I decided that I really couldn't be done with their crap anymore.
People with supportive parents should relish it.Very true! Shame you had to go through all that - what a tough schooling! Do you think that that in itself has made you stronger or enabled you to have more empathy with other people? "
I am very empathetic, not so sure about strong, though the cost to me in cutting them out was huge so I guess it took strength. I am what I am, it would be easy to regret not cutting them out earlier, undoutedly if I had my life would have panned out very different but would that have been for better or for worse - who knows? I try not to reflect on the past, it can't be changed but has shaped me in to who I am. |
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"My father is a thoroughly unpleasant man and my mother not much better. They spent 35 years criticizing my every decision in life. I'm sure they viewed it as advice but non of it was good. The best conversation I ever had with them was 6 years ago when I decided that I really couldn't be done with their crap anymore.
People with supportive parents should relish it.Very true! Shame you had to go through all that - what a tough schooling! Do you think that that in itself has made you stronger or enabled you to have more empathy with other people?
I am very empathetic, not so sure about strong, though the cost to me in cutting them out was huge so I guess it took strength. I am what I am, it would be easy to regret not cutting them out earlier, undoutedly if I had my life would have panned out very different but would that have been for better or for worse - who knows? I try not to reflect on the past, it can't be changed but has shaped me in to who I am."
I suspect we had a very similar up bringing. No regrets tho it made me the man I am |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They didn't give me any advice, but the way they treated us as children gave me and my sister a cast iron blueprint of how not to be a parent."
I am the person I am today because of how my parents brought me up.... and its not because they did a good job!
It makes you wander how children from the same parents can turn out so different, some following the same path and some a totally different path.
As a mother I always try and offer advice but I hope I also know when to let him make his own mistakes and be there to bail him out if need be. |
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"They didn't give me any advice, but the way they treated us as children gave me and my sister a cast iron blueprint of how not to be a parent.
I am the person I am today because of how my parents brought me up.... and its not because they did a good job!
It makes you wander how children from the same parents can turn out so different, some following the same path and some a totally different path.
As a mother I always try and offer advice but I hope I also know when to let him make his own mistakes and be there to bail him out if need be."
spot on |
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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago
Bridgwater - Somerset |
Don't borrow money.
Don't get anyone pregnant.
Don't do anything that'll bring the police to the house.
Apart from a car loan and a mortgage, both paid off, I've done OK.
Love the joke one:-
Dad always said "If you're not in bed by 11 - come home." |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Dad used to say "Your as good as anyone and better than most" and also "Brake in a straight line on a wet road.""
Bit difficult when on a roundabout and needing a sneeze |
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