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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's more to just turning up .i think it's when you have a connection with the person or people that puts something extra special to your sex life .poppyxx  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"There's more to just turning up .i think it's when you have a connection with the person or people that puts something extra special to your sex life .poppyxx "
Chemistry, I guess? |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
In no particular order...
Adventurous
Amusing
Clean
Confident
Assertive
Witty
Not too hairy
Oh, and hopefully they're attracted to me otherwise the rohypnol and cable ties have to come out  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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However, expanding on my earlier comment:
Friendly, open, relaxed and respectful and hopefully a connection on more than just a physical level.
...with a list like that, you can see why Im a hard man to meet!  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"In no particular order...
Adventurous
Amusing
Clean
Confident
Assertive
Witty
Not too hairy
Oh, and hopefully they're attracted to me otherwise the rohypnol and cable ties have to come out "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When u feel relaxed with them and not just fuck when u walk through the door . Some women might think men are all sex mad but even men need a bit of whooing lol xx |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"However, expanding on my earlier comment:
Friendly, open, relaxed and respectful and hopefully a connection on more than just a physical level.
...with a list like that, you can see why Im a hard man to meet! "
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"When u feel relaxed with them and not just fuck when u walk through the door . Some women might think men are all sex mad but even men need a bit of whooing lol xx"
That sounds cool to me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's more to just turning up .i think it's when you have a connection with the person or people that puts something extra special to your sex life .poppyxx "
This, plus being able to chat and relax and have a laugh. Finding Mr. Right? lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being able to hold a convo and have a laugh and being hot and good at sex helps.I agree - and what do you think makes somebody good at sex? "
Being open and attentive to the other persons likes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, going back to my question regarding what makes somebody good at sex..being attentive is one thing of course but what else? "
Not rolling over and snoring after ??  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Being a non selfish lover is important.
Turning on my partner/making them cum in turn excites myself.
Being considerate of their tastes and likes/dislikes.
In essence what makes them tick in bed."
So getting to know the other person a bit, understanding their sexuality a bit more? |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I believe that makes for higher quality sex as the brain and feelings are involved to a degree.
Just rocking up and poking it in is a tad clinical from my perspective.
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Would not work for me at all. I really need a bit of mental stimulation - otherwise it would feel like shagging an animated dildo. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Exactly but I'm sure that others would be happy to be pleasured minus an exchange of names and any conversation."
Not saying I need their life history or discussing Einstein's relativity ... but yep, conversation is essential. Grunts alone would not do it for me.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Exactly but I'm sure that others would be happy to be pleasured minus an exchange of names and any conversation.Not saying I need their life history or discussing Einstein's relativity ... but yep, conversation is essential. Grunts alone would not do it for me. "
No theory of relativity - awwww!  |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"I believe that makes for higher quality sex as the brain and feelings are involved to a degree.
Just rocking up and poking it in is a tad clinical from my perspective.
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I have had occasional meets where we've just got straight down to it immediately - obviously, living in Arse End, it takes time for the person to get here so I've time to anticipate what's going to happen so I'm ready by then and it's something I enjoy sometimes - a change is as good as a rest as they say |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Exactly but I'm sure that others would be happy to be pleasured minus an exchange of names and any conversation.Not saying I need their life history or discussing Einstein's relativity ... but yep, conversation is essential. Grunts alone would not do it for me.
No theory of relativity - awwww! "
ok then as it's you. But we will stop at string theory! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, going back to my question regarding what makes somebody good at sex..being attentive is one thing of course but what else?
Not rolling over and snoring after ?? "
dont say .Stick kettle on love .xxx |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I believe that makes for higher quality sex as the brain and feelings are involved to a degree.
Just rocking up and poking it in is a tad clinical from my perspective.
I have had occasional meets where we've just got straight down to it immediately - obviously, living in Arse End, it takes time for the person to get here so I've time to anticipate what's going to happen so I'm ready by then and it's something I enjoy sometimes - a change is as good as a rest as they say "
Bet that was not lovely Caz though - sure Taz was taking over? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have a meet tomorrow, we have been messaging on Fab and texting each other for a few weeks, the anticipation has been mounting. For me this is the build up to a great meet, likes and dislikes have been discussed. Roll on tomorrow |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I have a meet tomorrow, we have been messaging on Fab and texting each other for a few weeks, the anticipation has been mounting. For me this is the build up to a great meet, likes and dislikes have been discussed. Roll on tomorrow "
Good for you - hope you have a fabulous time - please report back (without naming, of courde) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have had good and bad sex .. The bad ones just fumble their way thru , a quick tweak on nips and whip it out ...
I like the kind if meets where we can write sexy texts before the meet and discover our boundaries.
When I meet someone for first time , always a social and if he makes a big impression then and I end up longing for him I know it will work .
What I do find off putting is if I have made a date to play and there is no sexy talk before that date , I am likely to cancel |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"I believe that makes for higher quality sex as the brain and feelings are involved to a degree.
Just rocking up and poking it in is a tad clinical from my perspective.
I have had occasional meets where we've just got straight down to it immediately - obviously, living in Arse End, it takes time for the person to get here so I've time to anticipate what's going to happen so I'm ready by then and it's something I enjoy sometimes - a change is as good as a rest as they say
Bet that was not lovely Caz though - sure Taz was taking over? "
Maybe Taz is a bit closer to the surface when that happens, but it is a bit of a fantasy I like to play out now and again. The majority of my 1:1 meets are as much about the craic as the sex and I love long encounters with plenty of chatting as well as rampant sex, but sometimes....mmmmm |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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I have had good and bad sex .. The bad ones just fumble their way thru , a quick tweak on nips and whip it out ...
I like the kind if meets where we can write sexy texts before the meet and discover our boundaries.
When I meet someone for first time , always a social and if he makes a big impression then and I end up longing for him I know it will work .
What I do find off putting is if I have made a date to play and there is no sexy talk before that date , I am likely to cancel "
So you really enjoy that build up over a period of time. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I believe that makes for higher quality sex as the brain and feelings are involved to a degree.
Just rocking up and poking it in is a tad clinical from my perspective.
I have had occasional meets where we've just got straight down to it immediately - obviously, living in Arse End, it takes time for the person to get here so I've time to anticipate what's going to happen so I'm ready by then and it's something I enjoy sometimes - a change is as good as a rest as they say
Bet that was not lovely Caz though - sure Taz was taking over?
Maybe Taz is a bit closer to the surface when that happens, but it is a bit of a fantasy I like to play out now and again. The majority of my 1:1 meets are as much about the craic as the sex and I love long encounters with plenty of chatting as well as rampant sex, but sometimes....mmmmm "
Thats my girl
xxx (in the usual completely and utterly non bi way |
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"I have a meet tomorrow, we have been messaging on Fab and texting each other for a few weeks, the anticipation has been mounting. For me this is the build up to a great meet, likes and dislikes have been discussed. Roll on tomorrow "
good luck butterfly have fun xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have a meet Fri and for last few weeks have been sexting and being very norty , we both know our boundaries . The tension is excruciating and have been horny for days 
So roll on Friday |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"wow two _phrodites mmmyeah - I am the older one - she is fresh blood
Lmao .. I am the newbie  "
I chose my name from my favourite song from Cream .. Tales of Brave Ulysses |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a meet Fri and for last few weeks have been sexting and being very norty , we both know our boundaries . The tension is excruciating and have been horny for days
So roll on Friday "
have fun hun and tell him to suck it for me lol xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A good meet is one where the man puts me at ease right away being able to have. A good laugh .....and great sex lol xx "
Or woman , depending on your preference |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a meet Fri and for last few weeks have been sexting and being very norty , we both know our boundaries . The tension is excruciating and have been horny for days
So roll on Friday have fun hun and tell him to suck it for me lol xxx"
Oh he knows it's a must) x |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"wow two _phrodites mmmyeah - I am the older one - she is fresh blood
Lmao .. I am the newbie
I chose my name from my favourite song from Cream .. Tales of Brave Ulysses "
Ah - I took mine from having a love of ancient Greek mythology and Aphrodite being the goddess who tempted Paris. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"wow two _phrodites mmmyeah - I am the older one - she is fresh blood
Lmao .. I am the newbie
I chose my name from my favourite song from Cream .. Tales of Brave Ulysses Ah - I took mine from having a love of ancient Greek mythology and Aphrodite being the goddess who tempted Paris. "
Did the term bull come from the minotaur? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Confident phone chat prior to a meet, relaxed & comfortable social meet,
if the chemistry and physical attraction is there for all,
Stands a bloody good chance of the sex being above average.. especially giving a quick flash of the leather blindfold during the social if it's going to plan.. Indication of exploring other than the norm... |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"wow two _phrodites mmmyeah - I am the older one - she is fresh blood
Lmao .. I am the newbie
I chose my name from my favourite song from Cream .. Tales of Brave Ulysses "
That's my fave Cream song too! |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"wow two _phrodites mmmyeah - I am the older one - she is fresh blood
Lmao .. I am the newbie
I chose my name from my favourite song from Cream .. Tales of Brave Ulysses Ah - I took mine from having a love of ancient Greek mythology and Aphrodite being the goddess who tempted Paris.
Did the term bull come from the minotaur? "
Bet you it did |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Confident phone chat prior to a meet, relaxed & comfortable social meet,
if the chemistry and physical attraction is there for all,
Stands a bloody good chance of the sex being above average.. especially giving a quick flash of the leather blindfold during the social if it's going to plan.. Indication of exploring other than the norm... "
Leather blindfold.... hm.... taking notes! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"wow two _phrodites mmmyeah - I am the older one - she is fresh blood
Lmao .. I am the newbie
I chose my name from my favourite song from Cream .. Tales of Brave Ulysses Ah - I took mine from having a love of ancient Greek mythology and Aphrodite being the goddess who tempted Paris. "
She did indeed |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"wow two _phrodites mmmyeah - I am the older one - she is fresh blood
Lmao .. I am the newbie
I chose my name from my favourite song from Cream .. Tales of Brave Ulysses :-
That's my fave Cream song too! "
It's a very evocative song , great tune and great lyrics |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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"wow two _phrodites mmmyeah - I am the older one - she is fresh blood
Lmao .. I am the newbie
I chose my name from my favourite song from Cream .. Tales of Brave Ulysses :-
That's my fave Cream song too!
It's a very evocative song , great tune and great lyrics "
Aphrodite's signature |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"wow two _phrodites mmmyeah - I am the older one - she is fresh blood
Lmao .. I am the newbie
I chose my name from my favourite song from Cream .. Tales of Brave Ulysses :-
That's my fave Cream song too!
It's a very evocative song , great tune and great lyrics Aphrodite's signature "
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On time.
Respectful ( not everyone like being felt up in public).
Witty and amusing
Being able to make a connection.
Being able to communicate and not just about sex
Smells good and clean
Able to make it to Dudley   |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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"On time.
Respectful ( not everyone like being felt up in public).
Witty and amusing
Being able to make a connection.
Being able to communicate and not just about sex
Smells good and clean
Able to make it to Dudley "
Love the last one |
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"On time.
Respectful ( not everyone like being felt up in public).
Witty and amusing
Being able to make a connection.
Being able to communicate and not just about sex
Smells good and clean
Able to make it to Dudley Love the last one "
I walk most place but if it too far the dog moans  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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"On time.
Respectful ( not everyone like being felt up in public).
Witty and amusing
Being able to make a connection.
Being able to communicate and not just about sex
Smells good and clean
Able to make it to Dudley Love the last one
I walk most place but if it too far the dog moans "
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me its
Clean
Smells good
Able to make/hold convo
Chemistry that makes you feel like you known them for years not just a front for a fuck lol.
Shaved,carrying condoms and up for pictures and videos
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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"For me its
Clean
Smells good
Able to make/hold convo
Chemistry that makes you feel like you known them for years not just a front for a fuck lol.
Shaved,carrying condoms and up for pictures and videos
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So good to see people who share the desire for some conversation. I mean nothing wrong with a quickie sometimes but overall I prefer a kid of connection in the scene. |
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"For me its
Clean
Smells good
Able to make/hold convo
Chemistry that makes you feel like you known them for years not just a front for a fuck lol.
Shaved,carrying condoms and up for pictures and videos
So good to see people who share the desire for some conversation. I mean nothing wrong with a quickie sometimes but overall I prefer a kid of connection in the scene. "
Kid I had to read it twice |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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"For me its
Clean
Smells good
Able to make/hold convo
Chemistry that makes you feel like you known them for years not just a front for a fuck lol.
Shaved,carrying condoms and up for pictures and videos
So good to see people who share the desire for some conversation. I mean nothing wrong with a quickie sometimes but overall I prefer a kid of connection in the scene.
Kid I had to read it twice "
Ooops thanks for pointing that out - I mea "kind " of connection, of course. Thanks Nucs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For me its
Clean
Smells good
Able to make/hold convo
Chemistry that makes you feel like you known them for years not just a front for a fuck lol.
Shaved,carrying condoms and up for pictures and videos
So good to see people who share the desire for some conversation. I mean nothing wrong with a quickie sometimes but overall I prefer a kid of connection in the scene. "
I agree i love to laugh and chat esp while getting hot n horny |
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"For me its
Clean
Smells good
Able to make/hold convo
Chemistry that makes you feel like you known them for years not just a front for a fuck lol.
Shaved,carrying condoms and up for pictures and videos
So good to see people who share the desire for some conversation. I mean nothing wrong with a quickie sometimes but overall I prefer a kid of connection in the scene.
I agree i love to laugh and chat esp while getting hot n horny "
Over the year I am sure I have laughed more people into bed than charmed into bed |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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Cougar and Nucs - isnt that what having a relaxed atmosphere without pressure is all about? I cannot see the fun in any activity, never mind sex, where I am not relaxed and happy... |
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"Cougar and Nucs - isnt that what having a relaxed atmosphere without pressure is all about? I cannot see the fun in any activity, never mind sex, where I am not relaxed and happy... "
Very true if someone is on edge the chances of fun and laughter is remote  |
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"Cougar and Nucs - isnt that what having a relaxed atmosphere without pressure is all about? I cannot see the fun in any activity, never mind sex, where I am not relaxed and happy...
Very true if someone is on edge the chances of fun and laughter is remote "
And then I cannot see sexy play happening, or if it does it cannot be very enjoyable. |
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"Cougar and Nucs - isnt that what having a relaxed atmosphere without pressure is all about? I cannot see the fun in any activity, never mind sex, where I am not relaxed and happy...
Very true if someone is on edge the chances of fun and laughter is remote And then I cannot see sexy play happening, or if it does it cannot be very enjoyable. "
Even if I try really really hard |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What makes somebody a good meet? if I feel relaxed around them xI really could not agree more - without that anything else is irrelevant. "
yes times fly when your having fun. xxx so when it don't on a meet you know there's something wrong .. I have to feel relaxed around people . xx |
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