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over a year ago
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No not a post about men's cocks but about size, of late I've been appalled at some comments on here regarding size, I'm curvy and proud.
But it seems ok to call someone fat on here and get away with it and the use of BBW is so annoying |
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Would the best place to address those type of comments not be on whatever threads they are in..?
agree with what you say however cant help think that this will only attract similar perhaps..?
just a thought.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Would the best place to address those type of comments not be on whatever threads they are in..?
agree with what you say however cant help think that this will only attract similar perhaps..?
just a thought.."
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It's equally annoying when people write things like I prefer a girl with meat on her bones etc.... I am not fan of people being rude about someone's size regardless of what size that may be.
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I hate the term BBW - I'm not a BBW, I'm fat!
I hate it when men refer to a BBW like its a rite of passage to have sex with a fat bird or that its something to tick off their list. |
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"Would the best place to address those type of comments not be on whatever threads they are in..?
agree with what you say however cant help think that this will only attract similar perhaps..?
just a thought..
Maybe "
you in the mood for a ruck..?
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over a year ago
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Fat, skinny, obese, anorexic, ugly, beautiful are all descriptive words why stop using them if they are used in context. Ok ugly bastard or fat cunt is taking it too far and insulting but people are far too touchy in here. |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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"It's equally annoying when people write things like I prefer a girl with meat on her bones etc.... I am not fan of people being rude about someone's size regardless of what size that may be.
MissD"
Exactly, it can go both ways.
Unfortunately there will always be BBW vs Slim women and some people thrive on being nasty and the attention they get from being nasty.
It isn't nice how larger ladies are treated like shit, the same as how slimmer ladies are meant to feel inferior, like Miss D has said above.
Sadly, by starting a thread like this, I know you had good intentions by starting it, but it could turn into a fat vs slim kind of thread, and they are far from pleasant to read  |
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"Fat, skinny, obese, anorexic, ugly, beautiful are all descriptive words why stop using them if they are used in context. Ok ugly bastard or fat cunt is taking it too far and insulting but people are far too touchy in here. "
I agree to a point. Anorexia is a disease so I'm not sure I'd use it as an adjective. When I'm encouraging kids to use a variety of words - we describe each other in lessons and I never shirk when a child describes me as fat. Its a descriptive word that's true. I once had a child write "Miss is fat but she is pretty." |
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"It's equally annoying when people write things like I prefer a girl with meat on her bones etc.... I am not fan of people being rude about someone's size regardless of what size that may be.
MissD
Exactly, it can go both ways.
Unfortunately there will always be BBW vs Slim women and some people thrive on being nasty and the attention they get from being nasty.
It isn't nice how larger ladies are treated like shit, the same as how slimmer ladies are meant to feel inferior, like Miss D has said above.
Sadly, by starting a thread like this, I know you had good intentions by starting it, but it could turn into a fat vs slim kind of thread, and they are far from pleasant to read "
BBW started its life as big boned women as it happens but now its big and beautiful which is a bold statement as many are and many are not. I always wonder why slim women are not not called SSW slim sexy women but just slim or usually refereed to as skinny. |
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I'm the opposite,and small too!!Neither bother me as I've been short and skinny all my life!!!Lolol....But I have had some terrible comments from folk especially about my height!!Hahah!!!Some folks get so annoyed if I message them!!!!Folks need to get a grip and think before they type!!!
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"Fat, skinny, obese, anorexic, ugly, beautiful are all descriptive words why stop using them if they are used in context. Ok ugly bastard or fat cunt is taking it too far and insulting but people are far too touchy in here. "
The problem is that people are afraid of offending (and then losing the possibility of a shag) so they try to be 'nice' and instead of just being straightforward they dress it up. Then they offend the person they were trying to impress AND all the people of the opposite build. 
I am fat cos I like to eat and I don't like to exercise. If I had a problem with my size I would get off my (fat) arse and exercise. I am comfortable in my skin so I don't. I have had the pleasure of spending time with a variety of men who I find sexy and who find me sexy. I know I am not everyone's cup of tea, but I detest being pigeonholed as a type instead of a person.  |
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"Oh dear, I have a few extra pounds, I'll brace myself for the usual comments from all the perfectly formed people using them "
We are all perfectly formed.
Perfection is subjective and beauty in the eye of the beholder.
In fact a plain or even ugly person can become beautiful with a heartfelt smile. |
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"Fat, skinny, obese, anorexic, ugly, beautiful are all descriptive words why stop using them if they are used in context. Ok ugly bastard or fat cunt is taking it too far and insulting but people are far too touchy in here.
The problem is that people are afraid of offending (and then losing the possibility of a shag) so they try to be 'nice' and instead of just being straightforward they dress it up. Then they offend the person they were trying to impress AND all the people of the opposite build.
I am fat cos I like to eat and I don't like to exercise. If I had a problem with my size I would get off my (fat) arse and exercise. I am comfortable in my skin so I don't. I have had the pleasure of spending time with a variety of men who I find sexy and who find me sexy. I know I am not everyone's cup of tea, but I detest being pigeonholed as a type instead of a person. "
You are not wrong there many say one thing just to improve their chances but there are many who are honest and do it without being derogatory. I think the word fat has been hijacked as an insult more than the word skinny is and may go the same way the word gay has. |
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"Oh dear, I have a few extra pounds, I'll brace myself for the usual comments from all the perfectly formed people using them "
Why say that isn't that just incitement and catty? |
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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago
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"Oh dear, I have a few extra pounds, I'll brace myself for the usual comments from all the perfectly formed people using them
We are all perfectly formed.
Perfection is subjective and beauty in the eye of the beholder.
In fact a plain or even ugly person can become beautiful with a heartfelt smile."
a perfectly formed posting xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fat, skinny, obese, anorexic, ugly, beautiful are all descriptive words why stop using them if they are used in context. Ok ugly bastard or fat cunt is taking it too far and insulting but people are far too touchy in here.
The problem is that people are afraid of offending (and then losing the possibility of a shag) so they try to be 'nice' and instead of just being straightforward they dress it up. Then they offend the person they were trying to impress AND all the people of the opposite build.
I am fat cos I like to eat and I don't like to exercise. If I had a problem with my size I would get off my (fat) arse and exercise. I am comfortable in my skin so I don't. I have had the pleasure of spending time with a variety of men who I find sexy and who find me sexy. I know I am not everyone's cup of tea, but I detest being pigeonholed as a type instead of a person.
You are not wrong there many say one thing just to improve their chances but there are many who are honest and do it without being derogatory. I think the word fat has been hijacked as an insult more than the word skinny is and may go the same way the word gay has."
I agree totally with what you're saying. I feel like for me I've taken ownership about my size and I'm not afraid to use the word fat. I'll do it publicly without an issue to describe myself. I work on the premise that if I describe myself as fat then if others do they are simply agreeing. |
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I think that people draw out the issue by posting so ma many threads regarding BBW's,slim people bog boobs small boobs, big willies etc that it just brings out the negitives...We are always going to get the name calling what not..Being big does not fit into society (well they make it feel that way at times). Plus sixe people are always going to be targets the same as others..I really think its about ignoring those and paying attention to the people that matter...The ones that accept you for who you are... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fat, skinny, obese, anorexic, ugly, beautiful are all descriptive words why stop using them if they are used in context. Ok ugly bastard or fat cunt is taking it too far and insulting but people are far too touchy in here.
The problem is that people are afraid of offending (and then losing the possibility of a shag) so they try to be 'nice' and instead of just being straightforward they dress it up. Then they offend the person they were trying to impress AND all the people of the opposite build.
I am fat cos I like to eat and I don't like to exercise. If I had a problem with my size I would get off my (fat) arse and exercise. I am comfortable in my skin so I don't. I have had the pleasure of spending time with a variety of men who I find sexy and who find me sexy. I know I am not everyone's cup of tea, but I detest being pigeonholed as a type instead of a person.
You are not wrong there many say one thing just to improve their chances but there are many who are honest and do it without being derogatory. I think the word fat has been hijacked as an insult more than the word skinny is and may go the same way the word gay has."
Context has so much to do with it however some delight in being unpleasant so you can see why people get defensive at times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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its not just fat people who get insulted though is it, if people get insulted about other things, then why shouldnt fat people? a lot of people who bitch about other people are the first to complain when they get a taste of their own medicine, and we cant all be perfect anyway. |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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"It's equally annoying when people write things like I prefer a girl with meat on her bones etc.... I am not fan of people being rude about someone's size regardless of what size that may be.
MissD
Exactly, it can go both ways.
Unfortunately there will always be BBW vs Slim women and some people thrive on being nasty and the attention they get from being nasty.
It isn't nice how larger ladies are treated like shit, the same as how slimmer ladies are meant to feel inferior, like Miss D has said above.
Sadly, by starting a thread like this, I know you had good intentions by starting it, but it could turn into a fat vs slim kind of thread, and they are far from pleasant to read
BBW started its life as big boned women as it happens but now its big and beautiful which is a bold statement as many are and many are not. I always wonder why slim women are not not called SSW slim sexy women but just slim or usually refereed to as skinny. "
I have no idea where the origins come from, I was just using the term BBW as others prefer that term.
On my profile, I do actually put, I'm not into the whole BBW thing, I'm just a fat bird, so no idea why there isn't a SBW (Slim beautiful Woman) option.
Maybe the Americans, where BBW originated from I believe, have yet to come up with this term, or maybe society automatically thinks that if there is a slim woman she is beautiful.
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"its not just fat people who get insulted though is it, if people get insulted about other things, then why shouldnt fat people? a lot of people who bitch about other people are the first to complain when they get a taste of their own medicine, and we cant all be perfect anyway."
People are touchy its natural to be defensive but is the word fat itself an insult? If it us thin, short tall could be classed the same.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You are not wrong there many say one thing just to improve their chances but there are many who are honest and do it without being derogatory. I think the word fat has been hijacked as an insult more than the word skinny is and may go the same way the word gay has."
I don't agree with the word fat being more offensive then skinny. As a once very 'skinny' person that word was thrown around a lot and was very hurtful to hear as there really was nothing I could do about my weight I was just very naturally slim. I think some people will be fine with either word and others will be hurt and offended by it.
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"I think that people draw out the issue by posting so ma many threads regarding BBW's,slim people bog boobs small boobs, big willies etc that it just brings out the negitives...We are always going to get the name calling what not..Being big does not fit into society (well they make it feel that way at times). Plus sixe people are always going to be targets the same as others..I really think its about ignoring those and paying attention to the people that matter...The ones that accept you for who you are..."
One of my favourite playmates told me, in a surprised tone of voice, that I was scrawny compared to his usual preference but he can't keep his hands off me! 
This from a guy with an eight pack... |
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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago
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You are not wrong there many say one thing just to improve their chances but there are many who are honest and do it without being derogatory. I think the word fat has been hijacked as an insult more than the word skinny is and may go the same way the word gay has.
I don't agree with the word fat being more offensive then skinny. As a once very 'skinny' person that word was thrown around a lot and was very hurtful to hear as there really was nothing I could do about my weight I was just very naturally slim. I think some people will be fine with either word and others will be hurt and offended by it.
MissD"
TBH average doesn't sound that great either  |
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"I think that people draw out the issue by posting so ma many threads regarding BBW's,slim people bog boobs small boobs, big willies etc that it just brings out the negitives...We are always going to get the name calling what not..Being big does not fit into society (well they make it feel that way at times). Plus sixe people are always going to be targets the same as others..I really think its about ignoring those and paying attention to the people that matter...The ones that accept you for who you are..."
I like this attitude, my friends are all shapes and sizes and they are still my friends because it's them and the chemistry that I like not their size, looks or anything else. |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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You are not wrong there many say one thing just to improve their chances but there are many who are honest and do it without being derogatory. I think the word fat has been hijacked as an insult more than the word skinny is and may go the same way the word gay has.
I don't agree with the word fat being more offensive then skinny. As a once very 'skinny' person that word was thrown around a lot and was very hurtful to hear as there really was nothing I could do about my weight I was just very naturally slim. I think some people will be fine with either word and others will be hurt and offended by it.
MissD"
I recall someone saying how she had struggled to put weight on and people would criticise her because of this.
It works both ways.
However, some people just love to be offended and look for things to be offended about |
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You are not wrong there many say one thing just to improve their chances but there are many who are honest and do it without being derogatory. I think the word fat has been hijacked as an insult more than the word skinny is and may go the same way the word gay has.
I don't agree with the word fat being more offensive then skinny. As a once very 'skinny' person that word was thrown around a lot and was very hurtful to hear as there really was nothing I could do about my weight I was just very naturally slim. I think some people will be fine with either word and others will be hurt and offended by it.
MissD
I recall someone saying how she had struggled to put weight on and people would criticise her because of this.
It works both ways.
However, some people just love to be offended and look for things to be offended about "
I agree with that to some people do like to be offended and/or get offended more then others. |
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"I think that people draw out the issue by posting so ma many threads regarding BBW's,slim people bog boobs small boobs, big willies etc that it just brings out the negitives...We are always going to get the name calling what not..Being big does not fit into society (well they make it feel that way at times). Plus sixe people are always going to be targets the same as others..I really think its about ignoring those and paying attention to the people that matter...The ones that accept you for who you are...
One of my favourite playmates told me, in a surprised tone of voice, that I was scrawny compared to his usual preference but he can't keep his hands off me!
This from a guy with an eight pack... "
Why shouldn't you have that...You are gorgeous I think women should embrace their sexuality and confidence you can be slim and damn sexy and you can be big and ooze sex appeal...if I took personal insults at ever fat comment I got I would be a jibbering mess in the corner... |
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struggling with weight has spawned a multi million pound industry based on fear of rejection ... all the ladies on here look great no matter what shape they are... sexy clothes look great on all of you .. there are tubby blokes here too ... is anyone less human depending on shape... if you want play and have fun just get on with it and dont be so frightened of being judged xxx |
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The word fat is not the problem, it is the negative conurtations that it carries.
I don't mind being referred to as fat because I am.
I do take issue though will the fact that by default I am therefore smelly as a result too.
Check when people use the term, it rarely comes alone
Fat and ugly
Fat and smelly
Fat and lazy
And so on
So it is not just one negative, it is usually two and sometimes more |
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"struggling with weight has spawned a multi million pound industry based on fear of rejection ... all the ladies on here look great no matter what shape they are... sexy clothes look great on all of you .. there are tubby blokes here too ... is anyone less human depending on shape... if you want play and have fun just get on with it and dont be so frightened of being judged xxx"
I think you will find over eating had spawned the multi-million pound slimming product industry and I would bet there are more people who are motivated by health reasons and not feeling good about themselves that motivates them. The all bit in the rest frankly looks like sucking up as people are realists and not everyone does. People in general make the best of themselves but there are a lot who make little or no effort at all both males and females though for what reason I have frankly no idea why they don't. |
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"i didnt used to like it when people kept saying how tall i was.
I am 6ft and get called big bird I usually say well it has it uses I can spot the eye candy before the short arses lol"
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"No not a post about men's cocks but about size, of late I've been appalled at some comments on here regarding size, I'm curvy and proud.
But it seems ok to call someone fat on here and get away with it and the use of BBW is so annoying "
So we can't say fat and we can't say BBW?? What do we say then? I might use spherical |
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"No not a post about men's cocks but about size, of late I've been appalled at some comments on here regarding size, I'm curvy and proud.
But it seems ok to call someone fat on here and get away with it and the use of BBW is so annoying
So we can't say fat and we can't say BBW?? What do we say then? I might use spherical "
im more interested in the fact that your sexy and amusing |
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"I think that people draw out the issue by posting so ma many threads regarding BBW's,slim people bog boobs small boobs, big willies etc that it just brings out the negitives...We are always going to get the name calling what not..Being big does not fit into society (well they make it feel that way at times). Plus sixe people are always going to be targets the same as others..I really think its about ignoring those and paying attention to the people that matter...The ones that accept you for who you are...
I like this attitude, my friends are all shapes and sizes and they are still my friends because it's them and the chemistry that I like not their size, looks or anything else."
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I would love a world where we didn't feel the need to insult each other based on how the other person looks, what religion they are, what gender they are, their sexuality and anything else in between.
Why do we feel the need to bring others down? |
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there has to be a balance. most of us are a bit fat if we're totally honest but is that such a bad thing?
common consensus would be that a little overweight is better (looking) than a little underweight.
I don't like the whole big is beautiful stance either. As a general rule of thumb, it's completely the opposite |
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"I would love a world where we didn't feel the need to insult each other based on how the other person looks, what religion they are, what gender they are, their sexuality and anything else in between.
Why do we feel the need to bring others down?"
Agree!
But not all people do.
I think you make a very good point actually. Everyone has a label. Tall short fat thin ginger blonde muslim female etc etc. Just depends on how we let it affect us. |
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"I hate the term BBW - I'm not a BBW, I'm fat!
I hate it when men refer to a BBW like its a rite of passage to have sex with a fat bird or that its something to tick off their list. "
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"I would love a world where we didn't feel the need to insult each other based on how the other person looks, what religion they are, what gender they are, their sexuality and anything else in between.
Why do we feel the need to bring others down?
Agree!
But not all people do.
I think you make a very good point actually. Everyone has a label. Tall short fat thin ginger blonde muslim female etc etc. Just depends on how we let it affect us."
Spot on.
I used to get called 'Fats' when I was a teenager as I was slim (was an ironic nickname) which isn't so ironic now 
I call myself fat etc. But God forbid anyone calling me 'fats' nowadays would probably end up with a fat lip
Joke before I get called easily offended/violent |
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Maybe I don't spend enough time on the Forums, but I can't recall seeing any abusive comments about how people look, whether that be fat, thin, bald, ginger, blonde, brunnette, etc etc. I am sure that when people are rejected and feel the childish need to respond they will pick on something much like kids do in a playground and that says more about them than the person being insulted.
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"before i joined fab i thought BBW meant big breasted woman lol all this jargon and so little time. when does a person 'become' a BBW? am i one? xxx "
You don't need a label, you are just a "beautiful woman" |
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A few years ago I lost a fair bit of weight and people at work thought it was ok to say " youve lost too much weight" " your too thin" " you look poorley" " skinny"
Now if id have said to a fat person the exact same but that they had put weight on I would have been hauled in for bullying or inapropriate comments.
It gets on my nerves when people dont see it as being insulting if its comments about fat or thin! |
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when i was 19 i lost a lot of weight and my mum and my sister were making me feel bad saying i looked awful, the thing is i was eating three meals a day so i couldnt of been underweight.
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"A few years ago I lost a fair bit of weight and people at work thought it was ok to say " youve lost too much weight" " your too thin" " you look poorley" " skinny"
Now if id have said to a fat person the exact same but that they had put weight on I would have been hauled in for bullying or inapropriate comments.
It gets on my nerves when people dont see it as being insulting if its comments about fat or thin!"
I'm curvy I've lumps and bumps and stretch marks on my boobs and tummy and guess what, I've never felt sexier! Confidence is a great trick |
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