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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I consider myself a warm hearted,kind and caring individual and as a friend as loyal and true but..............
Just lately some people are taking the piss and things seem all one sided....
Sooooo i think ive got to learn to be a bit of a bitch....
But how ? if its not in your nature to be one    |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"I consider myself a warm hearted,kind and caring individual and as a friend as loyal and true but..............
Just lately some people are taking the piss and things seem all one sided....
Sooooo i think ive got to learn to be a bit of a bitch....
But how ? if its not in your nature to be one "
Everyone has it in their nature to be. NO MATTER, what they say......just get mean Peaches!!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I get annoyed at myself for being somewhat gullable in certain situations and tend to place to much trust in folk...only for it to be slapped back at me. so yer.....ive gotta get mean  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get annoyed at myself for being somewhat gullable in certain situations and tend to place to much trust in folk...only for it to be slapped back at me. so yer.....ive gotta get mean "
You don't have to get mean you need to be firm and stand no nonsense from them! |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"I consider myself a warm hearted,kind and caring individual and as a friend as loyal and true but..............
Just lately some people are taking the piss and things seem all one sided....
Sooooo i think ive got to learn to be a bit of a bitch....
But how ? if its not in your nature to be one "
I am not sure whether everybody has it in them to be a bitch. I think we all have the potential to be angry, hurt, upset and whatever other emotions there are... being a bitch kind of goes a bit further than that and involves an element of being deliberately nasty and I cannot see you be that.  |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"I get annoyed at myself for being somewhat gullable in certain situations and tend to place to much trust in folk...only for it to be slapped back at me. so yer.....ive gotta get mean "
Think we have all been there Peaches.....stand your ground....you have done before...xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I consider myself a warm hearted,kind and caring individual and as a friend as loyal and true but..............
Just lately some people are taking the piss and things seem all one sided....
Sooooo i think ive got to learn to be a bit of a bitch....
But how ? if its not in your nature to be one I am not sure whether everybody has it in them to be a bitch. I think we all have the potential to be angry, hurt, upset and whatever other emotions there are... being a bitch kind of goes a bit further than that and involves an element of being deliberately nasty and I cannot see you be that. "
It would go against the grain im afraid but i do need to toughen up me thinks and not be such a push over |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"I consider myself a warm hearted,kind and caring individual and as a friend as loyal and true but..............
Just lately some people are taking the piss and things seem all one sided....
Sooooo i think ive got to learn to be a bit of a bitch....
But how ? if its not in your nature to be one I am not sure whether everybody has it in them to be a bitch. I think we all have the potential to be angry, hurt, upset and whatever other emotions there are... being a bitch kind of goes a bit further than that and involves an element of being deliberately nasty and I cannot see you be that.
It would go against the grain im afraid but i do need to toughen up me thinks and not be such a push over "
Absolutely! You know the difference between being assertive and standing your ground,establishing your boundaries and not being walked over on the one hand and being bitchy. The former is great - the latter leads only to more conflict and you would not be any happier with yourself. I truly believe conflict resolution and peace are better than trying to win at all cost. |
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As said before, if someone is taking things too far or not being nice explain what they have done. Ask them to not do it again. If they do ask yourself the question "do I really want contact with them".
I was always told "do no harm, but let no harm be done" it has proven over the years to be a very hard statement to achieve.
Be happy, be nice, but most of all be yourself. |
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Peaches, I don't think you need to become a bitch, perhaps toughen up and stop saying yes. But I do know it's difficult if not in your nature.
I've recently had a bombshell dropped on me by someone, who is not only a family member, but my best friend. It floored me and I'm still not over it and tbh don;t think I ever will be.
I'm spending a week with her on holiday and have seriously considered cancelling cos I don't know whether I can cope.
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Take a deep breath, compose yourself then calmly say those thoughts that you keep pushing to the back of your mind - you know the ones "whatever possessed a grown adult to pay someone to do that to your hair?" or "it's .o wonder you ask me to do you favours since with a personality like yours you obviously have no actual friends - how's that working out for you?".
Remember to use a conversational tone and no swearing and bitchood attained.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's enough if them on here without making new ones  stay nice and kind hearted and leave the bitchiness to the lower classes on here x"
Lol...WE are the lower class!
To the OP: just tell the piss takers how you feel, be straight and honest, you don't have to be a BITCH to stop others abusing your good nature, its just more fun! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I consider myself a warm hearted,kind and caring individual and as a friend as loyal and true but..............
Just lately some people are taking the piss and things seem all one sided....
Sooooo i think ive got to learn to be a bit of a bitch....
But how ? if its not in your nature to be one "
Peaches - speaking as a member of the gender that you're no doubt getting frustrated with - i'd suggest this!
There's nothing more frustrating for a guy that thinks he's got things going just how he wants, all on his own agenda and who is getting away with any kind of 'one sided relationship', than to be blanked rather than bitched at!
Bitching, complaining, ranting - whatever you call it - will enable him to react back, usually with lines claiming it's your fault, there's nothing wrong and that it's all in your head!
Blanking, keeping him hanging on for a response, not working to his agenda and not responding instantly to any contact, will result in one of two things - he'll either lose interest completely, showing his true colours and the fact he was only interested in a doormat he could have at his beck and call - or he'll realise he's being a twat and adjust his attitude - giving you the chance to re-establish ground rules on a level playing field.
Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I consider myself a warm hearted,kind and caring individual and as a friend as loyal and true but..............
Just lately some people are taking the piss and things seem all one sided....
Sooooo i think ive got to learn to be a bit of a bitch....
But how ? if its not in your nature to be one
Peaches - speaking as a member of the gender that you're no doubt getting frustrated with - i'd suggest this!
There's nothing more frustrating for a guy that thinks he's got things going just how he wants, all on his own agenda and who is getting away with any kind of 'one sided relationship', than to be blanked rather than bitched at!
Bitching, complaining, ranting - whatever you call it - will enable him to react back, usually with lines claiming it's your fault, there's nothing wrong and that it's all in your head!
Blanking, keeping him hanging on for a response, not working to his agenda and not responding instantly to any contact, will result in one of two things - he'll either lose interest completely, showing his true colours and the fact he was only interested in a doormat he could have at his beck and call - or he'll realise he's being a twat and adjust his attitude - giving you the chance to re-establish ground rules on a level playing field.
Good luck! "
What he said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I consider myself a warm hearted,kind and caring individual and as a friend as loyal and true but..............
Just lately some people are taking the piss and things seem all one sided....
Sooooo i think ive got to learn to be a bit of a bitch....
But how ? if its not in your nature to be one
Peaches - speaking as a member of the gender that you're no doubt getting frustrated with - i'd suggest this!
There's nothing more frustrating for a guy that thinks he's got things going just how he wants, all on his own agenda and who is getting away with any kind of 'one sided relationship', than to be blanked rather than bitched at!
Bitching, complaining, ranting - whatever you call it - will enable him to react back, usually with lines claiming it's your fault, there's nothing wrong and that it's all in your head!
Blanking, keeping him hanging on for a response, not working to his agenda and not responding instantly to any contact, will result in one of two things - he'll either lose interest completely, showing his true colours and the fact he was only interested in a doormat he could have at his beck and call - or he'll realise he's being a twat and adjust his attitude - giving you the chance to re-establish ground rules on a level playing field.
Good luck! "
Perfect advice Obi! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I consider myself a warm hearted,kind and caring individual and as a friend as loyal and true but.............."
Just switch off and I guarantee youll get the results you want.
To be fair...anyone who doesnt show respect to you or anyone else for that matter, aint worth a wank.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I consider myself a warm hearted,kind and caring individual and as a friend as loyal and true but..............
Just lately some people are taking the piss and things seem all one sided....
Sooooo i think ive got to learn to be a bit of a bitch....
But how ? if its not in your nature to be one
Peaches - speaking as a member of the gender that you're no doubt getting frustrated with - i'd suggest this!
There's nothing more frustrating for a guy that thinks he's got things going just how he wants, all on his own agenda and who is getting away with any kind of 'one sided relationship', than to be blanked rather than bitched at!
Bitching, complaining, ranting - whatever you call it - will enable him to react back, usually with lines claiming it's your fault, there's nothing wrong and that it's all in your head!
Blanking, keeping him hanging on for a response, not working to his agenda and not responding instantly to any contact, will result in one of two things - he'll either lose interest completely, showing his true colours and the fact he was only interested in a doormat he could have at his beck and call - or he'll realise he's being a twat and adjust his attitude - giving you the chance to re-establish ground rules on a level playing field.
Good luck!
Perfect advice Obi! "
Hear hear !! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I consider myself a warm hearted,kind and caring individual and as a friend as loyal and true but..............
Just lately some people are taking the piss and things seem all one sided....
Sooooo i think ive got to learn to be a bit of a bitch....
But how ? if its not in your nature to be one
Peaches - speaking as a member of the gender that you're no doubt getting frustrated with - i'd suggest this!
There's nothing more frustrating for a guy that thinks he's got things going just how he wants, all on his own agenda and who is getting away with any kind of 'one sided relationship', than to be blanked rather than bitched at!
Bitching, complaining, ranting - whatever you call it - will enable him to react back, usually with lines claiming it's your fault, there's nothing wrong and that it's all in your head!
Blanking, keeping him hanging on for a response, not working to his agenda and not responding instantly to any contact, will result in one of two things - he'll either lose interest completely, showing his true colours and the fact he was only interested in a doormat he could have at his beck and call - or he'll realise he's being a twat and adjust his attitude - giving you the chance to re-establish ground rules on a level playing field.
Good luck! "
Well said obi
and yes, this particular mate was JUST a mate though one i have know over 40yrs.....(grew up together) But ive had my moment so to speak and told him exactly what i thought of him and ...all the lying bullshite ive just found out he has been spouting.
If he can lie to me after all this time then he aint worth my spit.
And he is now an EX friend who i want nothing to do with.
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"I consider myself a warm hearted,kind and caring individual and as a friend as loyal and true but..............
Just lately some people are taking the piss and things seem all one sided....
Sooooo i think ive got to learn to be a bit of a bitch....
But how ? if its not in your nature to be one "
You have my sympathy cos I am exactly the same. But why should you change? Just approach others with a bit more caution until they earn your trust and friendship. That's why I intend doing. Stay true to yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I consider myself a warm hearted,kind and caring individual and as a friend as loyal and true but..............
Just lately some people are taking the piss and things seem all one sided....
Sooooo i think ive got to learn to be a bit of a bitch....
But how ? if its not in your nature to be one I am not sure whether everybody has it in them to be a bitch. I think we all have the potential to be angry, hurt, upset and whatever other emotions there are... being a bitch kind of goes a bit further than that and involves an element of being deliberately nasty and I cannot see you be that.
It would go against the grain im afraid but i do need to toughen up me thinks and not be such a push over Absolutely! You know the difference between being assertive and standing your ground,establishing your boundaries and not being walked over on the one hand and being bitchy. The former is great - the latter leads only to more conflict and you would not be any happier with yourself. I truly believe conflict resolution and peace are better than trying to win at all cost. "
Absolutely right .. |
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