FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > Falling in love with your councillor what should you do ?
Falling in love with your councillor what should you do ?
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
If it's your counsellor then s/he will have experience of this. It's not uncommon.
If it's your councillor it's not a problem unless you think s/he can get you a discount on your council tax.
Just be honest and talk about it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"What to do? "
ask for another counsellor, it's easy to fall for someone who is showing professional concern eg Dr, counsellor etc but you must remember that it is their job to listen, show concern and care.
Best of luck |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"What to do?
Leave well alone, unless you want to destroy their career.... "
Well, don't do anything about pursuing the love angle but therapy isn't going to work if you don't deal with the transference issues. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I get a vibe from her"
No, you have a thoughts about her and care and concern are being interpreted as a 'vibe'.
You need to change counsellor if you want to get better and can't accept that you are her client.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"What to do?
ask for another counsellor, it's easy to fall for someone who is showing professional concern eg Dr, counsellor etc but you must remember that it is their job to listen, show concern and care.
Best of luck"
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"What are transference issues"
It's when you redirect your feelings and thoughts from one person to another. You may have real feelings about someone that are not being met and so you unconsciously transfer them to your counsellor. It happens and counsellors are trained to deal with it.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I get a vibe from her"
tred carfull mate your fooling your self
iv 3ex girlfriend that where all counceler an no I didn't go looking for em just how it worked out every 1 of them told me about this happening to them an all said the same thing its part of the job.
belive me mate there isn't 1 of them would risk there career for a pashent its wrong on so many levels |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"What are transference issues
It's when you redirect your feelings and thoughts from one person to another. You may have real feelings about someone that are not being met and so you unconsciously transfer them to your counsellor. It happens and counsellors are trained to deal with it.
"
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"What are transference issues
It's when you redirect your feelings and thoughts from one person to another. You may have real feelings about someone that are not being met and so you unconsciously transfer them to your counsellor. It happens and counsellors are trained to deal with it.
"
What she said be honest with your counsellor about how you're feeling. The most important part of the counselling process is the relationship and being honest and congruent is part of that. Hope it all works out ok. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
