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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Everyone on this site is entitled to have a type of person on who they want to get with, etc. But how can you tell if someone is vain or being shallow or just saying what their type is? |
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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago
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"Everyone on this site is entitled to have a type of person on who they want to get with, etc. But how can you tell if someone is vain or being shallow or just saying what their type is? "
The hard way - read the profile, read their forum posts - and make your own mind up.
Guess work and reading between the lines may be involved.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Everyone on this site is entitled to have a type of person on who they want to get with, etc. But how can you tell if someone is vain or being shallow or just saying what their type is?
The hard way - read the profile, read their forum posts - and make your own mind up.
Guess work and reading between the lines may be involved. "
Basically if a woman says I like a guy to be built like a rugby player and must be able to do all these things. Is that personal preference or a sign of shallowness? I seem to chat to a woman and as soon as I get show them a pic they run a mile. Yet the people who don't claim I am attractive, but won't get with me as I am inexperienced. |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Everyone on this site is entitled to have a type of person on who they want to get with, etc. But how can you tell if someone is vain or being shallow or just saying what their type is?
The hard way - read the profile, read their forum posts - and make your own mind up.
Guess work and reading between the lines may be involved.
Basically if a woman says I like a guy to be built like a rugby player and must be able to do all these things. Is that personal preference or a sign of shallowness? I seem to chat to a woman and as soon as I get show them a pic they run a mile. Yet the people who don't claim I am attractive, but won't get with me as I am inexperienced. "
If you are her type its not shallow, if you aren't her type its shallow.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Everyone on this site is entitled to have a type of person on who they want to get with, etc. But how can you tell if someone is vain or being shallow or just saying what their type is?
The hard way - read the profile, read their forum posts - and make your own mind up.
Guess work and reading between the lines may be involved. .
Basically if a woman says I like a guy to be built like a rugby player and must be able to do all these things. Is that personal preference or a sign of shallowness? I seem to chat to a woman and as soon as I get show them a pic they run a mile. Yet the people who don't claim I am attractive, but won't get with me as I am inexperienced. If you are her type its not shallow, if you aren't her type its shallow. "
And us men get lectured for doing stuff like that  . As its you though. I'll let you off, lol |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Is it shallow to have a preference? I would say I have a type, but not all the men I meet fit into that type. Not finding someone attractive isn't shallow though. If the spark isn't there, it just ain't there. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it shallow to have a preference? I would say I have a type, but not all the men I meet fit into that type. Not finding someone attractive isn't shallow though. If the spark isn't there, it just ain't there."
That's what I was getting at. What is shallow and vain and what is just stating what is your type? |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Is it shallow to have a preference? I would say I have a type, but not all the men I meet fit into that type. Not finding someone attractive isn't shallow though. If the spark isn't there, it just ain't there.
That's what I was getting at. What is shallow and vain and what is just stating what is your type?"
As _emmefatale says, its 'shallow' if the woman's preference excludes you, and 'stating a type' if it doesn't.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess getting to knw someone before hopping into bed with them is a good way of knowing whether they match your preferences! I don't think it's shallow to say that you wouldn't sleep with someone your not attracted too. I couldn't sleep with a guy if there was no physical attraction. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it shallow to have a preference? I would say I have a type, but not all the men I meet fit into that type. Not finding someone attractive isn't shallow though. If the spark isn't there, it just ain't there.
That's what I was getting at. What is shallow and vain and what is just stating what is your type?
As _emmefatale says, its 'shallow' if the woman's preference excludes you, and 'stating a type' if it doesn't. "
I think you worded that wrong that's if you agreed with _emmefatale, lol. But either way. That's not fair. What's this "gang up on me day"? There is a time and place for that and that is in bed, at night |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Is it shallow to have a preference? I would say I have a type, but not all the men I meet fit into that type. Not finding someone attractive isn't shallow though. If the spark isn't there, it just ain't there.
That's what I was getting at. What is shallow and vain and what is just stating what is your type?
As _emmefatale says, its 'shallow' if the woman's preference excludes you, and 'stating a type' if it doesn't.
I think you worded that wrong that's if you agreed with _emmefatale, lol. But either way. That's not fair. What's this "gang up on me day"? There is a time and place for that and that is in bed, at night "
Not at all. Its a common complaint on here though. Someone is always saying that others are shallow for not answering messages, when it could just be they are not the other persons type. Best not to worry too much about how others use this site. |
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i dont get this idea of shallow. are you saying shallow is bad? that all women (and men) should have sex with people they dont find sexually attractive?
what if you cant get a lob on because you are confronted with someone you think is an uggo?? would that make you shallow?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it shallow to have a preference? I would say I have a type, but not all the men I meet fit into that type. Not finding someone attractive isn't shallow though. If the spark isn't there, it just ain't there.
That's what I was getting at. What is shallow and vain and what is just stating what is your type?"
in the end does it really matter? The outcome is the same no matter what the reasons...you either click with someone or you don't. I reserve the right to choose who I invite into my home, into my body and into my relationship..,whether it's shallow or my preference to the people I choose not to meet is immaterial to me as I won't be meeting them... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it shallow to have a preference? I would say I have a type, but not all the men I meet fit into that type. Not finding someone attractive isn't shallow though. If the spark isn't there, it just ain't there.
That's what I was getting at. What is shallow and vain and what is just stating what is your type?
As _emmefatale says, its 'shallow' if the woman's preference excludes you, and 'stating a type' if it doesn't.
I think you worded that wrong that's if you agreed with _emmefatale, lol. But either way. That's not fair. What's this "gang up on me day"? There is a time and place for that and that is in bed, at night
Not at all. Its a common complaint on here though. Someone is always saying that others are shallow for not answering messages, when it could just be they are not the other persons type. Best not to worry too much about how others use this site."
Wise words from a wise woman. Although this complaint is common as you see many people on here who aren't ugly and yet they get know where and people find that strange. |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Is it shallow to have a preference? I would say I have a type, but not all the men I meet fit into that type. Not finding someone attractive isn't shallow though. If the spark isn't there, it just ain't there.
That's what I was getting at. What is shallow and vain and what is just stating what is your type?"
In all honesty Im both.....shoot me. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Is it shallow to have a preference? I would say I have a type, but not all the men I meet fit into that type. Not finding someone attractive isn't shallow though. If the spark isn't there, it just ain't there.
That's what I was getting at. What is shallow and vain and what is just stating what is your type?
As _emmefatale says, its 'shallow' if the woman's preference excludes you, and 'stating a type' if it doesn't.
I think you worded that wrong that's if you agreed with _emmefatale, lol. But either way. That's not fair. What's this "gang up on me day"? There is a time and place for that and that is in bed, at night
Not at all. Its a common complaint on here though. Someone is always saying that others are shallow for not answering messages, when it could just be they are not the other persons type. Best not to worry too much about how others use this site.
Wise words from a wise woman. Although this complaint is common as you see many people on here who aren't ugly and yet they get know where and people find that strange. "
Perhaps their messages are crap. Perhaps they are new. Perhaps they've met several women socially and have BO. No way of knowing. People 'click' or not, and if they get involved in the site, in socials, in parties and events etc, they tend to be a lot more successful than they people who join, don't get a meet in the first two weeks, complain on the forum, then leave in a huff. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm shallow and very happy to wallow in my shallowness! Nsa sex is not as complicated as some seem to want to make it.
The only time I get deep with nsa is when I'm way past the introduction stage.... |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"I'm shallow and very happy to wallow in my shallowness! Nsa sex is not as complicated as some seem to want to make it.
The only time I get deep with nsa is when I'm way past the introduction stage...."
I can think of other ways to get deep.  |
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"I'm shallow and very happy to wallow in my shallowness! Nsa sex is not as complicated as some seem to want to make it.
The only time I get deep with nsa is when I'm way past the introduction stage...."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it shallow to have a preference? I would say I have a type, but not all the men I meet fit into that type. Not finding someone attractive isn't shallow though. If the spark isn't there, it just ain't there.
That's what I was getting at. What is shallow and vain and what is just stating what is your type?
As _emmefatale says, its 'shallow' if the woman's preference excludes you, and 'stating a type' if it doesn't.
I think you worded that wrong that's if you agreed with _emmefatale, lol. But either way. That's not fair. What's this "gang up on me day"? There is a time and place for that and that is in bed, at night
Not at all. Its a common complaint on here though. Someone is always saying that others are shallow for not answering messages, when it could just be they are not the other persons type. Best not to worry too much about how others use this site.
Wise words from a wise woman. Although this complaint is common as you see many people on here who aren't ugly and yet they get know where and people find that strange.
Perhaps their messages are crap. Perhaps they are new. Perhaps they've met several women socially and have BO. No way of knowing. People 'click' or not, and if they get involved in the site, in socials, in parties and events etc, they tend to be a lot more successful than they people who join, don't get a meet in the first two weeks, complain on the forum, then leave in a huff. "
Depends on how you mean or word it. The "lucky" ones so to speak are the ones who don't have to go to socials or come onto the forums then? As most people have to do either or both to become successful on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm shallow and very happy to wallow in my shallowness! Nsa sex is not as complicated as some seem to want to make it.
The only time I get deep with nsa is when I'm way past the introduction stage....
I can think of other ways to get deep. "
That is what I was alluding to |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"Is it shallow to have a preference? I would say I have a type, but not all the men I meet fit into that type. Not finding someone attractive isn't shallow though. If the spark isn't there, it just ain't there.
That's what I was getting at. What is shallow and vain and what is just stating what is your type?
As _emmefatale says, its 'shallow' if the woman's preference excludes you, and 'stating a type' if it doesn't.
I think you worded that wrong that's if you agreed with _emmefatale, lol. But either way. That's not fair. What's this "gang up on me day"? There is a time and place for that and that is in bed, at night
Not at all. Its a common complaint on here though. Someone is always saying that others are shallow for not answering messages, when it could just be they are not the other persons type. Best not to worry too much about how others use this site.
Wise words from a wise woman. Although this complaint is common as you see many people on here who aren't ugly and yet they get know where and people find that strange.
Perhaps their messages are crap. Perhaps they are new. Perhaps they've met several women socially and have BO. No way of knowing. People 'click' or not, and if they get involved in the site, in socials, in parties and events etc, they tend to be a lot more successful than they people who join, don't get a meet in the first two weeks, complain on the forum, then leave in a huff.
Depends on how you mean or word it. The "lucky" ones so to speak are the ones who don't have to go to socials or come onto the forums then? As most people have to do either or both to become successful on here."
Dunno. I only worry about my profile, who I am meeting, and how I meet them. I suspect its easier for me, having two boobies and a vagina, but I still had to get 'known' in the swinging community as an enthusiastic participant who is reliable. Once you get known, then people will remember you and think 'hmm, we could invite that guy'. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm shallow and very happy to wallow in my shallowness! Nsa sex is not as complicated as some seem to want to make it.
The only time I get deep with nsa is when I'm way past the introduction stage....
I can think of other ways to get deep.
That is what I was alluding to "
I guessed after I posted that. It's late. That's my excuse anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Depends on how you mean or word it. The "lucky" ones so to speak are the ones who don't have to go to socials or come onto the forums then? As most people have to do either or both to become successful on here."
That's just not true. |
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Depends on how you mean or word it. The "lucky" ones so to speak are the ones who don't have to go to socials or come onto the forums then? As most people have to do either or both to become successful on here."
Only a tiny fraction of the site uses the forums... and in terms of meeting their aims, the most successful guys I know rarely use the forums if at all. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is it shallow to have a preference? I would say I have a type, but not all the men I meet fit into that type. Not finding someone attractive isn't shallow though. If the spark isn't there, it just ain't there.
That's what I was getting at. What is shallow and vain and what is just stating what is your type?
As _emmefatale says, its 'shallow' if the woman's preference excludes you, and 'stating a type' if it doesn't.
I think you worded that wrong that's if you agreed with _emmefatale, lol. But either way. That's not fair. What's this "gang up on me day"? There is a time and place for that and that is in bed, at night
Not at all. Its a common complaint on here though. Someone is always saying that others are shallow for not answering messages, when it could just be they are not the other persons type. Best not to worry too much about how others use this site.
Wise words from a wise woman. Although this complaint is common as you see many people on here who aren't ugly and yet they get know where and people find that strange.
Perhaps their messages are crap. Perhaps they are new. Perhaps they've met several women socially and have BO. No way of knowing. People 'click' or not, and if they get involved in the site, in socials, in parties and events etc, they tend to be a lot more successful than they people who join, don't get a meet in the first two weeks, complain on the forum, then leave in a huff.
Depends on how you mean or word it. The "lucky" ones so to speak are the ones who don't have to go to socials or come onto the forums then? As most people have to do either or both to become successful on here.
Dunno. I only worry about my profile, who I am meeting, and how I meet them. I suspect its easier for me, having two boobies and a vagina, but I still had to get 'known' in the swinging community as an enthusiastic participant who is reliable. Once you get known, then people will remember you and think 'hmm, we could invite that guy'. "
You're forgetting you have a bum and legs too |
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