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"Not sure if I'm right or wrong here, but being married, I like to be discreet, so showing my face pic, I need to build up trust, and have alway had a golden rule, no face pics for people within 10 miles of home. Have had two recent chats, both very fun, they want to meet, but when I refuse the face pic, that's it, all over, and they never showed me who they were, I suggested both time's, let's just have a casual meet, can see each other, and both being adults, if we don't like what we see, be polite, and just leave it there., so the question is, does a guy always have to show a face pic first!!!" Someone has to send one or you could end up meeting a beast. I wouldn't meet without camming at the min offer that if you don't want to send pictures. | |||
"Not sure if I'm right or wrong here, but being married, I like to be discreet, so showing my face pic, I need to build up trust, and have alway had a golden rule, no face pics for people within 10 miles of home. Have had two recent chats, both very fun, they want to meet, but when I refuse the face pic, that's it, all over, and they never showed me who they were, I suggested both time's, let's just have a casual meet, can see each other, and both being adults, if we don't like what we see, be polite, and just leave it there., so the question is, does a guy always have to show a face pic first!!!" Not necessarily first but tbh I am more interested ina face picture of a guy than any other picture. For me, to build some sort of rapport and trust I would wish to see your face. Hope that helps  | |||
"Not sure if I'm right or wrong here, but being married, I like to be discreet, so showing my face pic, I need to build up trust, and have alway had a golden rule, no face pics for people within 10 miles of home. Have had two recent chats, both very fun, they want to meet, but when I refuse the face pic, that's it, all over, and they never showed me who they were, I suggested both time's, let's just have a casual meet, can see each other, and both being adults, if we don't like what we see, be polite, and just leave it there., so the question is, does a guy always have to show a face pic first!!! Someone has to send one or you could end up meeting a beast. I wouldn't meet without camming at the min offer that if you don't want to send pictures. " The problem with the cam is guys seem the need to get their cock out while its on. Its some sort of dire need for some reason.  | |||
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"Just send your pic. How hard can it be lol" In most pictures I get they are very hard. | |||
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"So let me get this right, you won't show someone on here a face pic privately but you will go along and meet them in the flesh? Because you're married so they might recognise a pic of you but they wouldn't recognise you in real life
"Exactly what I was about to say! Very confusing  | |||
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Well, i dont but feel like doing that. Don't send the pic anyway, they are probably Channel 4 creating a rogues gallery of swingers.  | |||
"Just send your pic. How hard can it be lol In most pictures I get they are very hard. "Show off | |||
"No face pic = no meet. Actually, no face pic = no chat either. "  | |||
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"No face pic = no meet. Actually, no face pic = no chat either. "
I always work on the basis, whoever makes initial conract sends a face pic first | |||
"I refuse to be beholden to 'the numbers game' - that it should dictate to me that I must compromise my own principles. " | |||
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"I'd like to add a caveat to my "No face pic = no meet. Actually, no face pic = no chat either" ...this does not apply to forumites as I have chatted to loads about all manner of stuff, neither party assuming that it would automatically lead to a meet. " Ditto!
For some reason there's many a regular poster that i'm happy to chat with and swap pics with even if they're the other end of the country and there's little if not no hope that we'll ever meet face to face!
Just remembered the reason!
Seems the majority have more common sense, courtesy and respect, and way less of a sense of expectancy than many i've come across elsewhere on site! | |||
"I'd like to add a caveat to my "No face pic = no meet. Actually, no face pic = no chat either" ...this does not apply to forumites as I have chatted to loads about all manner of stuff, neither party assuming that it would automatically lead to a meet. Ditto!
For some reason there's many a regular poster that i'm happy to chat with and swap pics with even if they're the other end of the country and there's little if not no hope that we'll ever meet face to face!
Just remembered the reason!
Seems the majority have more common sense, courtesy and respect, and way less of a sense of expectancy than many i've come across elsewhere on site! "Obi, I came to the conclusion a while ago that the happiest and most 'successful' people on Fab are right here, as regular posters. Our degrees of separation are far less than six. | |||
"I'd like to add a caveat to my "No face pic = no meet. Actually, no face pic = no chat either" ...this does not apply to forumites as I have chatted to loads about all manner of stuff, neither party assuming that it would automatically lead to a meet. " Chatting to people about forums isn't exactly what is being said here. This is about chatting to someone who has contacted u on the basis of it leading to a meet | |||
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"I always work on the basis, whoever makes initial conract sends a face pic first" | |||
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" IMHO, deciding to talk to someone purely on the strength of an initial face picture carries with it the potential danger to degrade this site (and swinging) into a 'meat market' subculture / mentality - something which users of this site are quick to point out to those that equate swinging to 'pulling someone down the boozer for a night' its most definitely not!" I have to disagree with you on that one. If there isn't a physical attracion there in the first place then I wouldn't want to meet up. Those that message saying they want to meet and will travell miles without knowing what I look like are the ones making this site look like a 'meat market'. There has to be some banter and a conection as well obviously but if I don't fancy you, I ain't kissin you! | |||
"I've had ladies NOT ask for a face but ask for a pic of my bum " Well it is a nice bum  | |||
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"Well said, why is it such a demand on initial contact, sending a face pic, so if all guys had a real and fake pic, and always sent the fake pic with the initial message, people would not know It's fake, because they have never met them!!!! I do send face pics to people I trust or live a bit further away, the issues here were, this person could live in the same street, so surely I have to be cautious!!!" If you sent a fake pic then you'd be found out at the meet and possibly embarrassed if the person(s) made a scene. As you're married you're knocking yourself of a good few people's lists who won't meet attached, as you won't send face pics you're reducing your chances more, but that's entirely down to how you want to use the site, I wouldn't meet you at all if you lived in my town because you're married (don't have a problem with neighbours seeing strangers coming to my house, but not Jane Bloggs husband) and I wouldn't meet you blind at all either, it seems like we may have found an entity even rarer than genuine single bi-fems - couples/singles who meet attached folk without knowing what they look like Best of luck x | |||
" I only send cock ones to Obi. Saying "you're a cock" "He's not kidding! Had another this morning!
However I do know what he looks like from the neck up as like me, Steve tends to keep his webcam above the waist when in chatrooms!
OP - as has been said - your situation will naturally mean you're wary of showing your face publicly on site. If I were you (regardless of not being here in the first place - personal choice) i'd consider a full clothed body shot wearing sunglasses - slightly more discreet and if it was to fall into the wrong hands at least it wouldn't be a naked shot with you flashing your tackle!
If you want to meet - the fact is that the majority will not do it blind - so the choice of whether to send face pics in the hope it leads to meets, or to not send and find yourself getting turned down - can only be yours!! | |||
"Well said, why is it such a demand on initial contact, sending a face pic, so if all guys had a real and fake pic, and always sent the fake pic with the initial message, people would not know It's fake, because they have never met them!!!! I do send face pics to people I trust or live a bit further away, the issues here were, this person could live in the same street, so surely I have to be cautious!!!" why were you even chatting to them if they lived too close to you? desperation causin you to change your tactics maybe? | |||
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"not desperation, she had the biggest breasts i had ever seen, lol the thing was, she was also married, and looking for discreet fun, but wouldn't show me her pic until i showed mine, then she has all the power, and could know me, never reply through fear of me knowing her, then i would always be on the lookout, wondering what happened to my pic ! just walk away now, i think, and back to showing my pic to people i can trust x" There has to be an element of trust but even if she did know you, she's not likely to broadcast it to the world as she's in the same boat as you!! | |||
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"good idea !" Which one? OP - if you hit the +quote option it'll be more obvious which posts your replies relate to! | |||
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"I've got face picture on profile and always send face pictures with messages but understand some people have to be careful with face pictures. I am meeting a women next week been messaging for few weeks still not seen a face picture of her yet but excited about meeting. Maybe I'm one the odd ones that could meet without seeing face picture????? "nahhhh, your just a horny lad who cant believe his luck getting a meet off here lol | |||
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just got carried away, back to my rules now ! | |||
"I've got face picture on profile and always send face pictures with messages but understand some people have to be careful with face pictures. I am meeting a women next week been messaging for few weeks still not seen a face picture of her yet but excited about meeting. Maybe I'm one the odd ones that could meet without seeing face picture????? "i'm like you, would be happy to meet without a face pic, you don't have to have sex with them when you meet ! | |||
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"A true tale Lady I know decided on a discreet meet . Her marriage was no quite over and salvageable though sexless. She needed a spot of relief and joined a well know. Site. Discretion was a must . She insisted , no pics for secrecy. She was very interested in a chap who insisted on a pic. She sent it and it ended up on a social site. This chap decided to send it to associated with the ' I'm in for this hi chick ' line . Only fun I guess but someone who knew her and the hubby spotted it . Ended up with the hubby, need I say , the marriage was not rekindled. Most people are very genuine , or if not with their age , weight , cock size or oral skills, most would not intentionally cause problems for other members, but it can happen. I'm attached and have no wish to part. I like a bit o fun and wish to keep it discreet. Many attractive ladies have passed bye but I stick to this rule too. A meet for a quick drink at a location convenient for the lady . Part after 10 mins, if its a yes or no , she can do it without a face to face situation. " well said ! and i'm sticking to my rules, no face pic if in the same town ! | |||
