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You've started or are about to start seeing someone from Fab on a regular basis. Mutual attraction is taken as read but how would you rank the following qualities in their everyday behaviour?
Consistency
Flexibility
Honestly
Reliability
Spontaneity |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 days ago
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Consistency - I don't need or want regular contact, I can go days/weeks without talking to people.
Flexibility - no. I have none so everything will be planned in advance
Honesty - very high.
Reliability - as things are planned in advance don't cancel on me or I will curse you
Spontaneity - I don't want this |
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"You've started or are about to start seeing someone from Fab on a regular basis. Mutual attraction is taken as read but how would you rank the following qualities in their everyday behaviour?
Consistency - Not that important as long as they aren't tragically whimsical
Flexibility - Sure why not.
Honestly - Can't be bothered with liars
Reliability - I tend not to rely on people.
Spontaneity - Can be fun
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Honesty - 1
Reliability - 2
Consistency - 3
Flexibility - 4
Spontaneity - 5
With 1 being the most important.
But that can change and depend on the person and their circumstances and what I have going on in my life at certain times too. |
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By *andTWoman 6 days ago
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"You've started or are about to start seeing someone from Fab on a regular basis. Mutual attraction is taken as read but how would you rank the following qualities in their everyday behaviour?
Consistency
Flexibility
Honestly
Reliability
Spontaneity "
Honesty and reliability are at the top for me, flexibility & spontaneity aren't needed as we both have other lives to live
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I would say consistency and honesty are the main priorities and the others can go on any order. I have to know where I stand with someone and can't be doing with the sort of back and forth, will they/won't they type bollocks. It sends my head into a tailspin and it's happened a few times and I just don't need it in my life. |
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By *edSirenWoman 6 days ago
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Honesty - always
Reliability - I’ll lose interest pretty quickly if they’re not
Consistency - to a degree
Flexibility - needs to be a little give and take with modern lives the way the are
Spontaneity - as long as there’s some
But I’d also had communication. Massive one for me. |
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Consistency - I don't need or want regular contact, I can go days/weeks without talking to people.
Flexibility - no. I have none so everything will be planned in advance
Honesty - very high.
Reliability - as things are planned in advance don't cancel on me or I will curse you
Spontaneity - I don't want this"
What she said |
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1 - Honesty. Otherwise what's the point?
2 - Consistency/reliability. Equally important. I can't be doing with not knowing what to expect.
3 - Flexibility. Not really a priority. I'm pretty flexible time-wise, but if our calenders don't easily align it's a non-starter anyway.
4 - Spontaneity. Almost impossible with work and family. |
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By *andTWoman 6 days ago
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"I would say consistency and honesty are the main priorities and the others can go on any order. I have to know where I stand with someone and can't be doing with the sort of back and forth, will they/won't they type bollocks. It sends my head into a tailspin and it's happened a few times and I just don't need it in my life."
You need someone who speaks plainly Joe 😉
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"Honesty - 1
Reliability - 2
Consistency - 3
Flexibility - 4
Spontaneity - 5
With 1 being the most important.
But that can change and depend on the person and their circumstances and what I have going on in my life at certain times too. "
It's funny, I'd normally have honesty as number 1 too. It's usually THE MOST important thing to me in a relationship. For Fab purposes though, maybe I wouldn't want them to be too honest. Depends on circumstances, like family/other relationships, Idk... So relying on them to match my effort ranked top. I may have thought too hard about this 🤣 |
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Thanks for the replies and especially the reasoning.
Mine would be:
1.Consistency/Reliability. Similar to Joe, I just don't have the head space or time for the alternatives
3.Honesty. Lower for me because I've defined it as a lack of transparency rather than active
dishonesty. I'm happy with a need-to-know relationship.
4.Spontaneity. I like the occasional surprise and improvisation.
5.Flexibility. My life patterns are quite steady so I don't need much flexibility in others, and this can easily tip into unreliability.
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"Honesty
Consistency and reliability go hand in hand and you can’t have one without the other
Spontaneity and flexibility can be important in some ways but much less important than the top 3"
I guess someone could be very reliable in terms of keeping to dates, messaging, etc, but inconsistent in their moods and behaviour? |
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Consistency.
I would appreciate their consistent flexibility to match my own; their consistent honesty, otherwise what's the point? Their consistent reliability so as not to erode our momentum and their consistent spontaneity to maintain that spark between us. |
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"Consistency.
I would appreciate their consistent flexibility to match my own; their consistent honesty, otherwise what's the point? Their consistent reliability so as not to erode our momentum and their consistent spontaneity to maintain that spark between us."
That is really well put. Rather negates my thread but still well put.🤣 |
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"I would say consistency and honesty are the main priorities and the others can go on any order. I have to know where I stand with someone and can't be doing with the sort of back and forth, will they/won't they type bollocks. It sends my head into a tailspin and it's happened a few times and I just don't need it in my life.
You need someone who speaks plainly Joe 😉
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Exactly, just give it to me 😇😉 |
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"I would say consistency and honesty are the main priorities and the others can go on any order. I have to know where I stand with someone and can't be doing with the sort of back and forth, will they/won't they type bollocks. It sends my head into a tailspin and it's happened a few times and I just don't need it in my life.
You need someone who speaks plainly Joe 😉
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Exactly, just give it to me 😇😉"
Ok.. bend over  |
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"I would say consistency and honesty are the main priorities and the others can go on any order. I have to know where I stand with someone and can't be doing with the sort of back and forth, will they/won't they type bollocks. It sends my head into a tailspin and it's happened a few times and I just don't need it in my life.
You need someone who speaks plainly Joe 😉
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Exactly, just give it to me 😇😉
Ok.. bend over "
I've made that mistake before 😳😂 |
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"You've started or are about to start seeing someone from Fab on a regular basis. Mutual attraction is taken as read but how would you rank the following qualities in their everyday behaviour?
Consistency
Flexibility
Honestly
Reliability
Spontaneity "
They're all important in their own right.
L ticked all these boxes and then some from the very beginning. The outcome was more than natural  |
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