"Free use as in available to their partner whenever or wherever they want?
Or free use by being punted out to strangers for their benefit?"
For us it would definitely be the first! There's no enjoyment at all for us if there's no attraction to the people we are interacting sexually with! |
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"Free use as in available to their partner whenever or wherever they want?
Or free use by being punted out to strangers for their benefit?"
Yeah, I'm interested to know if it is also empowering for the one who is being "used".
I think it might take the pressure off. I mean if you know it's available then you don't have to force connection xx |
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"Free use as in available to their partner whenever or wherever they want?
Or free use by being punted out to strangers for their benefit?"
The former we’ve been doing off and on since we were teenagers. The latter is something we are unlikely ever to do. |
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"In a free-use dynamic, one partner grants the other the freedom to engage in sexual activities without the need for explicit, moment-to-moment consent."
Ah ha, that makes sense, almost open relationship kinda |
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"In a free-use dynamic, one partner grants the other the freedom to engage in sexual activities without the need for explicit, moment-to-moment consent.
Ah ha, that makes sense, almost open relationship kinda"
Not with others. Between themselves. So making a sandwich, be used... Watching TV, be used... Basically free use within the boundaries that have been discussed beforehand. So for me, anything in front of non-consenting people would be a no. |
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"In a free-use dynamic, one partner grants the other the freedom to engage in sexual activities without the need for explicit, moment-to-moment consent.
Ah ha, that makes sense, almost open relationship kinda"
See it did involve meatballs of a kind. |
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"In a free-use dynamic, one partner grants the other the freedom to engage in sexual activities without the need for explicit, moment-to-moment consent.
Ah ha, that makes sense, almost open relationship kinda
Not with others. Between themselves. So making a sandwich, be used... Watching TV, be used... Basically free use within the boundaries that have been discussed beforehand. So for me, anything in front of non-consenting people would be a no. "
EXACTLY |
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This wouldn't interest me. I want my husband to have sex with me because he wants to, not just because I want to have sex.
We aren't always in the mood for sex at the same time so I would feel awful if my husband felt he had to have sex with me because of 'free use '.
Ruby |
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As some of the previous posters have said, it’s a power play within an existing dynamic, or that’s my understanding of it at least. This could extend to other consenting parties being involved, following discussion. Obviously this kind of set up is ripe for abuse so ongoing conversations about consent and boundaries are important. |
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"This wouldn't interest me. I want my husband to have sex with me because he wants to, not just because I want to have sex.
We aren't always in the mood for sex at the same time so I would feel awful if my husband felt he had to have sex with me because of 'free use '.
Ruby "
It’s definitely not for everyone. As in any power dynamic, there are always boundaries and ways to say a definitive no.
Mrs TMN x |
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"Sounds kinda like a " borrow my partner" ... Don't want to go to IKEA, get someone else to go in your place ? 🤣🤣🤣"
I absolutely hate IKEA, more than happy for someone to stand in for me next time my wife wants to go 😆 |
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