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By *attykit OP Woman
over a year ago
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So. I'm a bbw. Have wobbly dimpled bits and my boobs don't stand up on their own!!! Is it wrong that when I get a message from a stud muffin sporting a six pack like a wall I immediately think he's either just fishing for anything with a hole and a heart beat (I'm not into that kind of random fuck) or a time waster or he's going to run a mile when he realises and sees a picture of me.
Can't see why someone soooooo fit would fancy me???
Anyone else sometime winner about "punching above their weight"?? Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't be so hard on yourself. If you have no pics up, it might be that your profile is very captivating (posted this blind btw).
Get to know them and take it from there xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would not even reply. I have the same body shape as you and would never feel comfortable - men that fit are well out of my league.
Or I'd feel inferior and too body conscious. Trouble is I don't like larger men either so I think I'll just stick to women  |
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By *sMinxyWoman
over a year ago
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hi, a fellow BBW sigining in here....
I know what you meaning, I have a FB that have known for nearly 6 years now, I had a major wobble recently about how I look, and when I told him I was scared he wouldnt like my wobbly bits anymore I got very told off!!
minxy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No such thing as out of anyones league.
Cant comment on the guy who messaged you but there are lots of guys on here into bbws.
You will inevitably get dickheads being nasty but you will get more good peeps.
Dont be intimidated by anyone, you are good enough for anyone.
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By *ustMyselfWoman
over a year ago
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I have the odd moment of self doubt but mostly I have found confidence I didn't think I possessed. If some hottie messages you just be yourself they will see you for the gorgeous girl you are xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My similar wife has similar insecurities. There are guys that are just after any hole and then there are guys like me, and others, that appreciate a real woman.
Its easy for us cause I can usually suss out the difference but don't think you should be dismissive outright as we've met some far better looking/fitter men than me who have loved being with her.
Good luck x |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"You should have some self belief, big women are beautiful, I love larger ladies.  "
Some big women are beautiful, some are not, but in response to the OP have a little faith- some guys love bigger women. |
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Bloody go for it.....Send a reply if it turns out a waste of time they hey ho.. Nothing ventured nothing gained..I am a plus size woman and find it incredibly flattering when I get message from hot guys who really does want to know what I am about... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm the same, if someone hot takes an interest I automatically think they're taking the mick. That or if they like my size then it's probably coz they've got a fetish and don't actually like me as a person.
I hope I'll find someone who just wants me whatever one day but I'm starting to doubt I will more and more.
Jesus, I sound like a right miserable cow! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why put yourself down? Have confidence, you may be to some people's likings and not to others. If you have a pic up then perhaps that would make it clear to people and they can decide on whether to message or not. Who are you to tell someone they can't fancy you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So. I'm a bbw. Have wobbly dimpled bits and my boobs don't stand up on their own!!! Is it wrong that when I get a message from a stud muffin sporting a six pack like a wall I immediately think he's either just fishing for anything with a hole and a heart beat (I'm not into that kind of random fuck) or a time waster or he's going to run a mile when he realises and sees a picture of me.
Can't see why someone soooooo fit would fancy me???
Anyone else sometime winner about "punching above their weight"?? Xx"
Much like others have said, if he contacts you and does seem genuine and to have at least taken the time to have read your profile, then it may just be that he finds you interesting and may just want to know you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im a larger woman and I have men of all shapes and sizes mail me ...
Have some belief in yourself
You are hot....  "
I agree with this. In fact you both are hot |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You know what
He thinks you are hot .. and he wants to meet you
End of
Enjoy it
 Never let anyone make you feel as though you deserve less."
And what he said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So. I'm a bbw. Have wobbly dimpled bits and my boobs don't stand up on their own!!! Is it wrong that when I get a message from a stud muffin sporting a six pack like a wall I immediately think he's either just fishing for anything with a hole and a heart beat (I'm not into that kind of random fuck) or a time waster or he's going to run a mile when he realises and sees a picture of me.
Can't see why someone soooooo fit would fancy me???
Anyone else sometime winner about "punching above their weight"?? Xx"
There was a similar thread a short time ago, so forgive us for posting a similar reply.
Instead of torturing yourself with feelings of insecurity, why not just put a full body pic on your profile.
That way you'll know that people contacting you do so because they like what they see. 
XXXX |
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Actually and tactfully x I feel the op is right x
Do not let your guard down , the fact is you we really don't know the motive behind the messages x they are absolutely right you should be confident forward thinking open to talking the risk not shutting doors be proud but also be aware as you are that talk is easy and cheap. As you say there is no indicative pic of you so any person declaring their obsession for you must be taken with, let's say care
it is interesting , that non of those who have told you not to worry have seen you either so they don't know either x as a larger lady you will have a genuine fan base , as a lady with a hole you will have a genuine fan base
One thing that can be said is if you are a good person you deserve respect and you deserve your self respect if you felt someone is compromising either then don't let them x
as was said to a man who posted a similar thread you will need to toughen up x |
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I don't understand why 'any hole is a goal' is always a bad thing.
If it was phrased "it's not the outward appearance of people that attracts me to them" there would be a flood of people queuing up to agree and pat each other on the back for shedding their shallowness.
So what if someone is happy to fuck most people....... as long as you think they are fit and do a good job ... everyone's a winner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why would a stud muffin with a 6 pack need to meet just anyone? Surely he could have anyone, right? He'd just need to go down the pub, take his shirt off and the women would be chucking their knickers at him.
So...... if he's on here and he's mailed you then I'd say he's interested in YOU!
If nothing else, meet him for a coffee and then he can see you in real life. He might be an amazing shag. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Omg don't think like that op! My first young fit guy I was dubious and asked him why me, he said cos he adores bbw and wobbles. I have never felt so at ease.. He actually loved feeling all my fatty parts and grabbed and carassed them.. He just loved ever extra inch..
There is bbw porn for a reason and that's cos some guys find it such a turn on!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are all attracted to different things.. I love a cute face and sexy eyes.. Body is not important for me but honesty is.. Being big doesn't mean a six packer shouldn't fancy you!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also bite the bullet and put up a full body shot to show your size.. a man can make a better informed decission then.
Some bbws have thin legs etc and larger tummys etc. if you still recieve messages then its the guys fault he never looked or took notice.
whilst having pictures of your best features will make you feel good you can attract that stereotypical adonis but the rejection of seeing the worst bits might not be so nice and will create a temporary low.
I used to hide away from the truth in my pics but would still panic about what i looked like.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also bite the bullet and put up a full body shot to show your size.. a man can make a better informed decission then.
Some bbws have thin legs etc and larger tummys etc. if you still recieve messages then its the guys fault he never looked or took notice.
whilst having pictures of your best features will make you feel good you can attract that stereotypical adonis but the rejection of seeing the worst bits might not be so nice and will create a temporary low.
I used to hide away from the truth in my pics but would still panic about what i looked like.
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Its an idea ... but even though I'm all for this I personally wouldn't do that. Im large and I tell people I am so there should be no ' SHOCK' when they meet me. There is a picture of me in a corset but lets me honest they hold you in for all your life
Im not naked when I meet - I cover it up so no need for me to show anyone what they will never see
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"So. I'm a bbw. Have wobbly dimpled bits and my boobs don't stand up on their own!!! Is it wrong that when I get a message from a stud muffin sporting a six pack like a wall I immediately think he's either just fishing for anything with a hole and a heart beat (I'm not into that kind of random fuck) or a time waster or he's going to run a mile when he realises and sees a picture of me.
Can't see why someone soooooo fit would fancy me???
Anyone else sometime winner about "punching above their weight"?? Xx"
Talk to him, get to know him. If he's a decent kind of guy he'll simply have liked the sound of you and want to see if theres a real spark.
Not all of us base everything on finding a certain look. Fun comes in all shapes, colours and places |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im a larger woman and I have men of all shapes and sizes mail me ...
Have some belief in yourself
You are hot.... "
Slight understatement Cheeky...
You're both stunning |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For most guys - at least the real ones - your sexual attraction is very little to do with your appearance, and a lot to do with your attitude anyway.
I'm by no means a six-packer, I'm a thirty-something average build kinda guy, but I've had a similar reaction when I've messaged women who are much bigger, or older, or who consider themselves much less attractive than me. It's very disappointing, because if I've messaged them in the first place it's because of the feeling I get from their profile on the whole - yes the pics count, but I think it's more the attitude I pick up from the pics and the profile text that draws me in.
Then again, I do understand because if I received a message from a size 8, 21 year-old model I'd assume 100% that they weren't genuine - but that's because of the difference between male/female behaviours online anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is why i have full naked pics up....you know then know how much cushion i am pushin lol"
But you look good naked
If I had a body like yours - Id put them all over my profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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everyone is self conscious of something whether it be the body, looks, the fear of not being liked or rejected and some people are so shallow and vain they cannot see the person inside and how much it hurts........... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"everyone is self conscious of something whether it be the body, looks, the fear of not being liked or rejected and some people are so shallow and vain they cannot see the person inside and how much it hurts..........."
Thats true
However on here I doubt many think like that ..
There are a few who are intelligent enough to know this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Floro i dont do naked either.. hense the baby doll pics. it still shows my size/frame though.
I have put that im a dress size 26 on my profile before and guys are like 'what the fecks that mean.. ' lol |
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Men are here to be used to you know. When I was meeting I'd never worry if they were looking for any hole as often I'd be looking for any pole lol
Not everyone you meet will be repeat potential. There will be one offs and you will never know if that's the way they play or they just weren't into you.
If he is any any holer he will get bored if you don't give in quickly so there is at least one way of knowing.
I agree with other posters about putting more pics up so that people are more readily awareof your size .
Most of all just relax and don't worry about why people are messaging you or want to meet you. Meet because you want to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Floro i dont do naked either.. hense the baby doll pics. it still shows my size/frame though.
I have put that im a dress size 26 on my profile before and guys are like 'what the fecks that mean.. ' lol"
Men aren't good with that... I don't put my size on because Im not one size. It can change from day to day .. if I eat white bread or pizza Im 2 dress sizes bigger the next day lol
You look stunning .. and very honest and you are wonderfully honest |
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It works both ways maybe this Adonis is treated as some performing superman who will make the earth move on command by some shallow high maintenance bimbos and likes someone who is not looking at herself in the mirror all the time. Having fun is not a performance for the X factor but a journey to be savoured by those involved ...beauty is in the eye of the beholder |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"everyone is self conscious of something whether it be the body, looks, the fear of not being liked or rejected and some people are so shallow and vain they cannot see the person inside and how much it hurts...........
Thats true
However on here I doubt many think like that ..
There are a few who are intelligent enough to know this "
Not just on the forums either...
I am my own judge... And DILLIGAFF to the rest... 
I know myself and am content in my own skin...
I am shallow enough to allow aesthetics to be my first reference.... But not shape so much as attitude.... And I will get to know someone before making a decision....
If someone is hot hot hot, but has an ugly mind... I walk on by. |
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"Men are here to be used to you know. When I was meeting I'd never worry if they were looking for any hole as often I'd be looking for any pole lol
Not everyone you meet will be repeat potential. There will be one offs and you will never know if that's the way they play or they just weren't into you.
If he is any any holer he will get bored if you don't give in quickly so there is at least one way of knowing.
I agree with other posters about putting more pics up so that people are more readily awareof your size .
Most of all just relax and don't worry about why people are messaging you or want to meet you. Meet because you want to meet. "
nice one evie |
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By *attykit OP Woman
over a year ago
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Firstly. Thank you to everyone who has replied either in the forum or privately. I've had a fair few messages from others via private message sorry if I haven't replied to you personally.
Secondly. I have been chatting with Julie and Mark about having some photos taken so I'll await the appropriate response when they go up! But will bear in mind the comments. I guess it's about balance. Showing enough toshow people what you look like but not too much that you either run the mystery (!!) Or end up thinking "gawd I look like a horrible Blob"!!
In the mean time I have a meet tonight with an intimidating man with his own cushions and I'm sure great fun will be had by all! ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Firstly. Thank you to everyone who has replied either in the forum or privately. I've had a fair few messages from others via private message sorry if I haven't replied to you personally.
Secondly. I have been chatting with Julie and Mark about having some photos taken so I'll await the appropriate response when they go up! But will bear in mind the comments. I guess it's about balance. Showing enough toshow people what you look like but not too much that you either run the mystery (!!) Or end up thinking "gawd I look like a horrible Blob"!!
In the mean time I have a meet tonight with an intimidating man with his own cushions and I'm sure great fun will be had by all! ! "
Have a wonderful time lucky lady |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So. I'm a bbw. Have wobbly dimpled bits and my boobs don't stand up on their own!!! Is it wrong that when I get a message from a stud muffin sporting a six pack like a wall I immediately think he's either just fishing for anything with a hole and a heart beat (I'm not into that kind of random fuck) or a time waster or he's going to run a mile when he realises and sees a picture of me.
Can't see why someone soooooo fit would fancy me???
Anyone else sometime winner about "punching above their weight"?? Xx"
Quite simply because some fit people are attracted to non-fit people.
It does seem more of a man thing tho
Take a look in any shopping centre on any given weekend afternoon and take a look at the couples.
Far more fit/average men with bigger women than there are fit/average women with bigger men.
You will always have an element of guys who will shag anyone (or indeed anything), but use your head to work out who is genuinely into bigger people and who is merely looking for a spunk receptacle.
The clues are usually there |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Floro i dont do naked either.. hense the baby doll pics. it still shows my size/frame though.
I have put that im a dress size 26 on my profile before and guys are like 'what the fecks that mean.. ' lol
Men aren't good with that... I don't put my size on because Im not one size. It can change from day to day .. if I eat white bread or pizza Im 2 dress sizes bigger the next day lol
You look stunning .. and very honest and you are wonderfully honest "
Me neither
If I took my bra off my tits would touch the floor and I wear camis and baby dolls to hide my tummy and it gives me confidence and heels always wear heels |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We could all feel that here no matter of size ... Self acceptance is accepting who we are but very often we can put too much emphasis on what others think about us, or what we think they think about us. Sometimes all around us there can be lots of focus on outward appearance; we can forget that who we are on the inside is equally if not more important ......... Just be you and if people don't like it thay are not for you ... and some pics would help on that profile and see your going to be sorting that out soon xx Good luck and only meet if you really like them as people too. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am no stick insect I have a 29 yr old friend he very fit and in the army been seeing him a few years but he keeps coming back we have lots laughs and fun its not all bout the sex thats the bonus its the person inside that matters give him a chance at least |
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I like this thread. We're all human and everyone has issues/insecurities about themselves regardless of size/shape. None of us are alone in that. It's how you deal with it I guess... nothing more attractive than a little confidence. This is what I tell myself when I'm having a fat/ugly day... chances are, lovely, hot, fit bloke will likely do wonders for your self confidence. I have more inhibitions with my clothes on than off and if someone wants me with my clothes on then they have a pretty good idea what's under them. I'm lucky that my tits are still where they should be... long may that continue!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's nsa sex. If someone wants to have sex with you and you want sex with them, don't read too deeply into their motives, focus a little more on yours.
It's nsa, how will you ever fully know their motive? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's nsa sex. If someone wants to have sex with you and you want sex with them, don't read too deeply into their motives, focus a little more on yours.
It's nsa, how will you ever fully know their motive?"
true and some see local and not miles away and a hole to shag ...... that's easy to get too ... nothing to do with looks. It cold hard sex ... if people ok with that fine. |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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As others have said, do not feel intimidated at all!
Ok so he has a great body etc. But does he have a face and personality to match?
One of my first meets was with a 6ft 3, perfectly toned gorgeous man and yes I was intimidated for a bit but whilst we were having fun I did not feel intimidated at all. And I met him quite a few times after and loved it! He had told me how he felt very shy in approaching ladies and felt shy about asking me as we had gotten to know each other in chat first.
So my advice is go have fun, if he isn't for you or you for him, move on to the next!
Just don't dwell on it too much or it will spoil the fun x |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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"Floro i dont do naked either.. hense the baby doll pics. it still shows my size/frame though.
I have put that im a dress size 26 on my profile before and guys are like 'what the fecks that mean.. ' lol"
I have my dress size, bra size, height and a body pic, ok so I don't do naked either, but in my current profile pic I'm not in the nuddy, but you can see all my lumps n bumps.
I do have to say Floro, you have a very pretty face x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have wobbly bits and if i like the look of someone why the hell not,they obviously must like the look of me.
Ive had sex with some insanely hot guys and some more than once.
I guess its down to how you put yourself across also...have fun don't worry about it they must see something if they want a meet...sex for the sake of sex is easy to find so if your'e talking and they want to meet its all good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to admit when I get messages from really fit men I often wonder why they have mailed me, but i'd still meet them, if they want to shag a minger for the sake of a shag that's their problem so long as I get some eye candy what the hell |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am quite ample in the right places but my hubby says it's wat u put across tht attracts the men & women nothing to do with wat u look like. My confidence is not always great but I am sure even Mr 6 pack may be insecure about some aspect of his appearance. Message him, if you don't u will never know either way. ...x |
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