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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it a fair assumption to make that frenship/relationship wise, if someone never asks you about yourself (what you like, what you think etc)then they have no real interest in you as a person?
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May be they just want to find out in other ways than outright asking... or just allowing you to share what you feel comfortable telling them.
It is no more absolute that those who don't ask are not interested, than those who do ask are.
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They could be interested in you as a person, but have more interest in themselves. Or maybe, it is what they believe others want to hear. Either way, It's fookin annoying to have conversations with 'self-involved' people all the time.
Play mind games and everytime you talk to them, make it a question about who they are, what they enjoy, what they dislike, where they have been, where they are going etc etc.... If they still answer you after a while; ditch them lol  |
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If I express my opinion on something or tell someone something about myself, I don't expect to need to say "what about you?". I would expect them to be able to contribute to a conversation by expressing their opinion or sharing something about themselves without waiting to be asked..... if they wished to share at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I express my opinion on something or tell someone something about myself, I don't expect to need to say "what about you?". I would expect them to be able to contribute to a conversation by expressing their opinion or sharing something about themselves without waiting to be asked..... if they wished to share at all."
Very true. However, maybe there are other factors that play their part in not contributing like you mention. If there were, then you also have to try and tease the conversation out a lil. Otherwise, it could be considered cold. Bottom line to the OP is that there are possibly 1000's of reasons why someone might not seem interested in you. It's your job to go through a process of elimination to find that cause. Peace out  |
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yep, you are right truro, lots possibilities - its been interesting though reading thoughts from other perspectives - one thing I love about the forums  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it a fair assumption to make that frenship/relationship wise, if someone never asks you about yourself (what you like, what you think etc)then they have no real interest in you as a person?
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sounds a fair assumption to me, but then if they have no interest in your they arnt really friends, more just people we know?
I only ask about people I like and care about, if I have no interest in someone I would say hello if I saw them but wouldn't ask how they was |
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I rarely 'quiz' people because I don't like to be quizzed. If I'm genuinely interested in someone then I'm interested in their future and not necessarily their past. I'm interested in finding out what they like as we move forward through experience and what they choose to tell me. |
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