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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok I don't want to get into a legal to and why ... have no time or inclination
Women don't always win
Children if old enough can make up their own minds and see a lot of goes on
Screw you in the courts ?? why is it always about money ?? I left with 2 carrier bags and my child and gave him the house because I valued my sanity and her happiness over everything
You have options - doing this IS not going to make your life any better if you say its as bad as it is
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Mate. This isn't the place for that sort of advice. Like said you've opened a can of worms.
Can you not go seek professional help and advice before making a decision like citizans advice? See where you stand regarding divorce courts and the kids? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"im married un hapilly and she has had 2 affairs. she wont devorce but she is not interested in me. wot do u think"
No offence to you OP but this is the third thread you have posted asking if it is ok to do so.
I am not sure why you feel the need or if you are hoping for different answers this time? |
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"ive asked her and she says she will screw me in the courts. and not let me see kids (women always win )lol"
Grow a pair! 
One, the law has changed: your wife can't stop you seeing your kids or screw you financially. Stop being pathetic, if you really want to leave you can get free legal advice to find out where you stand.
I left my husband after losing 80% of my sight with no guarantee it would return. Went from a £20k to £250k mortgage with my fingers crossed I wouldn't loose my job with my sight.
I left 24 years of marriage with all my worldly goods and two kids in the back of a Ford transit. I didn't take a teaspoon out of the marital home. I was gambling: I would have slept under the Embankment than spend another night under the same roof as my ex, but I had to ensure if things went tits up the girls had a home to return to.
Ten years on my ex has sold the marital home for a small fortune and given me half the proceeds which came as a lovely surprise.
My point is, if you REALLY want to leave you'll not put excuses in your own path, you'd do it. You know that though don't you, why upset the status quo, cushy easy life at home, diversions on here!  |
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"Ok I don't want to get into a legal to and why ... have no time or inclination
Women don't always win
Children if old enough can make up their own minds and see a lot of goes on
Screw you in the courts ?? why is it always about money ?? I left with 2 carrier bags and my child and gave him the house because I valued my sanity and her happiness over everything
You have options - doing this IS not going to make your life any better if you say its as bad as it is
Good luck"
Woman after my own heart!  |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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"ive asked her and she says she will screw me in the courts. and not let me see kids (women always win )lol
Grow a pair!
One, the law has changed: your wife can't stop you seeing your kids or screw you financially. Stop being pathetic, if you really want to leave you can get free legal advice to find out where you stand.
I left my husband after losing 80% of my sight with no guarantee it would return. Went from a £20k to £250k mortgage with my fingers crossed I wouldn't loose my job with my sight.
I left 24 years of marriage with all my worldly goods and two kids in the back of a Ford transit. I didn't take a teaspoon out of the marital home. I was gambling: I would have slept under the Embankment than spend another night under the same roof as my ex, but I had to ensure if things went tits up the girls had a home to return to.
Ten years on my ex has sold the marital home for a small fortune and given me half the proceeds which came as a lovely surprise.
My point is, if you REALLY want to leave you'll not put excuses in your own path, you'd do it. You know that though don't you, why upset the status quo, cushy easy life at home, diversions on here! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just because she has had two affairs doesn't mean that you should do the same, oh wait you are on a swinging site and have cheated on her, seems to me that you are no different to her and well suited lol. Thing is if she finds out you are on here and that you have met someone, when you tell the solicitor she has had two affairs, she can tell her's about you being on here can't she |
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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago
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"Ok I don't want to get into a legal to and why ... have no time or inclination
Women don't always win
Children if old enough can make up their own minds and see a lot of goes on
Screw you in the courts ?? why is it always about money ?? I left with 2 carrier bags and my child and gave him the house because I valued my sanity and her happiness over everything
You have options - doing this IS not going to make your life any better if you say its as bad as it is
Good luck
Woman after my own heart! "
Here here! Its not all about money. I left my husband with the clothes on my back and my handbag....I may be skint now but im happier than I have ever been xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ive asked her and she says she will screw me in the courts. and not let me see kids (women always win )lol"
No they don't and if you let her hang that over you more mug you.
Is there any reason why you wouldn't be able to see your kids?
If not separate and go see your own solicitor if things are so unhappy between you im sure it will rub off on your kids.
Also you said she cheated twice grounds for divorce there.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i must not have any balls then"
Then I suggest you grow a pair, mate.
Five years ago, I caught my ex out having a relationship which had gone on for four years before I 'woke up'. I made the mistake of giving her a second chance, and after six months she got back in touch with him.
At that point I 'drew a line in the sand' and told myself that no matter what happened I was out of there. Nine months later I left, moved into my own place and began a life all over again. As a result of her lies, I now no longer see my boys and have also been bankrupted by her.
BUT... I can look ANYONE in the face and say I didn't cheat on her, I can live a lifestyle I had put to the back of my mind for the twenty years I was with her and - most importantly - I don't moan about my 'lot'.
Life is what you make it. You can grow a pair and live, or you can sit there and feel sorry for yourself and go into terminal decline.
Which do you really want??
And if you're looking for sympathy, remember one thing: the only place you find sympathy is in the dictionary. And you'll find it between Shit and Syphilis .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i must not have any balls then
Then I suggest you grow a pair, mate.
Five years ago, I caught my ex out having a relationship which had gone on for four years before I 'woke up'. I made the mistake of giving her a second chance, and after six months she got back in touch with him.
At that point I 'drew a line in the sand' and told myself that no matter what happened I was out of there. Nine months later I left, moved into my own place and began a life all over again. As a result of her lies, I now no longer see my boys and have also been bankrupted by her.
BUT... I can look ANYONE in the face and say I didn't cheat on her, I can live a lifestyle I had put to the back of my mind for the twenty years I was with her and - most importantly - I don't moan about my 'lot'.
Life is what you make it. You can grow a pair and live, or you can sit there and feel sorry for yourself and go into terminal decline.
Which do you really want??
And if you're looking for sympathy, remember one thing: the only place you find sympathy is in the dictionary. And you'll find it between Shit and Syphilis .
Ted "
Well I don't think anyone can beat that reply  enough said case closed thankyou and goodnight  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ive asked her and she says she will screw me in the courts. and not let me see kids (women always win )lol"
Before I had kids, I worked in a solicitors office and used to see women all the time in the office with kids in tow upset and/or crying because their marriage was finished and he was trying to "screw" them over. Obviously you are getting that effect, but like has been said you could separate or maybe try mediation? Im no expert, just a woman. Hope it helps  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I may be wrong but I didn't think she had to 'give' you a divorce. I thought you petitioned for one and it went to court if both parties weren't in agreement?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I may be wrong but I didn't think she had to 'give' you a divorce. I thought you petitioned for one and it went to court if both parties weren't in agreement?
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Yes you can't be forced into staying married. Get your ass down the solicitors and YOU file for divorce on the grounds of adultery if what you're saying is correct. At the same time get your solicitor to start a court order going to access your children. First up best dressed mate. So stop asking and start doing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I may be wrong but I didn't think she had to 'give' you a divorce. I thought you petitioned for one and it went to court if both parties weren't in agreement?
Yes you can't be forced into staying married. Get your ass down the solicitors and YOU file for divorce on the grounds of adultery if what you're saying is correct. At the same time get your solicitor to start a court order going to access your children. First up best dressed mate. So stop asking and start doing "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In the UK adultery (i.e. sexual relations with a member of the opposite sex) is still grounds for an instant divorce, therefore you don't even need to move out, just file for divorce on the grounds of her adultery, and file for custody at the same time.
Of course if you have been able to get a meet from here or anywhere else then she could divorce you instead.
So why would you give up that advantage? get off this site, go look up UK family law instead, and come back as a single parent in a few months time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I may be wrong but I didn't think she had to 'give' you a divorce. I thought you petitioned for one and it went to court if both parties weren't in agreement?
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Yes as long as one is the petitioner with acceptable grounds. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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simple answer, it is never ok to cheat no matter what circumstances, she has cheated on you so you have grounds for divorce you dont need her to agree, however if you then cheat you will lose them grounds. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ive asked her and she says she will screw me in the courts. and not let me see kids (women always win )lol"
Sorry but women do not always win in these cases. You just have to do your homework & get the correct Barrister.
Only you can change your life & only you can make the decisions that make your life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ive asked her and she says she will screw me in the courts. and not let me see kids (women always win )lol"
She sounds lovely  Get out or she will drag you down...we all deserve happiness and love and you do have choices. Be happy, life is too short. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I caught my ex cheating on me. granted we wasn't married but we do have 2 kids together, and no matter what happens both parents have equal rights. To their kids so what if Im now poor and living in a shared house i'd rather be here than lose my mind staying with her.
Don't cheat it doesn't help any1 from the moment u have kids its about keeping them safe and happy |
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"Ok I don't want to get into a legal to and why ... have no time or inclination
Women don't always win
Children if old enough can make up their own minds and see a lot of goes on
Screw you in the courts ?? why is it always about money ?? I left with 2 carrier bags and my child and gave him the house because I valued my sanity and her happiness over everything
You have options - doing this IS not going to make your life any better if you say its as bad as it is
Good luck"
Agree with this if its that bad man up and leave
Not healthy for the children being in such an unhappy enviroment
You cant take your money with you so far better to be happy and start a new life for yourself as long as you fight to see your children and have them visit and stay with you
good luck |
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