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Oh god, what I have missed dating.
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By *hagTonight OP Man 3 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
I havent been dating for a long time and it isnt from now that I am getting back into it again and loving it.
I have already dated 3, one french, the other dutch and hungarian. I have 2 more dates lined up this month, one who is irish and swedish too.
It seems that walking dates are very popular now, which I enjoy as well. I was a bit nervous at the beginning that I wouldnt have so much to say, but the conversation flowed really good with all of them, with the french one. I tested my french, she was really impressed.
That got me thinking, do you like dating and are you also into vanilla dating, what was the nationality of your last date? I am becoming a serial dater 
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Where are these dates coming from? I've been using dating apps since I split with my partner 9 months ago - it's like a slow torture. I live in a quiet town & don't meet anyone new so thought I'd try that😬 |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 3 weeks ago
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"Where are these dates coming from? I've been using dating apps since I split with my partner 9 months ago - it's like a slow torture. I live in a quiet town & don't meet anyone new so thought I'd try that😬"
I use local facebook dating groups, where you make a post saying what you are looking for and then some reply to it too  |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 3 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"Fantastic news Shag and it's great to hang out with people from different countries. I've had a couple of non Fab dates recently; she is British. Not too many Swedish hotties around here alas."
Ty, yes, it is great to hang out with people from different countries and to get to know them, that is good you had few dates too |
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By *HUSH-Man 3 weeks ago
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I’ve recently gone back to the vanilla dating world. I’ve been talking to someone since Sunday morning who I’ve really hit it off with. She’s a few miles away from me and she’s a gorgeous British born Desi woman. I’m going to ask her out for a coffee and a walk around Kew Gardens.
Pleased to hear you’re putting yourself back out there Shag. Enjoy yourself 🍻 |
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I'm now thinking of dating, I recently parted ways with my ex partner. I'm excited at the prospect of finding someone new but these dating sites aren't for me, unfortunately this seems to be the way forward. Good luck OP  |
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"I'm now thinking of dating, I recently parted ways with my ex partner. I'm excited at the prospect of finding someone new but these dating sites aren't for me, unfortunately this seems to be the way forward. Good luck OP "
Tbh, they are ok but nothing like actually meeting someone either in a pub or supermarket etc.. it’s just a pic and a txt, which don’t always start good .. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 3 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I haven't dated for longer than you've been alive Shag. I reckon I would be ok once I got over the trepidation but I hope I never have to do it. "
Hi nicecouple, that is good you could be ok with it, yes, it is about getting over the trepidation too |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 3 weeks ago
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"Soon the “ who had a dry sex month” threads will stop, Shag 
Great that you’re enjoying your dating x 🤗 "
Hi _viatrix, yes, maybe. I might still do the threads with a twist, ty yes. I am enjoying my dates, it is fun to spend times with others too x |
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"Dating is fun! I'm not on normal dating apps right back but I might go back. I quite fancy a doing-something date. Like paddle boarding. Or a theme park. "
Ooh a theme park would be fun! Having a fwb makes days-out dates possible. Mr and I don't get to date, we always have kids in tow 🤭 |
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"Dating is fun! I'm not on normal dating apps right back but I might go back. I quite fancy a doing-something date. Like paddle boarding. Or a theme park.
Ooh a theme park would be fun! Having a fwb makes days-out dates possible. Mr and I don't get to date, we always have kids in tow 🤭"
Doing family stuff still sounds fun but in a different way.
I used to have a platonic friend who was my theatre buddy. But he moved away from London and left me in the lurch! So I guess I'm looking for that too. |
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"Doing family stuff still sounds fun but in a different way.
I used to have a platonic friend who was my theatre buddy. But he moved away from London and left me in the lurch! So I guess I'm looking for that too. "
Oh absolutely! Family stuff can be fun. We don't get to do things like zoos and theme parks etc, our ND kids don't cope well.
Aww no, I feel this. I have a best friend who moved far away too, and she's the only one of my friends group who enjoys days out 🙈 She's visiting this weekend, and we have beach plans. So fingers crossed for the weather... it is Wales! 🤣 |
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Oh I like dates. Not so much first dates though, my brain is always overthinking and consciously analysing everything. I like it a few dates in when the brain goblins have chilled out some.
The majority of people I date are British. Not out of deliberate choice, I just live in an area with next to no diversity. I'm genuinely surprised if I see a person of colour in my city, and the eastern European community seems closed to me as a whole.
I have dated a Hungarian and a Czech girl in years past, and a fuck buddy I haven't seen for a while is Italian. My last monogamous relationship was with an Irishman.
But yeah, mostly just plain Brits in the border cities 💜 |
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Love dating but having a break from dating at mo. Just other stuff thats drawing attention and not ready for more than company. My last two dates were English and Scottish I did go out with a Polish lady last year and we had a few dates she had an amazing sense of humour and gorgeous too. |
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I've tried other apps and saw lots from here on them using the same pics.
It's the same pool of folk all over.
Here at least you can be open, up front, about things 'vanilla' dating takes weeks to reveal.
And tbh the poolwater is just as murky and risky no matter which jetty or shoreline you launch from.
I've had a fair few unpleasant characters to sidestep and the followers of the Alpha mentality telling me if I don't like them then either I'm broken or a lesbian or whatever else they can throw down.
It's exhausting running on the hamster wheel of positivity so these days I'm actually just happy with my status quo.
I've a lovely bunch around me and I'm not looking for more than I have the energy for on any given day. Protect your peace lovelies  |
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After being happy single for a couple of years I was actively dating from last autumn up til a couple of weeks ago. I find it mentally/emotionally exhausting, not gonna lie.
Going through the talking stages over and over again. Going on dates that lead nowhere. I am quite upfront about being a swinger and not wanting monogamy because it's better to be honest and not waste time if that's a no for people, but then that attracts men who think I just want to fuck (that's what I use fab for! Durr). Or I am told I'm "intimidating" because I like sex and know what I want. I think I scare men off or I just find them boring. So I've given up on it again.
I'd rather be single having great sex without commitment than settle into a relationship I'm unfulfilled in for the sake of not being single. I don't mind my own company, I'm fucking awesome.
All of my recent dates have been British but that's just how it worked out rather than a active choice. |
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"I've tried other apps and saw lots from here on them using the same pics.
It's the same pool of folk all over.
Here at least you can be open, up front, about things 'vanilla' dating takes weeks to reveal.
And tbh the poolwater is just as murky and risky no matter which jetty or shoreline you launch from.
I've had a fair few unpleasant characters to sidestep and the followers of the Alpha mentality telling me if I don't like them then either I'm broken or a lesbian or whatever else they can throw down.
It's exhausting running on the hamster wheel of positivity so these days I'm actually just happy with my status quo.
I've a lovely bunch around me and I'm not looking for more than I have the energy for on any given day. Protect your peace lovelies "
I agree with the dating pool or rather cespit. I've tried dating from this site and met with only emotionally unavailable men who'd rather play with your emotions than be honest with you. |
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She was German. I have dated someone from Bolivia, Hungary and Romania in recent times. We all had a lot to say to each other and despite they are from different countries, the humour was very similar. We really are not that much different from each other around the world. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 3 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I love 'dating', the majority of people I meet are not via fab, but via other apps usually. The last man I went on a date with is from London. I am meeting a Persian man soon for a date."
Hi sweetiepie, same here. I meet all mine not from fab, but from facebook, that is good you also love dating, have a good date too |
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I went back to the dating sites a few months ago. Found no one wants to message, even though you've matched.
Gave up last month and deleted my profile.
I've chatted to a few on here that are interested in dating but again nothing transpires.
Feel that I'm going to be collecting dust on the shelf.
Shag, I'm really pleased for you. |
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"I havent been dating for a long time and it isnt from now that I am getting back into it again and loving it.
I have already dated 3, one french, the other dutch and hungarian. I have 2 more dates lined up this month, one who is irish and swedish too.
It seems that walking dates are very popular now, which I enjoy as well. I was a bit nervous at the beginning that I wouldnt have so much to say, but the conversation flowed really good with all of them, with the french one. I tested my french, she was really impressed.
That got me thinking, do you like dating and are you also into vanilla dating, what was the nationality of your last date? I am becoming a serial dater
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If I was dating someone I wouldn't want them seeing a few others at the same time. Dating to me is spending time together and not seeing anyone else . |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 3 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I’ve recently gone back to the vanilla dating world. I’ve been talking to someone since Sunday morning who I’ve really hit it off with. She’s a few miles away from me and she’s a gorgeous British born Desi woman. I’m going to ask her out for a coffee and a walk around Kew Gardens.
Pleased to hear you’re putting yourself back out there Shag. Enjoy yourself 🍻 "
Ty, yes, it is fun, that is good you have also gone back to dating too |
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Dating can be a bit of a misleading notion I think. You have a notion of what it'll look like or feel like and it's easy in life to self-limit with a mindset of 'I'll be happier if/when...'. You work away like a demon towards that and the goalposts keep moving. Happiness forever JUST out of reach.
Meanwhile actual real life and accessible fun & joy pass us by right under our noses.
We have to enjoy today, savour it.
I stopped all notion of wanting a traditional partner when I realised I was steering myself straight back in to the very same scenario that I had finally escaped by divorcing my ex 
It's such a lighter feeling and there's so much less pressure to just be free from it all.
If I have a person I savour them today. No worry for next year. Then be thankful for them and look ahead again.
Well, that's how I feel today, this week, this month. The future's a great big blank page |
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I'm really happy for you shag and glad it's all going well for you.
Dating isn't for me I couldn't image going through the process of getting to know someone all over again.
I've had my happy ever after and have my memories thats enough for me |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 3 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I'm really happy for you shag and glad it's all going well for you.
Dating isn't for me I couldn't image going through the process of getting to know someone all over again.
I've had my happy ever after and have my memories thats enough for me"
Hi diamondsmiles, ty, yes, it is fun to get to know others, that is good you had your happy ever after and memories of it too |
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I loved dating in Dubai all different nationalities and cultures males very interesting dates. I like how expectations of what a date is can be so different across cultures - comparing to meets & socials on here which are quite defined |
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"I went back to the dating sites a few months ago. Found no one wants to message, even though you've matched. "
I see a lot of women complaining about this ! I natci with a lot but don’t message myself because once you send a message they tend to go full on and it’s exhausting , so I let them sit there until I’m ready to properly engage and meet |
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"The last "date" I went on went a little pear shaped to say the least lol
Mine didn’t go pear shaped. Mine was the atomic bomb. 💣 "
Mine wasn't quite that awful but when the person you're with insults your husband and then starts crying. 🤣🙄 |
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By *HUSH-Man 3 weeks ago
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"The last "date" I went on went a little pear shaped to say the least lol
Mine didn’t go pear shaped. Mine was the atomic bomb. 💣
Mine wasn't quite that awful but when the person you're with insults your husband and then starts crying. 🤣🙄"
Ok, that is bad. 
Mine was a “single” woman. Turns out her boyfriend had cheated on her and she was looking to get even by meeting me. She was hysterical, in tears for over an hour, told me she was being taken to court because she was refusing to take her 8 year old son to school and that she was suicidal.
When I expressed my concern about her own safety, given what she had just said she got angry and started insulting me.
Worst. Date. Ever! |
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"The last "date" I went on went a little pear shaped to say the least lol
Mine didn’t go pear shaped. Mine was the atomic bomb. 💣
Mine wasn't quite that awful but when the person you're with insults your husband and then starts crying. 🤣🙄
Ok, that is bad.
Mine was a “single” woman. Turns out her boyfriend had cheated on her and she was looking to get even by meeting me. She was hysterical, in tears for over an hour, told me she was being taken to court because she was refusing to take her 8 year old son to school and that she was suicidal.
When I expressed my concern about her own safety, given what she had just said she got angry and started insulting me.
Worst. Date. Ever! "
Lol our respective dates must have been related 🤣 |
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By *HUSH-Man 3 weeks ago
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"The last "date" I went on went a little pear shaped to say the least lol
Mine didn’t go pear shaped. Mine was the atomic bomb. 💣
Mine wasn't quite that awful but when the person you're with insults your husband and then starts crying. 🤣🙄
Ok, that is bad.
Mine was a “single” woman. Turns out her boyfriend had cheated on her and she was looking to get even by meeting me. She was hysterical, in tears for over an hour, told me she was being taken to court because she was refusing to take her 8 year old son to school and that she was suicidal.
When I expressed my concern about her own safety, given what she had just said she got angry and started insulting me.
Worst. Date. Ever!
Lol our respective dates must have been related 🤣"
Should we try and set them up? |
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"The last "date" I went on went a little pear shaped to say the least lol
Mine didn’t go pear shaped. Mine was the atomic bomb. 💣
Mine wasn't quite that awful but when the person you're with insults your husband and then starts crying. 🤣🙄
Ok, that is bad.
Mine was a “single” woman. Turns out her boyfriend had cheated on her and she was looking to get even by meeting me. She was hysterical, in tears for over an hour, told me she was being taken to court because she was refusing to take her 8 year old son to school and that she was suicidal.
When I expressed my concern about her own safety, given what she had just said she got angry and started insulting me.
Worst. Date. Ever!
Lol our respective dates must have been related 🤣
Should we try and set them up?"
🤣🤣🤣 To my knowledge mine is no longer on here lol |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 3 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I'm now thinking of dating, I recently parted ways with my ex partner. I'm excited at the prospect of finding someone new but these dating sites aren't for me, unfortunately this seems to be the way forward. Good luck OP "
Hi pollypocket, ty, it is fun, that is good you are also thinking of dating, good luck to you too |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 3 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"Dating is fun! I'm not on normal dating apps right back but I might go back. I quite fancy a doing-something date. Like paddle boarding. Or a theme park. "
Hi feltcute, yes, dating is fun, that is good you might go back to it, paddle boarding or a theme park is fun too |
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By *HUSH-Man 3 weeks ago
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"The last "date" I went on went a little pear shaped to say the least lol
Mine didn’t go pear shaped. Mine was the atomic bomb. 💣
Mine wasn't quite that awful but when the person you're with insults your husband and then starts crying. 🤣🙄
Ok, that is bad.
Mine was a “single” woman. Turns out her boyfriend had cheated on her and she was looking to get even by meeting me. She was hysterical, in tears for over an hour, told me she was being taken to court because she was refusing to take her 8 year old son to school and that she was suicidal.
When I expressed my concern about her own safety, given what she had just said she got angry and started insulting me.
Worst. Date. Ever!
Lol our respective dates must have been related 🤣
Should we try and set them up?
🤣🤣🤣 To my knowledge mine is no longer on here lol"
Mine might have returned to her home planet 🤔 |
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"I havent been dating for a long time and it isnt from now that I am getting back into it again and loving it.
I have already dated 3, one french, the other dutch and hungarian. I have 2 more dates lined up this month, one who is irish and swedish too.
It seems that walking dates are very popular now, which I enjoy as well. I was a bit nervous at the beginning that I wouldnt have so much to say, but the conversation flowed really good with all of them, with the french one. I tested my french, she was really impressed.
That got me thinking, do you like dating and are you also into vanilla dating, what was the nationality of your last date? I am becoming a serial dater
If I was dating someone I wouldn't want them seeing a few others at the same time. Dating to me is spending time together and not seeing anyone else ."
I agree with this notion |
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"Oh I like dates. Not so much first dates though, my brain is always overthinking and consciously analysing everything. I like it a few dates in when the brain goblins have chilled out some.
The majority of people I date are British. Not out of deliberate choice, I just live in an area with next to no diversity. I'm genuinely surprised if I see a person of colour in my city, and the eastern European community seems closed to me as a whole.
I have dated a Hungarian and a Czech girl in years past, and a fuck buddy I haven't seen for a while is Italian. My last monogamous relationship was with an Irishman.
But yeah, mostly just plain Brits in the border cities 💜"
As a plain Brit I/we can also come in other varieties..Salty & Vinegar, Cheesy & Onion, Fickled Onion, Scrawn Cocktail, Dopey Bacon, Boast Chicken..  |
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I don’t bother dating now, it’s just a nightmare, I’d rather meet someone organically than on a dating site etc.
However I’m part of all the dating apps. And getting casual sex has become extremely easy now, unfortunately it’s like a commodity, and a sexed up idiot like myself just gets addicted to them, weirdly temporarily moving back home has given me a bit of a respite from them.
But in all honesty, a newly single 40+ year old like myself, dating just seems like hard work |
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Even as an older guy , I still do a bit of online dating ..a mix of good , average and bad.
Here is a Polish meet from a month ago...we do a bit of texting , she says her English is not great .but her texts are decent enough...we go for a coffee and cake meet...after about 2 mins she gets her smart phone out for Google translate to chat ( obviously she has been using that for her texts to me)
I try to be enjoying this as we pass her phone back and forth.
We then go for a walk in a nearby park...sit down on a bench...I say something ,but she doesn't understand...she gets her phone out...but oh dear..there's no internet connection ....so it just goes from bad to worse and we say our goodbyes. |
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"Even as an older guy , I still do a bit of online dating ..a mix of good , average and bad.
Here is a Polish meet from a month ago...we do a bit of texting , she says her English is not great .but her texts are decent enough...we go for a coffee and cake meet...after about 2 mins she gets her smart phone out for Google translate to chat ( obviously she has been using that for her texts to me)
I try to be enjoying this as we pass her phone back and forth.
We then go for a walk in a nearby park...sit down on a bench...I say something ,but she doesn't understand...she gets her phone out...but oh dear..there's no internet connection ....so it just goes from bad to worse and we say our goodbyes."
I was seeing someone like this , when her phone died I used to tell her all my secrets ! |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 3 weeks ago
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"Oh I like dates. Not so much first dates though, my brain is always overthinking and consciously analysing everything. I like it a few dates in when the brain goblins have chilled out some.
The majority of people I date are British. Not out of deliberate choice, I just live in an area with next to no diversity. I'm genuinely surprised if I see a person of colour in my city, and the eastern European community seems closed to me as a whole.
I have dated a Hungarian and a Czech girl in years past, and a fuck buddy I haven't seen for a while is Italian. My last monogamous relationship was with an Irishman.
But yeah, mostly just plain Brits in the border cities 💜"
Hi _reytothefairies, yes, that is good you like dating, yes it also depends in what area one lives in too |
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By *eliWoman 2 weeks ago
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Aww Shag this is brilliant to read! I hope you continue having many more successful dates that bring you the happiness you so richly deserve.
I adore dating. Going on dates. The ritualistic element of getting ready, the different things to do, the flutterflies, the excitement of seeing someone for that first time. Learning them as the date unfolds. It's incredibly rare I've had a bad date, I think I'm really quite lucky.
I've been on dates with people as mixed as me, various nationalities. The last person I went on a first date with would be someone from a far warmer country than here. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 2 weeks ago
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"Aww Shag this is brilliant to read! I hope you continue having many more successful dates that bring you the happiness you so richly deserve.
I adore dating. Going on dates. The ritualistic element of getting ready, the different things to do, the flutterflies, the excitement of seeing someone for that first time. Learning them as the date unfolds. It's incredibly rare I've had a bad date, I think I'm really quite lucky.
I've been on dates with people as mixed as me, various nationalities. The last person I went on a first date with would be someone from a far warmer country than here. "
Hi _eli, ty, yes. I hope so too. I like dating, that is good you also adore dating, yes, it is about the excitement of seeing someone for that first time and to get to know them as well |
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Something came to my mind I'd completely forgotten about. There used to be a dating thread on here where you put your name down to match with someone purely for a date. I ended up going walking in the Derbyshire dales, to a museum/art gallery and I even went to the zoo for the day with one guy. They were great. I'd forgotten all about them |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 2 weeks ago
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"Something came to my mind I'd completely forgotten about. There used to be a dating thread on here where you put your name down to match with someone purely for a date. I ended up going walking in the Derbyshire dales, to a museum/art gallery and I even went to the zoo for the day with one guy. They were great. I'd forgotten all about them"
Hi diamondsmiles, that is good you ended up going walking in the derbyshire dales and had a good time there too |
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