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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't know if anyone has been offended by me not displaying one as there are a few i don't...ive never been offended tho they must have their reasons.
I don't display any that have gone into full sexual detail or ones from social meets where im never going to repeat it for a play meet.
I don't like the whole gives the best head ever and such so don't put them on if they are cheesy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i have done in the past, though i dont let little things like that worry me so much now. i did wonder why they didnt want to show my verification, like they didnt want their friends to know they had met me. a few people i met and now blocked may be offended also though, but i dont care.  |
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I generally write veris based on the social meet - it's the info I want to know: if he turned up,was on time, was presentable, could hold a conversation, was someone I was comfortable in a public place with etc.
As far as sexual activities go it's all subjective so if he had the last woman gushing like the severn in flood there's no guarantee that he'll have the same effect on me so I don't really want to hear about it.
A veri is a gift. It should be freely given and once passed on it is for the recipient to do with as they choose - if you can't give nicely then don't write them. |
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I can count on one hand the number I've given, I don't really like them. I tend to write nonsense funny stuff than graphic sex stuff if I do give them. It's really not a reference system, or it shouldn't be in my view. I like discretion.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you ever been offended because someone has not displayed a verification you have written or had anyone being offended with you for not displaying a verification?
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Nope.
I don't display mine.
I have 3 published.
Which is more than enough for people to get a grasp that I'm real, prepared to meet and not a complete a-hole.
Ben
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I don't care for the crude ones. I'm sure some people like to read about getting fucked in every hole and swallowing every drop but that's really not for me and verifications like that would put me off messaging.
I do like to see some veri's on a profile but mostly to see if they've met recently, no point in messaging someone who cammed once three years ago. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't show all our veris... And we have wrote veris for people who don't display them... Are we bothered?
No not at all as its down to personal choice  |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
Not offended - it is their choice after all if they choose not to. That said, if I see somebody displaying a verification and the other person (the verifier) does not I draw my own conclusions ... |
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By *htyhmsMan
over a year ago
PETERBOROUGH |
I would verify a social meeting but "notches on the bedpost" springs to mind when I see multiple verification.
It's the choice of the individual and most have their reasons for displaying or not displaying their numerous lovers.
C'est la vie! |
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By *tomCom OP Man
over a year ago
Wellingborough |
"Not offended - it is their choice after all if they choose not to. That said, if I see somebody displaying a verification and the other person (the verifier) does not I draw my own conclusions ..."
ooo and what would those conclusions be ?
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Not offended - it is their choice after all if they choose not to. That said, if I see somebody displaying a verification and the other person (the verifier) does not I draw my own conclusions ...
ooo and what would those conclusions be?
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Well, one conclusion (of several) could mean that the meet was only perceived as good by one of the parties? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well, one conclusion (of several) could mean that the meet was only perceived as good by one of the parties? "
Hmmm..yeah, just one perception though!
Scenario:
You make an exception and see someone outside of your preferences, you choose not to display that veri, due to the risk of other people seeing it and EXPECTING you to break your rules for them too.
That's just one example....
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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Well, one conclusion (of several) could mean that the meet was only perceived as good by one of the parties?
Hmmm..yeah, just one perception though!
Scenario:
You make an exception and see someone outside of your preferences, you choose not to display that veri, due to the risk of other people seeing it and EXPECTING you to break your rules for them too.
That's just one example....
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Absolutely possible, another conclusion. Equally I was once told that somebody displayed verifications to make somebody else jealous. Another one I heard was that somebody did not display a verification because they did not want other people to see that they had met/ were friends with that person. All sorts of interpretations I guess - none of which are in the positive spirit of veris in my opinion though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't really check to see if a veri I've written is displayed. If I've met the person then I've no need to keep looking at the profile so I don't know if they've got it showing. I don't care either way.
I have been asked why I haven't displayed a certain veri and I've explained that it was too rude and explicit and I don't want to show it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely possible, another conclusion. Equally I was once told that somebody displayed verifications to make somebody else jealous. Another one I heard was that somebody did not display a verification because they did not want other people to see that they had met/ were friends with that person. All sorts of interpretations I guess - none of which are in the positive spirit of veris in my opinion though."
That becomes fuckery though.
I'm not here for mind games.
I have 3 on mine, I could put one or two more, I may publish them. But the veris I have published are good and let people know I'm real, not a Dickhead and I look like my pics.
I s'pose if I had a small penis, I may need to publish more to make it seem like I don't have a small penis...but I don't have a small Penis ..so I'm happy.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not offended - it is their choice after all if they choose not to. That said, if I see somebody displaying a verification and the other person (the verifier) does not I draw my own conclusions ...
ooo and what would those conclusions be?
Well, one conclusion (of several) could mean that the meet was only perceived as good by one of the parties? "
I can see that point however the veris I have are all from people I have had a fantastic time either socially or sexually however I chose not to show them as I prefer to keep who I meet private. That's just me |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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I s'pose if I had a small penis, I may need to publish more to make it seem like I don't have a small penis...but I don't have a small Penis ..so I'm happy.
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Careful what you say Ben. The penis police are lurking in the next thread |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Not offended - it is their choice after all if they choose not to. That said, if I see somebody displaying a verification and the other person (the verifier) does not I draw my own conclusions ...
ooo and what would those conclusions be?
Well, one conclusion (of several) could mean that the meet was only perceived as good by one of the parties?
I can see that point however the veris I have are all from people I have had a fantastic time either socially or sexually however I chose not to show them as I prefer to keep who I meet private. That's just me "
Also very true - I am just saying people can draw conclusions and interpret things in different ways  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Careful what you say Ben. The penis police are lurking in the next thread "
Lolol.
They can arrest me and put me on a Lie detecter test, decapitate my knee's, spit in my meals, I'm not lying!!
Wel,, Holly Willabooby (cheers Obi) can arrest me!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What does cock size have to do with it lol Ben i am beginning to think you are obsessed with the size of your cock
Lol i think if you have 100s who will actually read them all |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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Well, one conclusion (of several) could mean that the meet was only perceived as good by one of the parties?
Hmmm..yeah, just one perception though!
Scenario:
You make an exception and see someone outside of your preferences, you choose not to display that veri, due to the risk of other people seeing it and EXPECTING you to break your rules for them too.
That's just one example....
...or, you strut around like king of the cock walk and don't want the other women to know you like being tied down, dressed in lingerie and will drink loss from the source.
Hypothetically, of course!  "
That's priceless - and for anything else there is indeed a Mastercard |
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Well, one conclusion (of several) could mean that the meet was only perceived as good by one of the parties?
Hmmm..yeah, just one perception though!
Scenario:
You make an exception and see someone outside of your preferences, you choose not to display that veri, due to the risk of other people seeing it and EXPECTING you to break your rules for them too.
That's just one example....
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...or, you strut around like king of the cock walk and don't want the other women to know you like being tied down, dressed in lingerie and will drink piss from the source.
Hypothetically, of course! |
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We choose to verify every person we have met who we had a nice time with
Whether or not they choose to return the favour is none of our business
As for people claiming that showing your verifications is a sort of badge of honor etc
Each to their own . Our philosophy is fun ! We come on here to meet interesting people who enjoy sex just as much as we do
We aren't worried about having lots of verifications . It clearly says on our profile that the reason we have them on is so that future meets can get a feel of the type of people you are
A bit like trip advisor lol
We see no harm in letting others know what people think of us !
If we got a bad one we would happily put that on too !
Why has everything got to be a problem ? The site allows verifications and we feel they are good and fun !
But as we say .. Each to their own |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"We choose to verify every person we have met who we had a nice time with
Whether or not they choose to return the favour is none of our business
As for people claiming that showing your verifications is a sort of badge of honor etc
Each to their own . Our philosophy is fun ! We come on here to meet interesting people who enjoy sex just as much as we do
We aren't worried about having lots of verifications . It clearly says on our profile that the reason we have them on is so that future meets can get a feel of the type of people you are
A bit like trip advisor lol
We see no harm in letting others know what people think of us !
If we got a bad one we would happily put that on too !
Why has everything got to be a problem ? The site allows verifications and we feel they are good and fun !
But as we say .. Each to their own "
Absolutely - it is down to individual choice |
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"We choose to verify every person we have met who we had a nice time with
Whether or not they choose to return the favour is none of our business
As for people claiming that showing your verifications is a sort of badge of honor etc
Each to their own . Our philosophy is fun ! We come on here to meet interesting people who enjoy sex just as much as we do
We aren't worried about having lots of verifications . It clearly says on our profile that the reason we have them on is so that future meets can get a feel of the type of people you are
A bit like trip advisor lol
We see no harm in letting others know what people think of us !
If we got a bad one we would happily put that on too !
Why has everything got to be a problem ? The site allows verifications and we feel they are good and fun !
But as we say .. Each to their own "
Indeed! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have put mine on coz it just seems the 'thing to do'. Haven't got one from the woman I 'sleep with' regularly. But I've been 'regular' for over 3 months and she keeps having me back for more so don't think that matters.
Wondering if the ones I've got are making me sound a little 'tame' though? |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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i don't show all of mine and people know why, it has to be something I feel comfortable with.... rather than just showing for showing sake...
as others have said.. it is as much about the social for me.... people don't need a running commentary of the meet.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have put mine on coz it just seems the 'thing to do'. Haven't got one from the woman I 'sleep with' regularly. But I've been 'regular' for over 3 months and she keeps having me back for more so don't think that matters.
Wondering if the ones I've got are making me sound a little 'tame' though?"
your verifications sound good. whats tame about them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmm never had that
Ive had men asking me for them - which I find crass !!!
I also had a man once who said that if he gave me a verification it would mean more men may want to meet me 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not offended - it is their choice after all if they choose not to. That said, if I see somebody displaying a verification and the other person (the verifier) does not I draw my own conclusions ..."
I give other people veri's but I don't show mine. I guess that might make people think I didn't like the people I met, but I do like them all.
I dont show any veri's at all so maybe people would just think I'm shy. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Not offended - it is their choice after all if they choose not to. That said, if I see somebody displaying a verification and the other person (the verifier) does not I draw my own conclusions ...
I give other people veri's but I don't show mine. I guess that might make people think I didn't like the people I met, but I do like them all.
I dont show any veri's at all so maybe people would just think I'm shy. "
I have done both, hidden them and shown them, now showing just some of the more recent ones. Not saying anybody has to do one or the other as it really is a choice on this site and people should do what is right for them - I really meant that like I could... people could draw their own conclusions as to how they interpret this if that makes sense? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have put mine on coz it just seems the 'thing to do'. Haven't got one from the woman I 'sleep with' regularly. But I've been 'regular' for over 3 months and she keeps having me back for more so don't think that matters.
Wondering if the ones I've got are making me sound a little 'tame' though?
your verifications sound good. whats tame about them."
OK. Thanks. Maybe coz they don't say I'm Mr Alpha Male. Which I'm not, of course. I suppose they verify that I'm not Mr Fruit Loop either so that can't be bad, can it? x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmm never had that
Ive had men asking me for them - which I find crass !!!
I also had a man once who said that if he gave me a verification it would mean more men may want to meet me
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Lol that's made me smile, what a daft git |
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"Hmmm never had that
Ive had men asking me for them - which I find crass !!!
I also had a man once who said that if he gave me a verification it would mean more men may want to meet me
Lol that's made me smile, what a daft git "
I was thinking more pompous git! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not offended - it is their choice after all if they choose not to. That said, if I see somebody displaying a verification and the other person (the verifier) does not I draw my own conclusions ...
I give other people veri's but I don't show mine. I guess that might make people think I didn't like the people I met, but I do like them all.
I dont show any veri's at all so maybe people would just think I'm shy. I have done both, hidden them and shown them, now showing just some of the more recent ones. Not saying anybody has to do one or the other as it really is a choice on this site and people should do what is right for them - I really meant that like I could... people could draw their own conclusions as to how they interpret this if that makes sense? "
Yes it makes sense. I sometimes think that people with no veri's on show have something to hide. And then I realise I do the same. Oops!!  |
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Hope I haven't offended all of...I mean her! 