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Is it time to delete my account ?
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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"Been here 5 years . Tried clubs. Found people very self centred, arrogant , ignorant and fake. I met more people on dating sites ."
If that's how you feel I'd say it's definitely worth taking a break at least. Hide your profile, log out, stick with dating sites for now and come back if and when you're feeling it. Good luck  |
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"Been here 5 years . Tried clubs. Found people very self centred, arrogant , ignorant and fake. I met more people on dating sites ."
why the announcement though? I don’t get it seems you’ve already made your mind up about this site
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I feel your pain about the clubs as a single guy OP; the cliques are real, and essentially, clubs are for couples... 
Don't delete your profile, as you may struggle to get verifications if you were to return? Just put your profile on hide, and take a break from here. I use other sites too, and find them easier to meet women because the ratios are much better 
All the best fella |
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The thing is you will frequently hear ‘oh you have to put the work in’ and that’s true of everything in life but why bother with this, at times it’s character numbing, ultimately it’s your call, the above suggestion of hide your account etc,
remember you aren’t where you want to be but imagine you did get there, you wouldn’t be happy, it’s not the destination, it’s the journey, good luck OP and if you choose to to go, gods speed  |
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By *rlando OP Man 4 weeks ago
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"I feel your pain about the clubs as a single guy OP; the cliques are real, and essentially, clubs are for couples...
Don't delete your profile, as you may struggle to get verifications if you were to return? Just put your profile on hide, and take a break from here. I use other sites too, and find them easier to meet women because the ratios are much better
All the best fella "
thanK you |
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"Been here 5 years . Tried clubs. Found people very self centred, arrogant , ignorant and fake. I met more people on dating sites ."
Feel your pain mate. It can be tough on here, you've just got to cut through the B.S - I'd suggest keeping things like Bumble & other places open with this to increase your chances. No point deleting it man, you'll get there! |
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By *olo180Man 4 weeks ago
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"Been here 5 years . Tried clubs. Found people very self centred, arrogant , ignorant and fake. I met more people on dating sites ."
Well thats put me off trying clubs…was just building the confidence to go as a single man lol |
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"Been here 5 years . Tried clubs. Found people very self centred, arrogant , ignorant and fake. I met more people on dating sites .
Well thats put me off trying clubs…was just building the confidence to go as a single man lol "
you can’t let one person’s opinion put you off |
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By *olo180Man 4 weeks ago
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"Been here 5 years . Tried clubs. Found people very self centred, arrogant , ignorant and fake. I met more people on dating sites .
Well thats put me off trying clubs…was just building the confidence to go as a single man lol you can’t let one person’s opinion put you off "
No…but it’s not just the one unfortunately x |
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"Been here 5 years . Tried clubs. Found people very self centred, arrogant , ignorant and fake. I met more people on dating sites ."
I’d definitely take a break from it, hide the profile and log out for a while if I felt like that
Perhaps set yourself up on the dating apps and see what happens with them
If you do find dating sites work out better then you can always delete this, if not you’ve always got this to come back to without starting again |
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By *andTWoman 4 weeks ago
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"Been here 5 years . Tried clubs. Found people very self centred, arrogant , ignorant and fake. I met more people on dating sites ."
I've been here 3mths and met some lovely people. Tinder was an absolute cesspit!
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"Been here 5 years . Tried clubs. Found people very self centred, arrogant , ignorant and fake. I met more people on dating sites .
I've been here 3mths and met some lovely people. Tinder was an absolute cesspit!
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Tinder is the worst app I've ever used |
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"Been here 5 years . Tried clubs. Found people very self centred, arrogant , ignorant and fake. I met more people on dating sites ."
When it’s no longer fun, don’t do it.
So with that in mind, and if I was the pal your asking this, I’d say try something else, pottery, or go karting for something more exciting where you can wear protection.  |
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Whilst I don’t doubt your view about arrogance and self centre people ( belive me fab does not hold monopoly on those personality traits) there are several reasons to persist..
Some incredibly funny and sexy people in this site .. if you set a goal to have sex with them and don’t that’s false expectation… go with flow have fun chatting flirting and perving some gorgeous bodies … just don’t stress it is all I’m saying
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"Im feeling kinda the same... but dont really want to leave. the thing is i dont get any interest....not sure if its my pics or profile. I'll hang in there a bit."
Sorry I’m confused…or it’s tongue in cheek . You have have gear profile and two meets in last month xx if you leave out of lack of interest in your what’s the hope for dad bods like moi .. lol |
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"Been here 5 years . Tried clubs. Found people very self centred, arrogant , ignorant and fake. I met more people on dating sites ."
We go to clubs and can't say we've met people who are any of those things, but understand it's easier to engage with others when you're a couple.
Best of luck in whatever you decide to do OP |
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Stick to dating sites OP, you obviously have the knack for making them work well for you.
Maybe that's it? Even though Fab and Dating Sites appear, on paper, to be virtual the same, the personal qualities and mind-set needed for each are very different; and you OP seem to be better suited to dating. |
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I have hidden my profile for the last couple of months and generally stayed away from the site. Tempted to delete my profile but will only do that when I’m in a committed relationship, it’s only fair.
I tend to find these absences helpful and maybe something you should consider first. Literally hide your profile, stay away from the site for a period of time if you realise other places are more fruitful then delete. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 4 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Whenever I'm faced with the choice of continuing to do something that frustrates me and doesn't make me happy it's a relatively simple decision.
I stop doing it.
I then put my time and energy into things that make me happy.
I'll always sit back and ask myself whether it's a problem with the task itself, the expected result or whether it was achievable and worth attempting first though, as sometimes it's not 'what' I'm trying to do that's the issue, more 'how' I'm approaching it that's the problem.
Sometimes it's a 'me' problem more than anything else. 🤷♂️
Sometimes people are their own worst enemies and will just carry on doing the same thing over and over, expecting to eventually get the result they want. Unlikely to happen. Accepting that something isn't the right thing for you and that it's time to give up is often hard.
And yet I still buy lottery tickets.......🤦♂️🤦♂️😂😂 |
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"Stick to dating sites OP, you obviously have the knack for making them work well for you.
Maybe that's it? Even though Fab and Dating Sites appear, on paper, to be virtual the same, the personal qualities and mind-set needed for each are very different; and you OP seem to be better suited to dating."
Dating sites have a more even female:male ratio than Fab, so not surprising anyone (not just the OP) can have more success in them, considering the starting block of at least your message gets read, instead of lost in a tidal wave of messages…….
Fab can, and does work, I’m testament to that. But there’s a huge element of opportunity associated with getting any kind of interaction through here. There’s no magic formula for the ‘perfect profile’, there’s no ‘best first message’, just be yourself, only message those you feel a genuine match for, and never take this place too seriously.
Take a break from the site if you feel like you’re shouting in to a cave, and all you hear is echos…… |
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"Been here 5 years . Tried clubs. Found people very self centred, arrogant , ignorant and fake. I met more people on dating sites ."
And yet it's been almost a day and you've not made a decision.
Can't be that bad then...
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I think people who ask this question don’t understand that selling themselves correctly on their profile is the way forward on a site like this.
If people have been here 5 years and still not got that then I don’t think it’ll ever sink in.
K
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