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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How bad does sex or anything that's physical have to be before you think. "Things have to change soon" or you actually end a relationship that hasn't even gone off the ground properly? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sex aint everything in a relationship ive had sexless relationships its about caring for eatch other"
Obviously it is. Otherwise people would t be on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sex aint everything in a relationship ive had sexless relationships its about caring for eatch other
Obviously it is. Otherwise people would t be on here. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sex aint everything in a relationship ive had sexless relationships its about caring for eatch other
Obviously it is. Otherwise people would t be on here.
Ouch!! "
No feelings are meant to be hurt in this thread. Just want people's honesty x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sex aint everything in a relationship ive had sexless relationships its about caring for eatch other"
depends if a sexless relationship is what your both after
If you have one whos highly sex and one who isn't then you have problems
I have to be honest I would end a relationship that was sexless, I simply couldn't go without sex so such a relationship wouldn't work for me |
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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago
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I couldn't be in a sexless relationship. Sure, sex isn't THE most important thing, but it is most definitely up there equal with a few other things. When there is even the slightest hint there is something wring in a relationship sex and intimacy is the first thing to go. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I meant crap sex or crap at the physical stuff. So basically they do the kissing/oral/sex, etc and how often you want, but what do you do if they are shit at it and you're in a relationship? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I meant crap sex or crap at the physical stuff. So basically they do the kissing/oral/sex, etc and how often you want, but what do you do if they are shit at it and you're in a relationship?"
teach them what you like
it takes time to get to know someone's body, if they loved you they would listen to you and learn what you like, if you love them you will be patient while they learn
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sex is not be all and end all in a relationship.
However, sexual incompatibility can make small cracks in a relationship much larger in no time.
Based on personal experience.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I meant crap sex or crap at the physical stuff. So basically they do the kissing/oral/sex, etc and how often you want, but what do you do if they are shit at it and you're in a relationship?"
If they are crap now I walk away |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I meant crap sex or crap at the physical stuff. So basically they do the kissing/oral/sex, etc and how often you want, but what do you do if they are shit at it and you're in a relationship?
teach them what you like
it takes time to get to know someone's body, if they loved you they would listen to you and learn what you like, if you love them you will be patient while they learn
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And always give a deadline |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I meant crap sex or crap at the physical stuff. So basically they do the kissing/oral/sex, etc and how often you want, but what do you do if they are shit at it and you're in a relationship?"
Steer them into doing it the way you like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I meant crap sex or crap at the physical stuff. So basically they do the kissing/oral/sex, etc and how often you want, but what do you do if they are shit at it and you're in a relationship?
teach them what you like
it takes time to get to know someone's body, if they loved you they would listen to you and learn what you like, if you love them you will be patient while they learn
And always give a deadline "
obviously
if after a year they are still not hitting the spot maybe its time to accept your not sexually compatible |
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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago
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"I meant crap sex or crap at the physical stuff. So basically they do the kissing/oral/sex, etc and how often you want, but what do you do if they are shit at it and you're in a relationship?
teach them what you like
it takes time to get to know someone's body, if they loved you they would listen to you and learn what you like, if you love them you will be patient while they learn
And always give a deadline
obviously
if after a year they are still not hitting the spot maybe its time to accept your not sexually compatible "
You would give them a WHOLE YEAR? Blimey, you're patient. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"I meant crap sex or crap at the physical stuff. So basically they do the kissing/oral/sex, etc and how often you want, but what do you do if they are shit at it and you're in a relationship?
Steer them into doing it the way you like."
With their ears?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I meant crap sex or crap at the physical stuff. So basically they do the kissing/oral/sex, etc and how often you want, but what do you do if they are shit at it and you're in a relationship?
teach them what you like
it takes time to get to know someone's body, if they loved you they would listen to you and learn what you like, if you love them you will be patient while they learn
And always give a deadline
obviously
if after a year they are still not hitting the spot maybe its time to accept your not sexually compatible
You would give them a WHOLE YEAR? Blimey, you're patient. "
depends how good looking they was |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I meant crap sex or crap at the physical stuff. So basically they do the kissing/oral/sex, etc and how often you want, but what do you do if they are shit at it and you're in a relationship?
teach them what you like
it takes time to get to know someone's body, if they loved you they would listen to you and learn what you like, if you love them you will be patient while they learn
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I agree if they loved you. They will do that. However surely you start seeing someone first and then you sleep with them and sometime down the line. The word love is thought or said. Basically people sleep with each other before anyone gives out their love. So I thought what happens in the meantime. Do people think "shall I just give them the benefit of the doubt as they please me in other areas" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I meant crap sex or crap at the physical stuff. So basically they do the kissing/oral/sex, etc and how often you want, but what do you do if they are shit at it and you're in a relationship?
teach them what you like
it takes time to get to know someone's body, if they loved you they would listen to you and learn what you like, if you love them you will be patient while they learn
I agree if they loved you. They will do that. However surely you start seeing someone first and then you sleep with them and sometime down the line. The word love is thought or said. Basically people sleep with each other before anyone gives out their love. So I thought what happens in the meantime. Do people think "shall I just give them the benefit of the doubt as they please me in other areas" "
I would yes
if I met someone who I really liked, look good, treat me well but wasn't that hot in bed, so long as he put the effort in I would be patient and put the effort into making sex better
what you have to remember is it takes two people to make good sex, they could be thinking the same about you, it could simply be a case of your not in tune with each other and that should be easy to sort out |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I meant crap sex or crap at the physical stuff. So basically they do the kissing/oral/sex, etc and how often you want, but what do you do if they are shit at it and you're in a relationship?
teach them what you like
it takes time to get to know someone's body, if they loved you they would listen to you and learn what you like, if you love them you will be patient while they learn
I agree if they loved you. They will do that. However surely you start seeing someone first and then you sleep with them and sometime down the line. The word love is thought or said. Basically people sleep with each other before anyone gives out their love. So I thought what happens in the meantime. Do people think "shall I just give them the benefit of the doubt as they please me in other areas" "
Even if the sex is good at the beginning....quality builds up over time as you get to know each other more. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
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"I meant crap sex or crap at the physical stuff. So basically they do the kissing/oral/sex, etc and how often you want, but what do you do if they are shit at it and you're in a relationship?
Steer them into doing it the way you like.
With their ears? "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How bad does sex or anything that's physical have to be before you think. "Things have to change soon" or you actually end a relationship that hasn't even gone off the ground properly? "
Sexual chemistry has to be there or its just a platonic relationship in my opinion. For me a true relationship would have never even materialized if the sex wasn't good. |
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I disagree with almost the entire thread.
Love and sex are totally separable.
If you love someone but they are not good at sex you will still love them.
Finding sex , in this day and age and with communications as available as they are is like finding a sewing machine in a haystack. It's pretty widly avaialable even for fuglies and it's pretty cheap. Fun but cheap.
Finding love , regardless of the generation, remains like finding the needle in a haystack. It's priceless and worth holding on to.
If you'd leave someone for being shit at sex it really isn't love you feel for them.
Truly if your cock or fanny comes first you don't love that person more than your own fleeting sexual urges.
I cringe at phrases like ' If they love you they'd do this and that'
Where do you draw the line on blackmail like that?
If he loved me he'd lick inside my nose?
If she loved me she'd let me stick a parrot up her cludge?
What's the matter with - if you love them you love them you love them you love them ?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I disagree with almost the entire thread.
Love and sex are totally separable.
If you love someone but they are not good at sex you will still love them.
Finding sex , in this day and age and with communications as available as they are is like finding a sewing machine in a haystack. It's pretty widly avaialable even for fuglies and it's pretty cheap. Fun but cheap.
Finding love , regardless of the generation, remains like finding the needle in a haystack. It's priceless and worth holding on to.
If you'd leave someone for being shit at sex it really isn't love you feel for them.
Truly if your cock or fanny comes first you don't love that person more than your own fleeting sexual urges.
I cringe at phrases like ' If they love you they'd do this and that'
Where do you draw the line on blackmail like that?
If he loved me he'd lick inside my nose?
If she loved me she'd let me stick a parrot up her cludge?
What's the matter with - if you love them you love them you love them you love them ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had both a sexless relationship (they had a very low sex drive, I don't!) I've also had a relationship where the sex was mediocre at best (despite my best efforts to 'teach' them) I was frustrated for 10 years solid. No fun.
For me now, we've got to be sexually compatible.
No, sex isn't everything, but from experience, I can't do without it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I disagree with almost the entire thread.
Love and sex are totally separable.
If you love someone but they are not good at sex you will still love them.
Finding sex , in this day and age and with communications as available as they are is like finding a sewing machine in a haystack. It's pretty widly avaialable even for fuglies and it's pretty cheap. Fun but cheap.
Finding love , regardless of the generation, remains like finding the needle in a haystack. It's priceless and worth holding on to.
If you'd leave someone for being shit at sex it really isn't love you feel for them.
Truly if your cock or fanny comes first you don't love that person more than your own fleeting sexual urges.
I cringe at phrases like ' If they love you they'd do this and that'
Where do you draw the line on blackmail like that?
If he loved me he'd lick inside my nose?
If she loved me she'd let me stick a parrot up her cludge?
What's the matter with - if you love them you love them you love them you love them ?
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Some people apparently need/ think about/ want sex 24/7. Hence a lot of frustrated people on here. And those that cheat. |
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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago
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"Sex aint everything in a relationship ive had sexless relationships its about caring for eatch other"
I feel the opposite. Relationships are bullshit. Sex is easy and reliable. Even bad sex is still pretty good. That's all I want now. Fuck relationships.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sex aint everything in a relationship ive had sexless relationships its about caring for eatch other"
What about a sexless and loveless relationship. At what point is enough not from a purely selfish point of view. I mean when there are kids involved. But there is absolutely no sexual contact not even a hug and it gets to a point where u dread seeing the other person coming home
When do u call time |
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By * n zCouple
over a year ago
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"How bad does sex or anything that's physical have to be before you think. "Things have to change soon" or you actually end a relationship that hasn't even gone off the ground properly? "
I put up with crap sex for sometime before I ended a relationship cos I had 3 kids with him, and he turned selfish and took me for granted and was controlling......... In the end I felt like a prostitute during sex.
In the end I had an affair, fell in love saw what was missing in my life then ended it with hubby..........best thing I ever did for both of us.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If the sex was bad there wouldn't be a relationship to start with....Its an important thing for me.
I lived in a sexless relationship for 2 years before walking away...it wasn't that the sex was bad it just became non existent i wouldn't do it again |
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