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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok all ladies out there could you help. I have been playing with a lady now for a while. She love her sex obviously and we play a lot. Now she can only reach orgasm through the use of fingers, she always told me this.
She always gets me to use her fingers to, but I always get her right to the edge where I feel her body reacting and just about to orgasm, she starts to shake and shiver and at this point she always take my hand away and doesn't want to orgasm.
Does anyone no why she may not want and orgasm? I have tried to find out. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ok all ladies out there could you help. I have been playing with a lady now for a while. She love her sex obviously and we play a lot. Now she can only reach orgasm through the use of fingers, she always told me this.
She always gets me to use her fingers to, but I always get her right to the edge where I feel her body reacting and just about to orgasm, she starts to shake and shiver and at this point she always take my hand away and doesn't want to orgasm.
Does anyone no why she may not want and orgasm? I have tried to find out. "
She always gets me to use my fingers that should be* |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A lot of women like the build up more than the actual orgasm? (Not me personally!!) although when we husband has been going down on me in the past, I've been enjoying it so much that I have moved slightly every time I'm about to peak to make it last longer. Maybe she finds the orgasm an anti-climax to the massive build up? OR maybe she doesn't want to lose control & is self-conscious? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A lot of women like the build up more than the actual orgasm? (Not me personally!!) although when we husband has been going down on me in the past, I've been enjoying it so much that I have moved slightly every time I'm about to peak to make it last longer. Maybe she finds the orgasm an anti-climax to the massive build up? OR maybe she doesn't want to lose control & is self-conscious?"
Thanks for the reply, well she say's she really enjoys the sex and me doing it, and always wants more. But I through the things she says I know she does love her climax and want them, just not around me it appears. I have asked her and she say she's not ready to around me, and says she does feel ashamed because of how she reacts. I do comfort her and give her all the time she wants and talk with her, and she is becoming more open to it. Excuse my ignorance, but why would a lady feel self-conscious about climaxing or losing control? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because it takes a lot of trust for some women to be that open with someone. You completely lose control of yourself, your mind, your body....she's obviously not ready for you to see her like that yet. Give it time & make sure when she does eventually let go you tell her how amazing it was to build up her confidence.
Maybe she turns into the exorcist?!!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Ok just been talking with her, I am very caring with her and give her all the time. She does say she wants to with me, she has said she squirts sometimes, and she says she can be loud, I feel women are a lot more emotionally attached to there climaxes and far more powerful ones to us men. I guess it's hard for me or most guys to understand because we are still in control when we climax and we can make ourselves silent if need be etc |
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"Maybe she's a gusher or a screamer or maybe she howls like a wolf and she isn't ready to share it with you yet
Lol - and which one are you ??
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I start by screaming which turns into a howl as the pitch gets higher my head starts spinning round. Some people get a bit scared when it happens  |
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"Maybe she's a gusher or a screamer or maybe she howls like a wolf and she isn't ready to share it with you yet
Lol - and which one are you ??
I start by screaming which turns into a howl as the pitch gets higher my head starts spinning round. Some people get a bit scared when it happens "
 if you could tip your head back a little whilst your heads spinning you could give an awesome 360• blow job !  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe she's a gusher or a screamer or maybe she howls like a wolf and she isn't ready to share it with you yet
Lol - and which one are you ??
I start by screaming which turns into a howl as the pitch gets higher my head starts spinning round. Some people get a bit scared when it happens
if you could tip your head back a little whilst your heads spinning you could give an awesome 360• blow job ! "
That's my party trick!! |
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"Maybe she's a gusher or a screamer or maybe she howls like a wolf and she isn't ready to share it with you yet
Lol - and which one are you ??
I start by screaming which turns into a howl as the pitch gets higher my head starts spinning round. Some people get a bit scared when it happens
if you could tip your head back a little whilst your heads spinning you could give an awesome 360• blow job !
That's my party trick!! "
Well I want a party invite then !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok just been talking with her, I am very caring with her and give her all the time. She does say she wants to with me, she has said she squirts sometimes, and she says she can be loud, I feel women are a lot more emotionally attached to there climaxes and far more powerful ones to us men. I guess it's hard for me or most guys to understand because we are still in control when we climax and we can make ourselves silent if need be etc"
Maybe she's self-conscious about the squirting?? I know most men love it but some don't. And yes, women are very emotionally attached to orgasms & our bodies in general. Maybe she has deeper feelings for you than you realise & is worried about putting you off?? You'll get there, next time just tell her you want to finish her off because you want to know she's satisfied & enjoyed it? Tell her it would turn you on beyond belief to see/feel her cum |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Its probably not because she doesn't want to but because she becomes so sensitive to the touch that she cant stand it.
I sometimes get like this  if its fingers or oral i become very sensitive yet i can stand to orgasm more through intercourse. |
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"Ok just been talking with her, I am very caring with her and give her all the time. She does say she wants to with me, she has said she squirts sometimes, and she says she can be loud, I feel women are a lot more emotionally attached to there climaxes and far more powerful ones to us men. I guess it's hard for me or most guys to understand because we are still in control when we climax and we can make ourselves silent if need be etc"
Bingo !
Sometimes I even surprise myself !!
Give her time, be supportive and buy a poncho ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its probably not because she doesn't want to but because she becomes so sensitive to the touch that she cant stand it.
I sometimes get like this if its fingers or oral i become very sensitive yet i can stand to orgasm more through intercourse."
I am super sensitive after cumming too & try to stop my husband (he loves to restrain me & carry on until I'm begging him to stop!) but he said she won't let him get that far to make her peak? So I don't think it can be that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ah right im like you if they can hold me down it will be amazing lol im not sure then worth giving a few things a try and try getting her to relax enough to enjoy it full throttle...good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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yeah she doesn't want to peak, I know she isn't over sensitive. I know she has deeper feelings for me to she has told me this. I have told her her I feel the same too, and we think we may try may it work between us. So I am quite impressed someone mentioned this!
I have told her not to worry and enjoy herself, if she doesn't want to climax I have told her she doesn't have too. I have also told her she can totally relax around me, she doesn't need to worry about anything, nothing she does will put me off. |
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"yeah she doesn't want to peak, I know she isn't over sensitive. I know she has deeper feelings for me to she has told me this. I have told her her I feel the same too, and we think we may try may it work between us. So I am quite impressed someone mentioned this!
I have told her not to worry and enjoy herself, if she doesn't want to climax I have told her she doesn't have too. I have also told her she can totally relax around me, she doesn't need to worry about anything, nothing she does will put me off. "
Well you sound like the perfect bloke!! You are being honest with her, and giving her time & reassurance so you're doing everything you can really!?
Yes I do think its likely she has real feelings for you & if you both think you might make a go of things then that's great. I'm sure if you keep doing what you're doing & reassure her there's no pressure for her to peak (as you have) then she'll let go in her own time & when she does it will no doubt be mind blowing |
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"yeah she doesn't want to peak, I know she isn't over sensitive. I know she has deeper feelings for me to she has told me this. I have told her her I feel the same too, and we think we may try may it work between us. So I am quite impressed someone mentioned this!
I have told her not to worry and enjoy herself, if she doesn't want to climax I have told her she doesn't have too. I have also told her she can totally relax around me, she doesn't need to worry about anything, nothing she does will put me off.
Well you sound like the perfect bloke!! You are being honest with her, and giving her time & reassurance so you're doing everything you can really!?
Yes I do think its likely she has real feelings for you & if you both think you might make a go of things then that's great. I'm sure if you keep doing what you're doing & reassure her there's no pressure for her to peak (as you have) then she'll let go in her own time & when she does it will no doubt be mind blowing "
Thanks! a lot of very kind words there, much appreciated!! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A guy I saw recently said his wife would pass wind when she came and this could be the same for your lady. When we completely relax and give ourselves over its also a control thing - I always to to the edge and them remember I can't quite give away that final control to a man just incase he abuses that power! |
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"A guy I saw recently said his wife would pass wind when she came and this could be the same for your lady. When we completely relax and give ourselves over its also a control thing - I always to to the edge and them remember I can't quite give away that final control to a man just incase he abuses that power!"
I never really understand how a guy can use that power? I am naive ha. Surely its over with after a few seconds. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"A lot of women like the build up more than the actual orgasm? (Not me personally!!) although when we husband has been going down on me in the past, I've been enjoying it so much that I have moved slightly every time I'm about to peak to make it last longer. Maybe she finds the orgasm an anti-climax to the massive build up? OR maybe she doesn't want to lose control & is self-conscious?
Thanks for the reply, well she say's she really enjoys the sex and me doing it, and always wants more. But I through the things she says I know she does love her climax and want them, just not around me it appears. I have asked her and she say she's not ready to around me, and says she does feel ashamed because of how she reacts. I do comfort her and give her all the time she wants and talk with her, and she is becoming more open to it. Excuse my ignorance, but why would a lady feel self-conscious about climaxing or losing control?"
When a woman really loses total control like that they can feel very vulnerable. She may not have enough confidence to allow herself to do that. Many women are the same.
Personally, I scream the place down and don't care who I am with, but not all women are the same. The more you ask her about it, the more she will feel pressured into it and the less likely she will be to succumb to that body-shaking experience. Leave her to decide if or when it may happen with you and just enjoy what you have. It can end all too quickly! |
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