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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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in the scene?
I am not talking about dinner dates but hey, what do we like our play mates to do for us, male or females are being asked here?
I like to be treated like a lady first, a woman second and something else third. So I do like being served a glass of wine and seeing that somebody has made an effort for me.  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Receiving oral would be nice. Too many male profiles saying how good they are at it yet nary a lick when we meet."
Understood! And would ou like anything BEFORE you engage with playtime?
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"ooops, Specifically and Professor - that does sound like you had a bit of a bad experience.
But besides that, what would a really nice meet do for you?  "
Kissing..and lots of it, sensual and erotic...holding my face as he did so.....
Oops I am off on one now.....lol..  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Receiving oral would be nice. Too many male profiles saying how good they are at it yet nary a lick when we meet.Understood! And would ou like anything BEFORE you engage with playtime? "
Rose oil massage followed by a glass of champagne and some strawberries. |
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over a year ago
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I've not really been spoilt as it were at all (ruined perhaps) but I have been promised a massage on Friday which I have to say my aching joints need.
However I do think if I wanted to be spoilt I might be looking in the wrong place for it! I'm not really a hearts and flowers kind of girl. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"ooops, Specifically and Professor - that does sound like you had a bit of a bad experience.
But besides that, what would a really nice meet do for you?
Kissing..and lots of it, sensual and erotic...holding my face as he did so.....
Oops I am off on one now.....lol.. "
I am so with you on that one. I mean I would not accompany you on the meet - but one can dream of those things, eh?  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Receiving oral would be nice. Too many male profiles saying how good they are at it yet nary a lick when we meet.Understood! And would ou like anything BEFORE you engage with playtime?
Rose oil massage followed by a glass of champagne and some strawberries. "
I am taking notes - yessss, that does sound awesome!  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've not really been spoilt as it were at all (ruined perhaps) but I have been promised a massage on Friday which I have to say my aching joints need.
However I do think if I wanted to be spoilt I might be looking in the wrong place for it! I'm not really a hearts and flowers kind of girl."
Nor me (hearts and flowers) but what a bout a nice bottle, I mean glass of wine? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ooops, Specifically and Professor - that does sound like you had a bit of a bad experience.
But besides that, what would a really nice meet do for you? "
Be themselves. Relax. Understand its not a competition. Respect the boundaries.
...a cup of tea would also be nice. Possibly a biscuit afterward. |
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"ooops, Specifically and Professor - that does sound like you had a bit of a bad experience.
But besides that, what would a really nice meet do for you?
Kissing..and lots of it, sensual and erotic...holding my face as he did so.....
Oops I am off on one now.....lol.. I am so with you on that one. I mean I would not accompany you on the meet - but one can dream of those things, eh? "
There are few things in life beat being kissed by someone in that way.....sensuality without sexuality... |
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"ooops, Specifically and Professor - that does sound like you had a bit of a bad experience.
But besides that, what would a really nice meet do for you?
Be themselves. Relax. Understand its not a competition. Respect the boundaries.
...a cup of tea would also be nice. Possibly a biscuit afterward."
sounds like a blood donor session  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"ooops, Specifically and Professor - that does sound like you had a bit of a bad experience.
But besides that, what would a really nice meet do for you?
Be themselves. Relax. Understand its not a competition. Respect the boundaries.
...a cup of tea would also be nice. Possibly a biscuit afterward."
So a little bit of social intereaction, normality if you like... before and after? Anything else on the wish list? |
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The last date i went on before i met jay went like this. He turned up at the door dead on time and presented me with a bouquet of flowers. He than put my hand in his to walk me to the car, helped me in. it was some fancy sports car and put the roof back on so my hair didnt get message. He then took me to a lovely restaurant in birmingham called jonathans but its not ther now. He was great company and when he took me back and dropped me of we just had a good night kiss and that was that |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"ooops, Specifically and Professor - that does sound like you had a bit of a bad experience.
But besides that, what would a really nice meet do for you?
Be themselves. Relax. Understand its not a competition. Respect the boundaries.
...a cup of tea would also be nice. Possibly a biscuit afterward.
sounds like a blood donor session "
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"The last date i went on before i met jay went like this. He turned up at the door dead on time and presented me with a bouquet of flowers. He than put my hand in his to walk me to the car, helped me in. it was some fancy sports car and put the roof back on so my hair didnt get message. He then took me to a lovely restaurant in birmingham called jonathans but its not ther now. He was great company and when he took me back and dropped me of we just had a good night kiss and that was that"
Wow that sounds awesome - sombody really knew how to spoil you. |
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"I've not really been spoilt as it were at all (ruined perhaps) but I have been promised a massage on Friday which I have to say my aching joints need.
However I do think if I wanted to be spoilt I might be looking in the wrong place for it! I'm not really a hearts and flowers kind of girl.Nor me (hearts and flowers) but what a bout a nice bottle, I mean glass of wine? "
When I was meeting (I was going to write BJ Before J but that doesn't look right!) I stayed totally sober so I had my wits about me. I'll have a few glasses of wine on Friday but I trust Obi, he's someone I know. The type of play J and I do doesn't want alcohol adding into the mix either. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"when i was on a dating site i met a couple of nice men who bought me meals, or drinks. i like meeting men like that.
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I quite like abit of old fashioned spoiling - does not have to be expensive and in today's economic climate I am mindful that people perhaps do not have a lot of money to spare so I would not expect that now but it is lovely to feel a llittle bit spoilt and that can be achieved in many ways. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"ooops, Specifically and Professor - that does sound like you had a bit of a bad experience.
But besides that, what would a really nice meet do for you?
Be themselves. Relax. Understand its not a competition. Respect the boundaries.
...a cup of tea would also be nice. Possibly a biscuit afterward.So a little bit of social intereaction, normality if you like... before and after? Anything else on the wish list? "
Honestly, I believe that if someone has agreed to meet, invite me into their home - or indeed made the effort to come to mine - that is spoiling me already.
I may sound odd, but I don't have expectations which involve specifics, its a more organic thing with me. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've not really been spoilt as it were at all (ruined perhaps) but I have been promised a massage on Friday which I have to say my aching joints need.
However I do think if I wanted to be spoilt I might be looking in the wrong place for it! I'm not really a hearts and flowers kind of girl.Nor me (hearts and flowers) but what a bout a nice bottle, I mean glass of wine?
When I was meeting (I was going to write BJ Before J but that doesn't look right!) I stayed totally sober so I had my wits about me. I'll have a few glasses of wine on Friday but I trust Obi, he's someone I know. The type of play J and I do doesn't want alcohol adding into the mix either. "
Got you And in any case there are plenty of other ways of spoling people, eh? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I much prefer to be the seductee instead of the seducer. For once I'd like to be the one swept off my feet and made to feel special and desired. Not too much to ask is it? |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I much prefer to be the seductee instead of the seducer. For once I'd like to be the one swept off my feet and made to feel special and desired. Not too much to ask is it?"
No, I dont thnk it is asking too much. I do think though that many people ask for that but do not specify HOW they want to be spoilt?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you know what my dream would be is for a man to run me a lushious bath with bubbles and candlelight and a glass of wine....utter bliss!!"
...allow me to present my extra deep bath with unlimited supply of hot water.
Ideal for just lounging in. |
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"Do you know what my dream would be is for a man to run me a lushious bath with bubbles and candlelight and a glass of wine....utter bliss!!
...allow me to present my extra deep bath with unlimited supply of hot water.
Ideal for just lounging in. "
Ohhhhhhhhhhhh when can I move in...
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Just the simple stuff really, shower, turn up, treat us with respect and we'll do the same!
We'll take a bottle of wine to a meet and wouldn't complain (nor would we demand if) someone were to bring a bottle when we accommodate.
Wouldn't mind being swept away to a lovely 4+* hotel in a nice hot country though if anyone is offering... 
- Amy. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you know what my dream would be is for a man to run me a lushious bath with bubbles and candlelight and a glass of wine....utter bliss!!"
Please don't think I'm rubbing it in but my FWB does that for me. I do have a long journey to get there though xx |
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"I've not really been spoilt as it were at all (ruined perhaps) but I have been promised a massage on Friday which I have to say my aching joints need.
However I do think if I wanted to be spoilt I might be looking in the wrong place for it! I'm not really a hearts and flowers kind of girl.Nor me (hearts and flowers) but what a bout a nice bottle, I mean glass of wine?
When I was meeting (I was going to write BJ Before J but that doesn't look right!) I stayed totally sober so I had my wits about me. I'll have a few glasses of wine on Friday but I trust Obi, he's someone I know. The type of play J and I do doesn't want alcohol adding into the mix either. Got you And in any case there are plenty of other ways of spoiling people, eh?"
Oh most definitely, J spoils me all the time by being there for me and listening, that in itself is worth more than any amount of hearts, flowers and other such material things. He makes me smile everyday - I'm a lucky lady!
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"Do you know what my dream would be is for a man to run me a lushious bath with bubbles and candlelight and a glass of wine....utter bliss!!
...allow me to present my extra deep bath with unlimited supply of hot water.
Ideal for just lounging in.
Ohhhhhhhhhhhh when can I move in...
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..oh and the shower is one of those overhead Victorian style ones so it feels like you're in a hot tropical rainstorm when you're having a shower!
Week next Thursday ok with you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh I'd love to be spoilt with underwear and glass dildos. Or even a massage. But I'll go with turning up also. Love the way you are gradually "downsizing" the expectations "
Lol, I'm always in a dream world, then reality hits, eventually! |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've not really been spoilt as it were at all (ruined perhaps) but I have been promised a massage on Friday which I have to say my aching joints need.
However I do think if I wanted to be spoilt I might be looking in the wrong place for it! I'm not really a hearts and flowers kind of girl.Nor me (hearts and flowers) but what a bout a nice bottle, I mean glass of wine?
When I was meeting (I was going to write BJ Before J but that doesn't look right!) I stayed totally sober so I had my wits about me. I'll have a few glasses of wine on Friday but I trust Obi, he's someone I know. The type of play J and I do doesn't want alcohol adding into the mix either. Got you And in any case there are plenty of other ways of spoiling people, eh?
Oh most definitely, J spoils me all the time by being there for me and listening, that in itself is worth more than any amount of hearts, flowers and other such material things. He makes me smile everyday - I'm a lucky lady!
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It really does sound like you are being spoilt at what one might consider a more important level |
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By *picenicelyCouple
over a year ago
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I (fem) wouldn't want anything except the basics
1. Be clean (smell nice)
2. Have a drink (coffee/beer etc) while we all get comfy
3. Shag till we all decide we have had enough or pass out
I don't mind whether we chat much on here or text etc but if it's another female I love the talking build up
Am I just easily pleased?
Mrs
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I (fem) wouldn't want anything except the basics
1. Be clean (smell nice)
2. Have a drink (coffee/beer etc) while we all get comfy
3. Shag till we all decide we have had enough or pass out
I don't mind whether we chat much on here or text etc but if it's another female I love the talking build up
Am I just easily pleased?
Mrs
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Nothing wrong with what you want - I was just curious what different people expected from the scene. Sounds like you are very clear about what you would like and that has got to be positive in itself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've not really been spoilt as it were at all (ruined perhaps) but I have been promised a massage on Friday which I have to say my aching joints need.
However I do think if I wanted to be spoilt I might be looking in the wrong place for it! I'm not really a hearts and flowers kind of girl.Nor me (hearts and flowers) but what a bout a nice bottle, I mean glass of wine?
When I was meeting (I was going to write BJ Before J but that doesn't look right!) I stayed totally sober so I had my wits about me. I'll have a few glasses of wine on Friday but I trust Obi, he's someone I know. The type of play J and I do doesn't want alcohol adding into the mix either. Got you And in any case there are plenty of other ways of spoiling people, eh?
Oh most definitely, J spoils me all the time by being there for me and listening, that in itself is worth more than any amount of hearts, flowers and other such material things. He makes me smile everyday - I'm a lucky lady!
It really does sound like you are being spoilt at what one might consider a more important level "
I'm not into the material stuff - if I want something and I can afford it I'll buy it, its quite simple really. But having my emotional wellbeing taken care of is a lovely thing to have. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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I don't expect any sort of spoiling on the scene. It's only fairly recently I have allowed men to buy me a drink and/or dinner or pay for the hotel. I used to give them my half of the hotel costs even when they were claiming it on work expenses.
Additional spoiling would be a full body massage.
Going wild on the spoiling I have the Pretty Woman fantasy every once in a while but I am sure I wouldn't be able to relax and go through with it.
I suppose I worry that the 'spoiling' creates a sense of entitlement and expectation and I don't like to be in that position. |
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"I don't expect any sort of spoiling on the scene. It's only fairly recently I have allowed men to buy me a drink and/or dinner or pay for the hotel. I used to give them my half of the hotel costs even when they were claiming it on work expenses.
Additional spoiling would be a full body massage.
Going wild on the spoiling I have the Pretty Woman fantasy every once in a while but I am sure I wouldn't be able to relax and go through with it.
I suppose I worry that the 'spoiling' creates a sense of entitlement and expectation and I don't like to be in that position."
I'm same too independent I cannot even let a man buy me dinner/drinks. I always pay for my own. |
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"I've not really been spoilt as it were at all (ruined perhaps) but I have been promised a massage on Friday which I have to say my aching joints need.
However I do think if I wanted to be spoilt I might be looking in the wrong place for it! I'm not really a hearts and flowers kind of girl.Nor me (hearts and flowers) but what a bout a nice bottle, I mean glass of wine?
When I was meeting (I was going to write BJ Before J but that doesn't look right!) I stayed totally sober so I had my wits about me. I'll have a few glasses of wine on Friday but I trust Obi, he's someone I know. The type of play J and I do doesn't want alcohol adding into the mix either. Got you And in any case there are plenty of other ways of spoiling people, eh?
Oh most definitely, J spoils me all the time by being there for me and listening, that in itself is worth more than any amount of hearts, flowers and other such material things. He makes me smile everyday - I'm a lucky lady!
It really does sound like you are being spoilt at what one might consider a more important level
I'm not into the material stuff - if I want something and I can afford it I'll buy it, its quite simple really. But having my emotional wellbeing taken care of is a lovely thing to have."
I would love to find that at some point in my life |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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Sounds like some ladies prefer not to have anything material, anything bought for them and I am in that category myself unless, UNLESS it is something like a bunch of flowers or (one) drink. I, too do not like to lose my indenpendence and I totally get that idea that it might raise expectations otherwise.
I think when I started on the topic I was probably thinking of going to somebody's house and the chap had made an effort. It is nice, tidy, smells clean (as he does), nice music in teh background, soft lighting and generally an atmosphere of sophisticated seduction if that makes sense? |
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I think when I started on the topic I was probably thinking of going to somebody's house and the chap had made an effort. It is nice, tidy, smells clean (as he does), nice music in teh background, soft lighting and generally an atmosphere of sophisticated seduction if that makes sense? "
My house is like that all the time! Its why the postman refuses to leave and the neighbours think I'm Glen Quagmire!
Giggidy! |
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"Sounds like some ladies prefer not to have anything material, anything bought for them and I am in that category myself unless, UNLESS it is something like a bunch of flowers or (one) drink. I, too do not like to lose my indenpendence and I totally get that idea that it might raise expectations otherwise.
I think when I started on the topic I was probably thinking of going to somebody's house and the chap had made an effort. It is nice, tidy, smells clean (as he does), nice music in teh background, soft lighting and generally an atmosphere of sophisticated seduction if that makes sense? "
That does make sense. But to me that's not spoiling, he should have done that anyway. Or at the very least rinsed his willy under the tap. |
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Last year on my birthday I had the most wonderful day/night.
Nothing flashy, no posh restaurant.
A picnic in the hotel room with a lovely bottle of champagne, he had been taking notes, silly but meaningful presents.
But the best thing, I did nothing, was all arranged for me and yes, I felt like a princess |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Sounds like some ladies prefer not to have anything material, anything bought for them and I am in that category myself unless, UNLESS it is something like a bunch of flowers or (one) drink. I, too do not like to lose my indenpendence and I totally get that idea that it might raise expectations otherwise.
I think when I started on the topic I was probably thinking of going to somebody's house and the chap had made an effort. It is nice, tidy, smells clean (as he does), nice music in teh background, soft lighting and generally an atmosphere of sophisticated seduction if that makes sense? "
I did have a meet through another site with the ex. It turns out it was the day he put us on Fab.
Anyhoo, the man meeting me with the ex was fantastic. He booked an apartment in town, close to my office. Met me and then my ex for a drink and was ready for us to say no to taking things further. When we went up to the apartment he had bought some games to warm us up (I was still new to all of this). He had bought wine and I bought some nibbles. He had put a selection of porn DVDs out and had music on. Then when we went to the bedroom he had festooned the bed in fairy lights and had scented candles. He was a perfect host. When he asked if he could keep my knickers I just said yes as it would have been churlish to refuse after all of that.
I'd forgotten about being spoilt early on. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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"Sounds like some ladies prefer not to have anything material, anything bought for them and I am in that category myself unless, UNLESS it is something like a bunch of flowers or (one) drink. I, too do not like to lose my indenpendence and I totally get that idea that it might raise expectations otherwise.
I think when I started on the topic I was probably thinking of going to somebody's house and the chap had made an effort. It is nice, tidy, smells clean (as he does), nice music in teh background, soft lighting and generally an atmosphere of sophisticated seduction if that makes sense?
I did have a meet through another site with the ex. It turns out it was the day he put us on Fab.
Anyhoo, the man meeting me with the ex was fantastic. He booked an apartment in town, close to my office. Met me and then my ex for a drink and was ready for us to say no to taking things further. When we went up to the apartment he had bought some games to warm us up (I was still new to all of this). He had bought wine and I bought some nibbles. He had put a selection of porn DVDs out and had music on. Then when we went to the bedroom he had festooned the bed in fairy lights and had scented candles. He was a perfect host. When he asked if he could keep my knickers I just said yes as it would have been churlish to refuse after all of that.
I'd forgotten about being spoilt early on."
That is the kind of thing I had in mind - that to me is real spoiling! |
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"Last year on my birthday I had the most wonderful day/night.
Nothing flashy, no posh restaurant.
A picnic in the hotel room with a lovely bottle of champagne, he had been taking notes, silly but meaningful presents.
But the best thing, I did nothing, was all arranged for me and yes, I felt like a princess "
Oh a pinic sounds amazing..... |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Last year on my birthday I had the most wonderful day/night.
Nothing flashy, no posh restaurant.
A picnic in the hotel room with a lovely bottle of champagne, he had been taking notes, silly but meaningful presents.
But the best thing, I did nothing, was all arranged for me and yes, I felt like a princess
Oh a pinic sounds amazing....."
And that! |
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I have to say I am a soppy cow prob too much for swinging so I do like to be spoilt once in a while...I am single and don't have anyone to spoil me...well my parents do but I aint going to ask them to run me a bath....Sometimes a girl needs a bit of romance... |
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"Last year on my birthday I had the most wonderful day/night.
Nothing flashy, no posh restaurant.
A picnic in the hotel room with a lovely bottle of champagne, he had been taking notes, silly but meaningful presents.
But the best thing, I did nothing, was all arranged for me and yes, I felt like a princess
Oh a pinic sounds amazing....."
Oh it was, although must admit, did keep getting interrupted |
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