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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A little  at the moment.
Messaging a guy who lives nearly an hour away for ages, he's been wanting to meet, from the on set I have said distance is the main obstacle along with the limited time I have available; family work etc. so didn't reckon it was ever going to happen in reality.
Just been sent a message from him that I'm making a mockery!
If I have been clear from on set and being truthful why has his comment really annoyed me?
My situation that I can see is all in my profile, which I will go back and double check!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The time to block him was somewhere way back
BUT, as they say, there's no time like the present.
Send him a little note saying why you're doing it and then just block him.
Problem solved.
Unless, of course, you do really want to meet him ? |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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Welcome to the site. I am confused tho as maybe the guy is.
You have a single fem profile and in the initialinformation your looking for 1 on 1 or. 3some with your hubby.
That equates to me as a couple not a single lady x |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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"A little at the moment.
Messaging a guy who lives nearly an hour away for ages, he's been wanting to meet, from the on set I have said distance is the main obstacle along with the limited time I have available; family work etc. so didn't reckon it was ever going to happen in reality.
Just been sent a message from him that I'm making a mockery!
If I have been clear from on set and being truthful why has his comment really annoyed me?
My situation that I can see is all in my profile, which I will go back and double check!
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some people have selective amnesia and selective reading. I have on my profile that I am not meeting, hasn't stopped me getting asked.
Have told new contacts that I can not and wont be meeting for a while, some seem to think they will be able to convince me lol.
I wouldn't worry about it. Just ignore, block and move on to the next  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Welcome to the site. I am confused tho as maybe the guy is.
You have a single fem profile and in the initialinformation your looking for 1 on 1 or. 3some with your hubby.
That equates to me as a couple not a single lady x"
He knew my situation from on set.
Through hubby's work we have done it that way x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The time to block him was somewhere way back
BUT, as they say, there's no time like the present.
Send him a little note saying why you're doing it and then just block him.
Problem solved.
Unless, of course, you do really want to meet him ?"
He seemed interesting and sweet to be honest but have always maintained that it would probably not happen, for reasons stated. I'm not a time waster but he's made me feel like one  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A little at the moment.
Messaging a guy who lives nearly an hour away for ages, he's been wanting to meet, from the on set I have said distance is the main obstacle along with the limited time I have available; family work etc. so didn't reckon it was ever going to happen in reality.
Just been sent a message from him that I'm making a mockery!
If I have been clear from on set and being truthful why has his comment really annoyed me?
My situation that I can see is all in my profile, which I will go back and double check!
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Your profile looks good to me. Im not looking for couples but just thought Id give my opinion. You cover everything and yes your family has to come first. I cant just up and go straight out for meets on same day either and have had to say no to that before, but never been told im making a mockery. some guys just cant read I guess. You had some nice meets from the sound of it so ignore him. |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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"The time to block him was somewhere way back
BUT, as they say, there's no time like the present.
Send him a little note saying why you're doing it and then just block him.
Problem solved.
Unless, of course, you do really want to meet him ?
He seemed interesting and sweet to be honest but have always maintained that it would probably not happen, for reasons stated. I'm not a time waster but he's made me feel like one "
If you told him from the off about the travel problems/time constraints what have you, then I don't personally feel that you are a time waster.
Don't fret too much about it, just do what They Come in Three's has said, drop him a little note saying why you are blocking him and voilà, jobs a goodun'  |
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"Yes suppose your right lol
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Maybe his expectations were different to yours. Yes, he knew your situation but probably also lived in hope that it might change. It has probably just dawned on him that you meant what you said at the outset. I wouldnt worry about it and just move on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A little at the moment.
Messaging a guy who lives nearly an hour away for ages, he's been wanting to meet, from the on set I have said distance is the main obstacle along with the limited time I have available; family work etc. so didn't reckon it was ever going to happen in reality.
Just been sent a message from him that I'm making a mockery!
If I have been clear from on set and being truthful why has his comment really annoyed me?
My situation that I can see is all in my profile, which I will go back and double check!
Your profile looks good to me. Im not looking for couples but just thought Id give my opinion. You cover everything and yes your family has to come first. I cant just up and go straight out for meets on same day either and have had to say no to that before, but never been told im making a mockery. some guys just cant read I guess. You had some nice meets from the sound of it so ignore him. "
Thank you. I always teply to messages even if to say no thanks, it's only fair I believe.
Here to make friends like minded.
Thanks  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The time to block him was somewhere way back
BUT, as they say, there's no time like the present.
Send him a little note saying why you're doing it and then just block him.
Problem solved.
Unless, of course, you do really want to meet him ?
He seemed interesting and sweet to be honest but have always maintained that it would probably not happen, for reasons stated. I'm not a time waster but he's made me feel like one
If you told him from the off about the travel problems/time constraints what have you, then I don't personally feel that you are a time waster.
Don't fret too much about it, just do what They Come in Three's has said, drop him a little note saying why you are blocking him and voilà, jobs a goodun' "
he's probably blocked me  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yes suppose your right lol
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Maybe his expectations were different to yours. Yes, he knew your situation but probably also lived in hope that it might change. It has probably just dawned on him that you meant what you said at the outset. I wouldnt worry about it and just move on. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Welcome to the site. I am confused tho as maybe the guy is.
You have a single fem profile and in the initialinformation your looking for 1 on 1 or. 3some with your hubby.
That equates to me as a couple not a single lady x"
Some married people are on as singles because partners don't want to be on the net. Or they don't know the wife or hubby is playing. |
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"He seemed interesting and sweet to be honest but have always maintained that it would probably not happen, for reasons stated. I'm not a time waster but he's made me feel like one "
Don't buy into his guilt trip - he's just passing on his negative energy to you, and it's not fair. I've had someone try it and I never commit to a meet until i know the time and place, and that they are right for me. You've been great how you've handled it, but I'd encourage you to wish him well and make clear your intentions that it's not for you now.
Take it easy on yourself. There are many who will try to dump their baggage onto you, and it's grossly unfair. And you're obviously worth much more than that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"He seemed interesting and sweet to be honest but have always maintained that it would probably not happen, for reasons stated. I'm not a time waster but he's made me feel like one
Don't buy into his guilt trip - he's just passing on his negative energy to you, and it's not fair. I've had someone try it and I never commit to a meet until i know the time and place, and that they are right for me. You've been great how you've handled it, but I'd encourage you to wish him well and make clear your intentions that it's not for you now.
Take it easy on yourself. There are many who will try to dump their baggage onto you, and it's grossly unfair. And you're obviously worth much more than that."
thank you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Block him there are plenty of people on here who won't give you any stress after all your here for fun and games not hassle and stress.
Move on and enjoy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Block him there are plenty of people on here who won't give you any stress after all your here for fun and games not hassle and stress.
Move on and enjoy. "
Very true. Some people take the NSA out of it all
But I went to send a message, yes it is I who have been the blocked 
Moving on.
Just to say thank you for replying everyone. I don't very often post but nice to be part of a friendly group |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Block him there are plenty of people on here who won't give you any stress after all your here for fun and games not hassle and stress.
Move on and enjoy.
Very true. Some people take the NSA out of it all
But I went to send a message, yes it is I who have been the blocked
Moving on.
Just to say thank you for replying everyone. I don't very often post but nice to be part of a friendly group "
You can still block him tho.
He can remove his block and contact you at his will under the current arrangement.
If you go to 'MY ACCOUNT', then 'BLOCK LIST', you can type his profile name into the space provided and block him.
It prevents him from contacting you at his will in future  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Without seeing the message exchange there does not appear to be any fault on your side.
J seldom comes on the site anymore mostly due to a similar experience, married cheating guy was sending friendly messages, told him outright and clear he was not suitable and we wouldn't be meeting but he was pleasant and worked in the same line as J. So they messaged every couple of days or so and got on fine. Then obviously his hormones took over, J said "not interested unless you bring your wife", to which he got very abusive. ce la vie he got blocked, but it has damaged the friendliness of the site for J. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
Its a shame but I do believe some men just hear white noise every time someone says 'no thanks'. It affects the site for me as I am much less likely to engage in message swaps for chatty purposes, as I don't like to be pestered. |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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"Welcome to the site. I am confused tho as maybe the guy is.
You have a single fem profile and in the initialinformation your looking for 1 on 1 or. 3some with your hubby.
That equates to me as a couple not a single lady x
Some married people are on as singles because partners don't want to be on the net. Or they don't know the wife or hubby is playing. "
The lady said in her profile it will either be her and a single guy meeting or her and her hubby as in a 3some. Therefore she will be playing as a couple if her hubby is there at the meet.
Apologies for making a point again but if any lady is taking her husband with her to participate then they should have a couples profile. She can also play without hubby on a couples profile for 1 to 1 meets. But if husband is attebding then it should be a couples profile not a single one x |
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To me an hour away is local... I'll drive an hour to go shopping without batting an eyelid.... but we all have our own ideas about what is and isn't close.
I appreciate people have lives and can't meet at the drop of a hat, but if I am honest there comes a point where I just can't be arsed waiting anymore. No matter how much they say they want to meet if it's been weeks and no sign of an arrangement being made then their actions (or lack of them) start to speak louder than words.
If I really want something to happen, I make it happen.
Agreeing to meet is a two way deal.... when it all becomes one sided and only on the terms of the other person, which includes holding on until they have nothing else to do... I'd call it quits and forget it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To me an hour away is local... I'll drive an hour to go shopping without batting an eyelid.... but we all have our own ideas about what is and isn't close.
I appreciate people have lives and can't meet at the drop of a hat, but if I am honest there comes a point where I just can't be arsed waiting anymore. No matter how much they say they want to meet if it's been weeks and no sign of an arrangement being made then their actions (or lack of them) start to speak louder than words.
If I really want something to happen, I make it happen.
Agreeing to meet is a two way deal.... when it all becomes one sided and only on the terms of the other person, which includes holding on until they have nothing else to do... I'd call it quits and forget it."
you said what I think. |
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