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By *mando OP Man 1 week ago
Shrewsbury |
Do any of you like cuddles & Spoons during or after your meets?
Or is it mostly wham, bam, thank you mam?
Sometimes it's nice to just lay together, maybe even fall asleep.
Or is this too intimate?
Asking for a friend 😊 |
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Of all the men we've met single and in couples every one Of them actively avoided cuddles or any form of physical intimacy that might count as showing affection. Whether that was out of respect for our relationship or because they didn't want to I don't know. |
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I usually have hotel meets they are over night but there is no cuddling involved, there maybe a little spooning in the morning before a good bye fuck. They are almost always more than one offs but cuddling is to personal |
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By *aizyWoman 7 days ago
west midlands |
"I quite enjoy a cuddle after. It seems a bit cold to just have sex and then be on your way and cuddling with a chat can be amazing... Especially if it helps with rest for another round  "
This is very true, Joe. |
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Ever since I got burnt by developing the dreaded “feels” towards FWBs, I try to keep things at arm’s length once the deed is done. Makes it so much easier and my mental load afterwards/between meets is so much lighter.
Used to love cuddling, but it was not healthy for me. ❤️🩹 |
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"Ever since I got burnt by developing the dreaded “feels” towards FWBs, I try to keep things at arm’s length once the deed is done. "
I was saying someone who did this. I hated it. It was like when she came she lost all interest and just wanted to go on her phone, even worse she wanted to stay over and do that |
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"It doesn’t have to be a cuddle not every relationship is cuddly, many are though. But it’s never wham/bam/goodbye, I don’t do that kind of sex. "
I don’t cuddle with them but we chat and have a laugh which is fine by me and I think it’s less clinical |
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By *tr8MrEMan 7 days ago
Shireoaks, Worksop |
"It doesn’t have to be a cuddle not every relationship is cuddly, many are though. But it’s never wham/bam/goodbye, I don’t do that kind of sex.
I don’t cuddle with them but we chat and have a laugh which is fine by me and I think it’s less clinical "
And miss out on chance to motorboat you? No way....cuddles please  |
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"It doesn’t have to be a cuddle not every relationship is cuddly, many are though. But it’s never wham/bam/goodbye, I don’t do that kind of sex.
I don’t cuddle with them but we chat and have a laugh which is fine by me and I think it’s less clinical
And miss out on chance to motorboat you? No way....cuddles please "
You can do that without cuddling 😂 |
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By *mando OP Man 7 days ago
Shrewsbury |
"I quite enjoy a cuddle after. It seems a bit cold to just have sex and then be on your way and cuddling with a chat can be amazing... Especially if it helps with rest for another round
This is very true, Joe."
My thinking also.. |
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When I'm with the couple I see, we sit in bed either side of the lady talking while she has a cuppa. I just lay & stroke her skin which is just so lovely and soft, I can do that for hours.
I miss that now I'm single. |
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By *a LunaWoman 7 days ago
Wherever the wind takes me |
"It doesn’t have to be a cuddle not every relationship is cuddly, many are though. But it’s never wham/bam/goodbye, I don’t do that kind of sex.
I don’t cuddle with them but we chat and have a laugh which is fine by me and I think it’s less clinical "
Same here.
We tend to just lay there and chat, about anything and everything. Cup of tea and some biscuits. A snog. More sex. Whatever. Just no cuddling.
I don’t sleep over on casual meets anyway.
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"Ever since I got burnt by developing the dreaded “feels” towards FWBs, I try to keep things at arm’s length once the deed is done.
I was saying someone who did this. I hated it. It was like when she came she lost all interest and just wanted to go on her phone, even worse she wanted to stay over and do that"
I’ve only ever stayed over with my longest-serving ( ) closest FWB, but we had a long long chat about my feelings etc. I worked a lot on reining them in and even took a break from each other. We still cuddle, but I take the lead as to how much affection goes etc. we chat, we chat a lot, for hours, and we care deeply for each other. But I am too damn old to be crying for unrequited love like a teenager, so self preservation kicks in.
With other people, I chat a lot and I do love having my inner thighs stroked but I don’t go too deep because it is not good for me. I wouldn’t really spend the night with anyone I’d only met a couple of times etc. |
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"It doesn’t have to be a cuddle not every relationship is cuddly, many are though. But it’s never wham/bam/goodbye, I don’t do that kind of sex.
I don’t cuddle with them but we chat and have a laugh which is fine by me and I think it’s less clinical
Same here.
We tend to just lay there and chat, about anything and everything. Cup of tea and some biscuits. A snog. More sex. Whatever. Just no cuddling.
I don’t sleep over on casual meets anyway.
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Yes, exactly this.
Just because there is no cuddling it doesn’t meant it’s clinical! |
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By *mando OP Man 7 days ago
Shrewsbury |
"I don’t see any reason why you can’t give either if it feels right 🤷🏻♀️ I don’t tend to overthink it, just go with the flow.
This ^^"
Yeah, just see what feels right for the people involved I guess. 🙃
I'm not against just doing it, but if I can find a bit more of a happy time afterwards, I'll definitely take it .
I like nothing more than to just close my eyes and drift off with the warmth of somebody else next to me
It really is good therapy for the soul and lowers my stress levels a lot, too .
But I also get why some people would rather keep things like that separate.. And I can respect that. |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 days ago
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Depending on how I am feeling I might want lots of kisses and foreplay before having quite sensual sex. Doesn't mean I am about to fall in love with the person. Something more often than not they need that too.
No meet has ever had an issue with this and it's been spoken about before hand.
Other times it's strictly sex only
There is no right or wrong answer |
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I like cuddles and feeling that closeness. When I'm with someone it's like a little bubble away from the real world so that intimacy is great. Then we go our separate ways and that intimacy is gone. Until next time. |
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I've been single a long time and I very much miss intimacy. So I love a cuddle or a spoon after sex, even if it's casual sex and it feels right. I don't tend to initiate it as I know it isn't for everyone and I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable, but if the other person is open to it I definitely enjoy skin on skin contact. I am a very sensual and tactile person, I love having my skin and hair stroked, touching eachother etc. It is also a part of aftercare, especially after quite a rough or kink heavy session. I need it in those cases or I can drop pretty quickly.
For me personally, I don't like quick "fuck and go" meets they leave me feeling empty. So if there's no "cuddling" I at least need to lay together after for a good while and have a giggle and a chat. I need to feel respected and not like a human fleshlight.
But everyone does things differently and it's about whatever works for you. |
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"Do any of you like cuddles & Spoons during or after your meets?
Or is it mostly wham, bam, thank you mam?
Sometimes it's nice to just lay together, maybe even fall asleep.
Or is this too intimate?
Asking for a friend 😊"
Hell yes !. So difficult finding genuine folk on here now though, never mind those who tick most if not all our boxes. Many past meets were sadly fuck and go or even worse, utterly mislead into believing they wanted more as we do. Tony has a name for them now 'serial monogamists'. We like a connection, warmth, tactile affection, a developing naughty friendship and regular/frequent meets yet seemingly alone on here... Some of our fondest memories are of meets where we stayed over, bed hopping, falling asleep with someone's partner, breakfast together the next morning, sharing showers, planning the next meet !... So many seem afraid of developing a real and lasting connection, keeping themselves distant even when things get naughty or simply moving too fast towardsthe end goal. |
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"I usually have hotel meets they are over night but there is no cuddling involved, there maybe a little spooning in the morning before a good bye fuck. They are almost always more than one offs but cuddling is to personal "
A goodbye fuck, that made me twitch! |
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Just read the replies, if overnight then yes spoons are pretty well tied down, aftercare.. I don't see cuddling as aftercare, I see it as something that each want, that feels nice without having sex.
It does depend if it's a one off meet or if you're fwb as you are obviously closer to buddies, so wouldn't be as awkward should you fancy it. |
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"I would hate to cuddle after a meet but then as its almost always in clubs then it would be a bit weird.
Cali"
I've cuddled in clubs before. I had an experience with a Domme and her partner at a club and she made a point of spending ten minutes after cuddling and stroking me, giving me affirmations etc. Again, everyone does their own thing but I don't see cuddling in a club weird. Tho it tends to be more going to the bar together to decompress, have a drink and a cuddle on a settee maybe. |
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I like cuddles with my regular play partner but with anyone else I don't need cuddles, having said that, I'd never turn one down. I do like to lay and have a chat or a laugh about stuff before they leave. I feel a bit used if they just jump up and go straight after. |
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It's horses for courses and I just liked to let it flow with who I was with and in the moment. The last time I really nestled up to someone, spooning was in the morning where I got a little carried away. We were both thrown out of Starbucks. |
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I bloody love it.
I don't tend to meet for quickies so there tends to be a certain amount of recovery time, and I do like to spend that lying wrapped around each other while talking shite and having a laugh.
Nothing nicer than having my head on someone's chest and feeling their laugh as well as hearing it. |
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"I bloody love it.
I don't tend to meet for quickies so there tends to be a certain amount of recovery time, and I do like to spend that lying wrapped around each other while talking shite and having a laugh.
Nothing nicer than having my head on someone's chest and feeling their laugh as well as hearing it."
hey hun |
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We're both cuddlers and do like when people are also embrace the naked cuddles. For us it just comes natural to share and feels human, its not too intimate at all. However we understand other people have other boundaries. |
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By *andTWoman 7 days ago
Altrincham |
"I quite enjoy a cuddle after. It seems a bit cold to just have sex and then be on your way and cuddling with a chat can be amazing... Especially if it helps with rest for another round
This is very true, Joe.
My thinking also.."
Nope! I'm a definite cuddler! 100% cuddles afterwards 🤗
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By *riel13Woman 7 days ago
Northampton |
"I don’t want cuddles off any man who couldn’t give a fuck about me.
If you’re going to get all handsy and cuddly then you’d better adore me and want to see me again.
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Yes! This is definitely the problem  |
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Almost all of the single females we’ve dated have stayed over with us and cuddle spooned to sleep after the energetic stuff.
Always leads to a repeat in morning.
We’ve only had a guy stay over once and H slept in the middle whilst we battled for cuddle supremacy  |
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I love it and had a many meets where the ppl.I met loved that kind of affection too. With couples, it could be a chat afterwards with a bit of further physical touch. Love it, shows care and respect in my view. |
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Im a very tactile person so I love a good cuddle and spoon with those I meet. That skin on skin contact after/in-between and the arm/back/hair stroking is a must. The extent of how much I do it depends on the person and how often we have met. |
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I'm a HUGE fan 
Love to lay post orgasms all tangled up, sticky and stuck. Legs entwined and head in a nook.
Just bliss.
Chill, chat and savour. Put the world to rights.
Soak up every drop and sure the next round is never far off
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By *tr8MrEMan 7 days ago
Shireoaks, Worksop |
"I'm a HUGE fan
Love to lay post orgasms all tangled up, sticky and stuck. Legs entwined and head in a nook.
Just bliss.
Chill, chat and savour. Put the world to rights.
Soak up every drop and sure the next round is never far off
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I'm in  |
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I love the cuddles ank kissing pre and post any sexual contact, love chatting and smooching in between too, make for a far more enjoyable experience (personally speaking) a shag is a shag, but getting to know someone and be really intimate really floats my boat |
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"Never been spooned fyi!!!
"Don't believe the hype" 🥪
All you needed to do was ask 😂
I'm waiting for our Easter matchmaker big boy! 🥪"
You know we’re getting lumped together cos we’re mean to her haha😂 |
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"Never been spooned fyi!!!
"Don't believe the hype" 🥪
All you needed to do was ask 😂
I'm waiting for our Easter matchmaker big boy! 🥪
You know we’re getting lumped together cos we’re mean to her haha😂"
It's what she expects, 🤷🏻♂️ 🥪 |
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"Never been spooned fyi!!!
"Don't believe the hype" 🥪
All you needed to do was ask 😂
I'm waiting for our Easter matchmaker big boy! 🥪
You know we’re getting lumped together cos we’re mean to her haha😂
It's what she expects, 🤷🏻♂️ 🥪"
Ewww, I don’t want to know her weird fantasies 🤢 |
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"Do any of you like cuddles & Spoons during or after your meets?
Or is it mostly wham, bam, thank you mam?
Sometimes it's nice to just lay together, maybe even fall asleep.
Or is this too intimate?
Asking for a friend 😊"
Depends on time constraints for me
Spooning if she’s staying over
Minimum laying together if one of us has to leave
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"I would hate to cuddle after a meet but then as its almost always in clubs then it would be a bit weird.
Cali
I've cuddled in clubs before. I had an experience with a Domme and her partner at a club and she made a point of spending ten minutes after cuddling and stroking me, giving me affirmations etc. Again, everyone does their own thing but I don't see cuddling in a club weird. Tho it tends to be more going to the bar together to decompress, have a drink and a cuddle on a settee maybe. "
I'd think with a kink meet if the aftercare is needed it's very different... I personally still don't want or need cuddles. We tend to only do group play... so not much place for cuddles or spooning in that situation. More head off for a shower, then Mr and i would have time together |
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"I don’t want cuddles off any man who couldn’t give a fuck about me.
If you’re going to get all handsy and cuddly then you’d better adore me and want to see me again.
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This is how I am, proper lovey dovey, spoons, hand holding, resting head of chest, forehead kisses, I want a repeat connection to build and build and care about her pleasure
Then it usually ends after 2 meets and they say "yeah fancy something different or busy while meeting other*.
I'm slowly being less loving in meets as it's hard to keep opening up but that's what I want. |
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I'm an all in type of fella with anyone I meet one on one, I am ridiculously tactile and will often find that my hands are all over them without even realising, I actually love the aftercare part of an encounter,❤️
It's very different in most group or couple scenarios though. |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 days ago
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"I would hate to cuddle after a meet but then as its almost always in clubs then it would be a bit weird.
Cali"
My fwb and I cuddled in a club. People were fucking all around us, it was quite surreal
I'm a cuddler. I don't enjoy sex that much if I don't like someone enough to cuddle them. |
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