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By *rsIdiot OP Woman
over a year ago
Bedworth |
I'm meant to be in the office at work studying for my nvq today but the decorators are still there. Because of this my manager has sent me to the library in town instead.
I'm sat here with my books out, seriously lacking any motivation and browsing fab instead of studying. Oops lol.
My motivation is so bad I've even arranged a social at the pub across the road later 
How do you stay motivated when all you really want to do is skive or have fun? |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
Really good post and question. Sometimes I am motivated because I enjoy doing (work) what I am doing. Sometimes the fact I get paid brings some satisfaction as well.
When I really feel unmotivated I try to make a start with the project eg an assignment because I find it easier to continue doing so once I started.
Sometimes I also reward myself for things I have accomplished that I did not want to do in the first place, e.g. meet with a friend for coffee after.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm meant to be in the office at work studying for my nvq today but the decorators are still there. Because of this my manager has sent me to the library in town instead.
I'm sat here with my books out, seriously lacking any motivation and browsing fab instead of studying. Oops lol.
My motivation is so bad I've even arranged a social at the pub across the road later
How do you stay motivated when all you really want to do is skive or have fun?"
Set aside 30 minutes Now to start. It's the anxiety of starting rather than laziness . Say that after 30 mins , if you don't want to carry in don't, though, to your surprise you may wish to carry on.
Sometimes having a warm up ritual. I recall graham green I think , he used to sharpen a dozen pencils as a warm up and anothe derived always copied the last page he wrote on the previous session. Helped to get over the working block.
May sound like drivel but I hope it helps . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm meant to be in the office at work studying for my nvq today but the decorators are still there. Because of this my manager has sent me to the library in town instead.
I'm sat here with my books out, seriously lacking any motivation and browsing fab instead of studying. Oops lol.
My motivation is so bad I've even arranged a social at the pub across the road later
How do you stay motivated when all you really want to do is skive or have fun?"
Set aside 30 minutes Now to start. It's the anxiety of starting rather than laziness . Say that after 30 mins , if you don't want to carry in don't, though, to your surprise you may wish to carry on.
Sometimes having a warm up ritual. I recall graham green I think , he used to sharpen a dozen pencils as a warm up and anothe derived always copied the last page he wrote on the previous session. Helped to get over the working block.
May sound like drivel but I hope it helps . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm meant to be in the office at work studying for my nvq today but the decorators are still there. Because of this my manager has sent me to the library in town instead.
I'm sat here with my books out, seriously lacking any motivation and browsing fab instead of studying. Oops lol.
My motivation is so bad I've even arranged a social at the pub across the road later
How do you stay motivated when all you really want to do is skive or have fun?"
Set aside 30 minutes Now to start. It's the anxiety of starting rather than laziness . Say that after 30 mins , if you don't want to carry in don't, though, to your surprise you may wish to carry on.
Sometimes having a warm up ritual. I recall graham green I think , he used to sharpen a dozen pencils as a warm up and anothe derived always copied the last page he wrote on the previous session. Helped to get over the working block.
May sound like drivel but I hope it helps . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"as i live alone now and struggling to cope
with the solitude sometimes cant even be motivated to get out of bed  "
Struggling to cope with what?. Life , motivation ?.
If its solitude, all I can say is ensuring regular contact with people work / significant others , family ect , is a must.
From my own experience at least .
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"as i live alone now and struggling to cope
with the solitude sometimes cant even be motivated to get out of bed
Struggling to cope with what?. Life , motivation ?.
If its solitude, all I can say is ensuring regular contact with people work / significant others , family ect , is a must.
From my own experience at least .
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I would second this |
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been on my own again ,back to where i was 25 yrs ago b4 i was married hated it then so really hate it now plus in the 22 yrs
i was married have lost mum.dad,bro and sis so only got a sister left and as her
daughter is a single mum not ave much time for me . |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"been on my own again ,back to where i was 25 yrs ago b4 i was married hated it then so really hate it now plus in the 22 yrs
i was married have lost mum.dad,bro and sis so only got a sister left and as her
daughter is a single mum not ave much time for me ."
I does sound as if you could do with a new circle of friends and who knows maybe out of the circle of friends you might find somebody more special? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"thats why i,m on here to make new friends
but as it hasnt turned out quite the way i hoped going to start going to clubs
so i can socialise and hopefully meet people that way "
It's a good start by I would advise you to be aware that often, a person who feels isolated may be detected by some unsavoury types. Be friendly and open yes, but don't throw caution to the wind.
Maybe review what hobbies / interests you enjoyed pre wedding . Many may still be options for you now.
Singles groups exist not just for dating but a host of interests.
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