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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How do you split them?
I'm a single bi fem, I have a couples meet coming up. They don't accommodate and neither do I. Only viable option is a hotel.
I don't think it's fair that I pay half of the cost, seeing as there are 2 of them and only 1 of me. I think the cost should be split 3 equal way's.
This hasn't gone down too well.
Is this not the best and fairest way, obviously I think so.
But what do you sexy folk think?
How would/do you split a hotel bill? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a guy I would always offer to pay whole thin, but I know I will get shot down in flames by some for this. |
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I think it's up to the couple to pay , especially if your fulfilling their fantasy of an ffm.... And also who gets to stay the night in the room, you or them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I see your point .but a couple looks at it different they think they come together so they only want to pay half .but a great time can be worth the few more bucks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just saw nobodys sluts pics the couple should be glad to pay |
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I've always paid for the room as I'll be the one getting ready there and spending the whole night there. |
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if you have issues before the meet -- how comfortable will you feel if you meet
couples are crying out for bi fems you should be calling the shots |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you have a suite at the Ritz then maybe an issue!
If your in a cheap travelodge is it worth falling out over a few pounds and losing what could be a fantastic experience?
Whoever suggested the hotel should pay and be done with it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you split them?
I'm a single bi fem, I have a couples meet coming up. They don't accommodate and neither do I. Only viable option is a hotel.
I don't think it's fair that I pay half of the cost, seeing as there are 2 of them and only 1 of me. I think the cost should be split 3 equal way's.
This hasn't gone down too well.
Is this not the best and fairest way, obviously I think so.
But what do you sexy folk think?
How would/do you split a hotel bill? "
How far are they travelling. If its close to you then if we were the couple we would pay the full cost. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a single sometimes bi female btw not a couple & I think it should be a 50/50 split, should be based on couple been counted as one side of the meet the fem as the other. I don't think it should be down to the number of people involved, but the mix of people, if it was 3 single people then a 3 way split, but couple & single half & half xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i wud allways pay for a hotel meet |
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"How do you split them?
I'm a single bi fem, I have a couples meet coming up. They don't accommodate and neither do I. Only viable option is a hotel.
I don't think it's fair that I pay half of the cost, seeing as there are 2 of them and only 1 of me. I think the cost should be split 3 equal way's.
This hasn't gone down too well.
Is this not the best and fairest way, obviously I think so.
But what do you sexy folk think?
How would/do you split a hotel bill? "
Half and half. Why should they pay more? There are 2 parties involved. It's irrelevant that one is a couple in my eyes.
Only if I was meeting a group of people wouldiI expect the cost to be split down more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a single sometimes bi female btw not a couple & I think it should be a 50/50 split, should be based on couple been counted as one side of the meet the fem as the other. I don't think it should be down to the number of people involved, but the mix of people, if it was 3 single people then a 3 way split, but couple & single half & half xx
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"if you have issues before the meet -- how comfortable will you feel if you meet
couples are crying out for bi fems you should be calling the shots"
So couples have to bow down to bi fems demands.......interesting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if you have issues before the meet -- how comfortable will you feel if you meet
couples are crying out for bi fems you should be calling the shots
So couples have to bow down to bi fems demands.......interesting "
I was going to comment something similar just because someone is "elusive" doesn't mean they shouldn't contribute or take advantage. |
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I have been happy to pay for a hotel room. We used it for our fun then both left. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a single sometimes bi female btw not a couple & I think it should be a 50/50 split, should be based on couple been counted as one side of the meet the fem as the other. I don't think it should be down to the number of people involved, but the mix of people, if it was 3 single people then a 3 way split, but couple & single half & half xx
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Yes I agree unless one party will use the room to stay the night. We had this scenario with a fem. she went home, we stayed the night and were happy to pay for the room. If she'd stayed 50/50. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would expect it to be talked about in a grown up manner and sorted pre meet.
If they got arsey about it well then wouldn't meet them.
Depends if there's a meal, drinks etc before too x |
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By *azzaahhWoman
over a year ago
north wales / chester |
Im going away for weekend in few weeks im paying hotel hes paying everythng else |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ms here. When I met a couple on my own I think we split the cost three ways but it was only an Ibis so not a big difference whether I'd paid half or a third. I'm surprised the couple are quibbling over what is probably a relatively small amount in the grand scheme of things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ms here. When I met a couple on my own I think we split the cost three ways but it was only an Ibis so not a big difference whether I'd paid half or a third. I'm surprised the couple are quibbling over what is probably a relatively small amount in the grand scheme of things. "
I agree |
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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago
anywhere |
if we meet in hotels we always pay.we feel we have more control of the situation that way. |
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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago
Northamptonshire |
I think it depends if anyone has to travel a distance and is planning to use the room after play. If they are then they should cover the full cost of the room, but if it is just going to be used as a place to meet, then a straight down the middle 50/50.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Straight down the middle if its been discussed i know out of experience a lot of guys wont have it and end up paying for it all but offer to split.
When i have met couples if they have come to me they have booked their own room and i ave gone home to sleep.
And if i have travelled ive booked my own room as that time before and a bit of time after i think is special to them i don't do the whole falling asleep with them and spending the whole night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Gamble on orgasm roulette whoever cums first or last or most pays |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We pay for everything as we think that is courteous.
Can't be bothered with scrabbling around worrying about who pays for what. Doesn't show much class. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If its 3 of you it's got to he split 3 ways, if they are being huffy about it sod them x |
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I'd probably do 50:50 but would have the little shampoo things myself. |
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DEFINITELY 50/50!!!!!
If a single fem meets us a couple they get twice as much attention as either one of the couple get.
If you want a per-person split, arrange to meet two singles, if you want to meet a couple they come as a package so should be considered as 50% of the meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer to cough up the cost myself, this way I do not feel I owe anyone anything.
However it will be at a budget hotel of my choice, normally close to where I live so that I do not have to travel far.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My view would be whoever is using the room overnight pays! If neither party is staying over then the cost is split 50/50!
Personally I've always paid - but then the majority of my hotel meets will be when I'm working away, so will be covered by expenses. But if I've arranged something in my free time and the other party has to travel it only seems fair that i arrange the room.
And not wanting to sound sexist but i don't think gender should be a reason for that to be different! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Who ever will be sleeping in the room should pay |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"My view would be whoever is using the room overnight pays! If neither party is staying over then the cost is split 50/50!
And not wanting to sound sexist but i don't think gender should be a reason for that to be different!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't really care...I really don't.
If I like the person, I'll pay the whole hog.
Ben |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The reason I won't do hotels is because I can't afford half and there is mo way I.would let the man pay then feel I owe it to him to play I keep having to tell men this but still get them saying they don't mind not realizing how strongly I feel about it grrr xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I put aside a "play" budget that covers the cost of a hotel room and a tank of petrol every month.
If this is needed elsewhere then I don't play that month.
Hence I am not playing at mo until August at least due to unexpected outgoings.
And no, gender does not come into it with regard who pays for anything, IMHO.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never ask nothing from no one ...... as coming to Norfolk can cost on petrol . And if I meet at hotel after at club its my room I sleep in so I think its for me and us . If I was ever to be treated I would feel I owning to them in some way . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a couple we would pay for the hotel room. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have read all comments. Quite a mixed bunch. Thanks for your input you sexy bunch of mo fo's
I'm a single mum, already have to pay tank of petrol to meet half way (50 miles).
I have 1 income and a child to support.
They have 2 incomes and no children.
Their income is far more disposable than mine.
Someone said I get twice the pleasure, but I also have 2 to please?!. So twice the work.
Think I may just blow it out the water. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't really care...I really don't.
If I like the person, I'll pay the whole hog.
Ben"
So, what do you do if you don't like the person?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We will and have paid for the room, gives us us time away from home etc, doesnt bother us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do not consider the other person's financial situation when deciding if I like him enough to want to play with him.
If I cannot pay my own way I don't play, end of story.
It comes across as rather petty to me having to consider how to divide up the shares based on number of participants and their financial situations, as it would come across more like a business transaction than fun to me personally.
When I book and pay for the room, I do not expect myself or the other person to stay the night. If I decide to head home, the gent is free to use the room for the rest of the night as he chooses.
All stipulated and underhand by both parties before I would agree to meet to avoid misunderstandings.
It may not suit everyone, however that's how I operate.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would come to a town / hotel near you and pay for the room, but that bloody M25 is in the way... no point in arriving stressed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't see anything in wrong in agreeing to go 50/50 - but if i am meeting a female only in hotel i would always offer to pay all first; if she wanted to split costs i think thats ok to ---- i have however been caught twice in agreeing 50/50 with a couple with me doing booking and them turning up have the quickest of fumbles and making excuses why they need to leave and not paying their share and also on one occasion a couple not turning up ....so when its a couple i will generally meet somewhere local first and then do booking etc ...... did that make sense ??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oops typo error in my previous post, should read "all stipulated and understood by both parties..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would only use budget hotels. If the gent does not turn up, I would write him off and move on.
In the past I had pre-booked a really cheap room every month for an entire year. However most went to waste so I don't bother to book in advance anymore.
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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If its my hotel room, I pay. If the person wants me to come to their hotel, they pay. If its a hotel room booked because neither party can accommodate its 50/50, regardless of the number of people there. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Wtf. Why am I now getting shot down?
I've been honest, and asked, what I believe to be a reasonable question.
And now I'm being judged for it?
Thanks. Nice one?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We only meet couples and so tend to split it half and half, or we pay one time and they pay another.
We would not meet singles and so haver never had the problem of how to split the cost, but find it a bit petty to argue over a few pounds.
What i did pick up on is the comment about being a single parent and having less disposable income than the couple, how is their income relavant to how much each party should pay?
Have we accidentally gone back to the socialist swingers thread lol |
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splitting it 50/50 seems reasonable |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you contacted them you pay and visa versa is one way or we think 50/50 is fair enough and totally reasonable |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
What if only one half of the couple has an income? You assume that they are both working.
If they are going to use the room for the whole night, though, they should pay and, out of courtesy, you could offer to pay part for use of the room. |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"If its my hotel room, I pay. If the person wants me to come to their hotel, they pay. If its a hotel room booked because neither party can accommodate its 50/50, regardless of the number of people there."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd probably do 50:50 but would have the little shampoo things myself. "
Love it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have read all comments. Quite a mixed bunch. Thanks for your input you sexy bunch of mo fo's
I'm a single mum, already have to pay tank of petrol to meet half way (50 miles).
I have 1 income and a child to support.
They have 2 incomes and no children.
Their income is far more disposable than mine.
Someone said I get twice the pleasure, but I also have 2 to please?!. So twice the work.
Think I may just blow it out the water. "
Twice the work !!!!!!!!!!
With that attitude surprised u get a meet at all ffs
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What if only one half of the couple has an income? You assume that they are both working.
If they are going to use the room for the whole night, though, they should pay and, out of courtesy, you could offer to pay part for use of the room."
I assumed nothing. If I didn't know the facts I wouldn't have said. They both have jobs.
And yes I agree with the second point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always pay half, to be honest unless your paying £300 a night for a top hotel the difference between paying half or a third isn't worth negotiating over, you can get lots of decent hotels on booking.com for £40 a night so the difference between paying half or a third is £7 (i've rounded the pennies up lol) is £7 even worth mentioning? id just pay half |
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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago
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You're doing the right thing by trying to agree on the split before you meet.
Given what you've said, I think 50/50 is reasonable. If I was in a couple meeting you, I think we'd offer to take care of the drinks and/or food beforehand.
Mind you ... it doesn't bode well for a good meet, hope I'm wrong.
However a single bi woman has a lot of bargaining power
Hope you enjoy the meet if it happens. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have read all comments. Quite a mixed bunch. Thanks for your input you sexy bunch of mo fo's
I'm a single mum, already have to pay tank of petrol to meet half way (50 miles).
I have 1 income and a child to support.
They have 2 incomes and no children.
Their income is far more disposable than mine.
Someone said I get twice the pleasure, but I also have 2 to please?!. So twice the work.
Think I may just blow it out the water.
Twice the work !!!!!!!!!!
With that attitude surprised u get a meet at all ffs
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You've taken that out of context completely.
I've asked a reasonable question.
Yet somehow it's turned into a personal assault on me?!.
Omg so many self righteous folk. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I always pay half, to be honest unless your paying £300 a night for a top hotel the difference between paying half or a third isn't worth negotiating over, you can get lots of decent hotels on booking.com for £40 a night so the difference between paying half or a third is £7 (i've rounded the pennies up lol) is £7 even worth mentioning? id just pay half"
Thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have read all comments. Quite a mixed bunch. Thanks for your input you sexy bunch of mo fo's
I'm a single mum, already have to pay tank of petrol to meet half way (50 miles).
I have 1 income and a child to support.
They have 2 incomes and no children.
Their income is far more disposable than mine.
Someone said I get twice the pleasure, but I also have 2 to please?!. So twice the work.
Think I may just blow it out the water.
Twice the work !!!!!!!!!!
With that attitude surprised u get a meet at all ffs
You've taken that out of context completely.
I've asked a reasonable question.
Yet somehow it's turned into a personal assault on me?!.
Omg so many self righteous folk. "
But it is twice the work!
that's why I wont do 3sums with two straight men, much easier if they're bi and help me out lol
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"But it is twice the work!
that's why I wont do 3sums with two straight men, much easier if they're bi and help me out lol
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That's the fun for me though. So many cocks, not enough hands. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's a bi fem m/f couple |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
Forum Mod O o O oo |
If we play at a hotel we pay for the room |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a bi fem m/f couple "
I know but I don't meet couples so I had to use an example from who I do meet lol
At the end of the day as a single bi female your in the highest demand on here, there are loads of couples who would foot the whole bill and even more that would jump at the chance of meeting you and paying half, if your talking to someone whos quibbling over the cost split just move on, it'll take you a whole 10 mins to start talking to another couple |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tbh , never had a hotel meet with couple so really not sure but would need to be discussed beforehand .
Good to read everyone's thoughts though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If we play at a hotel we pay for the room "
if its someone I meet regular I like to take turns in paying, I find sitting on a meet exchanging money kills the mood, there is a couple of guys I meet semi regular and we just take it in turns booking that way we both pay the same over all and money don't have to be mentioned on a meet |
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I would pay half if we were both using the room just for the meet then leaving. As I wouldn't be staying overnight if they were then I think they should pay.
I'm also a single mum with not much disposable income which is why my play time is very limited (non existant at the moment) because I want to pay my fair share so would rather just not meet if I can't x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How do things on here get so twisted.
Ask a simple and reasonable question.
Get shot down by the clique?!
Clearly my face doesn't fit here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always go halves, or split 3 ways if its a fff |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"If we play at a hotel we pay for the room
if its someone I meet regular I like to take turns in paying, I find sitting on a meet exchanging money kills the mood, there is a couple of guys I meet semi regular and we just take it in turns booking that way we both pay the same over all and money don't have to be mentioned on a meet"
Fab idea |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I have read all comments. Quite a mixed bunch. Thanks for your input you sexy bunch of mo fo's
I'm a single mum, already have to pay tank of petrol to meet half way (50 miles).
I have 1 income and a child to support.
They have 2 incomes and no children.
Their income is far more disposable than mine.
Someone said I get twice the pleasure, but I also have 2 to please?!. So twice the work.
Think I may just blow it out the water. "
I wouldn't even dream of thinking what money the other person we were meeting had. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we are staying the night we will pay for the hotel.
If they are staying the night we will offer half. If they don't want half we will bring along a couple of bottles of wine and accidentally leave them in the room if they had not been d*unk.
If neither is staying the night we would expect to go halves but we are mindful if the other people's situation. It will always be discussed before a booking is undertaken and if we feel they are being unreasonable we won't meet. It's meant to be a fun evening after all. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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But it is twice the work!
that's why I wont do 3sums with two straight men, much easier if they're bi and help me out lol
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But thats the fun part, two men with all their attention on me |
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"Wtf. Why am I now getting shot down?
I've been honest, and asked, what I believe to be a reasonable question.
And now I'm being judged for it?
Thanks. Nice one?! "
Have some posts been removed then?? I've just read thru the while thread and can't see where you've been shot down prior to the comment? |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"If we play at a hotel we pay for the room
if its someone I meet regular I like to take turns in paying, I find sitting on a meet exchanging money kills the mood, there is a couple of guys I meet semi regular and we just take it in turns booking that way we both pay the same over all and money don't have to be mentioned on a meet"
If we do repeat meets we meet at our home so that doesn't apply to us,
We like to pay for the hotel room so we get to use it after the meet has gone. |
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But it is twice the work!
that's why I wont do 3sums with two straight men, much easier if they're bi and help me out lol
But thats the fun part, two men with all their attention on me "
I'd be the same as you here ruggers x |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"How do things on here get so twisted.
Ask a simple and reasonable question.
Get shot down by the clique?!
Clearly my face doesn't fit here. "
Hang on a minute, you asked question and got a load of answers from different people who won't all have the same views.
This is what happens if you ask a question. |
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over a year ago
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Way i see it shoukd i have hotel meet which to be honest is unlikely the cost should ve me being single paying half as the couple are a unit however if they are just fuck buddys then 3 way split would apply. |
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Re: twice the work - you haven't shown any verifications from couples? Have you met couples before? From my experience in meeting as a couple, we are there to make sure the fem has a good time. I have been there as extra hands and mouth unless she particularly wants to do something. When meeting two guys it's far less work for the fem - you just get all of the attention from two guys!! Maybe I've just experienced very different meets to you.
2. Disposable income - you can't assume because there are two wages that they have more disposable income, they may actually have less disposable income than you.
3. Kids - a lot of people I know never discuss kids with their playmates as they like to keep them 100% seperate. Just because they've said no kids doesn't mean they don't have them it may just be they are not willing to discuss their kids with fabbers, or that their kids don't live with them so when they've said they have no kids to worry about it's because their 3 boys love with the other parent 100 miles away.
As a previous poster said - if you can't fund a meet don't meet, but don't consider the other persons financial situation as its irrelevant really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If its my hotel room, I pay. If the person wants me to come to their hotel, they pay. If its a hotel room booked because neither party can accommodate its 50/50, regardless of the number of people there."
putting like that seems fine to me |
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I wouldn't expect a couple to pay two thirds. Halfers or turn about has always worked best for me. Although there's usually some time spent squabbling over who is insisting on paying (in good humour of course) but I don't really get hung up on that side of things. Generally the people I meet are more than strangers (for want of a better way to put it) so there's generally dinner/hotel etc so it's split down the middle. |
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"Always go halves, or split 3 ways if its a fff "
Oooh! If it were fff and myself, I'd pay for the hotel AND let them have the little shampoo things.
Now I'm daydreaming of ffmf combinations.... |
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If there was this much drama about splitting the cost of a hotel .. I would give up |
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over a year ago
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"If there was this much drama about splitting the cost of a hotel .. I would give up "
I agree.
Imagine the trouble when you like to have dinner and drinks too! |
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By *andd2Couple
over a year ago
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We always pay for the hotel, can't believe people are so tight they argue over the cost. |
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over a year ago
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So to summarise, if the party of the first part also want to use the room for the night the party of the second part need not pay, but may offer a gift of wine or part payment, however it neither the party of the second part nor the party of the first part are staying the night then it is reasonable to do a 50 / 50 unless there is a party of the third part in which case each party should pay an equal part...
Sod it, we got a house, you are welcome to the spare room if you want to stay after playing, or go it's no issue either way, but I do a great breakfast.. Fancy a fuck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single lady wants to give pleasure and she have to pay for it shame of u couples there is plenty fish on the sea don't weaste your time with gready people. |
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over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So to summarise, if the party of the first part also want to use the room for the night the party of the second part need not pay, but may offer a gift of wine or part payment, however it neither the party of the second part nor the party of the first part are staying the night then it is reasonable to do a 50 / 50 unless there is a party of the third part in which case each party should pay an equal part...
Sod it, we got a house, you are welcome to the spare room if you want to stay after playing, or go it's no issue either way, but I do a great breakfast.. Fancy a fuck "
Do we have to bring our own towels and make a contribution to the breakfast ? |
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"If there was this much drama about splitting the cost of a hotel .. I would give up
I agree.
Imagine the trouble when you like to have dinner and drinks too! "
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Probably need to take a measuring cylinder in order to split the bottle of wine evenly!
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"So to summarise, if the party of the first part also want to use the room for the night the party of the second part need not pay, but may offer a gift of wine or part payment, however it neither the party of the second part nor the party of the first part are staying the night then it is reasonable to do a 50 / 50 unless there is a party of the third part in which case each party should pay an equal part...
Sod it, we got a house, you are welcome to the spare room if you want to stay after playing, or go it's no issue either way, but I do a great breakfast.. Fancy a fuck
Do we have to bring our own towels and make a contribution to the breakfast ? "
8 bacon rashers in a pack, three people. I envisage arguments! |
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"So to summarise, if the party of the first part also want to use the room for the night the party of the second part need not pay, but may offer a gift of wine or part payment, however it neither the party of the second part nor the party of the first part are staying the night then it is reasonable to do a 50 / 50 unless there is a party of the third part in which case each party should pay an equal part...
Sod it, we got a house, you are welcome to the spare room if you want to stay after playing, or go it's no issue either way, but I do a great breakfast.. Fancy a fuck
Do we have to bring our own towels and make a contribution to the breakfast ?
8 bacon rashers in a pack, three people. I envisage arguments!"
i would be fine, i dont eat bacon!#
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do we have to bring our own towels and make a contribution to the breakfast ? "
Nope towels are included as is laundry service, Breakfast is also complimentary and I will buy a 16 pack of bacon make fresh bread or if the mood takes me it may be continental or American base as we do like to mix it up a bit round here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Split the packet of bacon according to size of the person, the biggest to get more? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Split the packet of bacon according to size of the person, the biggest to get more? "
Depending on how the measurements are taken it could be fun but I prefer the competition of a serving dish with one last rasher see who can get the fork in it first |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Who pays for what is up to the individuals but the proposals being made potentially indicate the type of person they are as well as their financial circumstances.
Personally, if a single meets a couple I think it fair to share 50:50 but males don't have that luxury and usually wind up paying the lot.
As a Bi female however the OP is the holy grail and could and should be able to dictate a better split. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And I like a nice hotel and room so ..... and would not be fair on others to pay for me being picky . |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Do we have to bring our own towels and make a contribution to the breakfast ?
Nope towels are included as is laundry service, Breakfast is also complimentary and I will buy a 16 pack of bacon make fresh bread or if the mood takes me it may be continental or American base as we do like to mix it up a bit round here "
Can I come round for breakfast please? Sex not required, just food. |
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Thinking about it , if I was in a couple playing with the elusive bifem .. Id foot the bill , no quibble .
I like to pay my way , but not always possible .. If the gent wants to pay the hotel that's good with me ... and I always take the freebies |
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"I prefer to cough up the cost myself, this way I do not feel I owe anyone anything.
However it will be at a budget hotel of my choice, normally close to where I live so that I do not have to travel far.
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Travelodge !! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can I come round for breakfast please? Sex not required, just food. "
You have already been invited |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To all the women who are saying "if the man offers to pay it all then good", do YOU ever offer to pay it all?
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Can I come round for breakfast please? Sex not required, just food.
You have already been invited "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To all the women who are saying "if the man offers to pay it all then good", do YOU ever offer to pay it all?
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For one offs .. No , if they are regular playmates , then yes I will suggest my treat .
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over a year ago
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Who ever stays in the room pays for it. If nobody does or all do we split it. If someone can't afford to split it we pay for it. |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"Thinking about it , if I was in a couple playing with the elusive bifem .. Id foot the bill , no quibble .
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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Do what I do......
DONT use hotels |
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over a year ago
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Omg this is turning in to a maths lesson.
Single bloke=100%
Couple=50-100% depending on who they meet
Single fem=0-50% as they call the shots
Remind us never to arrange a hotel meet as it seems to become a business transaction especially when meeting a single fem.
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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Whoever instigates the meet and suggest hotel....They should pay as far as im concerned....
IF I suggested a hotel....I would pay... |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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The cost of meets for hotels is usually good as they can buy in bulk from a meet wholesaler. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So does this same logic apply to travel costs as well ? |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"The cost of meets for hotels is usually good as they can buy in bulk from a meet wholesaler."
Aye, I have a good one. Gets me hotel rooms in bulk for my many meets. |
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By *lbecCouple
over a year ago
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I think if you are staying in the room by yourself all of the night then half is fair, If the room is only being used to play and then all leave I would expect the two men to pay for it |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"So does this same logic apply to travel costs as well ? "
If you are willing to travel for a meet, why should someone else pay for it??
Its your choice...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So, what do you do if you don't like the person??"
Thats unequivocally impossible.
I can get a pretty good handle of someone from chatting and their profile/pics/forum
If the chat is diabolical..the meet aint happening.
If the profile is diabolical the chat is irrelevant as I wouldnt be chatting.
Synopsis of above: I'm sensible.
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over a year ago
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Omg this is turning in to a maths lesson.
Single bloke=100%
Couple=50-100% depending on who they meet
Single fem=0-50% as they call the shots
+ the extra bit
So does this same logic apply to travel costs as well ? "
if the hotel is not exactly equal distance from each participant then a fuel allowance will be allocated on the basis of 0.0001875 pence per CC per mile of the engine of the particular car (30pence for a 1600) the balance of this will be split on the same percentages as above and then added or subtracted from the hotel bill, subsequent allowances will also be allowed for the procurement of suitable measuring jugs for proportionally distribution of the wine... Never thought a calculator would take equal precedence to condoms on a meet
Sorry OP your thread has been well and truly hijacked, but somewhere in there is your answer |
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"Gamble on orgasm roulette whoever cums first or last or most pays " thats one way to get the bloke to pay..lol. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Omg this is turning in to a maths lesson.
Single bloke=100%
Couple=50-100% depending on who they meet
Single fem=0-50% as they call the shots
+ the extra bit
So does this same logic apply to travel costs as well ?
if the hotel is not exactly equal distance from each participant then a fuel allowance will be allocated on the basis of 0.0001875 pence per CC per mile of the engine of the particular car (30pence for a 1600) the balance of this will be split on the same percentages as above and then added or subtracted from the hotel bill, subsequent allowances will also be allowed for the procurement of suitable measuring jugs for proportionally distribution of the wine... Never thought a calculator would take equal precedence to condoms on a meet
Sorry OP your thread has been well and truly hijacked, but somewhere in there is your answer "
But what happens if one person cums but the other two don't? Can I get some money back? |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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So, what do you do if you don't like the person??
Thats unequivocally impossible.
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Its actually very possible!
You could get on great together online/chatting etc....
Meet up and think.....Oh fuck!!!! |
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By *edzerMan
over a year ago
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Split three ways - they should be delighted with what their getting xx |
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over a year ago
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Meet up and think.....Oh fuck!!!!"
Well yeah. That's swinging for ya.
Not happened yet. I've only met a couple of people.
Again, I'm sensible.
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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Meet up and think.....Oh fuck!!!!
Well yeah. That's swinging for ya.
Not happened yet. I've only met a couple of people.
Again, I'm sensible.
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Sensible or not...It will happen one day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So does this same logic apply to travel costs as well ?
If you are willing to travel for a meet, why should someone else pay for it??
Its your choice......"
We know thats the point we tried to make. Seems to us the simple answer is if you want to meet then money should be at the bottom of the list if you cannot afford to do something don't do it.
A lot of people have come out with alsorts of sums to work out what should be paid.
Again this may come across a little old fashioned but if a gentleman/offer to pay its ok but think its a bit rude to expect someone to pay.
And working ing out costs based on sex as some comments on here suggest is a bit disturbing, some of the comments make it sound like a single fem is offering a service meeting couples singles and just because someone is a single fem the others should pay for the privilege.
Sorry for the rambling this is not aimed at any one individual just our feelings based on what we have read |
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"But what happens if one person cums but the other two don't? Can I get some money back?"
Of course, all you need is a decibel reading backed up by an accurate measurement of the precise curvature of the spine during orgasm (laser measurements are recommended) to determine the level of orgasm which is then calculated to the square root of pie (lemon meringue preferred) added to the number of posts before this thread collapses in on itself...
N.B. lemon meringue is not on the breakfast menu unless by special request. |
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"I prefer to cough up the cost myself, this way I do not feel I owe anyone anything.
However it will be at a budget hotel of my choice, normally close to where I live so that I do not have to travel far.
Travelodge !! Lol "
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Nothing wrong with Travelodge, and the one in Devizes is very nice as it is quite new. |
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over a year ago
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Who should pay for the extra cost if I were to bring my dog to meet at a hotel? |
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over a year ago
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"Who should pay for the extra cost if I were to bring my dog to meet at a hotel? "
About time that dog had a paper round and paid his own way |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I just thought! All those times I paid full wack for a hotel room for a GB and I should have been sending a plate round for contributions. I am not even remotely fiscally minded. |
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"The reason I won't do hotels is because I can't afford half and there is mo way I.would let the man pay then feel I owe it to him to play I keep having to tell men this but still get them saying they don't mind not realizing how strongly I feel about it grrr xx"
i'm the same as this! I just don't feel comfortable in letting the other party pay it all, particularly if it's only for 2-3 hours because I can rarely do an overnight stay, it's not the way I was brought up! |
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as has been said, the op should cancel the meet and find another couple - not just because whatever the split, someone will be unhappy but also because the meet is already tarnished by the disagreement about money. |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"as has been said, the op should cancel the meet and find another couple - not just because whatever the split, someone will be unhappy but also because the meet is already tarnished by the disagreement about money."
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over a year ago
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There are some opinions being expressed in this thread that makes me wonder what swinging is coming to.
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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We know thats the point we tried to make. Seems to us the simple answer is if you want to meet then money should be at the bottom of the list if you cannot afford to do something don't do it.
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"There are some opinions being expressed in this thread that makes me wonder what swinging is coming to.
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I would like to state for the record that no opinions with the exception of the BCT Bacon Continuum Theory expressed in this thread are necessarily factual and result from a very slow day in the office.
Though due to the infinite nature of the universe some opinions expressed by others have been accidentally sensible, and it is hoped that the OP does not mind the fact that my head is in a very strange place at the moment... yes it is still on my shoulders, but that's pretty weird at times too.
Please do not wonder what anything is coming to based on my current need to dodge a boring bit of work! |
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"The cost of meets for hotels is usually good as they can buy in bulk from a meet wholesaler.
Aye, I have a good one. Gets me hotel rooms in bulk for my many meets."
Yeah but be careful as you need adequate storage for your meets.
I find in the Summer months they can spoil without appropriate refrigeration. |
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"I prefer to cough up the cost myself, this way I do not feel I owe anyone anything.
However it will be at a budget hotel of my choice, normally close to where I live so that I do not have to travel far.
Travelodge !! Lol
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Nothing wrong with Travelodge, and the one in Devizes is very nice as it is quite new. "
Lol, I know !! I'd message you but you blocked me before I even had chance !! |
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"Do what I do......
DONT use hotels "
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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over a year ago
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"I'm a single sometimes bi female btw not a couple & I think it should be a 50/50 split, should be based on couple been counted as one side of the meet the fem as the other. I don't think it should be down to the number of people involved, but the mix of people, if it was 3 single people then a 3 way split, but couple & single half & half xx
this
we have always split bill 50/50 when meeting a single guy or a couple
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"Whoever instigates the meet and suggest hotel....They should pay as far as im concerned....
IF I suggested a hotel....I would pay..."
Doesn't always work though. I don't do hotel meets: ever. When visible, I have that on my profile. Yet some men want you to change your mind. When I say ok then but it's got to be the Ritz, Dorchester, Waldorf or at a pinch Marriott Park Lane...they leave me alone! |
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Damn, and there I was about to offer a night in the Wellington on 7th avenue. |
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So, what do you do if you don't like the person??
Thats unequivocally impossible.
Its actually very possible!
You could get on great together online/chatting etc....
Meet up and think.....Oh fuck!!!!"
Why I always meet socially first! Sometimes it's not even looks: their voice, smell, dirty nails, attitude etc makes you beat a hasty retreat!
If you've knocked on their hotel door however...!!! |
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"There are some opinions being expressed in this thread that makes me wonder what swinging is coming to.
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I think maybe the cost of the little shampoos are covered indirectly by the hotel room costs, so I wouldn't fret.
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"As a guy I would always offer to pay whole thin, but I know I will get shot down in flames by some for this. "
TBH it never occurred to me to split it 1/3 - 2/3 with a couple.
With established friends, we split it 50/50 or take it in turns to pay.
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over a year ago
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"Who should pay for the extra cost if I were to bring my dog to meet at a hotel?
About time that dog had a paper round and paid his own way "
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No good as he would chew and shred the papers in no time! |
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over a year ago
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"Gamble on orgasm roulette whoever cums first or last or most pays "
I'll use that tactic next time and pretend I haven't cum to get out of footing any of the bill!! ms |
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over a year ago
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I think the party requesting the hotel should be prepared to pay for the room. |
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Mind you the last time we had a ffm threesome the lady INSISTED on paying. She wouldn't have it any other way. |
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over a year ago
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half and half |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the party requesting the hotel should be prepared to pay for the room. "
but I don't accommodate so I have to use hotels, are you saying i should pay the whole cost of every meet i have? |
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"but I don't accommodate so I have to use hotels, are you saying i should pay the whole cost of every meet i have? "
Yup and everyone else's as well |
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over a year ago
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Seeing there are many opinions and views on this matter expressed in this thread, I personally believe how the expenses for costs involved, such as hotel, fuel, meal, baby/pet sitting/etc., should be met and by whom to be stipulated in one's profile upfront, so as to avoid mis-understanding and unpleasantries at a later date, as it clearly matters more to some than to others.
I personally have always included such information in my profile from Day 1.
BTW, the bit about who pays the extra incurred for the dog was a joke. If I were to pay for the hotel room as I normally do, then I would pay for everything. It is my choice to bring the dog with me afterall.
Last year was a lean year for me meet wise, as I needed to upgrade my camping gear and then got hit by a big car repair bill, and am still paying for the latter.
This year is slightly better after I had made some adjustments in my monthly outgoings.
Hopefully, I can play again in August, can't wait!
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"as has been said, the op should cancel the meet and find another couple - not just because whatever the split, someone will be unhappy but also because the meet is already tarnished by the disagreement about money."
I agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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aw well i think it sud be half ,
thats just what i think |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Tbh , never had a hotel meet with couple so really not sure but would need to be discussed beforehand .
Good to read everyone's thoughts though "
Thoughts and assassinations and insults from the minority of forumites in the clique?!
Love that you show your true colours.
Pretty green eyes?! Fpmsl. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's rather uncalled for!
Sorry, however, if you ask in an open forum for views and opinions, then you should expect views and opinions that do not necessarily agree with your own.
You are the one spitting feathers now, and it is not pretty!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tbh , never had a hotel meet with couple so really not sure but would need to be discussed beforehand .
Good to read everyone's thoughts though
Thoughts and assassinations and insults from the minority of forumites in the clique?!
Love that you show your true colours.
Pretty green eyes?! Fpmsl. "
Hi OP!
I've just gone back to the start and flicked through the responses.
As you've said at the start - in your mind you think it should be a 1/3,2/3 split as there's two of them. You've also suggested this hasn't been well recieved.
The responses have been varied and of course the choice is always yours - but i'd look at it like this.
Regardless of the uneven numbers, there's two 'halves' to this meet - them and you. Without either half the meet won't happen. To me this would suggest equal responsibility for everything that happens, be that pre-meet drinks, food and the cost of the hotel.
If it had been two singles meeting, or two couples then I doubt if there'd have been a question asked. But with threesomes I don't feel the "there's more of them than me" arguement translates too well either in questions on the forum or in discussions with those your looking to meet!
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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago
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Money shouldn't spoil a meeting.
50/50 would be fine...But I would gladly pay for the hotel and the returning taxi or train ticket if needed or just drive my meet back anywhere she want |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That's rather uncalled for!
Sorry, however, if you ask in an open forum for views and opinions, then you should expect views and opinions that do not necessarily agree with your own.
You are the one spitting feathers now, and it is not pretty!
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So you didn't say I was being petty in an earlier post. And then the clique joined in?!
Not spitting feathers at all.
Rather
Laughing my tits off that an innocent question, is somehow twisted into, as I see it a personal barrage of insults?!
Many others replied without the need for insults or childish name calling! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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True colours for all to see indeed.
I am off to bed.
Night all!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Split the packet of bacon according to size of the person, the biggest to get more? "
This is just taking the piss.
How tf is this relevant to the op or a relevant opinion?!
Pathetic. Laughable. Bitchy. Ignorant and narrow minded. You've mugged yourself off not me! D'oh!!
Mind you don't choke on your own feathers Ay?! Lmao |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is just taking the piss.
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Hmmm it was me that hijacked your thread, but only after several sensible answers. So why take such a nasty attitude to others? Not sure I understand unless as I suspect you have a history as a previous member and have some people on here you don't like.
If my distracted silliness prevented you from getting sufficient value from this thread I apologise, work was dull and I was having a bit of fun, not at your expense, just some banter on a public forum where the question had already been answered quite fully.
My silly messages prompted others to also drift from your original question, but I don't really see any posts that should prompt you to such anger. I shall try not to get involved in any future threads you start in either sensible or silly mode.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Christ... Get sent to the naughty step and miss all the drama
Whoever is staying in the room for the night should pay.
If both parties staying then 50/50 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Budget hotel local to me, I pay in full.
If I have to travel more than 50 miles, the gent books the room, I pay half.
If I cancel the meet I would pay my half after seeing booking confirmation.
If he cancels he picks up the full cost.
All stated upfront in my profile in details.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is just taking the piss.
Hmmm it was me that hijacked your thread, but only after several sensible answers. So why take such a nasty attitude to others? Not sure I understand unless as I suspect you have a history as a previous member and have some people on here you don't like.
If my distracted silliness prevented you from getting sufficient value from this thread I apologise, work was dull and I was having a bit of fun, not at your expense, just some banter on a public forum where the question had already been answered quite fully.
My silly messages prompted others to also drift from your original question, but I don't really see any posts that should prompt you to such anger. I shall try not to get involved in any future threads you start in either sensible or silly mode.
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I read it as fun and banter.
OP I have seen threads where people 'turn' on the op and pretty much bully them and take the piss. This thread read like banter to me. Light hearted and fun. Only a couple of 'mean' posts.
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"I think it's up to the couple to pay , especially if your fulfilling their fantasy of an ffm.... And also who gets to stay the night in the room, you or them? "
+1 and all top stop over night as we'd book family room, some morning fun then |
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A very sexy little minx. If you were a little closer me. And wifey would love a night out and we would definitely pick up the hotel bill as we would be stopping there the night as said in previous messages so it would be a big treat to us. A night away from the kids and an elusive bi fem. wow. This couple must be bonkers ha ha.
We have only done the hotel thing a couple of times. A couple came to us so just after we played I thought I would offer half for hotel or would they like us to come to them instead and we pay for that visit. I felt a little awkward asking and I think it was an awkward reply but we ended up visiting them and they took us to a club and we ended up playing there so all was good and recently we stopped at a hotel and by chance a guy messages us in the morning and we were feeling horny so invited him up. Don't think that would have gone down well if we had said et up m8 are you chipping in for the hotel ha ha so chin up moi there are surely loads of couples that will pay for the hotel and shower you switch lots of fun |
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